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[ Thursday, January 15, 2015 ]

Sexual Discipline

I have had several inquiries over the last few months regarding “sexual discipline” and what I recommend or have experience administering myself.  First, I must say that within the context of private discipline sessions that I conduct, there is never anything relating to pain applied anywhere but to a young lady’s bottom or the top of her thighs.  There may be positions, or time outs, that cause some general fatigue or soreness, but I never target an erogenous zone when administering a spanking for discipline purposes. 

As it is indeed difficult to try to come up with any new topic after more than a decade of blogging, today I will stray from my norm and address some of the recent emails.  The only time that I have utilized any sort of punishment, that is sexual in nature, has only taken place within relationships in which there was intimacy. This have included past girlfriends, or the occasional “slave girl weekend” in Vegas.  In these situations, obviously with other consenting adults, it has been fun to add a little flavor into the spanking mix and to find creative ways to administer discipline.  While I do find certain aspects of BDSM to be fun, it has never really been my thing.  To tie someone up tightly, and then basically roughly play with parts of their anatomy, just has not even fully done it for me.  But if there has been an infraction of some sort, and a punishment is required, I do not mind pulling from the BDSM bag of tricks in order to be creative.

The go to for me is generally the use of a butt plug as a form of “sexual discipline”. 

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[ Wednesday, January 07, 2015 ]

Corner time really is required for a proper punishment

There are so very many reasons why corner time is such a great addition to any punishment.  I use the term corner time somewhat generically as I apply it in so many different situations and very few of them actually involve a corner.  But each and every one them can add so much to the overall dynamic and effectiveness of a proper punishment.  Let’s take a look at many of the different ways that I utilize corner time and why I find it to be effective.

The first is the before the spanking use of corner time.  This is a time when we are playing on the nervousness someone experiences before they are to be spanked.  In most cases within my world of private discipline, a young lady has waited some time for this punishment and the moment has finally arrived.  Her nerves are shot and she is quite nervous that the moment has finally arrived.  She knows that is going to be painful, far more painful than she would ever want, and the anticipation of it actually happening is almost too much.  Good! When I have her look back on her punishment I do not want there to be good memories.  If the actual anticipation is one of the most difficult parts, then we need to use this to our advantage as disciplinarians.  In fact, I will take it a couple steps farther.  She needs to now shed that last little bit of a security blanket that she has, her clothes, and get fully naked.  Once naked, and feeling more exposed and vulnerable than ever, she now gets to wait for an undisclosed period of time before she is spanked.  This gives her plenty of time to think about her actions and behaviors and what it is in her life that has brought her to this very place in time.  I may even begin to lay out the implements that may or may not be used on her, to further add to the anticipation, as she wonders what each of them will feel like on her bottom.

Another great variation of this is after she has had time to think long and hard is to put her into position.  This now feels like the moment, it is finally here, it is finally going to happen, but that does not mean that I am in any hurry to get started.  Now she feels even more exposed and vulnerable, but she is not in control of this situation, I am.  By this point in time she is just ready to get the spanking over with, as the wait is harder than anything.  This can be highly enhanced by choosing a proper position, like having her grab her ankles.  Fully naked, bent over grabbing her ankles, presenting everything that is private to her to me and the world…without a single smack to her bottom, her punishment has already begun and this is an experience that she would not like to repeat anytime soon.

The next variation of corner time that I often use is a break to let her bottom recover a bit.  There are many implements that when used effectively will often create some numbness as the body begins to produce endorphins to combat the pain.  While continuing to spank when it is not being received as painfully as I would prefer can indeed help with the long term discomfort she will experience, I see it as a lost opportunity.  Yes, I want to create a very sore bottom that hurts for a few days, but I also want her to experience as much discomfort as she can during the course of her spanking. If it becomes clear to me that this part of her spanking is somehow easier, I will simply stop.  She is left in position, told not to move, and once again has no idea what is going to happen next. She does not know if the punishment is over, if I am taking a break, or if I am switching implements.  Perfect! Midway through her punishment she is once again feeling fear and apprehension, two things that help make the overall punishment experience effective.  Unfortunately for her, I am just allowing the production of endorphins to decrease so she will get the full benefit of the rest of her correction.

The next step in and one of the more common uses of corner time is for it to involve considerable discomfort all on its own.  This helps a lot when punishing someone who has a spanking fetish.  They may indeed include some small aspects of corner time within their fantasies because it has a very childish aspect to it.  But within their fantasies they rarely consider how uncomfortable and annoying corner time can be made to be.  Standing in the corner before, during, or after a spanking may indeed be boring, and even a little embarrassing, but it does little to provide discomfort. With a little creativity corner time can become a punishment all in itself.  Position is everything and adding knees or large muscle groups into the equation can quickly increase the effectiveness.  A basic first step is to simply require the naughty young lady to kneel on a hard wood floor, or a brick fire place mantle.  Hands behind her head with her elbows touching the wall and then requiring her feet to be lifted off the ground quickly enhances the overall punishment experience. 

On many occasions I have chosen to make the corner time very physically demanding, especially for those young ladies who have come to me to help them with some sort of fitness or weight loss goal.  They seem to think that they do not have the mental fortitude to get themselves to the gym, or to work out hard enough for proper results.  But when put in a physically demanding corner time position, such as a wall sit, knowing that the punishment for breaking that position is a dozen bare bottom swats with a school paddle, they quickly become quite aware of how truly motivated they can be.  I have watched more than one young lady in a stressful corner time position, with her whole body shaking, body covered with sweat, prove to herself how capable she really is of pushing her body, she just needed the proper motivation.  The challenging positions also require her to focus and she cannot really allow herself to just zone out and relax after her punishment, it takes a concentrated effort to maintain such positions and it is clear to her mind and her body that the punishment is not over even if the spanking has stopped.

The most common form of corner time is simply for a young lady to be placed somewhere quiet, with her red bottom on display, for her to reflect on the punishment she just received.  I rarely make it quite that easy, and tend to throw in at least part of one of the elements previously discussed.  One way to enhance it, without increasing the level of discomfort, is to add an embarrassing element to it.  I believe that at no point in any punishment should someone be humiliated, but I do believe in using embarrassment as a learning tool.  I have placed freshly spanked young ladies, fully naked; in front of a window on many occasions (once for the duration of the water show at the Bellagio, facing the fountains and the 1000 people watching).  I have also chosen positions that while exposed and embarrassing, can be maintained for long periods of time, such as legs spread as wide as possible with hands on a small stool.  Once again, this is different than just being required to stand in a corner and helps to keep her focused on the punishment she just received.  Of course, even if the spanking is over, I would never inform her of that, which keeps the anticipation level high during any phase of corner time.

Corner time is not just a time out for kids, it is a highly effective form of discipline between consenting adults.  It can be mild or be made to be extremely intense.  If done properly it can be as effective as the spanking itself.  The next time a deserving young lady requires a proper punishment for real infractions in her life, put in the time and effort to include various levels and types of corner time.  It would be an injustice to her and her behavior to provide her with anything less.

[ Thursday, December 18, 2014 ]

Most popular post

I try my best to stay in touch with the member’s of my various sites and provide them with the content that they are looking for. My Tumblr page has done a lot to help me understand what people want to see the most. I post many animated gifs and how many likes and shares tells me a lot.  Any picture or gif that gets more than 150 likes or shares show that people like this kind of content. I have been surprised that my most popular Tumblr post of all time is the one below with more than 11,000 shares and likes.  No other has come anywhere close to the 10k mark.

[ Tuesday, December 16, 2014 ]

The reality of the use of the belt to punish a teen girl’s bottom

The videos I film for my various websites, while some you have to suspend reality a bit, I certainly try very hard to provide realistic corporal punishment as it exists in the real world.  In actual reality, corporal punishment exists in the home between a parents and a child, in some schools, judicial, and between consenting adults.  For most people, our spanking desires began at a young age and were generally a result of something we experienced or something we saw growing up. There will never be anything sexy for me about a five year old getting a spanking from a parent, but I am guilty in the sense that there is indeed something exciting about an older teenage girl getting punished for something she very much deserved.  Whether it is in the school environment, in which she elects to receive a paddling, or in the home environment in which she bends over for a well-deserved spanking from a parent, there is some excitement in thinking about that concept.

I have written before about the fact that it is not that it is a teen that makes it exciting; it is the fact that it is real.  Yes, there can be “real discipline” between adults, but for the most part it is indeed consensual and one or both adults probably have a spanking fetish.  True corporal punishment is generally non-consensual and involves someone being punished for something that they did and they are getting a punishment that they in no way want. There are still a few schools out there in which a high school girl can be paddled and have no say in it, but for the most part, corporal punishment is something she elects to receive in lieu of another punishment.  So, if we really want to consider how corporal punishment does indeed still exist in this country, and does not involve young children, what we are looking out is the reality of how an older teen my still be disciplined in the privacy of her own home.

While this can happen anywhere, it is still only common in the South.  My own experiences growing up, as far as the girls in my neighborhood getting spanked, there were a couple that I know that were spanked well into the high school years.  This being out of the maybe 4-5 girls who I could get to share the fact that they were spanked at all.  Having just recently visited my Texas home town, I can tell you that not much has changed.  If we go a little deeper into the woods of places like Mississippi and Alabama, I would have to guess that a 17-18 year old girl, still living at home, is not immune to the spanking process when it is needed. Every girl that I knew, or have interviewed for my sites, that was spanked past the age of 14 pretty much had the same spanking experience.  With very few exceptions the punishment was from her mom or dad, with a belt, over whatever she happened to be wearing at the time.  This would typically be tight jeans, or jean shorts, with the occasional spanking taking place over pj’s or maybe even a swimsuit.  Yes, I have heard about the occasional bare bottom spanking, but as far as I can tell that it pretty rare for an older teen girl.

So, if we are considering real life corporal punishment, in this day and age, in this country, of a fully developed girl approaching adulthood, the reality of it is dad’s belt applied forcefully to her teen bottom.  I accept this and embrace this on my site.  I still do not feel that corporal punishment is the most effective form of punishment for kids or teens (I have never spanked any of my kids of any age), but if we are exploring realistic corporal punishment, then this scenario needs to be addressed.  As people who are into spanking and want realism, it is hard not to find the thought of an 18 year old girl, getting in more trouble than she has ever known, being sent to her room to have her bottom worn out with the belt, at least a little bit exciting.

Just as with the school corporal punishment videos that are so heavily featured on Realspankings.com we tend to shoot realistic strapping videos pretty heavily.  Our members seem to really like to be able to watch the reactions of real girls, some as young as 18, receive what is a genuine punishment.  When I bend a young lady over and pull off my belt, my goal is indeed to apply the exact same punishment that young ladies who still get spanked at home would receive. I have learned that a proper belt spanking, even over jeans and panties can be quite effective. The belt I use is not as thick as many Western belts I have seen, but it is enough to get the job done.  I would guess that I give more strokes than the typical dad would to his daughter, but I am filming a video, and 5-6 strokes is just not enough to make our members happy.  I do not believe in any sort of warm-up and always swing as hard as I can from the very first stroke.  Tears are not uncommon during the strappings I administer and every young lady certainly ends up with major welts and a fairly bruised bottom.  I did a great one last week in which it was a candid interview with Alyssa and she compared my strapping with the frequent ones she received from her dad growing up and it was quite interesting to get that perspective.

So, if hard and realistic strappings are something that you like to see, and you want to see them administered as they are on a daily basis in the homes throughout the South, I can be quite honest in saying we are producing some pretty good work in our new studio.  We still film tons of strappings on the bare, but we try to provide a good mix with the very realistic ones.  With the strappings that are over jeans, all scenes end with a bare bottom reveal so you can see what the actual results are of a hard strapping.  This gives you a little insight as to the little secrets that naughty teen girls are really hiding under those tight jeans when they are walking the halls of their high schools. All animations above are from recent strappings filmed in HD for the member’s area of Realspankings.com

[ Monday, December 15, 2014 ]

A bruised and sore bottom for the naughty girl

I guess it is fair to say that I have a bit of a reputation as a hard spanker.  I would not say that this is an unfair characterization of how I generally choose to administer an on camera spanking, or even an off camera discipline session.  When giving the whole idea some thought, there are several reasons why I think that a spanking from me tends to be a memorable event.

The first, and certainly the most important, is that a spanking is and has always been designed to be a punishment.  It is the application of a painful stimulus for the sole purpose of eliminating undesirable behavior.  Yes, I have a spanking fetish and yes, there is a sexual component to the whole process of administering, receiving, even simply watching a spanking take place.  But the one thing that has never been part of my fetish is anything remotely resembling a playful spanking.  I do not go to spanking play parties, nor do I go to spanking clubs or events.  While there may indeed be something that is a little disciplinary that takes place at these events, for the most part it is playful.  The year that I went to the Shadowlane event in Palm Springs, I did not administer a single spanking over four days.  It is not that the opportunity did not present itself, as I am somewhat high profile in the online spanking world and was approached by many people asking for a spanking.  I went to many parties and was asked at all of them to administer some sort of public spanking, but in all instances I had to politely decline. 

You might find it crazy, that as someone who is very into spanking that I could go to a spanking convention, be even a little bit famous and recognized, and have women of all ages just about climbing over my lap for a spanking, and not spank a single one of them.  The truth is, they had not done anything that had earned them a spanking in my eyes.  There were no set rules or guidelines that I had provided them in which they had broken.  They were looking for a playful spanking, maybe even a painful spanking, but these were not young ladies that deserved to be punished.  I am not a sadist, there is no part of my spanking fetish that revolves around simply causing someone else pain.  My fetish is deeply grounded in providing strict, and often severe, discipline for someone who deserves it.  They not only deserve it, but they have actually made enough bad decisions that they have earned it.

When the above conditions have been met, then I am the first person to step up to administer a spanking.  This is where my reputation for severity starts to kick in, if someone has actually acted in a manner in which they have earned a spanking, then I do my very best to make sure it is an event to remember.  Someone who goes through the effort to contact me for real life discipline is warned well in advance what they can expect.  Anyone who makes the decision to be spanked by me for real life infractions can expect four things, no matter what, on any occasion that they have the misfortune for coming to me for being punished. 

The first is that they will be spanked far more severely than they could have ever wanted.  If they are coming to me, even if for real life infractions, than they have a spanking fetish.  I will never just feed someone’s fetish, and they can count on getting far more than they ever hoped for.  It will not be pleasant and there will be no warm-up of any kind.  The purpose of this spanking is not to give them memories to masturbate to, it is to punish them for a behavior that they have engaged in that they should not have.  I need for them to realize within the first ten strokes, that even as an adult with a spanking fetish, that this punishment is for real and is something that they would likely not want to repeat.  I will make sure that for the duration of the punishment that it never gets any easier and that by the time it is over, it will have been one of the most difficult to endure experiences of their life.

The second thing that they can expect is that tears will always be the goal.  This does not always happen, as I have found that with adult women, tears are not always just a result of pain.  There tends to be a heavy emotional element as well, so pain alone is not always enough to bring tears.  I do find that as trust is built, tears become much more common on future punishments, should additional discipline be necessary.  When I say that tears are the goal, I mean tears are the goal from the beginning.  I know a lot of people that start a spanking at a mild pace, and then slowly build until the person being spanked finally breaks down, and then it ends.  I personally do not understand this process at all and see it as a wasted opportunity.  Why would I give someone a spanking for several minutes that is bearable for them?  If we look at the root of spanking, being childhood punishments, what parent ever provided some sort of warm-up when disciplining their child? If I wasted two minutes of a spanking, allowing someone to adjust to the pain of their punishment, it would be a disservice to them and a failure on my part as a disciplinarian.

The third and fourth things that someone coming to me for a punishment can expect are closely related, and they are bruising and long term soreness.  Once again, I am not a sadist and I gain no pleasure from marking the skin of a young woman, but I see it as a very important component to a proper punishment.  Most importantly, when a spanking is done the punishment should not be over.  The last thing I want is for a spanking to end, endorphins are going strong, and the person leaves with almost a bit of a high.  A couple hours later their bottom is barely warm and they are now at a heightened sexual state, which just leads to masturbation and positive reinforcement regarding the whole experience.  Instead, I want the endorphins to begin to wear off and for them to start to realize that the punishment is just beginning.  When the high from the experience starts to go away I want them to begin to feel that throbbing on their bottom.  There is a slight transitional period where the throbbing can be confused with a pleasurable feeling, but given a couple of hours, I want there to be no doubt that what they are feeling is not going to be pleasurable at all.

Ideally, if I have done my job to the best of my ability, then the next morning will be far worse.  A proper punishment spanking, one meant to extinguish bad behavior for good, will result in a bottom so sore that it is not just sitting down that is a problem.  From the moment the recently punished girl wakes up, I want her very first thought to be how sore her bottom is.  When she pulls herself out of bed, if my job was done well, as she walks to the bathroom, she will be acutely aware of how tight the muscles in her bottom are.  There will be nothing sexy about it for her; ideally it will be like the day after her hardest glutes workout ever at the gym.  If I have really done my job the best of my ability, she will find herself squatting over the toilet when she pees.

You have to understand that we are talking about someone who has a spanking fetish, but truly wanted to be punished, in a very realistic manner, for very real life infractions.  She has spent a good portion of her life fantasizing about being spanked.  There have been many nights spent in bed thinking about and masturbating to the thought of being scolded, or baring her bottom, and eventually being physically punished.  For most young ladies, they do not fantasize as far into the future of the true reality of not being able to sit down comfortably for a couple days after.  Yes, there is still something quite sexy about a bruised bottom, but over the course of a day or two, it just becomes bothersome.  When I work quite hard at it, it is indeed possible to create a bottom so sore that tears become a reality when attempting to find a comfortable position to sit the following day.

My goal is for the person who was spanked to not want to ever repeat the behavior that caused their bottom to be this sore.  Even as someone with a full blown spanking fetish, I want for the moment the opportunity to engage in the behavior again presents itself, for her to be able to remember how her bottom felt for a few days following her punishment.  I want the punishment to have been effective enough that she would never risk the chance of having it repeated.  That right there is everything that I love about spanking and spanking at its very core.  Creating a physical punishment that is enough of a deterrent that it not only punished them for their previous behavior, but has a high chance of eliminating it all together.

Now in my professional life, clearly I cannot always create the same situations.  These are paid models and very few of them come to me as a result of real transgressions in their lives.  But since the birth of my very first spanking website, I have tried as hard as I can to present spankings as I believe they should exist in the real world, and how they do exist in my private life.  So I do not just bend a girl over and bruise her bottom with a wooden paddle just for the fun of it.  While this is work, and we are acting, I try to apply the spanking that I truly feel would be warranted for the given situation.  Tears are indeed the goal, I try to make the first swat as hard as the last, and even though they are paid models, I do my best to make sure that they leave with bruised bottoms and have difficulty sitting the next day.

Look at the scene below from RealspankingsInstitute.com as an example.  The entire premise of this scene was that these two young ladies had acted in a manner that was truly unacceptable. In addition, the previous methods of corporal punishment that I had used had clearly proved ineffective as the behavior continued. They were both sent to their rooms to wait for me and were promised that they would be punished in a manner that would indeed be effective.  In scripting the scene I had to decide what would be the most realistic way to handle this exact situation if I was really the disciplinarian for two young ladies who continued to misbehave after several previous applications of corporal punishment. I know from experience that there are very few things that teach such a long lasting lesson than that of a heavy wooden hairbrush applied very forcefully to a young lady’s bottom.  Yes, this is a scripted scene with paid models, but I brought as much realism into as I possibly could.  You can see from the animations below that this is very real corporal punishment.  I did not begin with a handspanking, or over pants and panties, and there was no warm-up of any kind.  I approached it like I would a private punishment and began with tears as the goal from the very first swat.  Each and every swat with the heavy brush led to a very visible bruise, which there is no doubt that would lead to soreness for days and long term learning.  Paid or not, this was an experience that neither young lady would be likely to want to repeat in the near future.  This was a very real punishment spanking that both of them will never forget.

All pictures and animations are from very real punishment in the member’s area of Realspankings.com and RealspankingsInstitute.com part of the Realspankingspass.com family of sites.

[ Monday, December 08, 2014 ]

The wake up spanking

There are very few things more shocking to the system than then wake up spanking.  It may be that the naughty wife, girlfriend, or daughter went to bed before the person tasked with her discipline came home for the night, or it may be as a result of her once again sleeping in one to many times.  Either way, the spanking can no longer wait and discipline needs to be administered at that very moment. 

The young lady below did indeed oversleep on a school day, so he is sure to wake her up in a manner that she will not forget.  She is startled as she is woken up to the covers being pulled off of her.  Her nighty is then yanked up, as her panties are pulled down, and he gets right to work with his gym shoe.  There is no warm-up and there is nothing gentle about any of it.  He spanks her tiny bottom as hard and fast as he possibly can and she is instantly more awake than she ever has been in her life.  The hard spanking with his shoe continues until her bottom is quite sore and her eyes are filled with tears.  Sitting on the hard wooden school desks is not going to be an easy task for her that day, and the day after, but there is no doubt that she will never have another “alarm problem” again.

[ Thursday, December 04, 2014 ]

The Lovely Kiki

Our lovely little Miss Kiki has come so very far as a spanking model.  When she first started with us, she was so quiet and reserved and just a bundle of nerves before any spanking.  She has quickly become one of my favorite models and she is just such a sweetie.  She is a joy to hang around between shoots and has finally let her guard down.  She is also growing to be quite the little spanking super star.  With her tiny teen bottom and braces she certainly looks the part of the naughty young school girl and her tolerance had grown so very much.  There is rarely a shoot in which she does not end up with tears in her eyes and a bruised bottom.  She puts everything into all of her shoot and we are lucky to have her.  Here is a sneak peak from tomorrow’s Realspankings.com update in which her cute little bottom takes a hard paddling over tights and on the bare.

[ Monday, December 01, 2014 ]

Properly presenting the bottom for a spanking

Each and every day throughout the world spankings take place in many ways.  The most common are children and teens submitting to well-earned punishments from one of their parents.  School corporal punishment is still alive and well, especially in the Southern United States as well as many Asian countries. There are many couples that live in a domestic discipline relationships in which one or the other is punished for very real infractions.  Another variation of this is a Christian domestic discipline relationship in which the couple firmly believes in the male head of household role, in which the male utilizes corporal punishment as a means to discipline his wife whenever he sees fit.  Probably the most common form of spanking, when it comes to adults, is a consensual spanking relationship between a couple in which both have a spanking fetish.  While these spankings can often be playful, this can also involve very real discipline for real infractions.  There are also many people out there that serve as disciplinarians for those adults in life that require corporal punishment as a means to keep their behavior in check.

Many people see a spanking as simply the application of pain to modify behavior, but I think there is much more to it, and see it as more of a process or an event, and not simply just smacking someone’s bottom.  As with any process, there are many steps required that help to make it more effective.  In general, I think most people, when picturing a spanking taking place, only see a couple of parts to it.  The main ones being some sort of lecture, then the spanking itself, and possibly a little time for reflection afterwards.  For me, as someone that wants to make a spanking an event to remember, I could name a dozen different steps that I think are an integral part of the overall process.  Today I want to focus on what I see as a very important part of the process, and that is the presentation of the bottom.

When someone is required to present their bottom, to actually be spanked, it serves so very many purposes.  The most important part of this process is the act of submission.  In my opinion, a spanking in which someone needs to be held in place is not a proper punishment.  A proper spanking, at some point, will involve the person that is going to be spanked to submit to their punishment and present their bottom.  Even in the cases of parental spanking, which for the most part is basically a non-consensual act, at some point some level of consent is given when the bottom is presented for punishment.  The naughty teen knows that she has indeed done something wrong and that her behavior warrants a punishment.  Although, it is often the threat of further or more severe consequences that leads to the submission and her eventually presenting her bottom to be spanked.

When a naughty person presents their bottom to be spanked, it is indeed an acknowledgment of not only submission, but also the power and authority the person that will be administering the punishment has over them.  There are very few situations in life in which someone can order someone else to bare or present an intimate part of their anatomy on demand.  But this person, the one that has been charged with the care and guidance of another individual does indeed have this power when it comes to discipline.  It is not an easy act for the person in trouble, the act of presenting their bottom.  They know that by doing so that they are giving access to a very private part of their body…and not for pleasure.  They are allowing access to this intimate part of their anatomy, for the sole purpose of pain being applied to it.  The position they are being made to assume, is by design, one that will allow the disciplinarian to do the best job possible. 

When a young lady presents her bottom, it is very much an acknowledgment that her behavior has warranted such actions.  She knew the rules, made a conscious decision to break them, and as a result she is faced with the consequences of her actions.  It makes sense and is fair that she is required to present her bottom, as it is HER spanking. The purpose of the spanking is for her benefit, not that of the disciplinarian, so her cooperation should be expected.  There is no reason that the person charged with the role of discipline should have to work any harder than needed.  She should not only have to present her bottom, but also work as hard as possible to keep her bottom in the position required so the spanking can be applied as effectively as possible. 

The presentation of the bottom for a proper punishment is about more than just submission, it is also serves a functional purpose.  In order for a proper spanking to be administered, the bottom needs to be situated in a manner that makes it ideal for spanking, which is often influenced by the implement to be used.  The presentation of the bottom will be far different for a paddling with a wooden school paddle than it would be for a handspanking.  A bottom needs to be properly presented to allow for maximum effectiveness for that punishment.  It would make little sense, in a school environment in which a young lady has earned a hard paddling to have her lay down, or go over a knee.  For proper school corporal punishment she will need a position that allows for stability so swats of the proper severity can be applied.  When an object as large and heavy as a school paddle is being used, how she presents her bottom can also address the issue of safety.  A young lady needs to present her bottom in a manner that provides safety for her tailbone when severe swats are applied.

How the bottom is presented can also influence other aspects of the over corporal punishment experience. A proper spanking, one that is to never be forgotten, can be more than just about how much it hurts.  The addition is elements such as embarrassment, nervousness, physical discomfort beyond the spanking, and vulnerability can all be achieved with the proper presentation of the bottom.  Think of the contrast of the person who is required to lay over the edge of a desk of a table for a spanking over their pants versus the person who is required to bare their bottom and bend over and grab their ankles.  The presentation of these two bottoms is like night and day and can greatly influence the overall effectiveness of the spanking.  The person bent over an object is far more comfortable, a little less nervous of the overall sting that will be coming, and has retained most of their modesty.  The person presenting their bare bottom, while grabbing their ankles, is already learning a lesson before the punishment has started. 

First of all, there are very few ways in this world to present a bottom that make someone feel more vulnerable.  With their bare ass in the air and their genitals on display they are typically quite embarrassed.  There is no calm or comfort, and what is about to happen to that bottom on display is greatly enhanced in their mind.  Whatever implement that has been presented, as the tool for their learning, now seems much more fearsome than it did before they presented their bottom.  In addition, maintaining this position for any period of time, in itself, is quite uncomfortable.  A position such as this also once again really makes them part of their own spanking.  It is not easy to stay in position while grabbing your ankles, so by presenting their bottom in this position, it makes them an active participant.  The person presenting their bottom while bent over the desk, basically just lays there until their spanking is over.  But the person grabbing their ankles has to work hard to accept the punishment they have earned and they do not get to just lay there while it is happening.

Many people overlook so very many important parts of a spanking and miss some of the finer points that can add to the overall effectiveness of a proper punishment.  Next time you find yourself in the position of punishing someone whose behavior warrants it; remember it is not just as simple as bending them over and spanking them.  They need to properly present their bottom and submit to it, giving them ownership of their punishment, adding further discomfort, vulnerability, embarrassment, and most importantly, so their bottom is presented in such a way to allow for maximum pain and long term soreness.  Anything less would be an injustice and increases the chance of future transgressions.

[ Monday, November 17, 2014 ]

Tiny teen bottoms in need of a proper spanking

We all see it every day, teenage girls walking through the mall or in the park, showing off their little butts.  You can pretty much guarantee that there is no the way that they left the house that day if their parents were home. With Facebook, Instagram, and video chat, it is also becoming quite common for these young ladies to show off their bare assets to whoever happens to be on the other end of the phone or computer.

Many are learning the hard way that the images and videos that they are choosing to share, are not quite as private as they wanted it to be.  There are entire website dedicated to ex-boyfriends posting sexy pictures of the teenage girlfriends.  These young ladies are learning the hard way that about privacy and as a result the pictures of the petite little butts are being spread around the internet for everyone to see.

If parents were more aware of the little short shorts that their daughters are sneaking out of the house, to change into later, I guarantee there would be more bruised bottoms all around.  If parents also knew that the little cameras in these girl’s cell phones, tablets, and computers were being used to broadcast their butts around the internet, I believe that the family paddle, or dad’s belt, would used much more liberally.

So when this young lady sneaks a tiny little pair of shorts out of the house in her purse, so she can show off her little bottom in public:

and her dad catches her, and takes her home and wears that little bottom she was showing off with the paddle, then she might just choose to dress a little more appropriately in public.

Or when these two young ladies thought it would be cute to show off their asses for a picture on Instagram:

and then dad decided to have them pull those shorts down and tears their bottoms up for a while with his belt:

I believe that modesty and a more ladylike way of life would be restored.

[ Friday, November 14, 2014 ]

Naked and Embarrassed for the complete Punishment Experience

There are many consenting adults in this world who participate in some sort of disciplinary relationship.  It may be a husband and wife who live a domestic discipline lifestyle, someone who reports to a disciplinarian for punishment as needed, or even those in a 24/7 Master/slave relationship.  Within any of these relationships, while spanking may at times take on a playful role, corporal punishment is indeed used as an actual punishment tool. A typical spanking may be spontaneous and used for slight transgressions and be just firm enough to make a point clear about some violation of the rules.  But there will come a time in any disciplinary relationship in which a punishment cannot be handled with a quick spanking and needs to become more of a disciplinary event.  This is the kind of punishment that if done in an effective manner, becomes something that the naughty person will never forget.

Over the years, I have been in the unique situation of being able to create many such experiences for deserving young ladies in need of such a punishment.  Please keep in mind that these were obviously consensual encounters and ones in which I was contacted by someone who was looking for a punishment with a level of severity that went well beyond a typical spanking.  I have discussed before in detail many of the techniques that can be used to create such an experience, especially when dealing with someone who does indeed have a spanking fetish. 

Today I wanted to discuss the topic of nudity as a tool to enhance the overall punishment experience.  This may not be quite as effective for a couple that utilizes spanking, as they already have an intimate relationship, so seeing each other naked is typically a common occurrence. For the young ladies over the years that have traveled to my location seeking a true punishment experience, generally we are meeting in person for the first time.  On these occasions I have been given a unique opportunity to use nudity as a punishment tool to make sure that their experience is one that is very long lasting.
I believe just about everyone that actively seeks out a spanking punishment, even if for real life offenses, does indeed have a spanking fetish.  On some level, even if they know that the spanking they are going to receive from me is severe, they have fantasized about it for a very long time.  Heavy in the fantasy is often the scolding and the actual spanking, but for many young ladies out there, the nudity is not something that they have considered.  Spanking is something that has lived in their psyche for a very long time, but being naked in front of someone they just met is just plain uncomfortable.  Well, uncomfortable is what I do when it comes to a punishment, so I play off this factor in a very big way.

Many people may think that disciplinarians that require a young lady to get naked for her punishment just want to see a naked woman.  For me it has nothing to do with my needs, turn ons, or desire for visual stimulation and has everything to do with creating an environment and experience that the young lady would never want to repeat.  She is being punished for her behavior, behavior that we are trying to completely eliminate, and I would be doing her a disservice by not doing everything in my power to assure that she has an experience to look back upon every time she finds her behavior slipping.  So the experience I create is more than just about being spanked.

I know the experience is effective from the look on the young lady’s faces when they are told to strip completely naked within the first minute of walking in my door.  They have mentally prepared themselves for many things, but getting naked in front of me before ever being asked to sit down, was not one of them.  This is such a powerful tool and accomplishes so many things with that one command.  First, there is really no situation in life, except jail, in which someone can demand that someone else strip fully naked.  Well, they are in trouble; they are going to be punished, so I have no trouble with creating a situation that only exists in jail.  It also quickly establishes control and immediately makes it clear to her that I am in charge.  Even more importantly, it makes her feel exposed and vulnerable.
As she stands in the middle of my living room, slowly removing every article of clothing that she is wearing, while I casually sit on the couch and watch, the punishment has already begun.  I have not lectured her, we have not covered her offenses or transgressions, and there is not a spot on her bottom that is the slightest bit pink, yet the punishment has begun.  She is not happy about this turn of events, she is very uncomfortable, and she is highly embarrassed.  I have already created a situation that she would not voluntarily want to repeat. Once she is fully naked I then require her to neatly fold her clothes. Just as with the jail reference before, there are very few situations in life in which someone is told to fold their clothes, except when they were a child.  She is in trouble, and she is indeed going to be spanked, so I do not mind at all if I am telling her to do things that give the whole situation a parental feel.

I find the living room element also to be an important part of her requirement to be naked.  Most people associate the bedroom with intimate moments and tend to spend the majority of their undressed time in that environment.  The typical woman does not wander around the house naked, so I like making her get naked in an even more uncomfortable environment. So now as she is standing before me, as naked as the day she was born, with her face the same color that her bottom will soon be, I take things to the next level.  I require her to stay in that spot, not allowing her to cover any part of her body and then I casually stand up and take her clothes.  I then take her clothes and walk them to a different room of the house, far out of her view and reach.  This tends to bring a sense of reality to the whole situation.  Her last defense, the last thing that might possibly protect her from this punishment she not only earned but actively sought out, is now gone.  She cannot just decide that she is going to back out and run out the door, her clothes are now gone.  Obviously, in any real life punishment I administer, the person being punished has the ability to leave.  But the removal of the clothing is highly symbolic and truly makes her feel even more vulnerable and helpless. 

When I return to the room and casually sit on the couch, we then begin to explore the reasons why she is there in the first place.  Now we have a young lady, who has probably fantasized and masturbated throughout her life about the moment in which she sat before a disciplinarian being lectured, but never did it play out in her head like this. This moment is not sexy, it is not like her fantasies, she is simply naked, embarrassed, and wants to be anywhere else in the world at that very moment.  The lecture is not going to be a quick one, I am going to make this last as long as it possible can.  Also, this is not the same as corner time.  Corner time often is part of a woman’s fantasy, but that is somehow more intimate, much more focused, and private.  She is not being given the benefit of having her naked body hidden with her nose in the corner.  This is not a quiet moment for reflection, this is an open and engaging conversation between adults, a normal daily occurrence, but one in which she is required to be naked for.  There is a sense of security and safety that comes with corner time, in this situation she only feels exposed and on display.

Throughout our correspondence it was been made clear that there will be no part of her spanking that will be light.  If she is coming to see me, it is indeed for the real thing, with tears as the goal from the beginning.  At no point have I previously ever discussed with her how she is going to be spanked or with what implement.  She probably has spent a considerable amount of time considering how bad the spanking is going to be and speculating exactly how it is going to take place.  There was probably also a considerable amount of fear wondering if she would be able to endure what I had in store for her.  That fear has been increased significantly by the removal of her clothing.  Any amount of time she spent convincing herself that she could get through it at the beginning as a result of a spanking administered over clothes, is out the window.  She knows she is going to be spanked hard and she now knows that from the first swat on, it will be her bare bottom paying the price.

From the moment that she was required to get naked, she is standing in the middle of the room, hands at her sides, facing me.  After what could be as long as a 30 minute conversation, it is time to remind her which part of her anatomy will be the focus of this visit.  After 30 minutes of growing slightly more comfortable standing naked before me, it is time to once again create more discomfort, both physically and mentally.  This is accomplished quite easily by telling her to turn around, assume a wide stance, and to bend over and grab her ankles.  If she had started to grow a little more comfortable with displaying full frontal nudity, this solves that problem quickly.  Any sense of modesty is fully out the window when a young lady is required to grab her ankles while fully naked.  The most intimate and private parts of her body are put fully on display with no way to hide them.  With a single command I was able to take the most uncomfortable and embarrassing moment of her life and enhance it significantly. Once again, no implement has made contact with any part of her body, but there is no doubt that she is being punished.

This is the part of her punishment in which physical discomfort starts to finally become a factor.  She is not being required to grab her ankles so I can immediately spank her.  It is at this point that I will start to gather implements and bring them into the room.  I am in no hurry as I know this position gets very uncomfortable very quickly.  Yes, she may indeed have fantasized about this very position, but she imagined it as part of a spanking.  Very quickly she is going to start to feel pain everywhere but the one place she wants it. Her legs and her muscles will become sore and eventually tremble a bit.  She has not been spanked yet, but with her body growing sore and her genital exposed and on display, there is no doubt that she is being punished.  The best part is, there is not one part of the current punishment that she has ever fantasized about and the chances of her ever wanting to repeat this portion of her punishment are very low.

Eventually all good things must come to an end and she will indeed be freed of the embarrassment and discomfort that she feels as a result of being naked and exposed in front of me.  In just a moment she will forget all about the nudity and it will be the farthest thing from her mind.  She will no longer be embarrassed and it will not bother her even the slightest little bit that her clothes are in the other room.  All of the shame and embarrassment will quickly be replaced with something else that will be all encompassing and will quickly become the only thing that exists in her universe…pain. 

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