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[ Friday, January 16, 2015 ]
New Studio and High End digital photography
Over the past year or so many of you have expressed disappointment with the quality of our still pictures. Obviously in the early days we were known for providing professional quality stills with all of our videos and over the last couple of years they have really suffered. The main issue was with our previous studio space, it was an 8000 sq. ft. estate home, with many levels, and it was just not practical to move our professional (and extremely large) strobes and octodomes throughout that studio space. We attempted pictures with a point and shoot, with our pro camera and a camera mounted flash, HD screen grabs, and then finally the pro camera using available lighting. Clearly none of these quite did the trick and our still content suffered.
With our brand new studio, which is a space that we are really enjoying, I have fully committed to once again using the full pro strobe setup for 90% of the scenes. This once again allows us to present high res images from our shoots, and most importantly, clearly show you the results of disciplinary spankings. There will be scenes on occasion in which we will only provide screen grabs, and that is typically as a result of a confined shooting space like a bathroom. We are very excited not only about high res, crisp and clear photos again, but also to have a fantastic new studio space. Here is a taste of some of our scenes shot in the last couple of weeks for both Realspankings.com and RealspankingsInstitute.com
[ Thursday, January 15, 2015 ]
BiSpanking.com Promo Pictures
Today I came across some of the original pictures that I took of the BiSpankings.com girls before their website was ever created. There are hundreds that I took to use as the graphics for their website. Here are a few of them.
Is a realistic punishment too much to ask for?
It is probably clear to most of you that what I like the most when it comes to spanking is the belt and the paddle. I love to see either of this used in a highly realistic way, which can indeed include it being used over clothing. In fact, this is why I like the paddle so much, is that it is effective over whatever someone is wearing at the moment.
Over the years I have watched less and less spanking content as, for the most part, it does very little for me as the realism has been lost. I know there are many of you that like to watch fun and erotic spankings in which there is very little in the way of pain being applied, but that is not just me. I see spanking as a form or discipline, a punishment, and it is something that needs to be applied in a manner that it is very clear that the person on the receiving end wants it to stop.
If I am going to pay for a subscription to a spanking site, I want to see the real thing. Yes, these are paid models; I understand that, so it can only be so real. But you know what is real? Putting a little bit of effort into your swing and teaching the person being spanked a proper lesson. Is that too much to ask for? I want to see a spanking applied in a manner that looks like a lesson is being learned.
What I want to see is a scene in which there is minimal acting, just enough to for me to know why she is in trouble. I then want to see a belt come off and pants come down. I do not want to listen to a long lecture, and I do not want to see her spanked in a manner that is intended to make it easy on her. Do not spank her gently with a belt 150 times, lecturing the whole time, to finally give her 5 good ones at the end. I would rather see 20 strokes applied in a serious manner and then it be over. Please give me 30 seconds of good content and not 3 minutes of garbage.
Here, for you producers out there, let me give you an example. Here are two animations, from the last two on-camera strappings that I administered. Bare bottom, heavy leather belt, as hard and fast as I can swing…each girl got 30 strokes. No bullshit, no faking, no long drawn out scene…a REAL PUNISHMENT! Is that too much to ask? And for the record, these animations are not sped up, they are actually slowed down .05 seconds. From the last 2 full HD strapping updates at Realspankings.com
I have had several inquiries over the last few months regarding “sexual discipline” and what I recommend or have experience administering myself. First, I must say that within the context of private discipline sessions that I conduct, there is never anything relating to pain applied anywhere but to a young lady’s bottom or the top of her thighs. There may be positions, or time outs, that cause some general fatigue or soreness, but I never target an erogenous zone when administering a spanking for discipline purposes.
As it is indeed difficult to try to come up with any new topic after more than a decade of blogging, today I will stray from my norm and address some of the recent emails. The only time that I have utilized any sort of punishment, that is sexual in nature, has only taken place within relationships in which there was intimacy. This have included past girlfriends, or the occasional “slave girl weekend” in Vegas. In these situations, obviously with other consenting adults, it has been fun to add a little flavor into the spanking mix and to find creative ways to administer discipline. While I do find certain aspects of BDSM to be fun, it has never really been my thing. To tie someone up tightly, and then basically roughly play with parts of their anatomy, just has not even fully done it for me. But if there has been an infraction of some sort, and a punishment is required, I do not mind pulling from the BDSM bag of tricks in order to be creative.
The go to for me is generally the use of a butt plug as a form of “sexual discipline”.
[ Wednesday, January 07, 2015 ]
Corner time really is required for a proper punishment
There are so very many reasons why corner time is such a great addition to any punishment. I use the term corner time somewhat generically as I apply it in so many different situations and very few of them actually involve a corner. But each and every one them can add so much to the overall dynamic and effectiveness of a proper punishment. Let’s take a look at many of the different ways that I utilize corner time and why I find it to be effective.
The first is the before the spanking use of corner time. This is a time when we are playing on the nervousness someone experiences before they are to be spanked. In most cases within my world of private discipline, a young lady has waited some time for this punishment and the moment has finally arrived. Her nerves are shot and she is quite nervous that the moment has finally arrived. She knows that is going to be painful, far more painful than she would ever want, and the anticipation of it actually happening is almost too much. Good! When I have her look back on her punishment I do not want there to be good memories. If the actual anticipation is one of the most difficult parts, then we need to use this to our advantage as disciplinarians. In fact, I will take it a couple steps farther. She needs to now shed that last little bit of a security blanket that she has, her clothes, and get fully naked. Once naked, and feeling more exposed and vulnerable than ever, she now gets to wait for an undisclosed period of time before she is spanked. This gives her plenty of time to think about her actions and behaviors and what it is in her life that has brought her to this very place in time. I may even begin to lay out the implements that may or may not be used on her, to further add to the anticipation, as she wonders what each of them will feel like on her bottom.
Another great variation of this is after she has had time to think long and hard is to put her into position. This now feels like the moment, it is finally here, it is finally going to happen, but that does not mean that I am in any hurry to get started. Now she feels even more exposed and vulnerable, but she is not in control of this situation, I am. By this point in time she is just ready to get the spanking over with, as the wait is harder than anything. This can be highly enhanced by choosing a proper position, like having her grab her ankles. Fully naked, bent over grabbing her ankles, presenting everything that is private to her to me and the world…without a single smack to her bottom, her punishment has already begun and this is an experience that she would not like to repeat anytime soon.
The next variation of corner time that I often use is a break to let her bottom recover a bit. There are many implements that when used effectively will often create some numbness as the body begins to produce endorphins to combat the pain. While continuing to spank when it is not being received as painfully as I would prefer can indeed help with the long term discomfort she will experience, I see it as a lost opportunity. Yes, I want to create a very sore bottom that hurts for a few days, but I also want her to experience as much discomfort as she can during the course of her spanking. If it becomes clear to me that this part of her spanking is somehow easier, I will simply stop. She is left in position, told not to move, and once again has no idea what is going to happen next. She does not know if the punishment is over, if I am taking a break, or if I am switching implements. Perfect! Midway through her punishment she is once again feeling fear and apprehension, two things that help make the overall punishment experience effective. Unfortunately for her, I am just allowing the production of endorphins to decrease so she will get the full benefit of the rest of her correction.
The next step in and one of the more common uses of corner time is for it to involve considerable discomfort all on its own. This helps a lot when punishing someone who has a spanking fetish. They may indeed include some small aspects of corner time within their fantasies because it has a very childish aspect to it. But within their fantasies they rarely consider how uncomfortable and annoying corner time can be made to be. Standing in the corner before, during, or after a spanking may indeed be boring, and even a little embarrassing, but it does little to provide discomfort. With a little creativity corner time can become a punishment all in itself. Position is everything and adding knees or large muscle groups into the equation can quickly increase the effectiveness. A basic first step is to simply require the naughty young lady to kneel on a hard wood floor, or a brick fire place mantle. Hands behind her head with her elbows touching the wall and then requiring her feet to be lifted off the ground quickly enhances the overall punishment experience.
On many occasions I have chosen to make the corner time very physically demanding, especially for those young ladies who have come to me to help them with some sort of fitness or weight loss goal. They seem to think that they do not have the mental fortitude to get themselves to the gym, or to work out hard enough for proper results. But when put in a physically demanding corner time position, such as a wall sit, knowing that the punishment for breaking that position is a dozen bare bottom swats with a school paddle, they quickly become quite aware of how truly motivated they can be. I have watched more than one young lady in a stressful corner time position, with her whole body shaking, body covered with sweat, prove to herself how capable she really is of pushing her body, she just needed the proper motivation. The challenging positions also require her to focus and she cannot really allow herself to just zone out and relax after her punishment, it takes a concentrated effort to maintain such positions and it is clear to her mind and her body that the punishment is not over even if the spanking has stopped.
The most common form of corner time is simply for a young lady to be placed somewhere quiet, with her red bottom on display, for her to reflect on the punishment she just received. I rarely make it quite that easy, and tend to throw in at least part of one of the elements previously discussed. One way to enhance it, without increasing the level of discomfort, is to add an embarrassing element to it. I believe that at no point in any punishment should someone be humiliated, but I do believe in using embarrassment as a learning tool. I have placed freshly spanked young ladies, fully naked; in front of a window on many occasions (once for the duration of the water show at the Bellagio, facing the fountains and the 1000 people watching). I have also chosen positions that while exposed and embarrassing, can be maintained for long periods of time, such as legs spread as wide as possible with hands on a small stool. Once again, this is different than just being required to stand in a corner and helps to keep her focused on the punishment she just received. Of course, even if the spanking is over, I would never inform her of that, which keeps the anticipation level high during any phase of corner time.
Corner time is not just a time out for kids, it is a highly effective form of discipline between consenting adults. It can be mild or be made to be extremely intense. If done properly it can be as effective as the spanking itself. The next time a deserving young lady requires a proper punishment for real infractions in her life, put in the time and effort to include various levels and types of corner time. It would be an injustice to her and her behavior to provide her with anything less.
[ Thursday, December 18, 2014 ]
Most popular post
I try my best to stay in touch with the member’s of my various sites and provide them with the content that they are looking for. My Tumblr page has done a lot to help me understand what people want to see the most. I post many animated gifs and how many likes and shares tells me a lot. Any picture or gif that gets more than 150 likes or shares show that people like this kind of content. I have been surprised that my most popular Tumblr post of all time is the one below with more than 11,000 shares and likes. No other has come anywhere close to the 10k mark.
[ Tuesday, December 16, 2014 ]
The reality of the use of the belt to punish a teen girl’s bottom
The videos I film for my various websites, while some you have to suspend reality a bit, I certainly try very hard to provide realistic corporal punishment as it exists in the real world. In actual reality, corporal punishment exists in the home between a parents and a child, in some schools, judicial, and between consenting adults. For most people, our spanking desires began at a young age and were generally a result of something we experienced or something we saw growing up. There will never be anything sexy for me about a five year old getting a spanking from a parent, but I am guilty in the sense that there is indeed something exciting about an older teenage girl getting punished for something she very much deserved. Whether it is in the school environment, in which she elects to receive a paddling, or in the home environment in which she bends over for a well-deserved spanking from a parent, there is some excitement in thinking about that concept.
I have written before about the fact that it is not that it is a teen that makes it exciting; it is the fact that it is real. Yes, there can be “real discipline” between adults, but for the most part it is indeed consensual and one or both adults probably have a spanking fetish. True corporal punishment is generally non-consensual and involves someone being punished for something that they did and they are getting a punishment that they in no way want. There are still a few schools out there in which a high school girl can be paddled and have no say in it, but for the most part, corporal punishment is something she elects to receive in lieu of another punishment. So, if we really want to consider how corporal punishment does indeed still exist in this country, and does not involve young children, what we are looking out is the reality of how an older teen my still be disciplined in the privacy of her own home.
While this can happen anywhere, it is still only common in the South. My own experiences growing up, as far as the girls in my neighborhood getting spanked, there were a couple that I know that were spanked well into the high school years. This being out of the maybe 4-5 girls who I could get to share the fact that they were spanked at all. Having just recently visited my Texas home town, I can tell you that not much has changed. If we go a little deeper into the woods of places like Mississippi and Alabama, I would have to guess that a 17-18 year old girl, still living at home, is not immune to the spanking process when it is needed. Every girl that I knew, or have interviewed for my sites, that was spanked past the age of 14 pretty much had the same spanking experience. With very few exceptions the punishment was from her mom or dad, with a belt, over whatever she happened to be wearing at the time. This would typically be tight jeans, or jean shorts, with the occasional spanking taking place over pj’s or maybe even a swimsuit. Yes, I have heard about the occasional bare bottom spanking, but as far as I can tell that it pretty rare for an older teen girl.
So, if we are considering real life corporal punishment, in this day and age, in this country, of a fully developed girl approaching adulthood, the reality of it is dad’s belt applied forcefully to her teen bottom. I accept this and embrace this on my site. I still do not feel that corporal punishment is the most effective form of punishment for kids or teens (I have never spanked any of my kids of any age), but if we are exploring realistic corporal punishment, then this scenario needs to be addressed. As people who are into spanking and want realism, it is hard not to find the thought of an 18 year old girl, getting in more trouble than she has ever known, being sent to her room to have her bottom worn out with the belt, at least a little bit exciting.
Just as with the school corporal punishment videos that are so heavily featured on Realspankings.com we tend to shoot realistic strapping videos pretty heavily. Our members seem to really like to be able to watch the reactions of real girls, some as young as 18, receive what is a genuine punishment. When I bend a young lady over and pull off my belt, my goal is indeed to apply the exact same punishment that young ladies who still get spanked at home would receive. I have learned that a proper belt spanking, even over jeans and panties can be quite effective. The belt I use is not as thick as many Western belts I have seen, but it is enough to get the job done. I would guess that I give more strokes than the typical dad would to his daughter, but I am filming a video, and 5-6 strokes is just not enough to make our members happy. I do not believe in any sort of warm-up and always swing as hard as I can from the very first stroke. Tears are not uncommon during the strappings I administer and every young lady certainly ends up with major welts and a fairly bruised bottom. I did a great one last week in which it was a candid interview with Alyssa and she compared my strapping with the frequent ones she received from her dad growing up and it was quite interesting to get that perspective.
So, if hard and realistic strappings are something that you like to see, and you want to see them administered as they are on a daily basis in the homes throughout the South, I can be quite honest in saying we are producing some pretty good work in our new studio. We still film tons of strappings on the bare, but we try to provide a good mix with the very realistic ones. With the strappings that are over jeans, all scenes end with a bare bottom reveal so you can see what the actual results are of a hard strapping. This gives you a little insight as to the little secrets that naughty teen girls are really hiding under those tight jeans when they are walking the halls of their high schools. All animations above are from recent strappings filmed in HD for the member’s area of Realspankings.com
[ Monday, December 15, 2014 ]
A bruised and sore bottom for the naughty girl
I guess it is fair to say that I have a bit of a reputation as a hard spanker. I would not say that this is an unfair characterization of how I generally choose to administer an on camera spanking, or even an off camera discipline session. When giving the whole idea some thought, there are several reasons why I think that a spanking from me tends to be a memorable event.
The first, and certainly the most important, is that a spanking is and has always been designed to be a punishment. It is the application of a painful stimulus for the sole purpose of eliminating undesirable behavior. Yes, I have a spanking fetish and yes, there is a sexual component to the whole process of administering, receiving, even simply watching a spanking take place. But the one thing that has never been part of my fetish is anything remotely resembling a playful spanking. I do not go to spanking play parties, nor do I go to spanking clubs or events. While there may indeed be something that is a little disciplinary that takes place at these events, for the most part it is playful. The year that I went to the Shadowlane event in Palm Springs, I did not administer a single spanking over four days. It is not that the opportunity did not present itself, as I am somewhat high profile in the online spanking world and was approached by many people asking for a spanking. I went to many parties and was asked at all of them to administer some sort of public spanking, but in all instances I had to politely decline.
You might find it crazy, that as someone who is very into spanking that I could go to a spanking convention, be even a little bit famous and recognized, and have women of all ages just about climbing over my lap for a spanking, and not spank a single one of them. The truth is, they had not done anything that had earned them a spanking in my eyes. There were no set rules or guidelines that I had provided them in which they had broken. They were looking for a playful spanking, maybe even a painful spanking, but these were not young ladies that deserved to be punished. I am not a sadist, there is no part of my spanking fetish that revolves around simply causing someone else pain. My fetish is deeply grounded in providing strict, and often severe, discipline for someone who deserves it. They not only deserve it, but they have actually made enough bad decisions that they have earned it.
When the above conditions have been met, then I am the first person to step up to administer a spanking. This is where my reputation for severity starts to kick in, if someone has actually acted in a manner in which they have earned a spanking, then I do my very best to make sure it is an event to remember. Someone who goes through the effort to contact me for real life discipline is warned well in advance what they can expect. Anyone who makes the decision to be spanked by me for real life infractions can expect four things, no matter what, on any occasion that they have the misfortune for coming to me for being punished.
The first is that they will be spanked far more severely than they could have ever wanted. If they are coming to me, even if for real life infractions, than they have a spanking fetish. I will never just feed someone’s fetish, and they can count on getting far more than they ever hoped for. It will not be pleasant and there will be no warm-up of any kind. The purpose of this spanking is not to give them memories to masturbate to, it is to punish them for a behavior that they have engaged in that they should not have. I need for them to realize within the first ten strokes, that even as an adult with a spanking fetish, that this punishment is for real and is something that they would likely not want to repeat. I will make sure that for the duration of the punishment that it never gets any easier and that by the time it is over, it will have been one of the most difficult to endure experiences of their life.
The second thing that they can expect is that tears will always be the goal. This does not always happen, as I have found that with adult women, tears are not always just a result of pain. There tends to be a heavy emotional element as well, so pain alone is not always enough to bring tears. I do find that as trust is built, tears become much more common on future punishments, should additional discipline be necessary. When I say that tears are the goal, I mean tears are the goal from the beginning. I know a lot of people that start a spanking at a mild pace, and then slowly build until the person being spanked finally breaks down, and then it ends. I personally do not understand this process at all and see it as a wasted opportunity. Why would I give someone a spanking for several minutes that is bearable for them? If we look at the root of spanking, being childhood punishments, what parent ever provided some sort of warm-up when disciplining their child? If I wasted two minutes of a spanking, allowing someone to adjust to the pain of their punishment, it would be a disservice to them and a failure on my part as a disciplinarian.
The third and fourth things that someone coming to me for a punishment can expect are closely related, and they are bruising and long term soreness. Once again, I am not a sadist and I gain no pleasure from marking the skin of a young woman, but I see it as a very important component to a proper punishment. Most importantly, when a spanking is done the punishment should not be over. The last thing I want is for a spanking to end, endorphins are going strong, and the person leaves with almost a bit of a high. A couple hours later their bottom is barely warm and they are now at a heightened sexual state, which just leads to masturbation and positive reinforcement regarding the whole experience. Instead, I want the endorphins to begin to wear off and for them to start to realize that the punishment is just beginning. When the high from the experience starts to go away I want them to begin to feel that throbbing on their bottom. There is a slight transitional period where the throbbing can be confused with a pleasurable feeling, but given a couple of hours, I want there to be no doubt that what they are feeling is not going to be pleasurable at all.
Ideally, if I have done my job to the best of my ability, then the next morning will be far worse. A proper punishment spanking, one meant to extinguish bad behavior for good, will result in a bottom so sore that it is not just sitting down that is a problem. From the moment the recently punished girl wakes up, I want her very first thought to be how sore her bottom is. When she pulls herself out of bed, if my job was done well, as she walks to the bathroom, she will be acutely aware of how tight the muscles in her bottom are. There will be nothing sexy about it for her; ideally it will be like the day after her hardest glutes workout ever at the gym. If I have really done my job the best of my ability, she will find herself squatting over the toilet when she pees.
You have to understand that we are talking about someone who has a spanking fetish, but truly wanted to be punished, in a very realistic manner, for very real life infractions. She has spent a good portion of her life fantasizing about being spanked. There have been many nights spent in bed thinking about and masturbating to the thought of being scolded, or baring her bottom, and eventually being physically punished. For most young ladies, they do not fantasize as far into the future of the true reality of not being able to sit down comfortably for a couple days after. Yes, there is still something quite sexy about a bruised bottom, but over the course of a day or two, it just becomes bothersome. When I work quite hard at it, it is indeed possible to create a bottom so sore that tears become a reality when attempting to find a comfortable position to sit the following day.
My goal is for the person who was spanked to not want to ever repeat the behavior that caused their bottom to be this sore. Even as someone with a full blown spanking fetish, I want for the moment the opportunity to engage in the behavior again presents itself, for her to be able to remember how her bottom felt for a few days following her punishment. I want the punishment to have been effective enough that she would never risk the chance of having it repeated. That right there is everything that I love about spanking and spanking at its very core. Creating a physical punishment that is enough of a deterrent that it not only punished them for their previous behavior, but has a high chance of eliminating it all together.
Now in my professional life, clearly I cannot always create the same situations. These are paid models and very few of them come to me as a result of real transgressions in their lives. But since the birth of my very first spanking website, I have tried as hard as I can to present spankings as I believe they should exist in the real world, and how they do exist in my private life. So I do not just bend a girl over and bruise her bottom with a wooden paddle just for the fun of it. While this is work, and we are acting, I try to apply the spanking that I truly feel would be warranted for the given situation. Tears are indeed the goal, I try to make the first swat as hard as the last, and even though they are paid models, I do my best to make sure that they leave with bruised bottoms and have difficulty sitting the next day.
Look at the scene below from RealspankingsInstitute.com as an example. The entire premise of this scene was that these two young ladies had acted in a manner that was truly unacceptable. In addition, the previous methods of corporal punishment that I had used had clearly proved ineffective as the behavior continued. They were both sent to their rooms to wait for me and were promised that they would be punished in a manner that would indeed be effective. In scripting the scene I had to decide what would be the most realistic way to handle this exact situation if I was really the disciplinarian for two young ladies who continued to misbehave after several previous applications of corporal punishment. I know from experience that there are very few things that teach such a long lasting lesson than that of a heavy wooden hairbrush applied very forcefully to a young lady’s bottom. Yes, this is a scripted scene with paid models, but I brought as much realism into as I possibly could. You can see from the animations below that this is very real corporal punishment. I did not begin with a handspanking, or over pants and panties, and there was no warm-up of any kind. I approached it like I would a private punishment and began with tears as the goal from the very first swat. Each and every swat with the heavy brush led to a very visible bruise, which there is no doubt that would lead to soreness for days and long term learning. Paid or not, this was an experience that neither young lady would be likely to want to repeat in the near future. This was a very real punishment spanking that both of them will never forget.
[ Monday, December 08, 2014 ]
The wake up spanking
There are very few things more shocking to the system than then wake up spanking. It may be that the naughty wife, girlfriend, or daughter went to bed before the person tasked with her discipline came home for the night, or it may be as a result of her once again sleeping in one to many times. Either way, the spanking can no longer wait and discipline needs to be administered at that very moment.
The young lady below did indeed oversleep on a school day, so he is sure to wake her up in a manner that she will not forget. She is startled as she is woken up to the covers being pulled off of her. Her nighty is then yanked up, as her panties are pulled down, and he gets right to work with his gym shoe. There is no warm-up and there is nothing gentle about any of it. He spanks her tiny bottom as hard and fast as he possibly can and she is instantly more awake than she ever has been in her life. The hard spanking with his shoe continues until her bottom is quite sore and her eyes are filled with tears. Sitting on the hard wooden school desks is not going to be an easy task for her that day, and the day after, but there is no doubt that she will never have another “alarm problem” again.
[ Thursday, December 04, 2014 ]
The Lovely Kiki
Our lovely little Miss Kiki has come so very far as a spanking model. When she first started with us, she was so quiet and reserved and just a bundle of nerves before any spanking. She has quickly become one of my favorite models and she is just such a sweetie. She is a joy to hang around between shoots and has finally let her guard down. She is also growing to be quite the little spanking super star. With her tiny teen bottom and braces she certainly looks the part of the naughty young school girl and her tolerance had grown so very much. There is rarely a shoot in which she does not end up with tears in her eyes and a bruised bottom. She puts everything into all of her shoot and we are lucky to have her. Here is a sneak peak from tomorrow’s Realspankings.com update in which her cute little bottom takes a hard paddling over tights and on the bare.