Thursday, January 29, 2015
A punishment spanking on her already bruised bottom
A perfect example of recent spanking on an already bruised and sore bottom.
I received an email from a couple who live together and have recently established a “domestic discipline agreement” in which they have rules in place that allow for her to be punished should an infraction occur. I do like to see the establishment of a discipline contract, especially in a new relationship with disciplinary aspects to it. This allows for there to be no confusion as to when and how a punishment will be administered. This particular email was addressing the fact that this young lady seems to be finding herself in a considerable amount of trouble, requiring multiple spankings on any given day. He seemed to feel that, as someone who had never really had the amount of spanking in her life that she wanted, that she was trying to make up for lost ground and was intentionally getting in trouble in order to be spanked. This brings up a couple of issues, but his main concern was that of spanking her on an already sore bottom.
Someone trying to get in trouble on purpose could take up an entire post in itself, so I will just address the issue of spanking an already sore bottom. Clearly the situation is far different for a couple who practices domestic discipline, as opposed to someone who visits a disciplinarian on occasion. In a domestic discipline household, the potential for a punishment can present itself at any given time. The question posed in the email to me was, how long should he wait in between spankings if she requires more than one in a day? Now, assuming that all spankings are being administered in a safe and sane manner, the answer is there should be no delay. A spanking is most effective when administered at the very moment (if practical) that the offense occurs.
Our role as disciplinarians is to make sure that each and every punishment administered is effective and is suitable for the offense. I have made it very clear that I feel that if someone’s behavior does indeed warrant a spanking, then I am going to make that spanking an effective one. I see no situation in which a gentle spanking is required. Either the offense warrants a punishment or it does not, but if it does, that punishment needs to serve as a deterrent. Without tears and a sore bottom, especially when spanking someone with a spanking fetish, all that we are doing is encouraging further bad behavior. I have a feeling the young lady from the email is getting in trouble on purpose because she loves the warm glow from a mild to moderate spanking. As soon as the glow has faded she is ready for her next spanking as she wants to keep that feeling going.
If she is engaging in a behavior that they have actually put to paper as a problem area, then the results need to be a spanking that she will remember, not a spanking that encourages her to act up just a couple of hours later. Now assuming that she got in trouble, and was properly punished leaving her with a very sore and bruised bottom, and then actually got in trouble again a few hours later, he should not deter at all from what they have specified in their discipline contract. Regardless of how bruised and sore her bottom is, if she requires another spanking, then she needs to receive it. That spanking should be treated just as if she had not been spanked in weeks. The only thing that should define the severity or frequency of her spanking is her behavior.
Yes, her bottom may be very sore from the previous punishment, especially the day after. A couple hours after a spanking a bottom tends to be a little sore, but if it was a hard spanking, it will be even sorer the next day. So let’s consider the naughty wife or girlfriend who came home the previous night, clearly having had a drink or two more than she should have and then driven herself home. Clearly this is a pretty bad infraction and one that needs to be addressed in a very serious manner. In my house, there is no doubt that a heavy wooden hairbrush would be coming into play. This is the type of punishment in which a very real impression needs to be made with the goal of extinguishing this behavior forever. The goal of this punishment would be a few days in which she would literally have no desire to sit down. So, the punishment is administered, a bottom is properly bruised for the offense, and all is forgiven.
Now, fast forward to the next morning, and as much as you would hope this young lady would be on her very best behavior, she finds herself committing an infraction that is clearly specified in the discipline contract. Once again, as I said before, discipline needs to be administered on the spot. The condition of her bottom is not my concern, a priority, or even a factor in the equation. My job, one that we agreed upon as a couple entering into a discipline contract or agreement, is that I would do my best to provide her with correction, in the areas of her life that she felt needed the most attention. As a couple we decided that the primary form of correction would be corporal punishment. The goal of corporal punishment is to provide her with the proper amount of pain required to help her make changes in her behavior and anything less would be unfair to her and the process.
I fully understand that her bottom is very bruised from the night before and that she is barely able to sit down. I also fully understand that she is a grown women and that she is responsible for the decisions that she makes at any given moment. If she chose to commit an infraction, with her bottom in the state that it is in, that is beyond my control. All I can do in this situation is give her the punishment that her behavior requires. It is going to hurt her considerably more than it would have without her bottom already being sore, which I see as a good thing. If she is not on her best behavior after getting punished for buzzed driving, then maybe she deserves to feel more pain. The important thing is that I am going to make absolutely no adjustments to the spanking she is to receive. She needs to know that each and every time she misbehaves that she will be spanked, no matter what, in the exact manner that her behavior warrants. Only through consistency of my actions, as a direct result of her actions, will the overall changes in her behavior (which she wants) ever take place.
Thursday, January 22, 2015
School Paddling PPV
Today I released a PPV school paddling compilation video for download. Here is the description:
Paddled at school is a unique video that features scenes that recreates school corporal punishment as it is administered in real life throughout the Southern United States. The paddlings administered in this video are very realistic, with many leading to tears. You will witness the real reactions as young ladies feel the sting of a large wooden school paddle applied full force to their young bottoms. Highlights of this video include:
- 14 separate scenes, with as many as 1-4 girls being paddled at a time.
- 13 different young ladies are paddled, by 3 different male administrators.
- Traditional school positions are utilized including bent over a desk, grabbing ankles, hands on knees, and hands on the walls.
- Most punishments are administered over tight jeans, but we have also included a locker room paddling over gym clothes, and two punishments that are applied on their bare bottoms.
- As a bonus, some scenes show the after effects and the young ladies drop their pants and show their bruised and sore bottoms.
- All of the school paddlings show you the face view and the butt view of the paddling, so you are able to see each girl’s unique reaction to her punishment.
- This video is 1 hour and 40 minutes in length, with a total of 199 swats applied in a very severe manner. These are not fun, or playful paddlings. This is real corporal punishment, with very real school paddles, swung full force, leaving this young ladies with very sore and bruised bottoms for days.
Here is a preview:
You can download it at School Paddling Punishments- Spanking Library for $15.
Friday, January 16, 2015
New Studio and High End digital photography
Over the past year or so many of you have expressed disappointment with the quality of our still pictures. Obviously in the early days we were known for providing professional quality stills with all of our videos and over the last couple of years they have really suffered. The main issue was with our previous studio space, it was an 8000 sq. ft. estate home, with many levels, and it was just not practical to move our professional (and extremely large) strobes and octodomes throughout that studio space. We attempted pictures with a point and shoot, with our pro camera and a camera mounted flash, HD screen grabs, and then finally the pro camera using available lighting. Clearly none of these quite did the trick and our still content suffered.
With our brand new studio, which is a space that we are really enjoying, I have fully committed to once again using the full pro strobe setup for 90% of the scenes. This once again allows us to present high res images from our shoots, and most importantly, clearly show you the results of disciplinary spankings. There will be scenes on occasion in which we will only provide screen grabs, and that is typically as a result of a confined shooting space like a bathroom. We are very excited not only about high res, crisp and clear photos again, but also to have a fantastic new studio space. Here is a taste of some of our scenes shot in the last couple of weeks for both Realspankings.com and RealspankingsInstitute.com
Thursday, January 15, 2015
BiSpanking.com Promo Pictures
Today I came across some of the original pictures that I took of the BiSpankings.com girls before their website was ever created. There are hundreds that I took to use as the graphics for their website. Here are a few of them.
Is a realistic punishment too much to ask for?
It is probably clear to most of you that what I like the most when it comes to spanking is the belt and the paddle. I love to see either of this used in a highly realistic way, which can indeed include it being used over clothing. In fact, this is why I like the paddle so much, is that it is effective over whatever someone is wearing at the moment.
Over the years I have watched less and less spanking content as, for the most part, it does very little for me as the realism has been lost. I know there are many of you that like to watch fun and erotic spankings in which there is very little in the way of pain being applied, but that is not just me. I see spanking as a form or discipline, a punishment, and it is something that needs to be applied in a manner that it is very clear that the person on the receiving end wants it to stop.
If I am going to pay for a subscription to a spanking site, I want to see the real thing. Yes, these are paid models; I understand that, so it can only be so real. But you know what is real? Putting a little bit of effort into your swing and teaching the person being spanked a proper lesson. Is that too much to ask for? I want to see a spanking applied in a manner that looks like a lesson is being learned.
What I want to see is a scene in which there is minimal acting, just enough to for me to know why she is in trouble. I then want to see a belt come off and pants come down. I do not want to listen to a long lecture, and I do not want to see her spanked in a manner that is intended to make it easy on her. Do not spank her gently with a belt 150 times, lecturing the whole time, to finally give her 5 good ones at the end. I would rather see 20 strokes applied in a serious manner and then it be over. Please give me 30 seconds of good content and not 3 minutes of garbage.
Here, for you producers out there, let me give you an example. Here are two animations, from the last two on-camera strappings that I administered. Bare bottom, heavy leather belt, as hard and fast as I can swing…each girl got 30 strokes. No bullshit, no faking, no long drawn out scene…a REAL PUNISHMENT! Is that too much to ask? And for the record, these animations are not sped up, they are actually slowed down .05 seconds. From the last 2 full HD strapping updates at Realspankings.com
Sexual Discipline
I have had several inquiries over the last few months regarding “sexual discipline” and what I recommend or have experience administering myself. First, I must say that within the context of private discipline sessions that I conduct, there is never anything relating to pain applied anywhere but to a young lady’s bottom or the top of her thighs. There may be positions, or time outs, that cause some general fatigue or soreness, but I never target an erogenous zone when administering a spanking for discipline purposes.
As it is indeed difficult to try to come up with any new topic after more than a decade of blogging, today I will stray from my norm and address some of the recent emails. The only time that I have utilized any sort of punishment, that is sexual in nature, has only taken place within relationships in which there was intimacy. This have included past girlfriends, or the occasional “slave girl weekend” in Vegas. In these situations, obviously with other consenting adults, it has been fun to add a little flavor into the spanking mix and to find creative ways to administer discipline. While I do find certain aspects of BDSM to be fun, it has never really been my thing. To tie someone up tightly, and then basically roughly play with parts of their anatomy, just has not even fully done it for me. But if there has been an infraction of some sort, and a punishment is required, I do not mind pulling from the BDSM bag of tricks in order to be creative.
The go to for me is generally the use of a butt plug as a form of “sexual discipline”.
I have had several inquiries over the last few months regarding “sexual discipline” and what I recommend or have experience administering myself. First, I must say that within the context of private discipline sessions that I conduct, there is never anything relating to pain applied anywhere but to a young lady’s bottom or the top of her thighs. There may be positions, or time outs, that cause some general fatigue or soreness, but I never target an erogenous zone when administering a spanking for discipline purposes.
As it is indeed difficult to try to come up with any new topic after more than a decade of blogging, today I will stray from my norm and address some of the recent emails. The only time that I have utilized any sort of punishment, that is sexual in nature, has only taken place within relationships in which there was intimacy. This have included past girlfriends, or the occasional “slave girl weekend” in Vegas. In these situations, obviously with other consenting adults, it has been fun to add a little flavor into the spanking mix and to find creative ways to administer discipline. While I do find certain aspects of BDSM to be fun, it has never really been my thing. To tie someone up tightly, and then basically roughly play with parts of their anatomy, just has not even fully done it for me. But if there has been an infraction of some sort, and a punishment is required, I do not mind pulling from the BDSM bag of tricks in order to be creative.
The go to for me is generally the use of a butt plug as a form of “sexual discipline”. I cannot recall a Vegas trip for a little fun and discipline, in which I did not bring, or purchase there, a wide variety of sizes to use for discipline. Just as with the act of spanking, the use of a butt plug quickly establishes control. When you demand that a woman remove her clothing, bend over, and insert a plug into her bottom, there is no doubt who is in control. There is a very real sense of ownership when you have such access to such a personal and private part of someone. Beyond the level of intimacy and control, it really can be quite the effective punishment.
I find the punishment to be far more effective to start at the very beginning, in which she has engaged in some sort of behavior that might require anal discipline. It is explained to her in a very calm manner what she has done and why anal discipline is required, and then she is driven to an adult toy store. She is given cash and the instructions to go inside and buy 8 different sized butt plugs, with the smallest being the diameter of her thumb, and then each one bigger than the last. This tends to be effective on a couple of different levels. In many ways it is the same as having someone choose the spanking implement to be used on them. As she picks up each plug she is forced to consider exactly how that will feel inside of her. Even for those women that like anal sex, a large butt plug can be quite intimidating. A further element to this process is a young lady in a porn store, filling a basket with oversized butt plugs. The embarrassment factor is quite high as she goes to the register to check out and the punishment has already begun.
When choosing a plug to use, there are a few factors to consider. If she is brand new to anything anal, a plug of any size will create the right amount of discomfort. Certainly a little bit of lube should be used to allow it to go easily into place. For someone with a little more experience, then a larger size should be considered. The goal is indeed to have a plug in place that she is not happy about it being there. Size should also be in direct proportion to the offense. Shape is also a factor as some plugs just do not stay in place very well. You want to use a butt plug that once inserted; it will not come out until it is removed on purpose. This is quite important as I do not see a butt plug as something that is only used while someone is sitting around the house or in a suite at the Bellagio. I find a butt plug serves the same purpose as a hard spanking that leaves someone’s bottom sore the next day…it is a constant reminder.
Here is a good example of what I see the proper use of a butt plug to be. At lunch, at a very nice restaurant in a very high class casino, my date engages in some questionable behavior. It may be her manners, or use of vulgar language, or really anything that has been made very clear to her that it is not allowed. That certain look during the meal will alert her to the fact that there is an issue that will be addressed back at the room. Clearly a spanking of some sort will be administered, that is a given, and obviously there will be some tears. But as we prepare for a dinner at a four star restaurant it is clear that she will require an additional reminder as to how to act like a proper lady at dinner. As she is doing her hair and makeup, I simply walk into the bathroom with the assortment of plugs that she had purchased the previous day. I find the largest one that I think that she can handle, and then choose the next size up. I leave her with the plug and a little lube and tell her that she will be “wearing” this for dinner.
The insertion of the plug in itself is a bit of a punishment, and it is often something I would prefer she does herself. It allows her to take full ownership of her behavior and the resulting punishment. Yes, I have ordered the punishment but the rest is up to her. A butt plug punishment lasts well beyond the most painful part, which is the insertion. It provides a constant reminder of her previous behavior and there will not be a single moment during dinner in which she forgets that it is there. Just as with a sore bottom from a spanking, the point can be further emphasized by asking to be seated on hard wooden seats and not in a padded booth. It is essential, that when she was required to insert the butt plug in the first place, that it was made very clear what behavior she engaged in that resulted in this. You want her thinking about what she did, for the duration of the meal, to be sure that it does not occur again. Also keep in mind that if this is to be a punishment that lasts longer than the course of a meal, that the bottom does indeed begin to accommodate such things. A quick trip back to the room, before any shows or table games, might be required in order for an upgrade in size. Remember, the punishment needs to fit the offense and if she was a very naughty girl, then she needs a plug that will keep her completely focused at all times. If it seems that she has lost her focus, well then that plug is not big enough.
For the home environment I have found that it can be handy to also utilize some sort of chastity device to assure the plug stays in place for a designated amount of time. The use of such a device is limited as it also restricts her ability to use the rest room (something you would not want to limit over too long of a period of time as there are health risks), but it can be used for a couple hours at a time. Consider that purchase, of those shoes or purse that she knew were far too expensive. It was a discussion that had already taken place but she let manic behavior get the best of her in a moment of weakness and the purchase was made anyway. Clearly there will be spanking involved and clearly the purchase is going to be returned, but I think it is best if the return is made in a way that there will always be an association in her mind that goes with purchasing things that are far too expensive after that conversation has already taken place. This device:
In conjunction with a butt plug one size bigger than she has ever felt, will assure that her return shopping experience is memorable. The beauty of this restraint is that it will be locked onto her body and it cannot be removed without the key. She is allowed to go to the rest room and then she is required to insert the plug that has been chosen. If there is not a verbal reaction as the plug is going in, then the wrong plug was chosen. Once inserted, it is locked into place and you can be assured it will be with her for the duration of her shopping experience. This is really a highly effective form of discipline as there will not be a moment in which she is not thinking about what is happening and why. The car ride will be a memorable experience that is for sure. Walking through the parking lot of the mall will be a memorable experience. Not only does she have a large butt plug in her bottom, but if you secured the chastity device as tight as it should be, with every step it will enhance the overall experience, by providing additional discomfort. If everything has been done properly, she honestly will not be able to return the item quick enough. All she will want is to get it out of her possession so she can get back home. It really is a good teaching moment and one that live with her for months, if not years to come.
The use of butt plugs is my very favorite form of “sexual discipline” but there are other things I enjoy in the privacy of my home as well. While I have always made it clear that I am not a sadist and there is really no joy that comes from providing pain to another human being, if I am being fully honest, there is an activity that I have engaged in that I really do enjoy that turns me on very much. I do not recall if I have ever written about this in the past, but if we are exploring “sexual discipline” then I might as well come clean. I have had previous relationships in which I have explored the general concept of a 24/7 D/s relationship. While I have never been big on the full on “Master/slave” sort of dynamic, I have indeed explored relationships that allowed full control of another individual. Within that dynamic I have used orgasm control as a form of discipline and I find it to be quite enjoyable (for me anyway).
I am not speaking of simply telling someone when they can or cannot have an orgasm (which is certainly part of it) but I am talking about denying an orgasm as a form of punishment. But as with anything else that I do that is disciplinary in nature, I tend to try and find a way to add a bit of severity to the punishment. Telling someone that they cannot masturbate or engage in any activity that could induce an orgasm is one thing, but I am talking about making that situation far worse. If a young lady has engaged in a behavior that requires her to be punished, and that punishment is the denial of an orgasm for a designated period of time, I will do everything in my power to make sure that this is a very difficult experience, thus increasing the effectiveness of the punishment. This is easily accomplished by requiring her to masturbate, several times a day, in my presence. Obviously, this masturbation can never lead to an orgasm, but it is her job as part of the punishment, to get as close as possible each and every time. Clearly if she actually had an orgasm, it would result in the worst punishment she could ever imagine, and that needs to be made clear from the beginning. Yes, this process will allow her some pleasure while she is masturbating, but requiring her to stop early is in itself a punishment. It will not feel like a punishment for the first few times, over the first few days, but as each day passes, with her having masturbated to the very edge of orgasm several times a day, it begins to become a very effective punishment. Spread this entire experience out over the course of a week (or longer if this situation calls for it) and you will have a very sorry young lady on your hands. I have even supplemented with required reading of her favorite erotic novel, or required viewing of videos that I know will just send her over the top. In the past I have had a particular young lady beg me to punish her in any way, no matter how severe, if I will let her achieve an orgasm. I do not know about you, but that sounds like someone who needs another week orgasm free with double the masturbation schedule.
Obviously when we are discussing sexual discipline we are basically talking about the application of pain to a part of the body that is typically an erogenous zone. I have never been one that did much in the way of spanking or whipping the vagina or clitoris. I may have been guilty from time to time in visiting that area with a riding crop, but I would not consider anything done in that region to be disciplinary in nature. I have on occasion put a crotch rope into play as a means of punishment. As with the butt plug, this really helps to serve as a reminder of bad behavior. I have used this in a manner in which the naughty lady in question was required to wear it underneath her normal clothes while she goes about her day to day duties, and typically in a public setting. I like to tie it quite tight and I always tie a single or double knot in the place where it makes contact with her clit. This is also quite an effective way to hold a butt plug in place. While I am not big on bondage for just bondage’s sake, I have used bondage as a disciplinary tool. On these occasions I have also used a crotch rope that goes from her waist, underneath her crotch, and then up to a pulley in the ceiling. With lots of tension applied, this forces her up onto her tiptoes. It then becomes a challenge between the pain in her calves and the pain she is feeling between her legs. She will be forced to relax her calves at times, taking the full pressure of the rope on her clit and vagina causing considerable discomfort, and then will eventually have to commit to getting some relief by going back onto her tiptoes. If done properly and for a long enough period of time, a punishment such as this can be almost as effective as a spanking in that it is not a punishment she would choose to repeat anytime soon.
The next logical location on the female anatomy for sexual discipline is the breasts and nipples. I have utilized both these locations as a means to punish a deserving woman in the past. Nipple clamps are an obvious choice as a tool to create a painful stimulus, and with the use of weights it is easy to increase the learning that takes place. An added bonus to the use of nipple clamps is that they hurt going on, they create long term pain while left in place, and then hurt the very most when they are removed. I cannot say that I have ever decided someone needed to be punished and simply said “go get the nipple clamps”, but they can be an effective addition to a simultaneous punishment such as the crotch rope.
As with the vagina, I do not typically use the breasts as a focal point for corporal punishment. Any hard swat someone receives from me is typically going to be on their bottom. It is simply the safest area to punish with any sort of force and it is effective. This is not to say that I have never included the breasts when administering discipline, but it tends to be supplemental to something else that is going on. Something I do have a fondness for is tightly tying a woman’s breast. Alone it does not really serve as much of a punishment, as it is more a general discomfort than pain, but I really like the visual presentation of tightly tied titties. The most effective way to turn tied breasts into a punishment is to require her to lay flat over a table or a hard surface, with her hands behind her back. This puts the full weight of her upper body onto her breasts and the discomfort quickly becomes a much more painful sensation. When a spanking is not going to be enough, I have tied breasts and put someone into this position for the duration of the spanking. For anyone that is used to being spanked on a regular basis, a spanking in this position becomes a much more memorable event. Tied breasts can also greatly enhance the application of nipple clamps. I used to play a little after hours at the studio with certain models and I often tied their breasts and even used suction devices on their nipples and entire breasts. I took thousands of pictures, but they were never for use on a website. Some of the pictures from today’s post are from those private fun sessions.
In my opinion the application of corporal punishment to a female’s bottom is, and will always be, the most effective form of discipline for changing behavior and for teaching a proper lesson. I believe that someone who serves as a disciplinarian for someone that they are not in a sexual relationship with should stick with good old fashioned spanking. A proper punishment session should not be overtly sexual (more so that it already is) and should avoid the erogenous zones. But within a relationship that does involve lots of sex and spanking, it is sometimes nice to be creative and to add something new. Through the creative application of sexual discipline new lessons can indeed be learned.
Wednesday, January 07, 2015
Corner time really is required for a proper punishment
There are so very many reasons why corner time is such a great addition to any punishment. I use the term corner time somewhat generically as I apply it in so many different situations and very few of them actually involve a corner. But each and every one them can add so much to the overall dynamic and effectiveness of a proper punishment. Let’s take a look at many of the different ways that I utilize corner time and why I find it to be effective.
The first is the before the spanking use of corner time. This is a time when we are playing on the nervousness someone experiences before they are to be spanked. In most cases within my world of private discipline, a young lady has waited some time for this punishment and the moment has finally arrived. Her nerves are shot and she is quite nervous that the moment has finally arrived. She knows that is going to be painful, far more painful than she would ever want, and the anticipation of it actually happening is almost too much. Good! When I have her look back on her punishment I do not want there to be good memories. If the actual anticipation is one of the most difficult parts, then we need to use this to our advantage as disciplinarians. In fact, I will take it a couple steps farther. She needs to now shed that last little bit of a security blanket that she has, her clothes, and get fully naked. Once naked, and feeling more exposed and vulnerable than ever, she now gets to wait for an undisclosed period of time before she is spanked. This gives her plenty of time to think about her actions and behaviors and what it is in her life that has brought her to this very place in time. I may even begin to lay out the implements that may or may not be used on her, to further add to the anticipation, as she wonders what each of them will feel like on her bottom.
Another great variation of this is after she has had time to think long and hard is to put her into position. This now feels like the moment, it is finally here, it is finally going to happen, but that does not mean that I am in any hurry to get started. Now she feels even more exposed and vulnerable, but she is not in control of this situation, I am. By this point in time she is just ready to get the spanking over with, as the wait is harder than anything. This can be highly enhanced by choosing a proper position, like having her grab her ankles. Fully naked, bent over grabbing her ankles, presenting everything that is private to her to me and the world…without a single smack to her bottom, her punishment has already begun and this is an experience that she would not like to repeat anytime soon.
The next variation of corner time that I often use is a break to let her bottom recover a bit. There are many implements that when used effectively will often create some numbness as the body begins to produce endorphins to combat the pain. While continuing to spank when it is not being received as painfully as I would prefer can indeed help with the long term discomfort she will experience, I see it as a lost opportunity. Yes, I want to create a very sore bottom that hurts for a few days, but I also want her to experience as much discomfort as she can during the course of her spanking. If it becomes clear to me that this part of her spanking is somehow easier, I will simply stop. She is left in position, told not to move, and once again has no idea what is going to happen next. She does not know if the punishment is over, if I am taking a break, or if I am switching implements. Perfect! Midway through her punishment she is once again feeling fear and apprehension, two things that help make the overall punishment experience effective. Unfortunately for her, I am just allowing the production of endorphins to decrease so she will get the full benefit of the rest of her correction.
The next step in and one of the more common uses of corner time is for it to involve considerable discomfort all on its own. This helps a lot when punishing someone who has a spanking fetish. They may indeed include some small aspects of corner time within their fantasies because it has a very childish aspect to it. But within their fantasies they rarely consider how uncomfortable and annoying corner time can be made to be. Standing in the corner before, during, or after a spanking may indeed be boring, and even a little embarrassing, but it does little to provide discomfort. With a little creativity corner time can become a punishment all in itself. Position is everything and adding knees or large muscle groups into the equation can quickly increase the effectiveness. A basic first step is to simply require the naughty young lady to kneel on a hard wood floor, or a brick fire place mantle. Hands behind her head with her elbows touching the wall and then requiring her feet to be lifted off the ground quickly enhances the overall punishment experience.
On many occasions I have chosen to make the corner time very physically demanding, especially for those young ladies who have come to me to help them with some sort of fitness or weight loss goal. They seem to think that they do not have the mental fortitude to get themselves to the gym, or to work out hard enough for proper results. But when put in a physically demanding corner time position, such as a wall sit, knowing that the punishment for breaking that position is a dozen bare bottom swats with a school paddle, they quickly become quite aware of how truly motivated they can be. I have watched more than one young lady in a stressful corner time position, with her whole body shaking, body covered with sweat, prove to herself how capable she really is of pushing her body, she just needed the proper motivation. The challenging positions also require her to focus and she cannot really allow herself to just zone out and relax after her punishment, it takes a concentrated effort to maintain such positions and it is clear to her mind and her body that the punishment is not over even if the spanking has stopped.
The most common form of corner time is simply for a young lady to be placed somewhere quiet, with her red bottom on display, for her to reflect on the punishment she just received. I rarely make it quite that easy, and tend to throw in at least part of one of the elements previously discussed. One way to enhance it, without increasing the level of discomfort, is to add an embarrassing element to it. I believe that at no point in any punishment should someone be humiliated, but I do believe in using embarrassment as a learning tool. I have placed freshly spanked young ladies, fully naked; in front of a window on many occasions (once for the duration of the water show at the Bellagio, facing the fountains and the 1000 people watching). I have also chosen positions that while exposed and embarrassing, can be maintained for long periods of time, such as legs spread as wide as possible with hands on a small stool. Once again, this is different than just being required to stand in a corner and helps to keep her focused on the punishment she just received. Of course, even if the spanking is over, I would never inform her of that, which keeps the anticipation level high during any phase of corner time.
Corner time is not just a time out for kids, it is a highly effective form of discipline between consenting adults. It can be mild or be made to be extremely intense. If done properly it can be as effective as the spanking itself. The next time a deserving young lady requires a proper punishment for real infractions in her life, put in the time and effort to include various levels and types of corner time. It would be an injustice to her and her behavior to provide her with anything less.