Wednesday, February 27, 2008
Why Spanking
A new article I wrote for a free guide to spanking to appear at realspankings.com. Thought I would post it here first.
Why Spanking?
The first question that most people that are not “into” spanking ask, is why spanking? There are so many reasons that spanking is appealing to consenting adults as a way to spice up their love life. At its very root, I think the simplest answer is that it takes the concept of general dominance and submission, which many couples practice in some form, to the next level. Many couples probably do not believe that they are dominant or submissive in their sexual behavior, but I think it exists on many levels. It can be as simple as a “rough sex”, fingernails down the back, a tug of the hair, or pinning her/his arms during sex. For the slightly more adventurous, they may have gone as far as using a couple of neckties or handcuffs for some light bondage. Even the use of a blindfold is a gentle form of dominance and submission. The truth is, when freed from the conservative teachings of the past, just about everyone would like to enjoy a little more kink in their life than they admit to.
Let’s take for example what I see to be the most “socially acceptable” form of dominance and submission that most men and women have at least watched take place, the “cum shot”. Why does every single porn video feature a “cum shot”? Do women really like to have their face sprayed with a man’s semen? Would a man rather have an orgasm with his penis in his hand (which he does regularly) or inside a woman? Do the watchers or porn (mostly men) have a desire to see things spraying out of a penis as a form or excitement? I would argue that no is the answer to all of these questions. I feel that the popularity of the “cum shot” has to do with a man exercising dominance over a woman. Here in his hand is the very essence of his manhood and he is doing with it whatever he wants. Not only that, but he is demonstrating his power by spraying it on her face, in her eyes, nose, mouth, and wherever else he wants. The reality of this situation is that for the woman, it is kind of gross and degrading (not to say that there is not the possibility of her finding this appealing). So why does every porn feature the orgasm in such a way? Because for whatever reason, this has become a socially acceptable form of a male exercising his dominance over a women. In the real world, during a one night stand, you are far more likely to have success in smacking a woman’s bottom than you are in trying to spray your semen all over her face.
As we explore the act of dominance and submission in the bedroom a little further, we start to see more physical acts of dominance. It may be as simple as the use of a blindfold. We have physically taken away someone’s sight, which now puts one person clearly in control and adds a level of trust. It may seem simple, but the act of putting on a blindfold makes one person in charge and the other person under their control to a certain degree. The moment a blindfold is attached, the person wearing it has become the “submissive” and the other person “dominant”. As we progress in this exploration, we move on to things in which there is more actual physical control. For many, this comes about with the gentle pinning of the arms or pulling of the hair. We have now a situation in which someone is physically dominating the other. Pinning a woman’s wrists to the bed while having sex is demonstrating control, strength and power. It shows that he is in charge by engaging in an act that in most other situations in life could be considered illegal. Here he is physically demonstrating that in this situation, at this moment, during this passionate act, he will take control and do it the way he wants. He is not just having sex, he is demonstrating sexual control over her body. Another basic form of this same act is pulling of the hair, but this adds one more basic element of dominance and submission…pain. By pulling the hair, he is once again demonstrating sexual control of the situation, but things are escalated slightly in that he may be providing mild discomfort at the same time. Once again, in the real world, you are not allowed to physically restrain a woman and cause her any amount of pain or discomfort. But in the comfort of the bedroom, during a highly passionate act, pulling her hair demonstrates sexual control of her and her body. The addition of a slight amount of discomfort further emphasizes that point. Without really hurting her, by pulling her hair he is clearly saying, “I will do what I want with you and you will gladly accept it”. Pulling the hair seems harmless enough, but it truly exemplifies sexual dominance and submission at its very core.
These acts that I have described touch more on the emotional and psychological elements of dominance and submission. There are implied elements of control that take place as a result of these acts, with a gentle physical force that further emphasizes them. The next level involves elements of discomfort all the way through to very real pain. These acts can include tight and restrictive bondage, hot wax, pinching the nipples, anal sex, and anything from erotic spanking to full body flogging. What makes this more exciting for many people is that we still have a heavy psychological element, but now we begin to touch upon new and sometimes very arousing physical elements. Let me start by saying that everyone, to a certain degree, likes varying amounts of pain. Pain is a sensation, one that we traditionally try to avoid. But pain applied to an erogenous area of the body, can indeed become pleasure. Take a look at what I see as the most basic desire for pain that a female (males as well) has, which is nipple stimulation. In my experience, when a woman is close to, or actively having an orgasm, the nipples can be (and want to be) pinched hard. Pinching the nipples with the same amount of force at any other time during the day, would cause her to scream out in very real pain. So, does it hurt any less when she is having an orgasm? I would argue that it does not. But, when everything is just right, endorphins are being released, the body is processing this pain in a much different manner… it becomes stimulating and exciting. In this situation, it is not just about a man exerting his dominance over a woman, it is also about the physical sensations. This point is demonstrated by the fact that on many occasions, I have watched women gently caress their own nipples during masturbation, only to squeeze them hard as they achieve an orgasm. This has nothing to do with dominance and everything to do with intense physical sensations that stimulate an erogenous area. Hot wax being poured onto sensitive and sexual parts of the body has a similar effect. At first it burns, but it also seems to bring all of the nerve endings in that area into play to create new and exciting sensations. I would argue that anal sex is very similar in nature. That part of the body is full of nerve endings, but not ones that are traditional associated with pleasure. The act of anal sex wakes up a lot of nerve endings in the entire region and can create unbelievable physical sensations, even without contact direct contact of the clitoris or vagina. Spanking works in a very similar way.
Let’s start off with a basic demonstration. Clap your hands together, very hard, ten times. Not like you are clapping at a play or concert, but as hard as you can, so you can really feel the burn. Hurts a bit doesn’t it? We don’t normally clap our hands together that hard because it hurts. But now wait a minute, what do you feel now? Maybe a strange tingly sensation, not so much of a burning now, not quite pleasure, but no longer pain? It is a new and different sensation in your hands that has caused them to tingle in a different way. You have definitely brought some nerve endings into play in your hands that you do not normally feel. If you did it hard enough, your body may have even begun to produce some endorphins to combat the pain. I am not trying to convince you that this feels good or has brought you pleasure; my point is by stimulating your hands in a new way, you have created a new sensation and your body has reacted accordingly. Now imagine that same tingly sensation that your hands feel, in an area of your body where tingling is a little more appreciated. This is the simplest way I can explain why some people find it physically pleasurable to be spanked. Smacking the hands together did not produce anything but pain, but a few seconds to a minute later certainly provided you with a new sensation.
To be blunt, the nerve endings in your bottom have some very direct connections to your genitalia. It is not some crazy myth invented by horny men that spanking can physically increase sexual pleasure. Being spanked can increase blood flow to the whole region, excite nerve endings that were clearly bored and are glad to be alive and kicking, increase the body’s flow of endorphins (endorphins and spanking discussion continued here), and just make you excited. It is not that while your bottom is being spanked that you are experiencing pleasure, it is the results of the spanking that leads to the pleasurable response in other places. For many, spanking goes well beyond this, but the truth is, even without some the role play, the disciplinary elements, the dominance and submission, the fun and games, simply having your butt smacked a few good times before or during sex can increase some of the pleasurable sensations you feel below the waist. Another plus is that after a hard enough spanking, one that you feel the next morning, the increased stimulation and blood flow to that region has not gone away. For many that are really into spanking and like to be spanked hard, one of the main reasons is that as long as their bottom is feeling it, their sexual desire is increased. This is where I feel I can make a good argument that pain can really equal pleasure. After a good hard spanking, in which the next day your butt is actually sore, you experience a sort of throbbing. Your butt literally hurts, but at the same time your entire crotch is sort of pulsating with each beat of your heart. There might be some pain involved, but if there was a pill that I could take that could recreate the associated throbbing of that entire region, I would have a prescription. Pain or pleasure?
As with the other dominant and submissive acts that I described above, there can be a strong emotional and psychological element to the act of spanking. There is the strong psychological element in which one person is “taking control” in a sexually charged way. They are demonstrating that regardless of the rules of society, and what is considered socially acceptable, that in the bedroom, when the clothes come off, “I am in charge” and to a certain degree, will do “whatever I please”. Spanking can be as simple as a few smacks to her bottom while she is on top, or can take the concept of dominance and submission to new levels in which one demands their partner to pull down their pants and panties and grab their ankles for a spanking. For some, having sex with the lights on feels new and kinky, but being told to take off your clothes and in a sense be put on display with your butt in the air feels real kinky. There is a sense of being dominated when a man flips a woman over to change sexual positions, but it is a whole new world when he demands that she assume a certain position and punctuates the command with several smacks to her upturned bottom. There is a strong degree of trust, in giving yourself so fully to another. Allowing them to apply pain to intimate parts of your body demonstrates complete and total trust in them and their decisions about your health and welfare. There is a release and a strange pleasure that comes from being able to give oneself so fully to another. There is also a sense of power as well as closeness when someone allows you this sort of access to their being. Often relationships lack the intimacy that many seek, and strangely enough, this trust, dominance, and submission can create intimacy on a whole new level.
Spanking can create a sense of fun and adventure, a sense of being “naughty”, “kinky”, or “bad”. It can change a dull and somewhat routine sex life into something new and exciting. It opens the doors to playing games and assuming roles and just learning to have fun in the bedroom. It is really the next step for those who have gently experimented with some of the lighter forms of physical dominance and submission. It can turn an argument from “why are you always late” to “you need a good spanking young lady”. Anything that can turn an argument into a sense of sexual fun is a winner in my book. So relax, don’t be afraid to talk about it with your partner, those days are over. Everyone, in there own secret little way, has a desire to be dominant or submissive, and sometimes both. Don’t be afraid to buy those cute fuzzy handcuffs and see where they lead you. Remember that the words “what are you gonna do, spank me” generally means, “please God, take the hint this time”. Pull the hair a little, if she complains…then it was an accident, if she doesn’t, then pull a little harder. And ladies, while this article was written from a man’s point of view, don’t forget that he probably wants to be spanked as well and it is ok if you want to be the dominant one. It really is ok to be kinky and live out your fantasies beyond your computer screen.
Remember, spanking is a CONSENSUAL activity between two adults in a secure relationship and nothing more. It is not for children ever, even if you are their parents, teacher, or relative. It is not for your naughty wife who wants nothing to do with it. It is not for the girl you picked up in the bar that is pissing you off. Spanking anyone that does not want to be spanked is abuse and hopefully you will end up in jail as a result.
Monday, December 18, 2006
Spanking hairbrush
We have always bought our hairbrushes for spanking from the Vermont country store. Recently I received a catalogue in the mail that featured classic hairbrushes from Kent, an English company that has been making traditional hairbrushes for more than 200 years. They seem to have three that are well suited for spanking purposes, the “firm bristle”, the “extra soft”, and the “bath bat”. All seem to be solid wood and thick, making them ideal for a bottom blistering that will be remembered for days to come. You can visit the site HERE. I have placed an order for all three, so I will let you know their effectiveness as disciplinary implements in the future.
Sunday, December 17, 2006
More big paddles and little butts
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Blog Upgrades
I have spent the last week upgrading the blog software in preparation for some new features. In addition, I have moved the blog to one of my higher speed and larger capacity servers. While the transition should be seamless to all of you, there may be a bug here and there while we finish things up. Thanks for your patience as we prepare to take the blog to the next level.
Thursday, December 07, 2006
Japanese Face Slapping
Honestly, I am not sure what I think about this video. It quickly caught my attention, but may be a little much...I haven’t decided yet. Either way, it is the most serious face slapping I have ever seen applied to females. The first Japanese schoolgirl is just so young and too cute, that the punishment aspect is exciting, but it really makes me want to kick the crap out of the guy slapping her face so hard. Either way, this is the most authentic slapping punishment video I have ever seen so I felt I had to share. Does anyone know where this clip comes from?
Lined up for the paddle
Does anyone have any more pictures that match this one? The caption read “at some point during the night, we thought it might be fun to get paddled”. Unfortunately, this was the only one that really showed anything. There are at least five sorority girls waiting for the board and I find it extra exciting that most of them are holding hands. I am hoping the action was caught by a different camera and someone may have these pictures. If you think you have a match, please e-mail me and I will trade you a site membership for an action photo of these young ladies feeling the sting of the paddle.
Big Paddle, Little Butt
This may be the largest sorority paddle I have ever seen. No wonder someone is holding her in place for her paddling, her tiny ass in those tight jeans is going to be feeling those swats for a very long time.
School corporal punishment and the use of the paddle.
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Clearly, I have somewhat of a fascination with school corporal punishment, especially the use of the paddle. But, I still do not believe that children should be spanked under any circumstances. I have dealt with the conflict of my attraction to this type of content and my opposition to its use in a previous post. As a result of this fascination, I created the “School Swats” series on Realspankings.com. Previously I discussed this series in detail in an older post.
It has been a while since I discussed it so I thought I would bring you up to date. School swats is a series in which we do a candid interview with models and discuss any previous experience they have with being paddled at school. While most did not grow up in a state that allowed it, there are certainly some surprising and very detailed accounts of young ladies presenting their bottoms to a school administrator for a hard paddling. After their interview the model bends over, fully clothed, and takes ten swats from a school type paddle. The paddlings are given in a very realistic manner, trying to recreate actual school paddlings as they are actually given. We have done our best to recreate the most common positions, with the young ladies bending over a desk, hands on a chair, hands on knees, and grabbing their ankles. We have also explored various states of dress with paddlings administered over jeans, thin cotton pants, dresses, and skirts. After their paddling, the young lady bares her bottom while we see the results of a real school type paddling. After the paddling and inspection of her bottom, the model speaks candidly about how much it hurt, how she would have felt about receiving that type of punishment in school, as well as if she feels that it would have served as a deterrent for bad behavior. For the models who received school corporal punishment growing up, they discuss how realistically they feel our paddling was and how it compared to what they actually endured.
The most common thread between all of the paddlings that we administered for this series is the marks. Keep in mind that for most of the scenes we use a paddle that I feel is a bit small by school standards. The paddles that I saw in the schools I attended were a little longer and quite a bit thicker. Knowing how common school paddling was, and still is in many states, I am not surprised at the amount of lawsuits we read about in the news regarding school paddlings. Our scenes demonstrate that even with a moderately sized paddle, applied at a similar severity to that of schools, leaves very deep bruising. Only a couple of girls in the history of the series have walked away with anything less than giant purple bruises on both of their bottom cheeks. As of today, there are 25 school swats videos on Realspankings.com. In addition, we took it a little farther and began a “Bare School Swats” series that is exactly like the “School Swats” but the pants and panties some down. We have also added a “school strokes” series that currently has 17 different scenes. This is the exact same concept except a cane is used. Some of the scenes it is applied over jeans and in others it is bare. I enjoy the scenes in which a model has participated in both series and is able to compare the effectiveness of the cane vs. the school paddle.
Today I will be adding a “School Swats Results” gallery to my Free Galleries where you can see the results of all of the school paddlings we have administered in this series. Warning- this is about as hard of videos that we do and the results are often not pretty. Please only visit this gallery is you are prepared to see bottoms as bruised and blistered as they get. An interesting point to notice when viewing these results pics is the effect of clothing on the marks. Clearly, the more layers, the less marks. In almost all the pictures in which the girl was paddled while wearing jeans, you can see a diagonal line that crosses her bottom in which she is not bruised. This is a result of the extra protection from the seam of her back pockets.
Spanking Model Profile- Macey
Occasionally, the spanking world is blessed with a woman of true beauty and for my sites we are lucky to have Macey. For me she is the definition of natural beauty. Her smile makes you melt, her breasts are naturally amazing, and did I mention her bottom...oh my! As a man who likes a woman fully shaved, I must admit that she even makes full growth look more attractive than I thought possible.
Macey is a rare find in the online spanking world and she came to us a spanking virgin. In her punishment profile on Realspankings.com you will see her get naked and go over the knee for her first spanking ever. She currently has two scenes with pictures and video on Realspankings.com and additional four scenes on RealspankingsInstitute.com. You can access all of her scenes with one membership through Realspankingspass.com. Click the “MORE” link below to view more images of amazing Macey. One thing to note when looking at the pictures that I find amusing, is that her body is so amazing that in just about every picture in which whe is made to get naked, even the lady spankers can’t help but check out her body.
Wednesday, December 06, 2006
Classic Spanking Teen Jessica
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When we first took our spanking productions out of the home and into our first studio it was quite exciting. We finally had the resources to begin to produce the type of quality content I had always envisioned. In the early days our models were limited, so it allowed a lot more time for each production. In those days it was common to have a model for most of the day as we took our time really trying to set a tone for each production. One the first models that we ever hired was clearly perfect for the job. She came to us two days after her 18th birthday and was eager to help us produce the best content possible. After just a couple of shoots it was clear that she needed to be hired full-time, which allowed us to begin producing content for Spankingteenjessica.com.
Jessica was a natural, and while her interests in spanking were limited at the time, her experience was not. She grew up under very strict rules both at home and at school and corporal punishment was always used when she misbehaved. While she had not explored spanking much as an adult, she knew that her tolerance to the harder stuff was already there. Those early days with Jessica were a lot of fun, and we all spent a great deal of time trying to produce some of our best work. Her insight and personal experience with being spanked added a lot to the scenes and helped us to create content with a very real domestic feel.
From those early days, some of my favorite pictures of all time were taken. Even though we had limited equipment, limited skills with the camera, we had a lot of fresh ideas for how we thought scenes should look. The pictures from this time period are not technically as good in quality or composition as our later work, but the pictures really told a story. For me, some of my favorite spanking photos of all time come from the early works of Janus and Kane. I have always found the best spanking photos to be ones that can stand entirely on their own. While we always shoot large sets of photos to take the viewer through a scene, I feel some of the best pictures I have ever taken can be presented by themselves and still tell most of the story. Anything that is not told through the picture is often best left to the imagination of the viewer.
So today I present to you a sample of some classic pictures from Spankingteenjessica.com that, for one reason or another, represent some of my favorites. A final little tidbit that I do not know if I have shared before that adds a little to picture number six, is that this is one of the few spanking Jessica received in her own bedroom. This shoot was taken in her first apartment, just a few months after leaving her parents house. So if you ever imagined poor Jessica getting her bottom spanked in her real bedroom, here you go. All pictures and the videos to go with each scene can be viewed at Spankingteenjessica.com.
Click the “MORE? link for the complete classic Jessica gallery.
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Monday, December 04, 2006
Schoolgirl Paddling
I have always liked the spanking pictures that lend themselves to a realistic scenario. While I took this picture many years ago, it has always been one of my favorites. There is no bare butt, the camera is not all zoomed in, and you cannot see the expression on poor Tiffany’s face. Instead, it has more of a voyeur quality in which you simply get a glimpse of how a paddling in the school setting is really administered. I also like the intense look on Dee’s face as she puts everything she has into the swing. From Realspankings.com.
Paddling Needed
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It seems it is slowly fading as a fashion trend and I will sure miss it when it is gone, the visible thong. To me when a woman displays her panties as part of her outfit she is saying two things, “look at my lovely bottom”, and “I am a bit naughty, a spanking may be needed”. Click on the “MORE” link to look at a small gallery dedicated to multiple young ladies showing off their panties and assuming the position, now where did I leave my school paddle…
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Tuesday, November 28, 2006
Sore bottoms from sorority spanking
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Monday, November 27, 2006
Mass caning of Korean schoolgirls.
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This video has been out for a few months now, But I am just now getting around to posting it. While the details are unclear, due to the fact that the news report is in Korean, What is clear is close to twenty schoolgirls, assuming the lunge position, and taking at least five strokes each with a heavy wooden cane. From their reactions when they stand, it is clear that this is a very real school punishment. Each girl rubs her bottoms vigorously and you can tell the pain is very real. While I will always believe that spanking should only be practiced between consenting adults, this video is unique enough that I thought it was worth posting. You can view the clip HERE.
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Saturday, November 25, 2006
Bottoms of the Week
From LightSpeed Sorority part of the LightspeedWorld network of sites. Enjoy!
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