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[ Thursday, November 19, 2015 ]
OTK Straddle Spanking
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The use of the hairbrush for a severe punishment spanking
As a deviant that really loves to spank, I have been blessed over the years to really pursue all of my spanking fantasies. Most people think that this takes place while I am working, but that is not really what fuels my fantasies. For me, I do not find what I seek from spanking paid models or play parties, as rarely in those situations am I spanking someone who really deserves it, which is the most important factor for me. Yes, there have been a few scenes that I have done over the years, for my sites, in which real discipline was actually taking place (the real discipline with Michael Masterson scenes, as well as several Brandi scenes, and recently a couple scenes with Syrena), but that is not the norm for what I do at work.
My fantasies, as they have always existed in my head, have been explored in the comfort of my own home, without any camera being turned on. There have been dozens and dozens of private discipline sessions in which someone has sought me out, traveled to my location, for a well-deserved punishment. In these cases the discipline is very real, as are the offenses, but it is a little more difficult in that they had to travel for me for their punishment, leading to most communication being via email. Of these types of relationships, the ones that have been most fulfilling to me were people who at least lived locally. This allowed for the spanking to take place as soon as possible after it was required.
At the very top, as far as fulfilling spanking fantasies, have been relationships in which domestic discipline was involved. As I have stated too many times, we are discussing domestic discipline relationships in which the person being punished by me, had a desire to be spanked. In most cases, these relationships grew out of someone that was already reporting to me for private discipline. I have never really assumed the “daddy” role, as that is not really my thing, however, these types of relationships do lend themselves greatly to a daddy/daughter sort of relationship.
While no one has ever been required, or even allowed, to call me daddy, the relationship tends to fit quite nicely into a strict father with an older teen daughter still living at home, as the requirements for both relationships are quite similar. For a women living under my roof, that wants to have discipline in her life, I will have similar expectations. I will want the very best for her and will expect her to work hard at anything and everything she does. There will be clearly defined rules that will result in discipline if broken. There will be chores that help in the running of the household. She is required to live her life in a safe and healthy manner. Education, on any level is something very important and is to be taken very seriously, even if it is just finding the time each day to read a little. Exercise and fitness are very important and need to play a major role in her life, and so on. As you can see, these are the same requirements that any older teen still living at home could possibly be faced with.
Take all of those and factor in basic no no’s in life such as drinking and driving, texting and driving, staying out too late, getting too drunk, and things a little less severe such as not calling when late, procrastination issues, not picking up after herself, etc., and you have a pretty good list that allows for fairly frequent spanking, without there being any role playing required. The roles are indeed quite real; there is nothing fake about any of it. Yes, it might be a little odd to some, that legal adults have chosen a lifestyle in which a man can spank a woman whenever the moment requires it, but there is a lot of good that can come from all of it.
So this leads me, in a very roundabout way, to the topic for today, and that is choice of spanking implements, and the importance of having that one implement that is really reserved for the worst case punishment. In a relationship such as this, especially when she does have a desire to be spanked, a spanking is going to happen fairly often. The rules are purposely rigid to make sure that anything but her very best behavior will result in a spanking. This is not to say that I do not apply each and every spanking with the goal of eliminating such behavior, but there has to be a balance. I am not going to beat her poor bottom black and blue, for leaving her dirty clothes on the floor after being asked not to. She is going to get a spanking, a very memorable spanking that will lead to tears, but not every spanking she receives is going to be the most severe of her life. However, I do need to make sure that every spanking is not one that she enjoys and would not want repeated anytime soon.
With fairly frequent spanking as the norm, especially with the current naughty girl in my life, I tend to have go to implements that are used most often. It should come as no surprise if you have watched my videos or read here at all, that the belt and paddle are my two favorites. I make it a point that any belt I put on in the morning is one that will be effective for discipline, so by default, that is always a choice when the moment calls for it. I also think that the belt carries a certain stigma to it, and as many young ladies grew up feeling it, it will always have a special meaning. I like that a belt, especially the ones I choose to wear, can be used effectively over clothing or on the bare. I also like the fact, being that I often like to administer discipline on the spot, is that we can be out and about and I always have an implement with me. I have been forced to be creative at times, but for just about any occasion, I can find that quick and private little spot to wear her bottom out when needed.
I think my obsession with the paddle is as simple as growing up in a school system in which anyone, at any given time, could be told to bend over for a paddling. Most corporal punishment is far more private, so the knowledge, and occasional proximity to a school paddling, forever etched the paddle into my mind with spanking. The day that I rented my first real house, before we were even unpacked, I was in the garage making my first paddle ever, as I now had a place to do so privately. My personal paddle collection, not counting work paddles, is in excess of 50 different wooden paddles. But true to my roots, with as many choices that I have, the school type paddles see the most use.
The paddle really is the ultimate punishment tool. It works in every single situation in which corporal punishment is required. It is the great equalizer of spanking implements in that it is effective over any variation of clothing. She could be wearing pj’s, a work skirt with pantyhose, or tight jeans and full underwear…it does not matter. With the proper paddle selection, I can teach a very real and very immediate lesson with a good paddle. Even better, I can get my point across with just a few swats. A small offense, fine, 6 swats with a paddle over her clothes. A severe offense, 20 on the bare bottom is more than enough to leave her bruised and sore. If she requires a quick reminder as we head out the door, there does not need to be some big production, clothing removed, we can just walk into the bedroom, and in less than 30 seconds she is walking tearfully to the car.
Even though I can use a paddle and turn it into the most severe punishment, there still has to be that one implement, the one that is never used, unless she is about to be taught the lesson of her life. I find it important to always be able to take discipline to the next level when required. This is why pretty much every spanking I give is right around 80%. If she is getting all wiggly and won’t stay in position, she needs to know that I can turn it up a notch if needed. Well the same holds true with the paddle. She knows it hurts, she knows it can be the worst thing ever, but she needs to know there is a different implement and a different level that I will go to if her behavior requires it. It is this threat, and fear, that helps stop the dangerous behaviors that involve her own, or someone else’s safety.
In my home, this implement has always been a heavy wooden hairbrush. I am not taking about a brush from Target, with plastic backing, or some thin little crappy wood. I am talking about a heavy wooden hairbrush at least an inch thick. This is an implement that is so very capable of making a permanent change in behavior. Yes, I do indeed have paddles that are an inch thick, that could probably produce the same results, but this is my chosen implement for those times when such a lesson is really needed. As my home is not a spanking studio, and I try and keep it as vanilla as possible, there are not just implements lying around. But just like a belt, a hairbrush is a very common thing to see in someone’s home. My favorite hairbrush, meaning the one that sucks the most, is always sitting out in plain view in the bedroom or bathroom. This allows her a daily reminder, even as she just brushes her teeth, that this is an option depending on her behavior. I guarantee that she can recall with vivid detail each and every time she has felt it on her bottom. When it is used, it is used with great intensity. There can never be that time, in which she was spanked with the brush, when it was not “that bad”. I need that brush to conjure up fear, pain, and remorse every time she even glances at it.
There are a few reasons why the hairbrush is so feared on our home. The first is the manner in which I use it. Even with a severe paddling, the overall event may only consist of 20-30 swats, as that is more than enough to make my point. But with a hairbrush, I treat it basically the way I do a handspanking, a punishment that is defined by minutes, not swats. I prefer to administer it otk, as this allows me to help keep her in position. Yes, I am big on people assisting in their punishment by cooperating and holding still, but with the brush, I know that might not be fully possible. With a paddle, the swats are generally spaced out a little bit, but with the brush I treat it just like a handspanking and spank as fast as I can while still creating the amount of intensity that is required. While thicker than a typical paddle, it has a much smaller striking surface, but this is used to my benefit. With a paddle, hard swats need to be closely monitored to assure that I am avoiding the tailbone. This leads to pretty much all swats hitting in generally the same area. Also with a school paddle, due to its size, I do not spank cheek to cheek, so this leads to her right cheek getting punished more than the left. But with a brush, and knowledge of exactly where her tailbone is, I am free to work a much larger portion of her bottom.
Each swat on the bare bottom, with my heavy hairbrush, leaves a large bull’s eye bruise. With a paddle I am only able to bruise part of her bottom, but with the brush, I can work everywhere but where her tailbone sits. I am very big on leaving a “visual indicator” on someone’s bottom so they can not only feel the results of their behavior, but they can also see it. With a brush, I can literally turn her entire bottom black and blue. The smaller striking surface also allows me to really focus the spanking on the areas that I know she will be feeling it the most. There is no school paddle that allows me to really work the inside portion of the bottom of her butt cheek. With a brush, I can use one hand to gentle spread her cheeks, and make sure that the inner area, as close as I can safely get to her vagina, receives the attention that it requires.
This also allows me to really work the “sit spot” in a manner that I cannot accomplish with any other implement. As I stated before, a paddling can really take care of this area, but it tends to not be balanced. While I will cover as wide an area as I safely can with a brush, she can count on the part of her bottom that touches when she sits to be visited far more frequently. While I may use 10-12 swats on each pass to take care of just one butt cheek, I will always put at least that many swats on a single spot, on that same pass. Remember, this is a “holy shit” sort of offense and I am looking for results. With the hairbrush, the goal really is for her not to be able to sit the next day, and I assure you, it is possible.
The entire process will last up to five minutes and she will be in tears from the very first swat. Nothing really takes someone’s breath away like a full force hairbrush stroke on the bare bottom. She will kick, squirm, and wiggle for the first minute or so, but her body will eventually help her cope. Anything after that first minute is more for the next few days, as she will slowly be able to handle the intensity of the brush. But just because she is no longer fighting it, and it does not seem to be having the same effect, it does not mean I stop. I try to be quite meticulous in my coverage, as I really do want her to see what her behavior caused. While it will appear as several hundred little bull’s eyes, it will eventually lead to one very bruised bottom that will sort of merge together over time. I use the time when her endorphins are really kicking to make sure that the entire lower portion of her bottom is as sore as I can possibly get it. One must be very careful when going below the bottom, but I have found that the first couple of inches of her upper thighs, when also punished, tends to help with the long term learning.
When it is all said and done, the results are generally a very worn out and tired young lady who has exhausted herself mentally and physically. Her bottom will be pretty much numb for a little while; it is just hard to avoid that. But we both know from experience that this will not be the case for very long, and that soon, the real punishment will begin. Being a spanko, once she has calmed herself down, she always goes to look at her bottom in the mirror. On one such occasion, she had pulled the full length mirror off the wall and was sort of squatting over it, pressing on her bottom which was completely swollen and hard to the touch everywhere. She knows that she will only “enjoy” it for less than an hour, because then the reality sets in. The reality that eventually sets in is the fact that her bottom is sorer than most people can actually imagine.
The next morning is pretty much always the worst, and in my experience it can go one of two ways. The first option, the preferred option, is she is feeling remorseful and very sorry for her actions. There is typically a sense of relief, in that if a punishment of this intensity was required, then chances are there was some serious tension between us, as well as something that she was feeling extremely bad or guilty about. Knowing her actions were leading up to this spanking, there is also much relief that it is over and behind us. Yes, she is incredibly sore, very hesitant to even try and sit down, so clearly learning is still taking place. But this also leads to a bit of a bonding process, with me having had the strength and the courage to give her the spanking that she had earned, choosing to give her everything that she needed and not stopping regardless of how much it hurt and how bruised her bottom was becoming. While all is certainly forgiven, this is not to say that I slack on the rules in any way just because she can’t sit down. It is her behavior that decides when her next spanking is, not mine. But when things go this way, the way they should, I tend to allow her to care for her bottom is any manner that she chooses, meaning, if she chooses to stand for breakfast, that is her decision and one I can respect. I do not go out of my way to provide additional discomfort and just allow the current soreness to be the consequence.
But there are indeed those times in which a young lady does not fully learn from such and experience and chooses to handle it a different way. This way would involve a lot of bitching, moaning, and carrying on about how sore she is. This is not remorse or even ownership of her punishment, it is the exact opposite, and I have very little tolerance for such things. I took the time to help her, with something so completely wrong and horrible, a behavior that could possibly lead to arrest, or injury, and went out of my way to make sure that she was punished in such a way to discourage it from ever happening again, and now she is giving me attitude because she can’t really sit down? What part of her not being able to sit down is my fault? I did not spank her for fun, or because I was horny, or even because I am mean, I spanked her, long and hard with my hairbrush, to effect change. Being bitter, and sarcastic, are not the signs of someone who has learned a lesson. It demonstrates behavior that further requires my attention.
I wrote recently about the bike seat discipline that I chose one day after such a punishment, and it was exactly that behavior, immediately following the spanking, and again the next morning that led to this. I can be quite forgiving of someone who learned their lesson and chose to start fresh the next day, but I can be a literal pain in the ass when a different attitude emerges. So if she did not learn her lesson, we will capitalize on the previous spanking, and make sure the lessons continues. A girl with an attitude like that can count on spending a lot of time sitting the next day or two. She can also count on there being a piece of wood on any padded furniture that she chooses to sit on. She may indeed find herself on a bike seat or in corner time on a wooden stool, with her feet elevated to put all of the pressure on her bottom. Or, she may find herself grabbing her ankles for a session with my belt, like the one time these words were spoken, “easy for you to say when your ass is not fucking sore”. You will be amazed at the effectiveness of the belt on a bottom in that state, the very next day. But she needed a very clear reminder that I was not the one that “made her ass so fucking sore”, it was only her that was responsible.
The point I am really trying to make with this post is that even in a spanking relationship, in which severe spanking tends to be pretty close to the norm, there has to be a next level. As the level of bad behavior increases, so does the resulting punishment. There may have been a particular spanking that was a 10 on the pain scale, well guess what, today we find what 12 feels like, because as long as her behavior requires it, I will do what is necessary to effect the necessary change.
All images and animations come from very real hairbrush spankings that I have personally administered in the member’s area of Realspankings.com
[ Wednesday, November 04, 2015 ]
Using anticipation to increase the effectiveness of a punishment spanking.
Research has clearly demonstrated that a punishment is most effective when it is applied as soon as possible after the infraction. While I do know that this in indeed the case, I often like to delay the actual spanking once a transgression has taken place. I do believe in addressing the behavior the moment it takes place, but I feel that a spanking can often be made more effective by delaying it. For today’s blog post I will go through what I feel to be the most effective ways to use anticipation to enhance the overall effectiveness of a spanking.
A method I often use, and one that is quite popular with parents that utilize corporal punishment, is to send the offender to another location to wait for her punishment. She is not told how long she will have to wait, and in many cases, she is not even told what she will be spanked with. As she sits in the bedroom waiting, this really allows her imagination to get the best of her. As much as she might try to distract herself, her mind is always brought back to the fact that she is about to have her bottom blistered. This adds a lot of overall stress to the event, which I see as a positive thing. We want all aspects of a disciplinary spanking to be as memorable as possible, so any tool that I can use to make the entire experience undesirable, I will put into action.
As she is sitting there, she is able to run 100’s of scenarios through her head, as well as reflect on previous spankings she has endured and contrast them to what she is in trouble for this time. She is forced to consider every implement that I own, as she has no idea what is about to be used on her. She might try and convince herself that it will not be that bad this time, while just seconds later the thought of the last time the hairbrush was used on pops into her head. This gives her time to not only reflect on the punishment she is about to receive, but to revisit many past punishments in her head. Even for those that enjoy spankings on some level, the anticipation can often be as bad as the punishment itself.
I like to capitalize on the stress, fear, and anticipation that she is feeling at the moment as much as possible. For anyone, as a child, teen, or adult, that has ever experienced this moment of anticipation, there is a particular moment that really defines this whole experience, and that is often footsteps headed in your direction, or the sound of the knob turning on the door. It can best be compared to the moment that you look in your rear-view mirror and see a cop with light on behind you. It gives you that rush of adrenaline that sweeps through your body, and instantly increases your heart rate. It is at this moment that the stress levels go through the roof, as you know the moment that you have been dreading for at least several minutes is finally about to happen. In my home, there is no carpet, with hardwood floors throughout so the sounds of footsteps carry very well. When I have a young lady sitting on my bed waiting for her punishment, I make a point of getting up and walking in that general direction every five to ten minutes. This allows her to experience that “oh shit” moment at least a few times before her punishment actually begins. Even better, I will walk all the way to the bedroom, and turn the knob on the door, before going back to whatever I was doing, and allowing her more time to consider her behavior.
This same scenario can be further enhanced by adding additional elements to the process. One that I find is very effective, especially if she is in a considerable amount of trouble, is to have her get the implement that is to be used on her, and have her hold it while she waits. This is not quite as effective for lesser punishments utilizing a lighter implement, in which case I would rather have her guessing what is to be used, so she can picture the worst. But if I am going to paddle her bottom with a heavy wooden school paddle, or use a hairbrush, I will probably send her to wait with it in her hand. With the implement in hand she is better able to visualize and imagine just how very bad it will be. We have added a tactile element to the equation and she can actually touch and feel the implement. She will not only be able to see the implement that is going to be used, but to feel its weight. Knowing that she is going to be paddled is one thing, but holding the actual implement really allows her to contemplate exactly how it is going to feel, and more importantly, the long term effects of such a heavy implement.
Another element that can be used when a young lady is sent to her room to wait for her spanking is varying degrees of nudity. This can be as simple as her being told to sit with her pants and panties at her ankles, all the way to her being fully nude. Even in the privacy of the home, for many people, having some or all of their clothing removed adds a feeling of vulnerability. This is supposed to be a real punishment so I have no problem in doing whatever I can to make the overall experience as bad as possible. Beyond just the physical pain, if I can play on emotions such as fear, apprehension, embarrassment, stress, and vulnerability, I will do it every time. I am trying to create an overall experience that will decrease the likelihood of the behavior ever being repeated and will put everything into play that I think will help. It is one thing to be in trouble and to be told to bend over for your paddling, it is a far different experience to be told to strip naked, grab the paddle, and go wait in your room until I am good and ready to bruise your bottom.
Something else that I use quite often is to have her assume the position that she is going to be punished in, and then just have to wait. Typically she will not be required to hold a position as long as I would make her wait in the bedroom, but there is no reason, depending on the position, that she cannot wait five to fifteen minutes for her spanking to start. On many occasions I have required a naughty young lady to drop her pants and panties, right there in the middle of the living room, and grab her ankles for a spanking, only to then finish watching whatever show that happens to be on TV, or at least wait for a commercial break. This not only adds a bit of a physical stress to the overall punishment, but once again leads to feelings of embarrassment and vulnerability. It also helps her completely visualize exactly what is going to happen. Just as with the footsteps down the hall, every time the program goes to a commercial break, her body goes through that “oh shit” moment as she considers if her spanking is about to begin.
The next method that I use to increase the feelings of anticipation for a spanking is to cover the offense, tell her the punishment, and then “sentence” it for a particular time. There are a few different ways to accomplish this. The first is to tell her exactly when and where her spanking will occur. I am quite fond of a punishment being handled at the beginning of the next day, so a young lady might find herself at work with a recently spanked bottom. Or, if possible, trying to choose a time that is quite fitting for the punishment. Consider the young lady who went out with friends for drinks and then came home far later than she said and without informing me. It seems perfectly reasonable that the next time that she goes out, that she does so with a bruised bottom, so she will have a very real reminder for the duration of that outing to assure the same thing does not happen again.
Another variation that I have found to be very effective, especially when it comes to more severe punishments, is to tell her exactly what she has coming, and then tell her that we will take care of it later. “Later” is not defined in any way, which leaves her with the thought that it could occur at any time. This might be five minutes, five hours, or even better, five days later. What this does is really allow for reflection on exactly what she did wrong. A couple of days later, she is trying her best to go through her day as she normally would, but every few minutes the thought of the looming punishment will cross her mind. If I have promised her five minutes over my knee, for a hard bare bottom session with my heavy wooden hairbrush, there is really nothing that can completely remove that from her mind. This allows for her mind to frequently consider this event, while at the same time, considering why it is going to happen.
I have listened to and read many accounts of school corporal punishment in which both of these techniques are used. In some cases, all the paddlings that take place in a school, happen at the same time while class is not in session. This might mean a young lady has to report to the office at the end of the day, or to come to school early the next morning for her paddling. In the famous case of Amber Page, at Grand Prairie high school in Texas, she was not paddled the Friday that she was caught smoking, but told that she would indeed be paddled. The next Monday she wore four pairs of shorts to school, with overalls on top, hoping to have a well-padded bottom for her paddling. Her actual paddling did not take place until a full week later. For the young lady that tried to get to sleep at night knowing that she will be paddled the next morning, all the way to 17 year old Amber, who went to school each and every day for a full week not knowing if that would be the day, you would have to imagine that the sense of anticipation influenced the effectiveness of the punishment in general.
The final variation, one that I have written about in great detail many times before, is corner time. While many utilize corner time after a punishment, I am more likely to use it before. It plays on many of the things I have already described, but it tends to help her focus completely on her behavior and the punishment that is about to happen. When a punishment is sentenced for a different time or date, she will find moments throughout her day in which she is able to distract herself from what she knows will be happening in the future. But with corner time, especially if done right, you are removing all distractions from her mind, except the upcoming spanking and what she did to earn it. I try to place her in place in which there is no external stimuli to distract her from the task at hand. There will always be some degree of nudity, and often it will be a position that is difficult to maintain, which forces her to be focused. Something as simple as requiring her to hold a coin against the wall with her nose, or to kneel with her feet having to remain off the ground, keeps her completely on task and does not allow the mind to wander. This allows her to think about only one thing, the fact that her behavior, led her to a place, in which she not only earned a spanking, but deserves one.
When someone engages in a behavior, which previously has not only been agreed upon as unacceptable, but it has been agreed upon that will be result in a physical punishment, it is best to address it the moment it happens. But, by utilizing some of the techniques above, it is possible to allow anticipation to be an effective addition to any punishment.
All images in this post come from the very real punishment videos in the member’s area of Realspankings.com
So, it has been 11 years of on and off blogging and frankly I am out of things to say. Before I write a new blog post, I go back through the years and see if it is something I have already covered, and yes, I have covered just about everything. With the goal of blogging here more often, I am going to ignore anything I have previously posted, and just post what is on my mind. I may have posted this 5 days ago, five months ago, or five years ago, so if you have followed this blog for any length of time, I apologize if you have read something similar before. Today I thought I would explore what exactly I like regarding spanking in general and the typical themes that play out in my private spanking life.
For me, the absolute most important part of spanking is that it is real discipline for real offenses. Quite simply, I have never really engaged in “play” spanking. I have never in my personal life engaged in some sort of role play, where one or both (occasionally more) of us are assuming some sort of role. In addition, I have never attended a local play party. Yes, I have smacked a few butts by request at a Shadow Lane party, but that was more of having a few drinks in a social environment and someone asking to feel a particular implement. No one was assuming a role and it was by no means disciplinary. The most important part of spanking is that the person getting spanked actually deserves it. While I enjoy spanking on many levels, it is never really done for my benefit. It is very important to me that it is being done for someone else’s benefit.