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Domestic Discpline

It has been a little while since I have visited the Taken in Hand website, and I had forgotten what a great resource that it is.  There are many men and women out there that fantasize about a full-time relationship that utilizes domestic discipline.  In these modern times, that concept is foreign to many people and often feels like a step back to the 50’s.  But for many, a relationship such as this can be quite fulfilling, has the ability to actually increase the level of communication and intimacy, and takes the sensual exchange of power to a new level.  A true domestic discipline relationship has the ability to take some of the play out of spanking and can turn the role playing into reality. 

There are very few spanking sites out there that I really consider an educational resource, but there is no doubt that Taken in Hand is truly that.  This is not a site to visit when you are looking for good spanking content.  This is truly a resource for consenting couples looking for information regarding the pros and cons of a full-time disciplinary relationship.  Quite honestly, a relationship such as this is not always the easiest or most realistic thing to pursue.  But for just about any potential problem that may come up, I guarantee there is an article at Taken in Hand that addresses how other DD couples have handled that experience. 

One thing that I find the most appealing about the articles written for this site, is the love.  Domestic discipline may not be for everyone, but it is clear from reading through the site, that the people who have found the right balance and are making a DD relationship work, are closer and more connected as a result.  This site is an especially valuable resource for women who struggle with how to tell their husbands that they desire a little discipline in their lives.  Two thumbs up for Taken in Hand and their very real contributions to the world of consensual adult spanking relationships. 

Taken in Hand is a free site, and I do not get a penny for writing about them.  This blog post is truly about supporting a site that is providing a service for everyone that is even just a little curious about the reality of a domestic discipline relationship. 

Comments:

One of the reasons I lean more towards the DD relationship is just because the men in a DD relationship are comfortable with themselves as men. I can't tell people how irked I get at the simple lack of common courtesy or even human decency I see in many of today's men. A thank-you, excuse me, holding the door, helping a woman with a large package; all this seems to have disappeared in mainstream society. I had an armful of equipment and training materials for a course I was teaching. The guy in front of me had opened the door and when he glanced back, I know he saw me. He waited until I was three steps from the door and then he not only walked through the door himself, he pulled it closed behind him. To say I was ticked was an understatement. If my partner at the time had been inside my head and heard the language I was silently screaming, to say I would be practicing strategic sitting for at least a week would be an understatement. Additionally, in men I have dated, I can see a huge difference and I am attracted more to those who are more men than mouse. I love a good debate and having a man agree with me on everything will bore me to death.

During the primaries, I was ticked at some of the blog entries on the candidates. Several feminist groups were railing at other woman saying if women didn't vote for Hillary Clinton, we were turning our backs on what it meant to be a woman. To me, having these groups railing at me, telling me what I was or was not, was no better than the men with the same attitudes telling me how and what to think just because they said so. Feminism has its place, however, when it is used the way these groups were using it, they are doing more damage to the whole idea.

23 years in my current job has given me a very thick skin when it comes to dealing with many people. I can hold my own, and have many times. I've had to supervise several inspection teams, some with men who felt that to have a female supervisor was tantamount to the end of the world. My teams came to respect my knowledge and my insight and even the industry reps, including some very patriarchical cajun folks, saw me as the authority and quit testing my resolve when it came to violations of federal laws. Its been said many times that submitting to a strong male does not mean you are a doormat. It simply shows a feeling for wanting a relationship where two people aren't always trying to outdo each other and making each other miserable in the process.

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