A bruised and sore bottom for the naughty girl
I guess it is fair to say that I have a bit of a reputation as a hard spanker. I would not say that this is an unfair characterization of how I generally choose to administer an on camera spanking, or even an off camera discipline session. When giving the whole idea some thought, there are several reasons why I think that a spanking from me tends to be a memorable event.
The first, and certainly the most important, is that a spanking is and has always been designed to be a punishment. It is the application of a painful stimulus for the sole purpose of eliminating undesirable behavior. Yes, I have a spanking fetish and yes, there is a sexual component to the whole process of administering, receiving, even simply watching a spanking take place. But the one thing that has never been part of my fetish is anything remotely resembling a playful spanking. I do not go to spanking play parties, nor do I go to spanking clubs or events. While there may indeed be something that is a little disciplinary that takes place at these events, for the most part it is playful. The year that I went to the Shadowlane event in Palm Springs, I did not administer a single spanking over four days. It is not that the opportunity did not present itself, as I am somewhat high profile in the online spanking world and was approached by many people asking for a spanking. I went to many parties and was asked at all of them to administer some sort of public spanking, but in all instances I had to politely decline.
You might find it crazy, that as someone who is very into spanking that I could go to a spanking convention, be even a little bit famous and recognized, and have women of all ages just about climbing over my lap for a spanking, and not spank a single one of them. The truth is, they had not done anything that had earned them a spanking in my eyes. There were no set rules or guidelines that I had provided them in which they had broken. They were looking for a playful spanking, maybe even a painful spanking, but these were not young ladies that deserved to be punished. I am not a sadist, there is no part of my spanking fetish that revolves around simply causing someone else pain. My fetish is deeply grounded in providing strict, and often severe, discipline for someone who deserves it. They not only deserve it, but they have actually made enough bad decisions that they have earned it.
When the above conditions have been met, then I am the first person to step up to administer a spanking. This is where my reputation for severity starts to kick in, if someone has actually acted in a manner in which they have earned a spanking, then I do my very best to make sure it is an event to remember. Someone who goes through the effort to contact me for real life discipline is warned well in advance what they can expect. Anyone who makes the decision to be spanked by me for real life infractions can expect four things, no matter what, on any occasion that they have the misfortune for coming to me for being punished.
The first is that they will be spanked far more severely than they could have ever wanted. If they are coming to me, even if for real life infractions, than they have a spanking fetish. I will never just feed someone’s fetish, and they can count on getting far more than they ever hoped for. It will not be pleasant and there will be no warm-up of any kind. The purpose of this spanking is not to give them memories to masturbate to, it is to punish them for a behavior that they have engaged in that they should not have. I need for them to realize within the first ten strokes, that even as an adult with a spanking fetish, that this punishment is for real and is something that they would likely not want to repeat. I will make sure that for the duration of the punishment that it never gets any easier and that by the time it is over, it will have been one of the most difficult to endure experiences of their life.
The second thing that they can expect is that tears will always be the goal. This does not always happen, as I have found that with adult women, tears are not always just a result of pain. There tends to be a heavy emotional element as well, so pain alone is not always enough to bring tears. I do find that as trust is built, tears become much more common on future punishments, should additional discipline be necessary. When I say that tears are the goal, I mean tears are the goal from the beginning. I know a lot of people that start a spanking at a mild pace, and then slowly build until the person being spanked finally breaks down, and then it ends. I personally do not understand this process at all and see it as a wasted opportunity. Why would I give someone a spanking for several minutes that is bearable for them? If we look at the root of spanking, being childhood punishments, what parent ever provided some sort of warm-up when disciplining their child? If I wasted two minutes of a spanking, allowing someone to adjust to the pain of their punishment, it would be a disservice to them and a failure on my part as a disciplinarian.
The third and fourth things that someone coming to me for a punishment can expect are closely related, and they are bruising and long term soreness. Once again, I am not a sadist and I gain no pleasure from marking the skin of a young woman, but I see it as a very important component to a proper punishment. Most importantly, when a spanking is done the punishment should not be over. The last thing I want is for a spanking to end, endorphins are going strong, and the person leaves with almost a bit of a high. A couple hours later their bottom is barely warm and they are now at a heightened sexual state, which just leads to masturbation and positive reinforcement regarding the whole experience. Instead, I want the endorphins to begin to wear off and for them to start to realize that the punishment is just beginning. When the high from the experience starts to go away I want them to begin to feel that throbbing on their bottom. There is a slight transitional period where the throbbing can be confused with a pleasurable feeling, but given a couple of hours, I want there to be no doubt that what they are feeling is not going to be pleasurable at all.
Ideally, if I have done my job to the best of my ability, then the next morning will be far worse. A proper punishment spanking, one meant to extinguish bad behavior for good, will result in a bottom so sore that it is not just sitting down that is a problem. From the moment the recently punished girl wakes up, I want her very first thought to be how sore her bottom is. When she pulls herself out of bed, if my job was done well, as she walks to the bathroom, she will be acutely aware of how tight the muscles in her bottom are. There will be nothing sexy about it for her; ideally it will be like the day after her hardest glutes workout ever at the gym. If I have really done my job the best of my ability, she will find herself squatting over the toilet when she pees.
You have to understand that we are talking about someone who has a spanking fetish, but truly wanted to be punished, in a very realistic manner, for very real life infractions. She has spent a good portion of her life fantasizing about being spanked. There have been many nights spent in bed thinking about and masturbating to the thought of being scolded, or baring her bottom, and eventually being physically punished. For most young ladies, they do not fantasize as far into the future of the true reality of not being able to sit down comfortably for a couple days after. Yes, there is still something quite sexy about a bruised bottom, but over the course of a day or two, it just becomes bothersome. When I work quite hard at it, it is indeed possible to create a bottom so sore that tears become a reality when attempting to find a comfortable position to sit the following day.
My goal is for the person who was spanked to not want to ever repeat the behavior that caused their bottom to be this sore. Even as someone with a full blown spanking fetish, I want for the moment the opportunity to engage in the behavior again presents itself, for her to be able to remember how her bottom felt for a few days following her punishment. I want the punishment to have been effective enough that she would never risk the chance of having it repeated. That right there is everything that I love about spanking and spanking at its very core. Creating a physical punishment that is enough of a deterrent that it not only punished them for their previous behavior, but has a high chance of eliminating it all together.
Now in my professional life, clearly I cannot always create the same situations. These are paid models and very few of them come to me as a result of real transgressions in their lives. But since the birth of my very first spanking website, I have tried as hard as I can to present spankings as I believe they should exist in the real world, and how they do exist in my private life. So I do not just bend a girl over and bruise her bottom with a wooden paddle just for the fun of it. While this is work, and we are acting, I try to apply the spanking that I truly feel would be warranted for the given situation. Tears are indeed the goal, I try to make the first swat as hard as the last, and even though they are paid models, I do my best to make sure that they leave with bruised bottoms and have difficulty sitting the next day.
Look at the scene below from RealspankingsInstitute.com as an example. The entire premise of this scene was that these two young ladies had acted in a manner that was truly unacceptable. In addition, the previous methods of corporal punishment that I had used had clearly proved ineffective as the behavior continued. They were both sent to their rooms to wait for me and were promised that they would be punished in a manner that would indeed be effective. In scripting the scene I had to decide what would be the most realistic way to handle this exact situation if I was really the disciplinarian for two young ladies who continued to misbehave after several previous applications of corporal punishment. I know from experience that there are very few things that teach such a long lasting lesson than that of a heavy wooden hairbrush applied very forcefully to a young lady’s bottom. Yes, this is a scripted scene with paid models, but I brought as much realism into as I possibly could. You can see from the animations below that this is very real corporal punishment. I did not begin with a handspanking, or over pants and panties, and there was no warm-up of any kind. I approached it like I would a private punishment and began with tears as the goal from the very first swat. Each and every swat with the heavy brush led to a very visible bruise, which there is no doubt that would lead to soreness for days and long term learning. Paid or not, this was an experience that neither young lady would be likely to want to repeat in the near future. This was a very real punishment spanking that both of them will never forget.
Comments:God bless you for being so eloquent and really nailing how I also feel about my spanking "goals" and needs. I believe I am a sadist in some respects as the pain is VERY important to me when I spank a girl's bottom. For me the pain is relative...of course one size does not fit all but I do want to take her to a place where she is frantic with the pain, much as you described, she is getting far more than she expected and is not sure she can take it all but she will. The ultimate for me, at least in fantasy, would be a non-consensual session with a truly deserving girl but that, as of yet, has not happened for me. Thank you for putting into words what I'm sure many of your readers/viewers feel.
One of many points you made that I find absolutely true is the benefit of an emotional connection between disciplinarian and naughty charge.
I have a friend who is providing discipline for me, and I dread his discipline because its as close to RL as it can ever be in my life. I always cry when he punishes me, because I know the punishment is coming from a place of caring. There is no yelling or shouting, just soft-spoken reproach, and a _very_ firm hand (and belt and cane). Also, as you mention, there is no 'warm up'. After all, its punishment, so from the very first smack of his hand on my backside, I know I am really in for it.
There is a certain paradox though, because at times, I find it very intense to be sent to someone I don't know well at all, for punishment. I imagine that is what it must feel like to be sent to a headmaster or coach.
Each situation brings different emotions with it, but most of all it is the desire to make it as real as possible that always makes it so potent for me. Keep up the great beltings and great conversations! Thank you!
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