Monday, December 07, 2015
OTK- 2015 Part 1 PPV
When a young lady finds herself requiring discipline, a very effective and intimate way to apply her spanking is the over the knee position. In this 72 minute video, you will watch 17 different scenes in which a young lady has her bottom blistered while OTK. Through the application of the hand, wooden spoons, paddles, and heavy wooden hairbrushes, you will see how very real lessons are learned. Now available at Spanking Library
Thursday, November 19, 2015
OTK Straddle Spanking
Here is out latest PPV release, featuring a very unique way to spank a naughty young lady. “There are times when a spanking needs to be made a little more memorable, or even more embarrassing. In this 58 minute video, 7 different girls, in 11 different scenes learn exactly what it is like to have their private parts on display as they receive the hand spanking of their lives. Each and every scene features a young lady not only going over the knee, but spreading her legs and straddling a knee for the most embarrassing spankings of their lives.”
Available now at Spanking Library
The use of the hairbrush for a severe punishment spanking
As a deviant that really loves to spank, I have been blessed over the years to really pursue all of my spanking fantasies. Most people think that this takes place while I am working, but that is not really what fuels my fantasies. For me, I do not find what I seek from spanking paid models or play parties, as rarely in those situations am I spanking someone who really deserves it, which is the most important factor for me. Yes, there have been a few scenes that I have done over the years, for my sites, in which real discipline was actually taking place (the real discipline with Michael Masterson scenes, as well as several Brandi scenes, and recently a couple scenes with Syrena), but that is not the norm for what I do at work.
My fantasies, as they have always existed in my head, have been explored in the comfort of my own home, without any camera being turned on. There have been dozens and dozens of private discipline sessions in which someone has sought me out, traveled to my location, for a well-deserved punishment. In these cases the discipline is very real, as are the offenses, but it is a little more difficult in that they had to travel for me for their punishment, leading to most communication being via email. Of these types of relationships, the ones that have been most fulfilling to me were people who at least lived locally. This allowed for the spanking to take place as soon as possible after it was required.
At the very top, as far as fulfilling spanking fantasies, have been relationships in which domestic discipline was involved. As I have stated too many times, we are discussing domestic discipline relationships in which the person being punished by me, had a desire to be spanked. In most cases, these relationships grew out of someone that was already reporting to me for private discipline. I have never really assumed the “daddy” role, as that is not really my thing, however, these types of relationships do lend themselves greatly to a daddy/daughter sort of relationship.
While no one has ever been required, or even allowed, to call me daddy, the relationship tends to fit quite nicely into a strict father with an older teen daughter still living at home, as the requirements for both relationships are quite similar. For a women living under my roof, that wants to have discipline in her life, I will have similar expectations. I will want the very best for her and will expect her to work hard at anything and everything she does. There will be clearly defined rules that will result in discipline if broken. There will be chores that help in the running of the household. She is required to live her life in a safe and healthy manner. Education, on any level is something very important and is to be taken very seriously, even if it is just finding the time each day to read a little. Exercise and fitness are very important and need to play a major role in her life, and so on. As you can see, these are the same requirements that any older teen still living at home could possibly be faced with.
Take all of those and factor in basic no no’s in life such as drinking and driving, texting and driving, staying out too late, getting too drunk, and things a little less severe such as not calling when late, procrastination issues, not picking up after herself, etc., and you have a pretty good list that allows for fairly frequent spanking, without there being any role playing required. The roles are indeed quite real; there is nothing fake about any of it. Yes, it might be a little odd to some, that legal adults have chosen a lifestyle in which a man can spank a woman whenever the moment requires it, but there is a lot of good that can come from all of it.
So this leads me, in a very roundabout way, to the topic for today, and that is choice of spanking implements, and the importance of having that one implement that is really reserved for the worst case punishment. In a relationship such as this, especially when she does have a desire to be spanked, a spanking is going to happen fairly often. The rules are purposely rigid to make sure that anything but her very best behavior will result in a spanking. This is not to say that I do not apply each and every spanking with the goal of eliminating such behavior, but there has to be a balance. I am not going to beat her poor bottom black and blue, for leaving her dirty clothes on the floor after being asked not to. She is going to get a spanking, a very memorable spanking that will lead to tears, but not every spanking she receives is going to be the most severe of her life. However, I do need to make sure that every spanking is not one that she enjoys and would not want repeated anytime soon.
With fairly frequent spanking as the norm, especially with the current naughty girl in my life, I tend to have go to implements that are used most often. It should come as no surprise if you have watched my videos or read here at all, that the belt and paddle are my two favorites. I make it a point that any belt I put on in the morning is one that will be effective for discipline, so by default, that is always a choice when the moment calls for it. I also think that the belt carries a certain stigma to it, and as many young ladies grew up feeling it, it will always have a special meaning. I like that a belt, especially the ones I choose to wear, can be used effectively over clothing or on the bare. I also like the fact, being that I often like to administer discipline on the spot, is that we can be out and about and I always have an implement with me. I have been forced to be creative at times, but for just about any occasion, I can find that quick and private little spot to wear her bottom out when needed.
I think my obsession with the paddle is as simple as growing up in a school system in which anyone, at any given time, could be told to bend over for a paddling. Most corporal punishment is far more private, so the knowledge, and occasional proximity to a school paddling, forever etched the paddle into my mind with spanking. The day that I rented my first real house, before we were even unpacked, I was in the garage making my first paddle ever, as I now had a place to do so privately. My personal paddle collection, not counting work paddles, is in excess of 50 different wooden paddles. But true to my roots, with as many choices that I have, the school type paddles see the most use.
The paddle really is the ultimate punishment tool. It works in every single situation in which corporal punishment is required. It is the great equalizer of spanking implements in that it is effective over any variation of clothing. She could be wearing pj’s, a work skirt with pantyhose, or tight jeans and full underwear…it does not matter. With the proper paddle selection, I can teach a very real and very immediate lesson with a good paddle. Even better, I can get my point across with just a few swats. A small offense, fine, 6 swats with a paddle over her clothes. A severe offense, 20 on the bare bottom is more than enough to leave her bruised and sore. If she requires a quick reminder as we head out the door, there does not need to be some big production, clothing removed, we can just walk into the bedroom, and in less than 30 seconds she is walking tearfully to the car.
Even though I can use a paddle and turn it into the most severe punishment, there still has to be that one implement, the one that is never used, unless she is about to be taught the lesson of her life. I find it important to always be able to take discipline to the next level when required. This is why pretty much every spanking I give is right around 80%. If she is getting all wiggly and won’t stay in position, she needs to know that I can turn it up a notch if needed. Well the same holds true with the paddle. She knows it hurts, she knows it can be the worst thing ever, but she needs to know there is a different implement and a different level that I will go to if her behavior requires it. It is this threat, and fear, that helps stop the dangerous behaviors that involve her own, or someone else’s safety.
In my home, this implement has always been a heavy wooden hairbrush. I am not taking about a brush from Target, with plastic backing, or some thin little crappy wood. I am talking about a heavy wooden hairbrush at least an inch thick. This is an implement that is so very capable of making a permanent change in behavior. Yes, I do indeed have paddles that are an inch thick, that could probably produce the same results, but this is my chosen implement for those times when such a lesson is really needed. As my home is not a spanking studio, and I try and keep it as vanilla as possible, there are not just implements lying around. But just like a belt, a hairbrush is a very common thing to see in someone’s home. My favorite hairbrush, meaning the one that sucks the most, is always sitting out in plain view in the bedroom or bathroom. This allows her a daily reminder, even as she just brushes her teeth, that this is an option depending on her behavior. I guarantee that she can recall with vivid detail each and every time she has felt it on her bottom. When it is used, it is used with great intensity. There can never be that time, in which she was spanked with the brush, when it was not “that bad”. I need that brush to conjure up fear, pain, and remorse every time she even glances at it.
There are a few reasons why the hairbrush is so feared on our home. The first is the manner in which I use it. Even with a severe paddling, the overall event may only consist of 20-30 swats, as that is more than enough to make my point. But with a hairbrush, I treat it basically the way I do a handspanking, a punishment that is defined by minutes, not swats. I prefer to administer it otk, as this allows me to help keep her in position. Yes, I am big on people assisting in their punishment by cooperating and holding still, but with the brush, I know that might not be fully possible. With a paddle, the swats are generally spaced out a little bit, but with the brush I treat it just like a handspanking and spank as fast as I can while still creating the amount of intensity that is required. While thicker than a typical paddle, it has a much smaller striking surface, but this is used to my benefit. With a paddle, hard swats need to be closely monitored to assure that I am avoiding the tailbone. This leads to pretty much all swats hitting in generally the same area. Also with a school paddle, due to its size, I do not spank cheek to cheek, so this leads to her right cheek getting punished more than the left. But with a brush, and knowledge of exactly where her tailbone is, I am free to work a much larger portion of her bottom.
Each swat on the bare bottom, with my heavy hairbrush, leaves a large bull’s eye bruise. With a paddle I am only able to bruise part of her bottom, but with the brush, I can work everywhere but where her tailbone sits. I am very big on leaving a “visual indicator” on someone’s bottom so they can not only feel the results of their behavior, but they can also see it. With a brush, I can literally turn her entire bottom black and blue. The smaller striking surface also allows me to really focus the spanking on the areas that I know she will be feeling it the most. There is no school paddle that allows me to really work the inside portion of the bottom of her butt cheek. With a brush, I can use one hand to gentle spread her cheeks, and make sure that the inner area, as close as I can safely get to her vagina, receives the attention that it requires.
This also allows me to really work the “sit spot” in a manner that I cannot accomplish with any other implement. As I stated before, a paddling can really take care of this area, but it tends to not be balanced. While I will cover as wide an area as I safely can with a brush, she can count on the part of her bottom that touches when she sits to be visited far more frequently. While I may use 10-12 swats on each pass to take care of just one butt cheek, I will always put at least that many swats on a single spot, on that same pass. Remember, this is a “holy shit” sort of offense and I am looking for results. With the hairbrush, the goal really is for her not to be able to sit the next day, and I assure you, it is possible.
The entire process will last up to five minutes and she will be in tears from the very first swat. Nothing really takes someone’s breath away like a full force hairbrush stroke on the bare bottom. She will kick, squirm, and wiggle for the first minute or so, but her body will eventually help her cope. Anything after that first minute is more for the next few days, as she will slowly be able to handle the intensity of the brush. But just because she is no longer fighting it, and it does not seem to be having the same effect, it does not mean I stop. I try to be quite meticulous in my coverage, as I really do want her to see what her behavior caused. While it will appear as several hundred little bull’s eyes, it will eventually lead to one very bruised bottom that will sort of merge together over time. I use the time when her endorphins are really kicking to make sure that the entire lower portion of her bottom is as sore as I can possibly get it. One must be very careful when going below the bottom, but I have found that the first couple of inches of her upper thighs, when also punished, tends to help with the long term learning.
When it is all said and done, the results are generally a very worn out and tired young lady who has exhausted herself mentally and physically. Her bottom will be pretty much numb for a little while; it is just hard to avoid that. But we both know from experience that this will not be the case for very long, and that soon, the real punishment will begin. Being a spanko, once she has calmed herself down, she always goes to look at her bottom in the mirror. On one such occasion, she had pulled the full length mirror off the wall and was sort of squatting over it, pressing on her bottom which was completely swollen and hard to the touch everywhere. She knows that she will only “enjoy” it for less than an hour, because then the reality sets in. The reality that eventually sets in is the fact that her bottom is sorer than most people can actually imagine.
The next morning is pretty much always the worst, and in my experience it can go one of two ways. The first option, the preferred option, is she is feeling remorseful and very sorry for her actions. There is typically a sense of relief, in that if a punishment of this intensity was required, then chances are there was some serious tension between us, as well as something that she was feeling extremely bad or guilty about. Knowing her actions were leading up to this spanking, there is also much relief that it is over and behind us. Yes, she is incredibly sore, very hesitant to even try and sit down, so clearly learning is still taking place. But this also leads to a bit of a bonding process, with me having had the strength and the courage to give her the spanking that she had earned, choosing to give her everything that she needed and not stopping regardless of how much it hurt and how bruised her bottom was becoming. While all is certainly forgiven, this is not to say that I slack on the rules in any way just because she can’t sit down. It is her behavior that decides when her next spanking is, not mine. But when things go this way, the way they should, I tend to allow her to care for her bottom is any manner that she chooses, meaning, if she chooses to stand for breakfast, that is her decision and one I can respect. I do not go out of my way to provide additional discomfort and just allow the current soreness to be the consequence.
But there are indeed those times in which a young lady does not fully learn from such and experience and chooses to handle it a different way. This way would involve a lot of bitching, moaning, and carrying on about how sore she is. This is not remorse or even ownership of her punishment, it is the exact opposite, and I have very little tolerance for such things. I took the time to help her, with something so completely wrong and horrible, a behavior that could possibly lead to arrest, or injury, and went out of my way to make sure that she was punished in such a way to discourage it from ever happening again, and now she is giving me attitude because she can’t really sit down? What part of her not being able to sit down is my fault? I did not spank her for fun, or because I was horny, or even because I am mean, I spanked her, long and hard with my hairbrush, to effect change. Being bitter, and sarcastic, are not the signs of someone who has learned a lesson. It demonstrates behavior that further requires my attention.
I wrote recently about the bike seat discipline that I chose one day after such a punishment, and it was exactly that behavior, immediately following the spanking, and again the next morning that led to this. I can be quite forgiving of someone who learned their lesson and chose to start fresh the next day, but I can be a literal pain in the ass when a different attitude emerges. So if she did not learn her lesson, we will capitalize on the previous spanking, and make sure the lessons continues. A girl with an attitude like that can count on spending a lot of time sitting the next day or two. She can also count on there being a piece of wood on any padded furniture that she chooses to sit on. She may indeed find herself on a bike seat or in corner time on a wooden stool, with her feet elevated to put all of the pressure on her bottom. Or, she may find herself grabbing her ankles for a session with my belt, like the one time these words were spoken, “easy for you to say when your ass is not fucking sore”. You will be amazed at the effectiveness of the belt on a bottom in that state, the very next day. But she needed a very clear reminder that I was not the one that “made her ass so fucking sore”, it was only her that was responsible.
The point I am really trying to make with this post is that even in a spanking relationship, in which severe spanking tends to be pretty close to the norm, there has to be a next level. As the level of bad behavior increases, so does the resulting punishment. There may have been a particular spanking that was a 10 on the pain scale, well guess what, today we find what 12 feels like, because as long as her behavior requires it, I will do what is necessary to effect the necessary change.
All images and animations come from very real hairbrush spankings that I have personally administered in the member’s area of Realspankings.com
Wednesday, November 04, 2015
Using anticipation to increase the effectiveness of a punishment spanking.
Research has clearly demonstrated that a punishment is most effective when it is applied as soon as possible after the infraction. While I do know that this in indeed the case, I often like to delay the actual spanking once a transgression has taken place. I do believe in addressing the behavior the moment it takes place, but I feel that a spanking can often be made more effective by delaying it. For today’s blog post I will go through what I feel to be the most effective ways to use anticipation to enhance the overall effectiveness of a spanking.
A method I often use, and one that is quite popular with parents that utilize corporal punishment, is to send the offender to another location to wait for her punishment. She is not told how long she will have to wait, and in many cases, she is not even told what she will be spanked with. As she sits in the bedroom waiting, this really allows her imagination to get the best of her. As much as she might try to distract herself, her mind is always brought back to the fact that she is about to have her bottom blistered. This adds a lot of overall stress to the event, which I see as a positive thing. We want all aspects of a disciplinary spanking to be as memorable as possible, so any tool that I can use to make the entire experience undesirable, I will put into action.
As she is sitting there, she is able to run 100’s of scenarios through her head, as well as reflect on previous spankings she has endured and contrast them to what she is in trouble for this time. She is forced to consider every implement that I own, as she has no idea what is about to be used on her. She might try and convince herself that it will not be that bad this time, while just seconds later the thought of the last time the hairbrush was used on pops into her head. This gives her time to not only reflect on the punishment she is about to receive, but to revisit many past punishments in her head. Even for those that enjoy spankings on some level, the anticipation can often be as bad as the punishment itself.
I like to capitalize on the stress, fear, and anticipation that she is feeling at the moment as much as possible. For anyone, as a child, teen, or adult, that has ever experienced this moment of anticipation, there is a particular moment that really defines this whole experience, and that is often footsteps headed in your direction, or the sound of the knob turning on the door. It can best be compared to the moment that you look in your rear-view mirror and see a cop with light on behind you. It gives you that rush of adrenaline that sweeps through your body, and instantly increases your heart rate. It is at this moment that the stress levels go through the roof, as you know the moment that you have been dreading for at least several minutes is finally about to happen. In my home, there is no carpet, with hardwood floors throughout so the sounds of footsteps carry very well. When I have a young lady sitting on my bed waiting for her punishment, I make a point of getting up and walking in that general direction every five to ten minutes. This allows her to experience that “oh shit” moment at least a few times before her punishment actually begins. Even better, I will walk all the way to the bedroom, and turn the knob on the door, before going back to whatever I was doing, and allowing her more time to consider her behavior.
This same scenario can be further enhanced by adding additional elements to the process. One that I find is very effective, especially if she is in a considerable amount of trouble, is to have her get the implement that is to be used on her, and have her hold it while she waits. This is not quite as effective for lesser punishments utilizing a lighter implement, in which case I would rather have her guessing what is to be used, so she can picture the worst. But if I am going to paddle her bottom with a heavy wooden school paddle, or use a hairbrush, I will probably send her to wait with it in her hand. With the implement in hand she is better able to visualize and imagine just how very bad it will be. We have added a tactile element to the equation and she can actually touch and feel the implement. She will not only be able to see the implement that is going to be used, but to feel its weight. Knowing that she is going to be paddled is one thing, but holding the actual implement really allows her to contemplate exactly how it is going to feel, and more importantly, the long term effects of such a heavy implement.
Another element that can be used when a young lady is sent to her room to wait for her spanking is varying degrees of nudity. This can be as simple as her being told to sit with her pants and panties at her ankles, all the way to her being fully nude. Even in the privacy of the home, for many people, having some or all of their clothing removed adds a feeling of vulnerability. This is supposed to be a real punishment so I have no problem in doing whatever I can to make the overall experience as bad as possible. Beyond just the physical pain, if I can play on emotions such as fear, apprehension, embarrassment, stress, and vulnerability, I will do it every time. I am trying to create an overall experience that will decrease the likelihood of the behavior ever being repeated and will put everything into play that I think will help. It is one thing to be in trouble and to be told to bend over for your paddling, it is a far different experience to be told to strip naked, grab the paddle, and go wait in your room until I am good and ready to bruise your bottom.
Something else that I use quite often is to have her assume the position that she is going to be punished in, and then just have to wait. Typically she will not be required to hold a position as long as I would make her wait in the bedroom, but there is no reason, depending on the position, that she cannot wait five to fifteen minutes for her spanking to start. On many occasions I have required a naughty young lady to drop her pants and panties, right there in the middle of the living room, and grab her ankles for a spanking, only to then finish watching whatever show that happens to be on TV, or at least wait for a commercial break. This not only adds a bit of a physical stress to the overall punishment, but once again leads to feelings of embarrassment and vulnerability. It also helps her completely visualize exactly what is going to happen. Just as with the footsteps down the hall, every time the program goes to a commercial break, her body goes through that “oh shit” moment as she considers if her spanking is about to begin.
The next method that I use to increase the feelings of anticipation for a spanking is to cover the offense, tell her the punishment, and then “sentence” it for a particular time. There are a few different ways to accomplish this. The first is to tell her exactly when and where her spanking will occur. I am quite fond of a punishment being handled at the beginning of the next day, so a young lady might find herself at work with a recently spanked bottom. Or, if possible, trying to choose a time that is quite fitting for the punishment. Consider the young lady who went out with friends for drinks and then came home far later than she said and without informing me. It seems perfectly reasonable that the next time that she goes out, that she does so with a bruised bottom, so she will have a very real reminder for the duration of that outing to assure the same thing does not happen again.
Another variation that I have found to be very effective, especially when it comes to more severe punishments, is to tell her exactly what she has coming, and then tell her that we will take care of it later. “Later” is not defined in any way, which leaves her with the thought that it could occur at any time. This might be five minutes, five hours, or even better, five days later. What this does is really allow for reflection on exactly what she did wrong. A couple of days later, she is trying her best to go through her day as she normally would, but every few minutes the thought of the looming punishment will cross her mind. If I have promised her five minutes over my knee, for a hard bare bottom session with my heavy wooden hairbrush, there is really nothing that can completely remove that from her mind. This allows for her mind to frequently consider this event, while at the same time, considering why it is going to happen.
I have listened to and read many accounts of school corporal punishment in which both of these techniques are used. In some cases, all the paddlings that take place in a school, happen at the same time while class is not in session. This might mean a young lady has to report to the office at the end of the day, or to come to school early the next morning for her paddling. In the famous case of Amber Page, at Grand Prairie high school in Texas, she was not paddled the Friday that she was caught smoking, but told that she would indeed be paddled. The next Monday she wore four pairs of shorts to school, with overalls on top, hoping to have a well-padded bottom for her paddling. Her actual paddling did not take place until a full week later. For the young lady that tried to get to sleep at night knowing that she will be paddled the next morning, all the way to 17 year old Amber, who went to school each and every day for a full week not knowing if that would be the day, you would have to imagine that the sense of anticipation influenced the effectiveness of the punishment in general.
The final variation, one that I have written about in great detail many times before, is corner time. While many utilize corner time after a punishment, I am more likely to use it before. It plays on many of the things I have already described, but it tends to help her focus completely on her behavior and the punishment that is about to happen. When a punishment is sentenced for a different time or date, she will find moments throughout her day in which she is able to distract herself from what she knows will be happening in the future. But with corner time, especially if done right, you are removing all distractions from her mind, except the upcoming spanking and what she did to earn it. I try to place her in place in which there is no external stimuli to distract her from the task at hand. There will always be some degree of nudity, and often it will be a position that is difficult to maintain, which forces her to be focused. Something as simple as requiring her to hold a coin against the wall with her nose, or to kneel with her feet having to remain off the ground, keeps her completely on task and does not allow the mind to wander. This allows her to think about only one thing, the fact that her behavior, led her to a place, in which she not only earned a spanking, but deserves one.
When someone engages in a behavior, which previously has not only been agreed upon as unacceptable, but it has been agreed upon that will be result in a physical punishment, it is best to address it the moment it happens. But, by utilizing some of the techniques above, it is possible to allow anticipation to be an effective addition to any punishment.
All images in this post come from the very real punishment videos in the member’s area of Realspankings.com
Real Discipline
So, it has been 11 years of on and off blogging and frankly I am out of things to say. Before I write a new blog post, I go back through the years and see if it is something I have already covered, and yes, I have covered just about everything. With the goal of blogging here more often, I am going to ignore anything I have previously posted, and just post what is on my mind. I may have posted this 5 days ago, five months ago, or five years ago, so if you have followed this blog for any length of time, I apologize if you have read something similar before. Today I thought I would explore what exactly I like regarding spanking in general and the typical themes that play out in my private spanking life.
For me, the absolute most important part of spanking is that it is real discipline for real offenses. Quite simply, I have never really engaged in “play” spanking. I have never in my personal life engaged in some sort of role play, where one or both (occasionally more) of us are assuming some sort of role. In addition, I have never attended a local play party. Yes, I have smacked a few butts by request at a Shadow Lane party, but that was more of having a few drinks in a social environment and someone asking to feel a particular implement. No one was assuming a role and it was by no means disciplinary. The most important part of spanking is that the person getting spanked actually deserves it. While I enjoy spanking on many levels, it is never really done for my benefit. It is very important to me that it is being done for someone else’s benefit.
Spanking means many different things to those of you out there that in engage in it, but for me, I prefer its original purpose, as a mean to correct an undesirable behavior. Just as important for me, is that this is a clearly defined behavior. I cannot think of a time since I applied my first spanking to a young lady’s bottom (around 25 years ago), for the purpose of discipline, in which the spanking came as a surprise. I will not spank you because I am having a bad day, or because it turns me on, or because you are pissing me off, I will spank you as a result of a behavior or attitude that we have previously discussed. Yes, there are certain things like lying, cheating, and stealing that I do not have to point out are offenses that may result in a bruised bottom. But things within our personal relationship that may result in a spanking will not only be things we have previously discussed, but in many cases, these will be things that you have told me you need help with.
The main point is that you will have earned the spanking, and you know the moment you engaged in the behavior that the chances of being spanked for it are high. I do not use the phrase “real discipline” lightly at all. Many see me as a little heavy handed, but we are talking about the physical punishment, of a consenting adult, with the goals of actually trying to change a behavior. In the history of spanking relationships, especially with a young lady with a spanking fetish, very little has ever actually been accomplished by applying a gentle spanking. This just fuels the fire and encourages her to act in a manner that allows her to have a warm bottom and a tingle down below. Well, that is “play” spanking, not real discipline. Within my relationships, current and past, if someone needs a spanking, then I am going to blister their ass. It is very simple, either a behavior requires a spanking, or it does not. If it is something very minor, than I am not even going to administer a spanking, and we may just have a discussion about it. But if it does require a spanking, than she better hold on because I am going to make sure it is painful, memorable, and designed to make sure whatever we are dealing with never happens again.
I do not believe in a warm-up in any shape or form, I see no point in it, as it really defeats the purpose of what I am trying to accomplish. As a hard spanking continues, it actually becomes a little easier to bare as a result of endorphins and adrenaline. My best window of opportunity, to make the best impression that I can, it the very beginning of the spanking. I have certainly said it before, but what parent ever spanked a child lightly at first, in order to make the whole experience easier to tolerate? I do not want this experience to be easy for her to tolerate, I want it to be pure hell from the very first swat. I want there to be regret, remorse, and sadness from the moment it begins as this is how lessons are learned and behavior is modified. I want that internal communication between her bottom and the brain to engage the moment the spanking begins, so she can start making herself promises about her future behavior.
If I am going to take the time to address something with a spanking, then there has to be tears, there is really no way around it. Tears are not just an expression of physical pain; it shows an emotional commitment to the process. It is not only about learning a true lesson, but also about the release of guilt that she may feel as a result of her actions. Pain is indeed one of the most important parts of the process, but tears are equally necessary. Someone that is fighting the tears as hard as they can is showing general defiance to the overall process, and this cannot be allowed to happen. It is not until the tears really start to flow that we know that learning, but more importantly, acceptance is beginning to take place. They are accepting the fact that they have been bad, that they need to be punished, and it allows them to better take responsibility and ownership of the punishment that they have earned. Someone that fights through the tears is showing anger and defiance at the same time, and this is not how a proper lesson is learned.
As I have obviously stated 100’s of times on this blog, just as important as tears during the spanking, is a spanking that leads to soreness. Yes, it is possible to teach a lesson, with a hard spanking that leads to tears, without much long term soreness, but I see it as somewhat contrary to what we are trying to accomplish. Remember, just about every woman who finds herself getting spanked as an adult, has a desire to be spanked. Yes, there are certain fringe sorts of relationships like Christian domestic discipline in which the couple might believe that it is a man’s place to apply physical correction, but that is not a road I travel down. If you are in a relationship with me, that involves physical punishment, it will be because you have a desire to receive physical punishment. Yes, it is going to be far beyond what you ever desire, but you are spanked because of a mutual agreement and understanding that we share. So a spanking that hurts like hell at the time, with no long term soreness, that leads to pleasant feelings afterwards, and a heightened state of sexuality, is not really all that much of a punishment. It might have felt like a punishment for 1-5 minutes, but when all is said and done, there is just a warm glow.
In my eyes, a proper spanking, once complete, will lead to her thinking that maybe it was not as bad as she thought. This false reality will be as a result of the fact that I have spanked, paddled, or strapped her bottom so thoroughly that the endorphins have taken control. In many cases, she will be almost completely numb by the time that I am finished. But this is now the point that real learning begins to take place. 20-30 minutes after the spanking, the endorphins begin to decrease and the awareness of her sore bottom begins. It is really in complete contrast to the actual spanking itself. The spanking started just as hard as it ended, but it became easier to tolerate as the spanking progressed. With her sore bottom, it starts off not so bad, but as time passes, she becomes quite aware of the growing pain, soreness, and general discomfort. It is like a really hard day at the gym. When you walk out the door, you are certainly a little worn down, but you feel a little refreshed and invigorated. But as time passes, your muscles start to communicate with you that they are quite sore.
Quite sore is the desired sensations that I was looking to achieve and as time passes, this soreness grows. Think about how you feel when you get out of bed after a hard leg day at the gym. Your muscles are stiff, they are sore, and when you first swing out of bed they hurt like hell. I know for me, this is not only the case, but the second morning is always the worst part of it. After 48 hours I am still aware of the soreness, but it starts to slowly feel better as time passes. This is my goal with each and every disciplinary spanking that I administer, and I find that a proper spanking tends to follow pretty much the same time line as an intense leg workout. After that first 30 minutes, her bottom starts to present the reality of her situation, and if I did my job well, as every hour passes, her bottom will become sorer. As she sleeps, the muscles in her bottom will tighten up even more, allowing for the next morning to be a perfect opportunity for more learning. This is the joy and benefit of properly punishing a deserving bottom, the learning continues after the spanking is over. Why would I ever want anything less if I am trying to apply real discipline for real offenses? What parent grounds their child for only an hour, when a week is so much more effective?
When I was applying the spanking, we were creating a direct line of communication between her bottom and her brain, and this is a line of communication that is remembered. When she wakes up the next morning and finds that even walking creates discomfort, her brain reminds her why. She is not only remembering the spanking, she is remembering the reason for the spanking. Every time she sits down for a couple of days, her bottom speaks to her brain, which then reminds her to not ever do that again, as neither her bottom or her brain are all that happy with her at the moment. All of this can be traced back to Skinner, who brought about the theories of operant conditioning. Within this theory, he identified two different types of aversive stimuli that can be used as a punishment, positive punishment and negative punishment (which are not to be confused with positive and negative reinforcement, which are used to increase behaviors). With punishment the focus is on reducing or eliminating unwanted behaviors. With spanking we are dealing with positive punishment, or “punishment by application”, which involves presenting aversive stimuli after a behavior has occurred. Researchers have found a number of factors that contribute to how effective a punishment is in different situations. First, punishment is more likely to lead to a reduction in behavior if it immediately follows the behavior. Second, punishment achieves greater results when it is consistently applied.
Compare the effectiveness of consistently applied spankings, every time it is needed, versus a speeding ticket. If someone is speeding, and gets a ticket, they tend to slow down for a little while immediately following the ticket. But over time, they once again increase their speed, until they are back to driving too fast as a norm. But imagine if each and every time they sped, they knew the result would always be a ticket, without fail. If this was the case, everyone would always drive the speed limit as the punishment happens immediately following the behavior and being issued a ticket every time is a consistent punishment. In my spanking relationships, just as with speeding, the rules are clearly defined. There is no doubt that if a particular behavior takes place, that there will be an immediate consequence for that action. Instead of issuing a ticket, I issue a spanking. If a spanking is called for, I am consistent in that each and every time, there will be tears, and there will be a bruised and sore bottom. I do not vary from the rules in any way, act in a manner that we together have decided is inappropriate, and you will be spanked. It does not matter that you were just spanked 10 minutes or 10 hours earlier, as I am consistent with my discipline and each and every time a spanking is called for, it will be administered, once again with you in tears and with a sore bottom.
Tuesday, October 27, 2015
A public element added to spanking
The summer that I moved to Texas, just before I started the 7th grade, I watched a friend get spanked in a public campsite, in front of 4-5 other families. This was the very first spanking I had ever witnessed, and the public nature of the event really had an effect on me. I think that since that day, any spanking that is administered in a less than private manner, has always fascinated me. Let’s face it, in the grand scope of spankings, administered in the home, they tend to be a fairly private affair. This typically involves the person in trouble being sent to, or escorted to, a bedroom, or some other place that will allow some privacy. But in many homes throughout the world, this is just not how things take place.
In many homes, a spanking is as public as it needs to be. This may be as a result of the fact that mom is far too busy to take time out of her day, so a spanking simply occurs on the spot, wherever that may be, and regardless of who is present. I have interviewed many models in which this was indeed the case for them. The point was not really for the added embarrassment, it was purely for convenience and the fact that discipline needed to be handled right then and there. It might be in the family room while everyone is watching TV, or while dinner is being prepared and someone needs their bottom warmed with a wooden spoon at that very moment.
There are also many families in which corporal punishment is a group sort of event. This typically begins with some soft of “family meeting” in which various behaviors are discussed. This type of meeting might lead to one or more of the siblings being spanked, in front of each other. This has the benefit of accomplishing a few things. The first, is that regardless of someone’s age, getting a spanking is quite embarrassing. Now getting that same spanking in front of anyone else tends to heighten those feelings of embarrassment. It is one thing to be a teen girl getting her bottom torn up with a belt from dad in her room, but kicking and screaming like a little girl in front of her brothers and sisters is a far different thing. The girl who tries to act all grown up in front of her younger siblings shows a whole different side when the belt is being applied.
Besides the embarrassment factor, this also tends to serve as a warning to everyone else present, which is clearly the goal for many parents. It is one thing to be told that profanity is not allowed in the home, and a far different thing to watch your older sister get paddled right before your eyes for her choice of words. This leaves a long lasting impression on everyone, not just the person being spanked. These type of meetings are not isolated to only one person getting in trouble, as some family meetings result with a line of bottoms bent over waiting for their punishment. I will never forget an interview with Jasmine from BiSpankings.com in which she went into great detail about the various ways she was spanked growing up. In one of the interviews she discusses being in trouble with her younger brother, and they were both sent out to a scrap wood pile in their backyard to each pick a board to be used on them. They then went into the family room of the house, with both of them having their pants and undies dropped to their ankles, as dad spent the next 20 minutes alternating between a lecture and blistering their bottoms with scraps from their fence. They were not just paddled in front of each other, but being in such a central location in the house, pretty much everyone in the family got a glimpse as they passed through.
For those that get in trouble together, it is not all that uncommon in homes that are not shy in the way that corporal punishment is applied, for one to find themselves watching a sibling get spanked as they wait their turn. This also goes well beyond the embarrassment factor by adding anticipation into the mix. Yes, it might be hard for a young lady to be sent to her room and allow her imagination run wild while she considers what is about to happen to her poor bottom, but it is a completely different story to sit and watch a sibling get spanked, knowing that she will be next. Less is left to the imagination, however, seeing exactly what is about to happen to her own bottom can be just as bad. It is quite hard to convince herself that it will not be all that bad as she watches her “tough” brother break down as his bottom is worn out.
I think the very height of the embarrassment factor are those young ladies that find themselves getting spanked in front of friends. There are indeed those parents, that feel that regardless of the circumstances, a spanking will happen on the spot. Absolutely no consideration is given as to who is present to witness it. In the late 80’s, when I took a full-time job during a break from college, I was given a very detailed account from one of my co-workers. Many of you have been there, they say something spanking related, it peaks your interest, and you try and get more details without seeming as pervy as you actually are. Someone was discussing the behavior of their kiddos, and she said something to the effect of “I would have taken the paddle to my daughter’s ass for that one”. This was Texas, so people are not all that shy about discussions of spanking, so I had to dig a little deeper. On a smoke break (yes, I was a smoker back then), I simply asked “you use a paddle on your daughter”? I had met her family and knew her only daughter to be in the 9th grade, which is why I found it a little surprising at her age. Through some “I am not really all that interested, but go on” sort of comments, I found out two things. The daughter had been required to help her dad a few years prior, build the paddle in the garage, on the day that mom decided that a handspanking was not enough. But going along the lines of this post, she told me the last time her daughter had received the paddle, two nights prior, at a sleepover at their house. The girls were being a little loud, a little late in her daughter’s room, and mom went in to tell them to keep it down. Trying to impress her friends, the daughter made some sort of smart ass comment. Mom did not say anything, went and grabbed the paddle, came back, told her daughter to stand up and put her hands on the dresser, and then received three swats over her nighty. I asked “you paddled her in front of her friends” and her response was “you are God damned right I did, she knows better”.
I have also found that this fascination with the public aspect of spanking, lends itself to school corporal punishment. In the school setting, there is never really complete privacy when it comes to a school paddling. I have personally sat in a school office, while a paddling was taking place behind closed doors, and there was nothing at all private about it. I could hear every swat as if I was in the same room, and I could also hear the verbal reactions from the person being paddled. When that office door opened, and the recently paddled student came out of the room, every pair of eyes in the main office were focused directly on them. None of us actually witnessed the paddling, but it could not have been more public and the embarrassment was more than clear on the student’s face.
In the school setting it is quite common for students to get in trouble together, sometimes just a pair, often an entire group. Let’s be honest, stupid behavior is often encouraged by other students and it is amazing the trouble that a few students can talk each other into. One of my closest friends growing up, moved to a rural community while we were in high school. She was always a go to for me when it came to spanking stuff, as she was spanked the whole time I knew her, by her mom. I think she was on to my little kink, but was pretty liberal about sharing when I asked. She once described to me getting caught smoking in the little farm school that moved to, along with two other friends. The punishment was three “licks” with the paddle, parents called, and a three day suspension. She told me that they were called in one at a time to tell their story, then called in as a group at the end, as their punishment was detailed for them. They were then escorted to the room where “on campus suspension’ is held and asked to sit in the chairs outside the room. One at a time they were called into the room with the principal and a female secretary, where they each received their “licks” while grabbing their ankles. What she remembered most about the event was how hard it was to go last and see her friends each come out, trying to look tough, with tears in their eyes.
There are well documented, factual, detailed accounts and news items that discuss schools in which all the corporal punishment is taken care of at the end of the day, or sometimes even at the end of the week. It may be that the administrator that handles the disciplinary referrals is not the actual one that applies the paddlings (many schools seem to bring in a coach for this), it may just be a matter of timing or logistics, or as often is the case, an administrator that is the same sex of the student being paddled must be brought in. In some of these Southern states, in which the paddle is used liberally, this can lead to a pretty big line of people waiting to be paddled.
There is a well-publicized case from 2002 at Timpson high school in Texas in which the entire senior class was paddled on homecoming day (news item HERE). The students participated in a “school tradition” in which they have a sort of improvised homecoming parade that involves all of the seniors getting in cars and cruising through the parking lot, hanging out the windows, and burning rubber in the parking lot. They had been warned that it was not going to be tolerated that year, and when they did it anyway, the entire senior class, consisting of 16 boys and 15 girls were brought to the office that morning to be paddled. They all received three swats at the hands of the principal and a coach. It took more than an hour to paddle all of the students lasting well into second period. This was not a light and ornamental paddling, as some parents took their kids to be looked at by a doctor as a result of heavy bruising.
I can only imagine the overall effectiveness of this paddling, as 31 different students wait in a line, as they listen to one classmate after the other getting paddled before them. Yes, in a small town Texas high school, a paddling is not all the uncommon, but you would have to imagine that there were many waiting, and listening in that line, that had never been paddled at school before, or even spanked at all. The public nature of this event must have led to a few tears before they even found themselves bending over and presenting their bottom to be paddled. Knowing that a few young ladies left that office with a bottom bruised enough that their parents wanted a doctor to look at it, you can imagine the fear and apprehension of listening to such a paddling taking place, while waiting your turn.
I have always taken this fascination with the public aspect of spanking and tried to integrate in into the scenes that I film. Anytime we do a multiple girl shoot, you can count on all of them bending over and getting spanked together, but I also try and bring all of the elements that I just discussed into play. With every girl shoot I do, each girl will be spanked in a scene, in front of the three others, in which she is the only person being spanked. We have had a girl spanked while her friends wait to give her a ride, or the girl who is driven home by friends and is spanked on the spot in the driveway with a paddle that dad just built. We have done many variations of the “family meeting” in which one or all siblings are spanked in front of each other in the family room. And of course, I have done as many variations as you think of when it comes to school paddling. Having one girl waiting for her paddling, while listening to the other getting paddled, is pretty much a staple on out site. One of our most popular scenes filmed this year is a four girl paddling, in which we get to see the paddling of each girl take place, as well as the reaction of the other three waiting their turn.
I am a big fan of what is typically a very private affair tuned into a somewhat public event. While I do like to hear about true childhood accounts, as you know I do not feel that spanking is the best form of discipline for children. You can see any and all of the scenes I have described, in full HD at Realspankings.com, part of the RealspankingsPass family of sites.
Wednesday, October 14, 2015
Punished to Tears 2015- Part 2
I am proud to announce our latest full movie release.
The second 2015 release in this popular series. This video is 1 hour and 16 minutes long, with 15 full length scenes. You will see 8 different young ladies, punished alone and together, until they are crying like little girls. This video features the use of belts, straps, wooden paddles, hairbrush, rulers, and the tawse, delivered in a manner intended to produce the desired results…a bruised bottom and tears.
The purpose of corporal punishment is to provide enough pain to a young lady’s bottom to teach her a very real and a very proper lesson. The best indicator that a lesson is learned is TEARS. It is not until she is crying like a little girl that we know that the job is done. In this video, you will corporal punishment administered as it was intended, leaving each and every girl crying. WARNING- this is very real corporal punishment, these are not fun and playful spankings.
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Tuesday, September 15, 2015
Behind the Scenes
A little peek behind the scenes from this morning’s shoot.
Tuesday, September 08, 2015
Washing her mouth out with soap as a proper punishment
I find washing a young lady’s mouth out with soap to be a very effective punishment, especially if you know that on some level a spanking is something that she enjoys. As I am one to do my very best to make a punishment fit the crime, a mouth soaping is applicable in many situations, as a young lady’s mouth often gets her into trouble. But just because there is no physical application of pain, this does not mean a mouth soaping is a walk in the park. Just as with a spanking, I work very hard to make sure the punishment is very effective, and I spend the time to make sure it is severe and that a proper lesson is learned. I would never give someone a handspanking, over their clothing, which only lasts 30 seconds, as lessons are not learned this way. That is why when a mouth soaping is applied it cannot be as simple as her holding a bar of soap in for mouth for a given period of time. Let’s take a look at what I see to be the proper steps for making a mouth soaping a true punishment.
You have to be careful with your soap selection, and want to choose a bar of soap that is free of chemicals and perfumes. My go to bars, which I buy in bulk at Costco, are the Dove pure white bars. I prefer the largest bar that they sell, as it allows me better coverage of her mouth. I never give a mouth soaping with soft soap, as it does not provide the same experience as a bar of soap. Simply pumping a few squirts of soap in someone’s mouth is hardly a punishment at all. With a full size bar of soap I am able to provide a longer lasting and more memorable experience for the young lady whose mouth requires discipline.
The first step is to place her in front of a sink and get the water to the proper warm temperature. I prefer to do this in a bathroom, as opposed to the kitchen, as I want to administer her punishment while she can see herself in the mirror. This allows her to see the soaping take place, which I believe adds to the overall effectiveness, as she can see exactly what her behavior has produced. While I run the bar of soap under the water and begin to get it frothy, I require her to open her mouth and wait. This is very similar to someone presenting their bottom to be spanked. She has to stand there with her mouth open, as she watches me lather up the soap, leading to her anticipating exactly how bad this overall experience is going to be. Once I have gotten the soap to a state in which it is completely covered with bubbles it is time to begin her punishment.
On the first trip into her mouth, my goal is to cover as much area as possible. I am certainly not gentle, and I make sure that the bar covers everything from top to bottom and side to side. Once I have achieved good coverage, it is time to re-lather the bar. I scrub the bar hard under the warm water to achieve as much lather as possible. On the next trip into her mouth, the goal is to really work her tongue with the soap. This is obviously where the taste buds are and I want her to fully experience the bad taste of the soap in her mouth. I will require her to stick her tongue out to make sure that I can cover every single inch of it. I will once again do this until all of the lather has been transferred from the bar to her tongue.
Again, I go back to the running water and work the bar back up to a frothy mess. It really is important to continuously go back to the warm water as the goal is as much suds as possible, and as the bar heats up, it becomes easier. On the next trip into the naughty young lady’s mouth, I am basically going to brush her teeth with the bar of soap. While the previous trips were done with the goal of leavings as much suds as possible in her mouth, while using it on her teeth, my goal is to begin to leave small pieces of soap behind. I will have her close her mouth and smile, allowing me to work the fronts of her teeth. She will then be required to open her mouth wide and I will grind it on her molars, top and bottom, on both sides of her mouth. This is why a larger bar of soap is much better as it allows me to really grind it into her teeth, leaving as much of the bar behind as possible. From this point forward, each time I pull the bar from her mouth, I will pull up on it and scrape it across her front teeth. If done right, the bar should start to form little grooves as the soap is being left behind.
At this point, I will have achieved full coverage, but I am nowhere near being done. This is typically a good time to begin a conversation. She is able to limit the areas that the soap go in her mouth, especially the back of her mouth and throat, but by engaging in conversation, the soap tends to travel a little more. I will now ask her many questions and make sure that she is required to talk. This will also start the process of the soap running out her mouth and onto her chest. This allows her to see in the mirror exactly how ridiculous she looks, as a direct result of her behavior. Sometimes I will require her to hold the bar in her mouth why she answers my questions.
Now that I am sure that there is no area of her mouth that is untouched, and I am confident that bits and pieces of soap are trapped in her teeth, it is time to begin again. Remember, the goal is to change an undesirable behavior, so a few trips into her mouth with the soap is just not enough. The soap should be much more responsive to lathering at this point, and it is easier to get achieve even more suds. Once again, I am going to cover her entire mouth with the now extra sudsy bar. I will then re-lather and go to work on the tongue again. This time when I make her stick her tongue out, I am going to work the bottom and top of her tongue. The goal is not to just leave suds behind, but basically paint her entire tongue white.
With each new trip into her mouth I am going to be a little more aggressive with the soap. I will not be shy at all with it, and at some point I will make a little effort to spread it around the outside of her mouth as well. I want there to be a very visual indicator as to the trouble she is in, so the more soap she can see the better. Around the halfway point, I will make her hold the soap in her mouth for an extended period of time. Instead of making her hold it flat, I prefer to put in in her mouth sideways and make her hold it that way. This forces the mouth open wide and typically causes the soap to once again run from her mouth, down her chin, and onto her chest. While she holds the soap in her mouth she is able to watch, as she stands and drools the nasty froth down the entire front of her body.
Depending on the offense, I will make anywhere between six and twelve total trips into her mouth. The entire process of me actually applying the soap will typically last at least 10 minutes. Remember, this is not a spanking, so longevity and total coverage is the key to making it as memorable as possible. Once I have finally made the last trip into her mouth, she will once again be required to hold the bar in her mouth for an even longer period of time. For at least 10 minutes, she is required to stand there and look at herself in the mirror. Being that she will not want to swallow, for the duration of this period of time, the nasty froth will continue to run out of her mouth.
Once her corner time with the soap is complete, the punishment is in no way over. Just as with a hard spanking that leads to long term soreness, I want this punishment to last well beyond the actual application of the soap. This can be accomplished in a couple of different ways, depending on the severity of the offense. The more severe version is to allow her to spit into the sink as much as she needs to, to get as much soap as possible out of her mouth. Once that process is complete, she is to go about her normal day, but not allowed to rinse at all. This might create a little bit of a sour stomach, but sometimes this just needs to be part of the process to maximize learning. The other variation is to provide her with a small glass of water, and allow her to rinse, but only with the amount of water I provide. In both cases, there will absolutely be no brushing of her teeth until bedtime. I want there to be a considerable amount of residue in her mouth, and especially her teeth. This allows for additional learning for the remainder of her meals that day. Each and every time she chews, she will have an additional reminder to be on her best behavior as the soap will continue to present itself with each bite.
If this entire process is done right, it will indeed serve as a very good deterrent for future bad behavior. Unlike a spanking, there will be no pleasant glow to her bottom, leading to heightened sexual feelings. Instead, over the course of her day she will have a very bad taste to her mouth, with bits and pieces of soap constantly presenting themselves. There is nothing fun or sexy about a mouth soaping and it truly can be a very effective punishment if done properly and with the right amount of severity.
Monday, August 17, 2015
Bike Seat discipline
Over this past weekend I discovered a new, and very effective, manner in which to increase the discomfort of a punishment spanking and I thought I would share. On Friday afternoon, a special young lady in my life acted in a manner that required an immediate and very intense punishment. This was for something that has been a constant source of problems for her, and something that we have dealt with on many occasions before. THIS was the day in which I had to punish her in a manner with the intention of extinguishing the behavior permanently. I try not to get too detailed when it comes to the private discipline in my life, but I will say that her bottom was completely worn out and my heavy wooden hairbrush, belt, and wooden paddle.
This punishment led to her bottom being as bruised and sore as she has ever experienced in her life and that is saying quite a bit for this young lady. As you would expect, while her entire bottom was properly punished, I spent a considerable amount of time on the “sit spot”, as I wanted this lesson to stay with her for several days and needed her attention focused on the issue every time she tried to sit. Being that this was a very real punishment, for extraordinary offenses, I contemplated following up the next morning with another session with my brush. I know how effective a punishment, on a recently bruised bottom can be, and I felt strongly that a single spanking was not going to be enough to do the trick.
On Saturday morning, while I was making my morning tea in the kitchen, I made her present her bottom to me for an inspection of my work. With her pj’s around her ankles, in the middle of my kitchen, I had her grab her ankles so I could see how much progress we had made. Now, I am someone who is quite used to seeing a bruised bottom, but I have to admit I was a little surprised as to the results. Her entire bottom showed the results of the belt, more so on the right cheek, but it was clear that I had done a good job, with visible bruises covering almost her entire bottom. With the intensity that I used the heavy wooden brush, I was really limited to the lowest part of her bottom. As the goal was as much long term soreness as possible, I was layering the swats with the brush on the exact same two spots on her bottom. It was clear at the time of the spanking that by only hitting these two spots that she went numb pretty quickly. At one point she almost completely gave up any amount of struggle, which is a clear indication that her endorphins were flying into action. I see those moments as opportunities to work toward the long term goal of maximum soreness and simply continued spanking those two spots knowing that this was an investment in her future good behavior. But I was quite surprised as to how very effective it turned out to be as the two spots on her lower butt cheeks were as bruised as I have ever seen the next morning. Not only were these two spots bruised, they were still very swollen and quite hard to the touch. As I ran my fingers over these two spots she winced and was clearly in a lot more pain than she had experienced the night before.
With the thought of taking her back over my knee for another session with the brush still on my mind, after seeing how completely sensitive and sore that she was, I decided to capitalize on her current soreness in a different manner than another spanking. So we started our morning with tea on my deck, which meant that she would start her day sitting on the hard wrought iron patio chairs. When she sat down, after having asked if she could stand instead, it became abundantly clear that she was experiencing a level of soreness that was more intense than she had ever felt before. She squirmed in her seat for the duration of our tea and I decided at that point, that for the purposes of making sure that this was a lesson that she would never forget, we would have an entire day based on providing painful sensations to her bruised and sore bottom. As I contemplated how to best achieve this, I was struck with an idea that could not be any more perfect for this lesson.
After completing our morning routine, I told her to go and change for a day in the woods. She came out of the bedroom in a cute pair of athletic shorts, her hiking shoes, and a tank top. I went and changed, and as I came out of the bedroom, and she saw that I was wearing my mountain biking shorts, you could see the panic begin to set in. I did not address the issue and instead went to the garage to begin putting our mountain bikes on the rack on my truck. I filled our water bottles and we headed out, still without her addressing what was clearly on her mind. On the drive to one of my favorite trails, we drove in silence, as I know she was contemplating exactly how this was going to go. Our bikes are light and fast, with very minimal padding on the seats, and there is no doubt that this was going to be an experience that she would never forget. We arrived at the trailhead and I unloaded the bikes from the truck. She still had a bit of a panicked look on her face, which was further increased as she watched me lock the rear suspension on her bike. I wanted her to feel each and every bump on this rocky trail, so rear suspension would not be required. Before we mounted our bikes and headed out, I told her that while standing for the uphill sections was obviously required as it gets steep in spots, that she would spend 100% of her time on the flats and downhill sections, sitting fully on her seat. I made her lead so I could make sure that she did not stand the whole time and then the punishment began.
The trail is a 12 mile loop, about 1/3 on a forest road with the rest being rough single track. While it is not a very technically difficult trail, it is as bumpy as it gets with rocks embedded into a large portion of the route. From the moment her bruised bottom touched the seat, I could tell that very real learning was taking place. Even with my full suspension, this was wearing my ass out a little, but for her it was as bad as the spanking the night before. A bike seat tends to put all of the pressure onto two very specific areas of one’s bottom, and those happen to be the exact spots that were as sore as they possibly could be for her at that moment. I could tell by her movements and body language, as she road ahead of me, that this was an intense struggle for her. I watched as she negotiated some of the rougher downhill sections, trying her best to stay seated, but not fully being able to do so, as the pain was just far too intense. I found that this was far better than simply spanking her sore bottom again that morning, as she now had 12 miles to fully reflect on the behavior that she engaged in that lead to her bottom feeling this way in the first place. As I watched her, more and more often, lift her bottom off the seat during the flats and downhill sections, I knew that this had to be addressed. After all, this was her punishment, it was well earned, and by standing when she should be sitting and fully embracing her discipline, she was diluting the overall effectiveness of the lesson.
When we reached what we have always called “break rock” which is a great spot with amazing views at the top of the hardest climb, we hopped off of our bikes for a much needed break. I made her sit on the rock, as she clearly wanted to stand at this point. We drank water and each sucked down a power gel and soaked in the views. Well, I soaked in the views while she suffered as she tried to find a way to sit on a boulder with a sore bottom. I told her that she was cheating on the downhill and flats, and clearly that had to be addressed. I gave her my multi-tool and told her to go into the woods and cut a switch, so we could take care of this problem on the spot. I was a surprised as she teared up a little, but took the tool and headed into the woods. Normally, I might start to feel a little bad for her in a situation such as this, but the offense we were dealing with warranted each and everything that I was doing. If I did not see this completely to the end, then it would be MY fault if this behavior ever occurred again. I was bound and determined to see this one through and make sure to get the desired results. A couple of minutes later she emerged from the woods with three different switches in her hand. I inspected all three, chose the best two, and told her to get to cleaning them. She spent the next several minutes pulling the various small branches and leaves off of them, and then cleaning up the sharp edges using the knife on the tool.
With two perfect switches, we marched 100 yards or so away from the trail, to get to work. Her shorts and panties were dropped, and with her feet together, she bent over and grabbed her ankles. I then spent the next few minutes properly striping her bottom and thighs until both switches were as worn out as her bottom. When the desired results were achieved, we headed back to the bikes and continued our ride. For the duration of the ride, and for even a portion of the remaining climbs, her bottom was firmly planted on the saddle. It did indeed take a little reminder, but she eventually went along with the program and fully embraced the punishment ride. There were some extra tears on a few spots on the ride, but they were well deserved.
Unfortunately for her, when the ride was over, the punishment was not. We headed to our favorite mountain watering hole, and as you would expect, my decision as to where we would sit was based fully on discomfort. I went with the tall wooden bar stools on the patio, which had no padding and were tall enough that her feet did not reach the ground. As we enjoyed an adult beverage, I made sure that her feet hung down, not allowing her to put them on the crossbars on the stool legs. This forced all of the weight of her upper body onto her sore bottom, and the lesson that was still being learned was very clear on her face. She was also very self-conscious about her recently striped legs, which still showed the thin welts from her switching. The fact that her legs were striped was not my concern, as this was simply a fact of life from a well-earned switching.
The rest of our day went pretty much the same way. I went out of my way to make each and every moment of the day something that would add additional discomfort to her poor bottom. Remember, part of being good disciplinarians is the willingness to go above and beyond to make a punishment memorable and effective. My entire purpose was to make sure that this behavior was never again to be repeated. We finished our evening with a Redbox DVD rental, on my super comfortable home theater seating, that is after I cut a piece of plywood to perfectly fit her seat.
Monday, July 20, 2015
School paddling on security video
Friday, July 17, 2015
Bruised bottom in private and on camera
If you have spent any time at all on this blog you probably know how I feel about a spanking resulting in a sore bottom. I have found over the years that as a result of my feelings that any spanking should result in a very sore bottom, that people either love the videos I produce or find them far too severe for their tastes. I understand this, as not everyone engages in spanking activities, as a means of punishment. For many, spanking is a playful, loving, and highly sexual thing that is often just a fun means of foreplay. I will not fault anyone for these feelings, as spanking means different things to different people. But for me, even though there is indeed a sexual element, there is never anything at all sexual about the spankings that I administer on or off camera.
For me, spankings will always be about punishment and discipline. The most important parts of the spankings for me is the pain that they feel during the spanking, but even more importantly, the pain that they feel afterwards. A sore bottom really is the learning tool when it comes to a proper punishment. When I apply a serious disciplinary spanking in my private life, it rarely lasts more than five minutes. When we are dealing with serious behavior issues, five minutes is hardly enough time to really teach a proper lesson. That is why a sore bottom is so very important. I do not want, after a five minute punishment, for it all to just be over in the mind of the naughty girl. I want her to have a frequent reminder of her behavior for several days. The only way to accomplish this is to make sure that she was spanked in a manner that leaves her bruised and sore.
Many people think that a spanking that creates bruises is abusive. I would argue that the only way to actually create a change in behavior is to create a very sore bottom. We have to be honest in that a pink bottom does not hurt very much five minutes after the spanking is over. As someone who has some experience on the receiving end, I can tell you that five minutes after a spanking in which a bottom is only left pink, it kind of feels good. There is a tingly sensation, which spreads to your naughty regions, and leads to a much heightened sexual state. Does that sound like an experience that someone learns from? Of course not! What it does is promote bad behavior so they can feel that wonderful sensation again. But for many people, spanking is more of a game than an actual disciplinary process.
Within the relationships that I have had, beyond just being someone’s disciplinarian, but actually being in a romantic relationship in which some aspect of domestic discipline was utilized, I think in those cases the young ladies were quite surprised at how it turned out. They sought me out as I have an online presence and they see me as being able to provide something that they have always been searching for. A few of those relationships eventually turned romantic, which led to a couple that practice domestic discipline on a regular basis. I think that in their minds they were going to enter this world in which they were held accountable for their actions and at the same time their spanking fantasies would be fulfilled. The surprising part for them was how little they were actually spanked. The reason that there was so little spanking is that when they actually got in trouble, they were not just spanked, they were properly punished.
For many, spanking fantasies revolve around getting in trouble, getting lectured, having to bare their bottom, and assuming a position to be spanked. There is the idea of a strong man, who cares enough to take the time to discipline her, while providing love and comfort at the same time. Rarely in someone’s fantasies do they process how much potential a spanking has to actually hurt. Yes, they see themselves crying in these fantasies, but the reality of how that actually comes about is somewhat diluted in their minds. They might picture a childhood spanking, with a strict but loving father, in which they are over his knee for a couple of minutes warming their bottom. But these are grown women, with a desire to be spanked, that actually want a realistic punishment that is suitable for the behavior they have engaged in. The reason that they sought me out in the first place is that I believe in administering a spanking for disciplinary purposes.
I take this role very seriously and each and every time I give a disciplinary spanking in my private life, it is with the expressed goal and purpose to make her never want to ever feel this again. This might seem a little counter-intuitive when it comes to a spanking relationship. For most couples, both parties to a certain degree look forward to the next spanking that is going to take place. This leads to her getting a little bratty, or making little “mistakes” on purpose, so she can get her bottom warmed. But I see things much differently. I am not quick to spank for just any little thing. There are ample warnings, undesirable behavior is clearly defined, and there is very little room for misinterpreting rules and expectations. But when the time comes, that a spanking is required, it is going to be an event that she does not want repeated anytime soon.
The reason it will not be repeated anytime soon is because of where I started this post…pain and long term soreness. From the very first swat, she is going to not only regret her behavior, she is going to wish that this never happened in the first place. Her spanking fantasies go right out the window when I begin just as hard as I am going to end. I am not giving her some sort of silly warm-up, what purpose would that actually serve? I know that she likes to be spanked on some level, but this is an actual punishment, not role-play, so I am going to punish her. I am going to do nothing at all to feed her fantasies, instead I am going to provide her bottom with far more pain than she can handle and make her regret the decisions or actions that led her here in the first place.
I am also going to do this is such a way that when it is over, it is really just beginning. There will be lots of tears, there will be forgiveness, and I will comfort her when all is said and done. But I know that if I did my job properly, her lesson is just starting. I cared enough to make sure that her bottom was black and blue when I was done. Remember, this is not role playing, this is not foreplay, this is real life discipline for real offenses. These are offenses that we agreed she should be disciplined for. The purpose of this discipline was to decrease or eliminate this behavior all together. If I have just provided her with a spanking that she would want to receive again because it was sexy or made her all wet, then I failed. One of the ways I make sure that I achieve success in this area is to make sure her bottom not only hurts when she sits, but is unbearable. I want every second of the next few days to be all about her sore bottom. I do not want her to be able to put it in the back of her mind and dismiss it. Every time she takes a step, tries to sit, or even lay in bed at night, I want her focus to be on her sore bottom. More importantly, as she sits on a hard wooden chair the next day, and her eyes fill with tears again, I want her focus to be on why her bottom is that sore. Many may call it cruel, mean, or even abusive, I prefer to call it learning, an appropriate lesson, and progress.
I take the time to do the job properly, in a manner designed to achieve results. I was not fulfilling her spanking fantasy; I was providing much needed discipline. You would be very surprised at how well this actually works. Yes, I am talking about a relationship that was formed as a result of a mutual desire/need for spanking, a woman who actively sought me out as a result of the type of spankings that I can provide. But the reality of it all, once she found herself receiving a very real spanking, she was in no hurry to repeat it. Certainly behavior is as good as it gets for several days after her last spanking. My policy is that no previous spanking will affect the next one, only behavior influences when a spanking takes place. When it is almost too painful to sit, behavior becomes perfect for fear of what my paddle would feel like on that sore of a bottom. The progress really is made as a result of the sore bottom. There might be parts of the spanking that feed the very core of her fantasies, but spending days with a completely bruised bottom is not fun or sexy at all. More importantly, she will go out of her way to make sure that she does not feel that way anytime soon. So there have been many young ladies that have come to me to fulfill all of their spanking fantasies, only to realize that they would rather behave and work on achieving goals in their lives. Their lives become a big contradiction as they fantasize about nothing more than being spanked, yet they rise to the occasion to make sure they do not end up having their bottoms bruised.
While the models in my videos, for the most part, have not done anything to earn a proper punishment spanking, it is still what they are signing up for. The whole concept of my sites was to present spanking as it actually exists in the real world for discipline. This basically leaves us with parental spanking, school corporal punishment, judicial punishment, and to a lesser extent domestic discipline. In all of these instances, spanking is used as a punishment. There are no warm-ups in parental spankings or school corporal punishment, and that certainly is also not the case with judicial punishment. The goal of all of those spanking is to tear up the offender’s butt in such a way that they will no longer act that way. This is what I try to provide in my videos. Yes, concessions have to be made to account for the fact that this is a paid model, with very real limits. She has not actually done anything wrong and does not fully deserve what she is about to receive. But I believe very strongly that a real and proper spanking ends with a bruised and sore bottom.
My videos have achieved a lot of popularity as a result of the fact that the spankings are administered in a realistic manner. They in no way compare to the type of discipline I administer in private, but I do the best I can while still trying respect our model’s limits. This is not to say that limits are not pushed and expanded, as every model eventually ends up taking some pretty serious spankings. Many are quite surprised at how far they were really able to come. Because I feel so strongly that a real spanking results in a very sore bottom, that is the reality of our videos. It might happen over the course of a few different spankings scenes in one afternoon, but when all is said and done, these young ladies leave sitting gingerly for a few days. The whole point is that the spankings are very real and very real spankings result in bruised bottoms. Many models show up in skin tight jeans, but have learned over time to have a nice pair of baggy sweatpants to change into when they leave, as their sore and swollen bottoms no longer want to squeeze into those tight pants.
I often follow up with our models, especially after a fairly intense scene, and there is no doubt that these spankings results in long term discomfort. On the average, most models still display the results of their spanking for at least three days. Pretty much every shoot now includes a school paddling scene, which always leaves fairly long lasting bruises. It seems pretty typical that their bottoms are sore enough that sitting hurts the next day. We are not talking the same amount of discomfort as a private spanking with me, but they are certainly more than aware of their previous spanking. I have had models in the past; take the next day off from their desk jobs as they knew that eight hours in a chair was not an option for them at the moment. There is one current model, who has a very professional job, and I know she gets off on “her little secret”. She just loves the fact that she is sitting there, in a professional work environment, barely able to hold still because her butt is so sore. She loves that her bottom is black and blue and that only she knows. She has told me that she checks her bottom each and every time she uses the bathroom at work, and just loves the marks. Now, if I was only single, I could actually give her the real spanking that she deserves, one that makes it difficult to sit on at work, but it would be one that she would never again want to have repeated.
All animations used in this post come from scenes filmed in our new studio, in 2015, from the member’s area of Realspanking.com.
Realspankings Network Pay-Per-Views
We have put in a lot of time recently editing some of our very best work and putting it in a PPV format. I have personally indexed some of our best new scenes and grouped them into very specific categories for those that are specific in their spanking tastes. As I have always tried to do, I am giving you your money’s worth with each and every new PPV offering. If you look at the standard spanking PPV prices, you typically pay between $10-20 for way less than an hour’s worth of content. I tried to be very fair in my pricing and all of our new PPV movies run between 83 and 93 minutes and cost between $12-18 dollars. There is no better deal for a spanking PPV and clearly, there is no content as hard and as realistic as ours. Here are the trailers for our recent offerings. If you see something you like, please consider ordering. All of these movies are long, with hard content, and represent our very best work over the last two years.
School Paddling Punishments is a unique video that features scenes that recreates school corporal punishment as it is administered in real life throughout the Southern United States. The paddlings administered in this video are very realistic, with many leading to tears. You will witness the real reactions as young ladies feel the sting of a large wooden school paddle applied full force to their young bottoms. Highlights of this video include: - 14 separate scenes, with as many as 1-4 girls being paddled at a time. - 13 different young ladies are paddled, by 3 different male administrators. - Traditional school positions are utilized including bent over a desk, grabbing ankles, hands on knees, and hands on the walls. - Most punishments are administered over tight jeans, but we have also included a locker room paddling over gym clothes, and two punishments that are applied on their bare bottoms. - As a bonus, some scenes show the after effects and the young ladies drop their pants and show their bruised and sore bottoms. - All of the school paddlings show you the face view and the butt view of the paddling, so you are able to see each girl’s unique reaction to her punishment. - This video is 1 hour and 40 minutes in length, with a total of 199 swats applied in a very severe manner. These are not fun, or playful paddlings. This is real corporal punishment, with very real school paddles, swung full force, leaving this young ladies with very sore and bruised bottoms for days.
93 Minutes- $15.00
Girls getting a good whoopin’
When it comes to how corporal punishment is administered in the real world, most young ladies will tell you that they received the belt growing up. This video explores exactly how corporal punishment is actually administered in the homes of the US. This video is 1 hour and 28 minutes long and features 15 different young ladies receive strict and severe corporal punishment with a belt. There is nothing gentle about any of the scenes and the belt is applied full force from the beginning to the end. You will see blistered and bruised bottoms with many of these young ladies crying very real tears. There are both bare bottom and over the jeans whoopins applied, and for many of you out there, this will bring back very real memories.
87 Minutes- $12.00
Naked, Embarrassed, and Exposed, Part 1
There are those times is which a basic spanking is just not enough to get the point across. Some punishments require the addition of something else to make that spanking truly memorable. This 90 minute production features punishments in which naughty young ladies are required to strip fully naked for a very embarrassing punishment. From single girl punishments, all the way up to four girls being spanked at one time, they are required to assume exposed and embarrassing positions while hard corporal punishment is applied. In most cases, they are left naked and on display in corner time, as a reminder to others as to what happens when they misbehave. Through the use of the hand, belts, straps, paddles, rulers, and the wooden spoon, these young ladies learn very real lessons while Naked, Embarrassed, and Exposed.
88 Minutes- $15.00
Naked, Embarrassed, and Exposed, Part 2
83 Minutes- $15.00
Punished to tears- 2015 Part 1
The purpose of corporal punishment is to provide enough pain to a young lady’s bottom to teach her a very real and a very proper lesson. The best indicator that a lesson is learned is TEARS. It is not until she is crying like a little girl that we know that the job is done. In this 84 minute video, you will corporal punishment administered as it was intended leaving each and every girl crying. WARNING- this is very real corporal punishment, these are not fun and playful spankings.
85 Minutes- $18.00
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Wednesday, July 08, 2015
Making the position part of the punishment during a spanking
I have always stated that I feel that position is a very important part of a punishment spanking. Previously I have discussed the importance of her properly presenting her bottom, as I feel this really helps her with ownership of her punishment. Today I am going to dive a little deeper into how much position can really help with the overall effectiveness of the punishment. For the purposes of this discussion I am not fully addressing which position is best for which implement, but more how to make the position part of the punishment itself.
If you think that all positions are equal, you are doing a great disservice to the person whose behavior requires the punishment. Our goal as disciplinarians is to provide an event that will not only punish someone for their current behavior, but to serve as a reminder as to future behavior. I say “event” because for most of us, we are spanking someone who fantasizes about being spanked. But within this relationship, we are trying to make things as real as possible and actually create a punishment experience. This is not an experience that we want them to fantasize about, what we really want is for them to learn from it, and hope that we actually have an influence on their behavior. So we are not just looking to give them the spanking that they fantasize about, but to create a punishment “event” that will burn into their memory.
I have discussed over the years, many different ways to enhance the overall punishment through the use of corner time, nudity, and various other things that help make a punishment as uncomfortable as possible, but today the focus is on positions. The easiest spanking in the world for someone to endure is one in which they are simply laid over an object, such as a bed or couch, and allowed to just lay there and endure it. Even worse are the punishments in which disciplinarians hold the naughty girl down for her spanking. First of all, it is her responsibility to stay in place for her spanking, not ours, so if you have to hold someone down, they are showing complete and total disobedience and that needs to be addressed. Secondly, why allow her to just lie in a comfortable position for a spanking that she fantasizes about anyway? To be as blunt as possible, the position should suck for her. Ask yourself if you are doing the best job possible if she is allowed to be comfortable for her spanking. Jail sucks, so do the beds in the cells…you do not go to jail and find a tempurpedic mattress in your cell. They committed their crime, a punishment was handed down, and at no point does comfort become a factor.
I have talked about nudity before, but it is worth talking about again for the purposes of this post. When someone requires a proper punishment, one that is worthy of being an “event”, you can count on the clothes coming off. The first purpose this serves is that it reinforces my authority over her. When she is in trouble, I am not just sentencing her to a spanking, but for the duration of the punishment I am assuming full control over her body. She has trusted me with the authority, that when she misbehaves, that I will do everything in my power to punish her in a manner that will prevent that behavior in the future. With that trust and authority, as long as it is safe, sane, and consensual, her body becomes mine to what I want with, for the benefit of the punishment. She does not get to decide what she wears for her spanking that is now my decision. Because I care, and I will do whatever it takes to help her, I will choose for her to be naked.
A fully nude punishment adds quite a bit to the overall experience and will help her remember it in the future. Yes, there are many women out there who are quite comfortable naked. There are many models that work for me that choose not to put any clothing on in between shoots and just hang out naked as we move lights around and such. But being comfortable naked, and being comfortable naked in the various positions I have to choose from are two very different things. But for the typical woman, even one that you are intimate with, being naked in the bedroom and being naked and on display for her spanking are two very different things. I require her to be naked because I am going to put her in a positon for her spanking that will make her feel embarrassed, vulnerable, and exposed. Please note there is a strong distinction between embarrassed and humiliated. I never humiliate someone during a spanking, but if I can make her feel embarrassed, as a result of her behavior, then I will do my best to do so.
Something else that I think is of great importance when it comes to positioning is complete and total discomfort. She might fantasize about being spanked, but she does not fantasize about being put in a position for her spanking that is a workout in itself to hold. By bringing in different muscle groups, we can make the position itself a punishment. Have you ever tried to hold a lunge for very long? With her hands and feet on the ground and her ass in the air, this position becomes very hard to maintain and is no fun at all. A assure you that when she masturbates to thought of being spanked, she never once thought about how sore her abs were going to be.
So let’s go into detail about how we can make the position itself part of the punishment. The first, and most common, is to simply make it a freestanding position. She is not getting the benefit of being able to lay over something, or even put her hands on something. This may involve her bending over and putting her hands on her knees, or even grabbing her ankles, but she assumes full responsibility for the position, without anything to support her. This makes it more difficult to maintain her position during the spanking (which she already should know is a requirement) and also makes her an active participant. She cannot just check out, let her endorphins kick in, and endure the punishment, she actually has to help. It keeps her mind on the process and does not allow her to escape into some sort of “sub space”. She has to stay mentally present in order to stay in position and that is exactly what we want.
Any position can easily be modified to become less comfortable. Even for the young lady with the benefit of being bent over with her hands on a table, by requiring her to stand on her tiptoes, we have once again brought her mind back to the punishment. She has an actual task that she must perform while she is being spanked, and as easy as it sounds, her being on her tiptoes adds quite a bit. At the very least, it tends to start to burn the calves pretty quickly and that in itself adds to the overall discomfort of the punishment. But if she is being paddled hard, and with each swat she is rocked forward, typically a process that ends with someone back on their heels. But in this case, she does not have that luxury and she has to remain ultra-focused to make sure her heels do not touch the ground. Once again, we are bringing her mental focus into play and she cannot just try to suffer through her punishment as she has a job to perform during her punishment.
Many young ladies like a good over the knee spanking, as it tends to be intimate and is not all that uncomfortable. Just as with the tiptoes, this position can also be easily modified to make her part of the overall process. For most OTK spankings, the person being punished has their toes touching the ground. This can often get in the way as it allows them to push forward, which can allow them to easily start to struggle out of position. In my private life, all otk spankings are given in which the young ladies are required to have the tops of their feet on the ground. This takes away their ability to push, but more importantly, it is unnatural and requires thought to keep them in that position. If she finds herself kicking her legs during her spanking, the normal movement would be for her to go back to having the bottom of her foot on the ground. But this is not allowed, this is not what I require, so she has to stay mentally present to make sure her feet do exactly as I have told her.
Another modification, and one that I use a lot, is to bring elbows and knees into play. Take any spanking position in which a young lady is supporting herself with her hands, and simply make her elbows go there instead. If she is bending over, with her hands on a desk to be paddled, make her elbows touch the hard surface with her hands in the air. This takes away any leverage that she has, so when she is knocked a little off balance from a paddle swat, she cannot just fight the momentum by pushing back with her hands and arms. With the arm bent, and being on her elbow, all of her leverage has been taken away. Now her whole body and core become involved in order for her to maintain her position. Now it is not just her bottom and her brain that are part of the process, her whole body has to work to assist in her discipline. It is easy to take this a step further and have her place her knees on a hard surface, while her feet are required to be elevated.
Discomfort can be taken to many different levels when it comes to position, far beyond the easy fixes that I just described. The easiest way to accomplish this is to bring different muscles into play. As discussed before, a spanking in the lunge position is not an easy thing to endure. Now her arms, legs, and core have become part of the punishment and fatigue easily sets in. You can also modify any position by requiring that her arms or her legs be a little bent and not straight. When we lock our legs out straight it becomes more of support from the joints that support from the muscles. But when the arms or legs that are supporting us are required to be bent, the muscles have to become part of the process. Yes, a hard spanking while grabbing her ankles is no walk in the park, but if she is required to bend her knees just the slightest bit, over the duration of her five minute strapping, this all becomes that much more difficult. Remember, difficult is the very least of what we are looking for.
Ideally, we are going to take all of the above factors and combine them effectively with nudity. I am not only going to choose a position that is hard to maintain, that requires her to assist, and that is going to bring various muscle groups into play, I am going to make it terribly exposing and embarrassing. I want to put her fully naked in a position that she would never in her lifetime find herself in. I am talking about something that exposes all of her naughty bits to the world in a way that she never could have imagined. I want her to be embarrassed that her behavior brought her to such an exposed and vulnerable position. I want her to be concerned and embarrassed about how everything between her legs is currently being presented. I want her to her to fully realize, that at the moment, how and where I choose to present her most private of areas, is fully up to me. It was her behavior that brought us here, but the rest of this is in my hands.
The spreading of her legs is always going to be the starting point in this type of position. If the situation calls for it, she is not just going to be presenting her bottom to be spanked, I am going to make sure everything is presented in a very exposed manner. There is huge sense of vulnerability, when she is bent over for a spanking and her vagina is completely exposed. She should know by now that I am very accurate with whatever implement I am using, but this still adds a lot, as any stroke that is off just a little bit could indeed hit her vagina. In addition, and with the hopes of not being too graphic, most women are not all that comfortable in a position in which their butthole is exposed. However, had she not misbehaved, she would not be before me at this very moment, with her legs spread so wide, that everything is now very exposed. Even before the first stroke I want her uncomfortable as possible, so if exposing her vagina and butthole helps, then I will include it every time. Having her spread this wide also allows me (assuming my hand or a very specific implement) access to areas of her bottom that I might not otherwise be able to spank.
This exposure can be greatly enhanced by how far she is required to bend. Someone presenting their bottoms with wide spread legs, but only bent at 90 degrees at the waist, is still limited in their exposure. We need to get their hands closer to the ground to really open things up. This is why you will often see videos I have filmed in which the young lady if kneeling on something such as an ottoman, but her hands are on the ground. To further enhance the vulnerability of these types of positions, I often require that she arch her back as much as possible. With spread legs, a greater than 90 degree bend, and an arched back, she is feeling as exposed as she possibly can be. Hopefully she is embarrassed, hopefully she is miserable, and hopefully she will never want to find herself in this position ever again.
None of this is all that hard if you are willing to just be a little creative. Maybe she only requires a handspanking today, but it is still our job to do the very best each and every time it is required. Instead of bending her over that kitchen chair for her handspanking, why not have her straddle that chair leaving her just a little more exposed?
Maybe she needs a little session in which she is required to lay down on the bed for a long strapping. Why just lay her down on the bed and get the belt out? Require her to fully undress before you as you go through your selection of belts deciding which one will hurt the most. Then lay a few pillows down on the bed, so her ass is nice and high in the air. But don’t stop there, now it is time for her to spread her legs as wide as she can get them. We just took a comfortable and effective spanking position and made it embarrassing and exposed.
What about those times in which you take her into your home office and bend her over the desk for a little school type discipline? Is it really best for her development that you just have her barely bare her bottom and bend over the desk? We want this to be a punishment that is remembered, not one that just blends in with all of the other spankings she has received. She needs to get naked and she needs to do it now. I am putting her completely up on the desk, on all fours, but there will be no hands involved, she will be balancing on her elbows. Her legs are going to wide enough that her vagina is open and on display for the world to see. And I am not going to start right away, I am going to let the full physical discomfort and mental embarrassment sink in for a good long time before I ever get started. If she does not like it…good, then maybe she will get her act together.
It does not have to end there; I will make it as uncomfortable and embarrassing as I possibly can. What is more embarrassing and uncomfortable than being fully naked, bent completely over, with her legs spread, her back arched, and her legs a little bent…doing so while elevated. If she thinks that feels vulnerable, then she can assume that same position while standing on a chair. Now all of her naughty bits that she is embarrassed to have exposed are now at eye level for me.
When we begin to get complacent as disciplinarians then the behavior eventually wins. When we are simply spanking her when she is in trouble, we are only feeding her fantasies and the behavior just gets worse. You owe it to that special person, the one you have made this commitment with, to do your very best, with each and every offense and behavior that is presented to you. You are doing her a disservice by not making each and every punishment as bad as you can make it. Most people just spank harder, but we need to be better than that. Yes, it might be football night, or you were about to head out the door for a few drinks with some buddies, but you have to stay committed to providing the discipline that is required, when it is required. She needs to be naked, uncomfortable, embarrassed, exposed, in a physically demanding position, and generally hating every single part of her punishment, if not, then her behavior is now your fault.
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Monday, July 06, 2015
Tears 2015- Part 1
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The purpose of corporal punishment is to provide enough pain to a young lady’s bottom to teach her a very real and a very proper lesson. The best indicator that a lesson is learned is TEARS. It is not until she is crying like a little girl that we know that the job is done. In this 84 minute video, you will corporal punishment administered as it was intended leaving each and every girl crying. WARNING- this is very real corporal punishment, these are not fun and playful spankings.