Thursday, February 17, 2005
Touching the toes at Spanking Online
While bent over and grabbing the ankles is my favorite position to see someone spanked in, touching their toes finishes a close second. I especially like to see young ladies touching their toes when they are wearing traditional schoolgirl clothing. There is something very appealing about seeing a young lady with her skirt lifted, panties lowered, touching her toes, in traditional knee high socks. Spanking Online is the leader in the online spanking world when it comes to presenting visual imagery of this nature. Just about all of their wide variety of models are forced to assume this position at some point in their spanking career. As an English based company, using English models, the whole concept of touching the toes for a hard caning is not foreign to any of these young ladies. In some of their behind the scenes interviews, you get to hear first hand about these young ladies experiences being punished with the cane while growing up in the UK. My first choice will always be with a young lady grabbing her ankles for many swats with a paddle, but you will never have to twist my arm to get me to watch someone touch their toes for six of the best with a cane.
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Thursday, February 10, 2005
More true accounts of school corporal punishment
I thought I would further blog about some accounts of school corporal punishment, that I know to be true.
My wife also grew up in the Texas school system and received corporal punishment at just about all grade levels. This was a public school in a very rich suburb of the Dallas/Ft. Worth metroplex. This was a K-12 school that was its own school district. While she believes that there were probably corporal punishment guidelines for her school, they were rarely followed. While a paddling could only be officially administered by a member of the administration, it seems that most of the coaches used the paddle liberally. She was paddled enough that a lot of the details blend together for her, but she does remember some very specific instances of being paddled…
Her most memorable paddlings took place as a member of the drill team. She describes her coach as somewhat of a “Nazi” and she was on everyone’s case on a very regular basis. On more than one occasion, for whatever reason, she was paddled at the drill team coaches’ request. Surprisingly, she was never actually paddled by her coach, who at times did paddle other members of the team. As it turns out, when it came to my wife being paddled, the coach seemed to prefer it to be administered by a male coach who was able to put a little more swing behind it. As she describes it, there were a group of coaches’ offices that separated the boys and girls locker rooms. On the occasions that she found herself about to be paddled, she was escorted to the offices and a male coach was found. Her offense was described to the coach and a recommendation as to how many swats was given to the male coach.
Regardless of who was present in the group offices, she was then instructed to bend over and either put her hands on a chair, or on a bench. She stated that on most occasions she was wearing her drill team uniform. This is pretty close to what we all picture with a cheerleader uniform. It was a pleated skirt and underneath she wore what are often referred to as “spankies”. This is basically an oversized pair of panties that allow modesty when doing dance routines that leaves the skirt flying in every direction. She clearly remembers that she was never required to grab her ankles, nor was the skirt ever lifted. She felt that it did not really matter what she was wearing, the swats were hard enough to penetrate any level of clothing. She has no doubt that the swats were applied as hard as he could swing. After all, she felt the whole point of being taken to a male coach was to receive a much harder paddling than the female coach could provide. Her paddlings in this environment consisted of between three and five swats. She states that every paddling she received brought tears to her eyes, but she never once openly cried, she would not allow “that bitch” the satisfaction. On more than one occasion, there were other coaches and male students in close proximity while this took place. Her overall thoughts on the paddling she received from the male coaches can be summarized with the words “painful as hell”. She states that while she rarely looked, most of these paddlings left her bottom bruised for a couple of days. She did not describe it as being difficult to sit after one of these paddlings, but she did say that she was more than aware that she had been paddled, the following day.
Another interesting account from her is one of the very few first hand accounts I have heard about paddlings taking place in front of the class. Her health teacher, also a football coach, was in the habit of paddling anyone who had caused trouble, at the end of each class. While not a daily occurrence, she witnessed several of these a week, for an entire year. She said that in many cases it seemed to just be a jock thing. His football players were often called up at the end of class and given a few swats for various reasons. She felt this fell more into the realm of “male bonding” and most of the guys returned to their seats smiling. But, several times a month students other than members of the football team were called up for a paddling that they did not go back to their seats smiling about. It seems that whenever there was a real discipline problem, he would not hesitate to teach a very serious lesson in front of the whole class. In most cases, the students in trouble had no idea until the end of class. A few minutes before the bell rang, he would simple call out a name and tell them to come up front. The student would approach a large table at the front of the room, and be instructed to bend over it, with their bottom pointed towards the class. She describes the swats as being applied as fast as he could swing, with the resulting sound being “deafening”. While it was rare to see a football player shed a tear, she saw many occasions in which males and females walked back to their desks openly crying. Of course, the football players found this to be highly entertaining and openly laughed. She feels that the male to female paddling ratio was around 10 to 1. While it was not all that common for him to paddle the bottom of female students, they were certainly not exempt. She was never personally paddled in his class.
Ok, one more from my wife that I have always found to be a good indicator as to how quick some coaches resorted to corporal punishment. My wife was 15 and she and her best friend were taking driver’s education. In the Texas school system, many teachers taught driver’s Ed after school as an additional source of income. Keep in mind, that this is a class that is separate from required school classes and that you have to pay to attend. These classes generally took place in the summer, or after school. Of course, their driver’s Ed teacher was the same coach that had taught her 9th grade health class. A few days into the classes, her friend showed up late to the class. As she went to take her seat, he told her to come up to the front of the class. With her protesting the entire time, he bent her over the desk and gave her a single hard swat with his paddle. Apparently, she freaked out, screamed bloody murder, and cried her eyes out. While she kept her sore bottom in the desk for the remainder of that class, she never returned. Her parents filed a complaint with the school, but the school backed the coach’s decision to paddle her and nothing else came from it.
I have previously described an account of a friend who transferred schools to one a little farther outside my school district. I have another female friend that moved to a very small town in Texas during her senior year. The summer after her last year of high school, I ran into her and I managed to gather some details of her school paddlings. From what I gathered, this was a school that paddled as the primary form of discipline. This was a very small country town and her graduating class consisted of 13 people. The teachers did not have the authority to paddle, but just about any disciplinary referral to the office would result in a paddling as well as additional forms of punishments. She was not much of a trouble maker, but with the strict nature of this school, she found herself in the office on a regular basis. Each and every one of these referrals resulted in her being paddled. In most cases, her parents were called, and she also received detention. When I asked her what kind of things she got in trouble for, they all seemed very minor. She was “sent up” as a result of things like chewing gum, being tardy, “distracting other students”, forgetting an assignment or book, or having a bad attitude. She told me that there was no such thing as a warning at this school and that even her first office visit for a very minor offense resulted in a paddling.
There are a few things that make her account somewhat unique. First, as far as she knew, there was no limit to the amount of swats that could be applied. She received a paddling that consisted of as little as four swats and as many as ten. She knew of cases of paddlings that were close to 20 swats. Something else that was quite unique is that he had footprints painted on the floor of his office that she was required to stand on for her paddling. She was made to stand on the footprints, which she stated were quite far apart leaving her with her legs spread, and then bend over and place her hands on her knees or grabbing her ankles. She described the paddle as “huge” and wrapped with black tape. I asked her if she ever cried from the paddling and she replied, “oh, everyone cried”. Something else that was unique is that she never knew how many swats she was going to get. It was as simple as, “well, you will have to paddled, stand on the prints and grab your ankles”. She felt that he just kept swatting her until he achieved the desired results. After her ten swat paddling she learned to no longer try and hold back the tears. She felt that tears were the goal, so better to get them out and get it all over with. If anything, she felt like she played up her reactions a little in the hopes of it ending quicker. As you would expect from a paddling of this nature, a bruised bottom seemed to be the norm and she reported the pain to have lasted more than most accounts I have heard of. She felt that it was pretty much the norm when a student returned to class after being sent up, for all of the students to watch them sit down. Everyone knew that a trip to the office most often meant a paddling and the students wanted to see how the other students reacted to the hard wooden desk after their paddling. She told me that the classroom environment was strict enough, that while everyone watched the reaction to sitting, no one ever laughed.
On my next school corporal punishment blog entry I will look at the facts and statistics of school paddling in the US.
Finding a spanking partner
I was asked by a good friend of mine to create a blog entry that addresses finding a spanking play partner. This is a common request and an article I have thought about writing for some time. I have always hesitated to do this because there are so many variables involved, that I would hate to give someone a sense of security based on my article alone. Instead, I will address this in a question and answer format. Please keep in mind that these are simply guidelines based on my own personal experience and none of this can replace common sense and personal instincts.
Is it safe to pursue a spanking relationship with someone I met online?
With the exception of local clubs and groups, this is one of the only ways to effectively find a partner with interests similar to your own. With careful screening and a little common sense, I think this can lead to a mutually beneficial relationship.
Where is the best place to meet for our first play date?
People may disagree with me on this one, but I feel that the safest place to play is at the spanker’s house. This is the best way to make sure that the spanker has some accountability. A first time meeting at the spankee’s house, a hotel room, or anywhere else, allows the spanker to do whatever they want and then just disappear after the session, without any sense of accountability. If they are looking to just abuse someone, a location that cannot be tied to them is ideal for their purposes. But a session at their house ties them to a location, should something go different than was agreed upon in advance. In a worst case scenario, you have some place to send the police.
Everyone seems to be a “experienced spanker”, how do I know if this is really the case?
When I was offering discipline programs for various ladies around the country, I always provided references. If they are experienced as they say they are, then e-mail or phone references should be an easy thing to provide. I never once had someone I spanked that was not willing to communicate with others about their experiences. If they have provided “safe and effective discipline” to as many people as they claim, a reference should not be too much to ask. Keep in mind how easy it is for someone to create a free e-mail account and all of a sudden become their own references. An “experienced” spanker will also be the one to introduce the use of a safe word. You should purposely avoid this topic, until they introduce it. If they never bring it up as a requirement for the first few sessions, this is not the person for you. An experienced spanker will know that this is needed until they get a sense of how you respond to being spanked.
Should our first meeting involve a spanking?
Every person I ever met for the first time, with the thoughts of eventually spanking them, we met at a restaurant with the purpose of getting to know each other better. Lunch was the only activity that took place at these meetings, with a spanking taking place later down the road. Anyone that insists on the first encounter involving a spanking may not be the right person for you.
We have had our initial meeting, things went well, and I am now going to meet this person for a spanking. What sort of precautions should I take?
The most important thing is to follow your instincts. If something doesn’t feel right, make it clear that whatever it is, is making you feel uncomfortable. As an extra security precaution, I feel that a cell phone, charged and ready to go is essential. When you arrive at your destination, use your cell phone to call a friend and let them know where you are at. Make this phone call in front of your new spanking partner. I think a first time spanking with a new partner should only involve handspanking. If your new partner becomes a little over zealous, they are limited in what they can do with just their hand. Bondage is definitely out of the question until your trust this person enough to baby-sit your best friend’s children. Through previous communication you should have established what your expectations were for this spanking. If at any point things go in a direction differently than you planned, put a stop to it. When I spanked new people, I used a three part safeword system. This allowed easy communication without killing the dynamics of the scene. “Green” was the word that they used to let me know that they expected things to be a little harder. “Yellow” was the word to let me know that something was wrong, that was not related to the pain of the spanking, such as feeling a little dizzy, sick to their stomach, or maybe just the position was too uncomfortable. “Red” meant the spanking needed to stop at that very minute. I never once heard the word “red” in any real discipline spanking I administered. If you find yourself constantly safe wording, then this person is not as experienced as they led you to believe.
Do not let everything I have written scare you out of the experience. Most people that I know that have met someone online for their first spanking have had a good experience. I am merely trying to prepare you for worst case scenarios. For the most part, people who are out there looking to spank women want to do it on more than one occasion. They are generally just as motivated as you are for this to go well and to lead to a long term spanking relationship. But you must always keep in mind that to a certain degree, this person’s sexual fantasies revolve around the application of pain. Many people see a true spanking as one that is applied as a punishment and leads to tears. As a result, communication is the key. In this communication, you need to look for trends that lead you to believe that this person is honest. I feel that if you discover at any point that this person has lied to you, then this is not the right person for you. If they lied about their age or even how they look, then who knows what else they are lying about.
You want to find someone who has at least a little experience (or is honest about the fact that they are new to the process), have been receptive to your needs, introduced the concept of a safeword themselves, and are willing to take things as slow as you need them to be. With patience and common sense it is not all that difficult to find someone who will help you fulfill your spanking fantasies.
Tuesday, February 08, 2005
Spanking, sex, and endorphins
Endorphins play an important role when dealing with spanking at the harder levels. Let’s take a quick look at what endorphins are and then we will explore the role they play in spanking. Endorphins are neurotransmitters found in the brain that have pain relieving properties similar to morphine. Endorphins interact with opiate receptor neurons in the brain and essentially block pain signals sent to the brain by the nervous system. While research on the topic is still relatively new, studies are showing that endorphins are very beneficial to our bodies. Recent studies suggest that, among other things, endorphins enhance the immune system, relieve pain, reduce stress, as well counter some of the effects of the aging process.
Most of us are most familiar with the production of endorphins as a result of heavy exercise, or as the result of physical pain. The body produces endorphins at high levels in more situations than just these. Sexual activity produces endorphins and research shows that over the course of a sexual encounter endorphin levels can increase as much as 200%. It has been suggested that the euphoric feelings that one experiences after sex are the result of high levels of endorphins running through the body. There are also foods that are tied with the production of endorphins. Eating hot chili peppers or chocolate can result in the release of endorphins. This helps to explain why some people eat chocolate during times of stress and find it to be a comfort food. While released in smaller amounts than during sex, consuming chocolate can produce enough endorphins to create a euphoric feeling.
Endorphins play an important role in spanking and may further explain why those that are not really into spanking find pleasure in having their bottom smacked during sex. As illustrated above, the production of endorphins can lead to a euphoric feeling, and a little pain mixed in with sex can go a long way to increase the pleasure. As a producer of spanking videos, endorphins play a very important role in what we do. For the models that we spank that are really into it, being sexually turned on can carry them through the harder scenes we do. Models that are not into it do not have the benefits of sexual excitement in a scene and it takes endorphins to allow them to carry on past their limits.
We are often asked how we are able to find so many young and beautiful models that will take such a hard spanking. I think one of the main reasons is that we are good at what we do and can guide just about anyone through a very hard scene. We have learned to use the concept of endorphins to our advantage. We always start each day slowly and work a model into the harder scenes. Even a moderate spanking, applied to someone’s bottom who does not like it, will produce endorphins. When it comes time to do a harder scene, the nervous system is already slightly prepared for what is to come. In addition, we have learned to recognize when the body steps things up and begins producing endorphins at very high levels. It takes practice and knowing the person you are spanking, but it is possible to visibly see the signs that let you know that endorphins are kicking in to high gear. You will often see scenes in which the model struggles hard for the first half, and even though the spanking increases in intensity, she fights the whole process less towards the end. This is a result of her body finding a way to cope with the pain by producing endorphins. By recognizing when this happens, we can take a model much farther than she really expected to be able to go. Endorphins are also responsible for the fact that immediately after an intense spanking, people report that their bottoms do not hurt as much as they expected. The surprise comes a couple of hours later when they realize that they are very sore, much more so than they expected. Once the body reduces its level of endorphin production, the true soreness from the spanking is fully realized.
There is still a lot of research to be done in this area, but there is enough of it out there currently to support what I have said. As a spanker, or a spankee, you can learn to use endorphins to your advantage. There are many people that have the desire to receive a hard spanking, but find that they can not tolerate anything more than a light spanking. This is about more than just pain tolerance; it is about being properly guided through a scene that increases in intensity. Endorphins are the reason that people can take a harder spanking after a warm-up. I feel confident that I can take anyone into spanking, regardless of their pain tolerance, to a level of intensity that they had no concept that they could achieve. I have had models work for us that at the beginning, could barely make it through a handspanking, that are now able to take a wooden paddle on the bare. Nothing happened to increase their pain tolerance, we simply got to know them better and as a result were better able to read their body language to see when the harder spanking could begin. I think many spanking producers short themselves in a big way with model selection. They hire anyone cute and then just spank the hell out of them. The ones that survive are hired again, the ones that don’t are sent packing. They do not take the time to learn how to guide someone to the level of intensity their audience wants to see. They simply end up with models who can naturally deal with a lot of pain. If they would learn more about endorphins and use it to their advantage, they would quickly find the size of their model pool increasing by 500%.
I am going to go out on a limb here and suggest something that I have never seen mentioned before. First let’s look at some of the current findings in the area of endorphin research. It has been found that endophins:
- enhance the immune system
- relieve pain
- reduce stress
- counter some of the effects of the aging process
- increase the release of sexual hormones
- cause a euphoric feeling
Now if there was a pill that could do all of the above things, I am pretty sure that doctors would prescribe it to just about everyone. You do not need a pill, you already have the prescription (your bottom) and you just need to have it filled (a spanking). If you want to better fight off illness, better deal with pain, reduce the stress of your daily life, look and feel younger, increase your sexual drive, and find a natural high without drugs or alcohol, then spanking is the cure. I propose that a spanking a day will keep the doctor away. Hmmm, maybe I need to open the first spanking therapy clinic 
.
Monday, February 07, 2005
How bizarre is my job? A funny quote
Obviously, my job is somewhat unusual. But at times, it is easy to forget that there is anything all that unusual about it. After all, I employ many of my friends and some of my family, so even the people that I hang out with do not see it as all that different. Every once in a while I am presented with a situation that puts it all into perspective.
Last weekend I was talking with my wife as we were discussing some sexual fun. I made a comment that made us both stop talking for a moment and then led to uncontrollable laughter. The comment was simple:
“Shit, I left our spreader bar at work”
It seemed pretty funny at the time and gave us total perspective as to how different our jobs really are.
Experiencing spanking for the first time through the eyes of new models.
There is a fun aspect to my job that I have not really shared before. It is based on working with new models that have desires to be spanked. For the most part, our models are young and do not have much in the way of real life spanking experiences. Most of them report that they have had boyfriends that have smacked their asses a few times, but nothing that resembles a disciplinary spanking. Like most with spanking fantasies, they have desires to feel like they are in trouble and are actually being punished for something. Luckily, we are easily able to accommodate these desires.
The most interesting aspect of this is the fact that, like most of us, they have gone their whole life hiding the fact that they are into spanking. There are rarely situations as young women where they can discuss their interests in spanking with anyone. Then they walk through our doors and while somewhat intimidating, it can certainly be liberating. They find themselves in an environment in which spanking desires are discussed freely. For the first time in their lives, they are not alone, nor do they feel like perverts, with their spanking desires. They are surrounded by people that either spank or get spanked on a regular basis and have no problem talking about it. They see situations in which several people gather around a model after a shoot to look at the marks on her butt. They hear comments like “wow”, “cool”, and “look at that one”"as we all critique the marks left from the cane on someone’s bottom. They discover a completely free environment in which no one is judged for things that are often viewed as “kinky"or “perverted”.
Nothing is more fun than presenting someone into spanking, 100 different implements to choose from for their scene. They are like a kid in a candy store as they touch items that they previously have only fantasized about. They often make a pile of things that they “just have to try”. They love that they can ask questions about how each and every one will feel on their bottom. They love that they can bend over and take sample swats with any implement of their choosing. On many occasions, after completing three scenes with us, they find themselves back upstairs asking to be spanked off camera and without any additional pay, just because they are curious about how something will feel. You should see the look in their eyes as I describe a scene I have scripted that has them playing the role of a naughty school girl in serious trouble. It is often easy to tell when we have hit the nail on the head in regards to their ultimate spanking fantasy. In many cases we are providing them with a spanking that pays very well, but that in reality, they probably would have paid money to experience. I like to open people’s eyes and there is nothing greater than helping someone feel a sense of sexual liberation. I am glad that we have created an environment, which for some, is something that they have searched for their entire lives. I love it when someone realizes for the first time that there is nothing wrong with their desires. I love it when we do a very strict scene that leaves the girl in tears, and when I ask her afterwards how it was she replies, “amazing”. I love when I have pushed a girl to her limits and beyond and when it is all over she asks if we can do it on the bare next time.
It makes the whole process personally easier for me when someone is just really into it. We recently hired a new model that was clearly here to explore her unrealized spanking fantasies. After her first shoot, I asked her how she would feel about doing scenes in which she is spanked in front of a group of people, spanked with other girls, or forced to do naked corner time with others present. Her response was “oh my God, could we really do that”? I was just trying to test the waters, but she made it clear that I was pressing all the right buttons. There are aspects of my job that are difficult at best, but it all seems worth it when I am able to help someone with the exploration of their fantasies. It is more than worth it when they fully realize that if it is fun, consensual, and between adults, then there is nothing wrong with it. I think we help to create an environment that allows many women to explore their deepest and darkest fantasies without the guilt that is so often imposed by society. I am convinced that they will have a healthier and stronger sense of their own sexuality as a result.
Tuesday, February 01, 2005
Spanking in the real world and the roots of our spanking fantasies
By request, I am reposting this article that explores some of the more diffucult aspects of our fetish.
This is a difficult topic to explore and one that I have always had trouble putting into words. As many times as I have tried, I have never been able to articulate this point very effectively. Regardless, I thought I would go ahead and give it a shot as a blog entry. Let�s start with the difficult questions and see if we can find something resembling an answer.
Why do so many spanking videos feature situations that feel like a child in trouble getting spanked by a parent?
Why are there so many school scenes with a naughty student and a teacher or principal spanking them?
Why do we see so many people posting their true accounts of childhood spankings on the web?
Why do so many people actively seek these accounts out and read them?
Why do I blog so much about school corporal punishment and why is this one of the most requested scenes on my sites?
Why do many couples participate in �age play� in their spanking scenes?
As you can see, these are tough questions to answers. At their root, I think these are some of the things that make so many people uncomfortable about their spanking fetish. It makes them feel weird or “perverted”, so much so that they may go their entire lifetime without ever telling anyone that the concept of spanking is appealing to them. They feel like they need to just suppress these feelings and hope they go away. They assume that there must just be something wrong with them, but I would have to disagree. The Internet has made it easier for many people to realize that they are not alone out there in their “perverted” thoughts, but I think that most of us had difficulties coming to grips with it. I never once told any of my friends in school, that while they were making comments on how much they would like to have sex with a particular girl, I was thinking about bending her over and smacking her bottom with a paddle. I am sure that there are many women out there who fantasized about the captain of the football team taking her over his knee and spanking her to tears.
So what is the common thread to the questions I asked above? The common thread is that all of the above things are that they are real life spankings. I see three areas in life that real spankings take place, parental spankings, school corporal punishment, and judicial punishments. Just about any other spanking situation is between consenting adults. Sure there are a few exceptions to the rule. In the Middle East, there are many countries in which it is legal (and encouraged) for a husband to discipline his wife. From the limited information I have about this type of discipline, it seems pretty abusive. It is not a “you have been bad and have earned a punishment” type of situation, I see these situations being more related to domestic abuse, which I will never find sexy. I have seen evidence of “Christian domestic discipline” in which the couple feels that the teachings of the Bible encourage the man to physically punish his wife. This is limited enough in its use that it is foreign to most of us, so it is not the type of thing to fuel our fantasies. There are also situations like fraternity and sorority paddlings, but this falls more into the category of “hazing” and is generally not administered as a punishment. Without the punishment element, it looses a lot of what I find exciting about spanking.
Beyond what I have listed, what we are left with is consensual spanking between adults. Don’t get me wrong, there is plenty of excitement in consensual spanking between adults, there has to be, for the most part it is all we have to work with. But even in this context, many of us strive to create an atmosphere similar to the three areas listed above. For those not active in a spanking relationship, they often seek out content that has the feel of the above three areas. Why is this? To understand we need to look at spanking at its very core. Let’s take a look at spanking in the minds of people who do not eroticize it in any way. Consider what a 12 year old would tell you about what a spanking is. I think any of the following would be accurate quotes:
“It hurts”, “it is done to teach you a lesson”, “it happens when I get in trouble”, “it makes you cry”, “I do not ever want another one”, “it makes my bottom sore”, “it makes me behave”.
In general we have a situation in which someone has clearly committed an offense and they are then physically punished for it. In these real life situations the person in trouble has no control over when, where, how, with what, or for how long they are spanked. They are simply in a situation that they have no control over and it is their own actions that led them there. For the most part, the goal of this spanking is to produce a sore bottom, often to produce tears, and to teach a very real lesson. Another very key point is that this spanking is non-consensual. In real life spanking situations the person, if given the choice, would not want to be spanked. In the case of school corporal punishment, many times people elect to be spanked, but this is only because they find the alternative to the spanking to be worse.
I think the fact that many people look for spanking videos, pictures, and stories that focus on discipline of this type is normal. They are looking to see spanking presented in a way that seems real. Does this mean that we want to see children spanked? Absolutely not. There are so many ways to discipline children that are more effective than spanking. But there are limited situation in which real spankings take place. A logical place to look would be in the realm of judicial punishments. In reality, there is nothing sexy or exciting about judicial punishments in my eyes. I have seen pictures that show the results of real judicial punishments and there is nothing exciting about them. It is almost torture and in many cases the skin is ripped off the body with every stroke leading to permanent scaring. I like strict punishments, but at this level, it does nothing for me. So for me, when considering real spankings in the real world, there are parental punishments and school punishments. Do I think that either should really take place? No. Do I like to read true accounts of these things taking place? Guilty.
Why do we not find the same appeal when considering consensual spanking between adults? I think it is because we loose an element of realism and move a little away from what I find to be the root of spanking. Do we have situations in which one person is really in trouble and is really being punished in these relationships? Yes, but in most cases, one or both of the people involved find sexual excitement from this situation. This does not make it hurt any less, but it does reduce some of the dynamics that I find so appealing. Punishment or not, at some point the person being spanked expressed a desire to be spanked. As much as they may hate it at the time, at some point before or after, they fantasized about being spanked. For me, the concept of them wanting it, takes a bit away from the whole dynamic. A punishment that is desired is not really a punishment in my eyes. I think this is why you see me writing so frequently about additional things to add to a punishment beyond the spanking. I am trying to introduce elements that decrease their enjoyment of the punishment, thus increasing the realism.
I think another aspect that makes us attracted to the parental element of a spanking is unconditional love. While it exists in some relationships, it is probably not to the same degree as it does in a parent child relationship. I feel that, especially for women, there is a strong sense of feeling protected and safe that comes from parental discipline. Even when in trouble and being punished, there is a strong feeling of being taken care of. They find a sense of security from someone that is willing to discipline them, even when they do not want to, in order to help them become a better person. Some couples are able to achieve this dynamic, but not without introducing at least a small sexual element. I think the bond created is strong enough that there are many straight men out there looking for male/male spanking as adults. There was something that they felt while being punished growing up that they are looking to recreate as adults. It is not just the physical sensations that they are looking to find again, it goes well beyond that.
I think another big influence is the age at which we found the thoughts of spanking exciting. For me, and I suspect many others, my attraction to spanking came at a very early age. Thinking about spanking excited me, well before I ever found women sexually attractive. At that age, I had no concept of consensual adult spanking and all I had to work with was spanking in the real world. Before the day of the Internet, I had very little to work with. The only real contact I had with spanking (being that my parents did not spank me) was the paddling that took place in my school and the spankings that took place in my neighborhood. I went out of my way to casually obtain information about the girls in my neighborhood and school getting spanked. At this point in my life, this was all I knew in regards to spanking and I couldn�t get enough of it. I lived in a state and town in which spanking was very common and while sometimes embarrassed, many people would talk about it because it was just part of their everyday life. It left me in a situation of fantasizing about either spanking these girls, or watching them getting spanked. In my prepubescent state, there was no sexual interaction in these fantasies, it was all about punishments. This was the early attraction for me, so I think it makes sense that this is still the attraction.
I think that if there were more real world instances of adults being spanked as a punishment, that we could easily adjust what we like to read about or see depicted on video. I do not think the common thread in my questions asked above is the fact that these are children being spanked. I think that the common thread is reality. If there were more real world occurrences of real spankings between adults that we would naturally add these to the list of things we like to read about or see depicted in spanking media. But because instances such as these are few and far between, we revert back to what originally sparked our interests in spanking while growing up.
For me, I think to a certain degree, some of what I am saying is why I find the concept of school corporal punishment exciting. This is also why I focus so much on school paddling that takes place at the high school level. I think that in some way, I feel less guilty about finding these things exciting when we are discussing almost fully grown women. There are many girls that are 18 and seniors in high school that are still paddled. This is as close as I can get to a real world spanking that involves someone that is not a child. I think that this is mentally easier for me to swallow than the thought of a grade school child being spanked. There is less mental conflict for me when I consider a fully developed woman electing to take a paddling as her punishment. This still has all of the real world elements that I find exciting, but does not make me feel so weird about it. This alone helps solidify my thoughts that if there were more real world instances of adults being spanked as a punishment, then our attention would shift to these situations. One of the first spanking scenes I ever saw in the media was the strapping in the mainstream movie “Tank”. I still think this scene is fantastic and there was nothing at all that gave it the feel of a child being punished. What it did was present a spanking as a punishment, to an adult woman, in a very realistic way, and for realistic reasons.
You will notice that in the feature length films that I have shot, I try provide content that shows legal aged adults being punished in a situation that seems at least a little plausible. This was the whole basis for the “RS Institute of Learning” website. I tried to create a realistic situation that allows for the spanking of adults. In the movies “Friday Punishments”, “the RS Institute Road Trip”, and “Maid for Punishment” there is nothing to imply that these are teenage girls. Instead, I wrote scripts based on legal aged girls being spanked in real life situations that only require a small suspension of disbelief.
You will often see me writing about childhood related punishments on this blog. You will read my thoughts on school corporal punishment, you will read some of the many accounts that I have heard about people getting spanked growing up. Because of the metal conflict involved, you will rarely read anything I have written than involves the spanking of young children. Instead, my focus in generally on people who were punished well into their teen years. Once again, while I liked hearing about these things growing up and I still like reading about them now, I am opposed to the concept of spanking children in general. If I witnessed a man in a parking lot smacking his young daughter forcefully on the bottom in an abusive manner, would I find it exciting? I do not think so. Instead, I feel my initial instinct would be to smack the shit out of him and tell him to pick on someone his own size. While there are some things I like to read about, the thought of it actually happening often makes my stomach turn, thus bringing me once again to a conflicted state of mind.
It is not always easy being into spanking. The roots of our fetish, while easier to justify at a young age, becoming increasingly difficult thoughts to rationalize as adults. What we found exciting as teens, makes us feel like perverts as adults. With my business, I have been forced to come to grips with all of this. Several times a week I am in a situation of explaining to new models why we film the types of scenes that we do. I try to explain why our scenes often have a domestic feel, while at the same time trying not to weird them out. I also try to explain that even though our scenes have a domestic feel to them, that we never have anyone call the spanker “mommy” or “daddy”. Legally, I can present a girl on video as any age that I want. We can legally do “mommy/daddy” scenes, but I do not allow it. Once again, it just leaves a bad taste in my mouth. I know this is what many people want to see (it is probably our number one request) but I just can’t force myself to do it. Once again, there is just too much mental conflict involved and it makes me uncomfortable.
In closing, I do not think that if you find yourself attracted to reading true accounts of childhood spanking that you are a pedophile. I do not think that finding yourself turned on by a spanking video in which it appears as though a teen girl is being punished by her father is all that weird. The attraction and excitement is not a product of this seeming like a child being punished, it is a product of the scene having a sense of reality to it. At its very core a spanking is a painful punishment that is meant to teach a lesson, one that the person being spanked has little or no control over. As adults into spanking, this is all that we are mentally looking for, and the age of the recipient has little or no bearing on this situation. But the reality of our world provides very few instances of this happening to adults, so we allow ourselves to push age aside and get caught up in the reality of the situation. Once again, a tough topic to discuss and even harder to rationalize, but I believe there is great truth to the points I have made. I hope that at least on some level this helps people cope with some of the more difficult aspects of their fetish.