Monday, January 11, 2016
Girls Paddled at Home
There are certain households in which corporal punishment is taken very seriously. In these homes, they know that a young lady may indeed require a spanking when her behavior requires it. But they care enough about directing a young lady down the right path, that they are willing to take the time and the effort to take her discipline very seriously. They know that not all behavior is corrected with a simple handspanking, or even with the use of a belt, and sometimes something a little more serious is required. It is in these homes that the person tasked with the discipline of a young lady has made the decision to construct a wooden paddle with the primary purpose of bruising a deserving young lady’s bottom.
In this 80 minute long movie, featuring 26 different scenes, with 11 different young ladies, you will see exactly how effective a wooden paddle can be when used on a young lady’s bottom. In each and every scene, you will witness very real corporal punishment, administered in the home, all with a heavy wooden paddle. Each punishment is applied in a manner designed to not only punish the young lady for her transgressions, but to extinguish the undesirable behavior altogether. You will witness first hand exactly what very real, and very serious, corporal punishment with a paddle is all about.
Available now at Spanking Library
Friday, January 08, 2016
Realspankings.com
I know when people look at Realspankings.com they see a site that has not changed in appearance in many years. This is something that is currently being worked on, with a brand new content management system, which will allow all sorts of features and functions, including encoding specific to tablets and phones. While this is still a work in progress and a massive undertaking, as there is more than 15 years of content to reindex, it is in progress as we speak.
While the site has not changed in appearance in many years, that does not mean we have not kept up with the times. We shoot with HD cameras, and present all current videos in 1280x738 (and smaller for slow connections). All videos can be viewed full screen without downloading to your device. The site is searchable by model, spanker, implement, position, date, title, and rating. In the 17 years we have been online, we have never missed an update, with three full updates a week. There is not a spanking site in the world that can come anywhere close to the amount of content that a single membership to our site can provide you. As of this morning, here are the current stats as to what is currently online:
Images- 90,089
Video Files- 11,415
Total Scenes- 2,140
Model- 161
We are hopeful that if you have not given us a try in quite some time that you will sign-up again and see what we currently have to offer. Also, we have branched out with our current advertisements for hiring models (and a complete update of our site Spanking-Models.com) and as of next week, we have almost 15 different new girls coming in for interviews, and there are some super hotties in this group of young ladies.
To demonstrate the current quality of our product, here is a very recent scene, filmed in our new studio, and is currently ranked by our members as their favorite scene.
Thursday, January 07, 2016
A fully naked bare bottom paddling to tears
The young Miss Kiki is sure becoming a star for us. Here, for no particular reason, is a recent video from the member’s area of RealspankingsInstitute.com. Three updates a week for 13 years in a row. Current content:
Current Images:89,801
Video Files: 6,687
Total Scenes: 1,984
Wednesday, January 06, 2016
Using Embarrassment to enhance a spanking
As someone that administers frequent real life discipline spankings off camera, I am always looking for ways to enhance the overall value of the punishment. While I am highly selective as to who I will meet for private discipline, meaning I only spank those who are really looking to make life changes, clearly just about every woman who comes to see me has a spanking fetish. Yes, they are really looking for a punishment that will not be enjoyed and may actually lead to a change in behavior, but on some level (many really) what they are coming to me for is something that they have and will continue to fantasize about. I may blister their bottoms in such a way that sitting is quite difficult, but that does not mean that they will not masturbate to the thought of all of this taking place.
Something that I have found to be very effective over the years, and something that I use almost every time to enhance a punishment, is embarrassment. I need to be very clear that I am not talking about humiliation. I do not talk down to anyone that I punish, I do not call them whores, I do not make them beg or crawl, and they are generally treated with a greater respect than they are probably even used to. I am very polite and I use please and thank you throughout every punishment. I can accomplish all of these things and still utilize embarrassment as a part of the punishment. While most of the women have fantasized about many aspects of the punishment, they tend to focus on being in trouble, the lecture, being told what to do, and eventually being spanked. They might even fantasize about baring their bottom for their spanking, but I do not think for many women that they consider the effect that nudity and embarrassing positions can have on the overall punishment experience.
I can honestly say that around 75% of the private punishments I administer, especially if it is her very first time to meet me in person, begin with full nudity. Yes, there are some women who are exhibitionists and find some excitement with being naked. But the majority of women out there, are not all that comfortable with their bodies and go well out of their way to not be naked in front of others. Maybe after some time with a partner they know and love, nudity might become a little more comfortable, but for some women, they do not even get fully naked in the light with their husband. I know many women who do not get fully naked in a women’s locker room and prefer to change in a stall. In general, being fully naked in the presence of someone else, especially someone that you are not intimate with can be very uncomfortable…perfect. Uncomfortable is exactly what I am looking to provide. I want the spanking to be uncomfortable, the positions to be uncomfortable, her bottom afterword to be uncomfortable, and if I can make just being in the same room with me, prior to any discipline actually taking place, uncomfortable, then I will do that every time.
Typically, as I live somewhat secluded in the mountains, I will meet someone prior to going to my place, and they will ride along with me. I keep the mood light, I do not try and be all Dom like, as I do want her to feel relatively safe. There is no talk about her behavior, what is coming, or any of that, we typically talk about how her flight was, or any issues with a rental car, or travel. But once we get to my home, as soon as we walk into my great room, I politely say “OK, if you could please remove all of your clothing now”. This is such a very powerful statement and it accomplishes so very much. First, it shows that we have started and that I am very much the one in charge. Outside of jail or a doctor’s office, there is no situation in life when someone can demand you strip naked, but once she has entered my house, for the purpose of a consensual adult punishment, reality begins to change a little. The response is almost always the same, it is generally “what?”, or “I’m sorry?” as if somehow they did not hear me correctly. I inform them that I know that I spoke very clearly and loudly enough for them to hear me, so if they are somehow, with that response, implying that they did not hear me or do not understand, than I will take that as the same as a lie. Then once more politely, “you heard exactly what I said, now get it done”.
All of a sudden their punishment just got very real and something that was probably not part of their fantasy, and something that is about to be horribly uncomfortable and embarrassing, just became reality. This means, we are off to a good start, as before there is a lecture or a spanking, they are not very happy with the situation and as they go for that first button on their blouse or pants the punishment has begun. With shaking hands the process eventually begins as she finds herself horrified to be slowly getting naked in front of someone that she talked to in person, for the very first time, less than 30 minutes ago. When her clothing is all off, generally with her trying to hide her privates behind her hands, I typically take the clothes and move them to another room. The removal of her clothing helps her feel even more naked and embarrassed as there is not even the security of knowing where they are. I often return with a small wooden stool, only a couple of feet tall, and place it in the middle of the room. She is then asked to stand on the stool and to fold her arms behind her back. Being fully naked, becomes FULLY NAKED when she steps up onto the stool and can no longer try to hide herself. Faces will be flush with embarrassment and she will feel as uncomfortable as she ever really has in her life.
This is how the punishment begins and now we can get on to all of things that she probably imagined. We discuss her behavior, as detailed in our correspondence, what the punishment should be, changes she will make in her life, etc. Regardless of how this goes, for the duration of the discussion she is going to be acutely aware of how very naked she is. It is not going at all like it did in her fantasies and all she wants is to not be naked and on display in front of me. But the reality is, this is the least naked she is going to feel for the duration of her discipline session with me, as I am going to take full advantage of her insecurities being nude and use them to their fullest.
There will be many positions that I will choose to spank her in because they are very functional and will allow me to apply whatever implement I have chosen in the most effective manner. But there will also be many positions that I will chose, for the express purpose of making her feel even more naked, vulnerable, and exposed. I am going to have her vagina and butthole on display in a manner that she has never known. I will take her to a brand new level of embarrassment when I have her hop off the stool, turn around, spread her legs as wide as she can get them, and then have her grab her ankles. I will then have her arch her back a little, and bend her legs slightly, so her privates present ever better. She knows as she assumes this position the view that I now have. I do not care how comfortable she is with her body and being naked, this position is as embarrassing and uncomfortable for any woman.
There may be positions she is made to assume, that she will not even be spanked in, she will be placed in that position strictly for the embarrassment factor. I will also spank her in positions in which are not even really the best position to spank someone in, and is being done just for the added exposure. There is nothing really all that functional about the “diaper position” except that it is very embarrassing to be spanked that way. In her daily life, the amount of modesty she chooses at any given moment is completely up to her, but here, as a result of her behavior, modesty is no longer a right or a privilege, it is now for me to decide. My choices are going to be based on what is the least comfortable and most embarrassing for her and visual access to everything that she covers on a daily basis will be a must.
The sky is the limit and there are so many ways to accomplish this goal. Typically, when her bottom is higher than her head, you will create a more exposed and embarrassing position. Obviously, the more spread her legs are, the more on display all of her intimate areas will be. Often instead of having a young lady bend over a chair, I will have her straddle the chair. When you combine the two, with a young lady bent as far as possible, and spread as far as possible, you create a very uncomfortable situation for her. Just as with a spanking, there are situations in which whatever form of punishment you are using needs to be made more severe. Take a young lady, which is extremely embarrassed about being naked at all; have her bend over, with her legs spread wide, and then add to the severity by having her reach back and spread her butt cheeks as wide as they will go. Or we can take the diaper position, with her on her back, legs in the air, and require her to spread her legs.
This added embarrassment does not need to end after the spanking is over, as it is easy to bring the same dynamic to corner time before, during, and after the spanking. There are many that are almost grateful for corner time, as it means the spanking is finally over. But if the position is chosen correctly, the punishment just continues along with the embarrassment. I often chose an uncomfortable position for corner time, but exposure adds so very much. I always make sure that when this takes place, that her most exposed and private areas are pointed directly where I will be sitting for her time for reflection. I want her to feel my eyes, as her womanhood if on display.
All photos in this post come from recent video shoot in the member’s area of RealspankingsInstitute.com. If you like the added embarrassment of fully naked spankings, girls put in exposed and uncomfortable positions, I suggest you take a look at the trailers below from our new, two part, HD PPV movies that deal only with this exact type of punishment. These movies are available for download at our Spanking Library Store
Tuesday, January 05, 2016
Spanked for behavior on Facebook
It is becoming quite the common thing to now see parents posting videos of them spanking their teen daughters as a result of behavior on Facebook. These go viral on the web with mixed reactions from the viewing public. I read many comments that state “this is sick, and this mom should go to jail”. But the more prevalent comment seems to be that this type of discipline is lacking in society and that more smacked bottoms would result in more respectful teens. The most recent one I have very mixed feelings about. It is the one is which a mom is punishing her teen daughter, over her panties, with what appears to be an electrical cord, as a result of her “ho” sort of behavior. The first issue I have is that the mom is using the worst language possible, which I find it hard to teach a young lady a good lesson about the proper way to act when every other word is fuck. Secondly, the use of an electrical cord, especially while also holding a cell phone to film, is just dangerous.
While I do not think a spanking is the best method of discipline for children, I decided to play off this video that I just described, and show how I think it would better be handled. Instead of a mom with an electrical cord screaming “motherfucker” throughout, I went with an angry, but at least respectful dad. After a quick lecture about her posting half naked pictures of herself on Facebook, she is taken over the knee for a very long and hard bare bottom spanking. Of course, just as with all of these videos that are popping up on the web, he films it all on his cell phone to post to her FB account. Here is an animation from the recent video in the member’s area of Realspankings.com
World Spanking Forum
Many of you have noticed that the World Spanking Forum is currently having issues. We had a major crash of our database just before I left the country for the holidays. At the moment, I am not sure the best resolution, as the techs are struggling with it all. I am considering a new and improved relaunch of the site, as the older version is well outdated and is on an older server. I am now back, please give us a little time as we work out the best solution.
Saturday, January 02, 2016
Tumblr
For whatever reason, three years later, 8000+ posts, and 10,000+ followers, Tumblr deleted my account with warning. Customer service finally answered and stated “misleading links” as the reason for account deletion, which is bullshit, all links went to my sites, or PPV movies. Either way, I have started again. It will take a few months but I will get all content back in place. You can visit the new one here
Thursday, December 17, 2015
Bare your bottom and present it for your spanking
As a lifelong spanko there are many aspects of spanking that I find very exciting. I think everyone in our kinky little community has their own particular things that turn them on about spanking. I have talked at length about many of these topics, but today I wanted to discuss the presentation of the bottom to be spanked. For me, this is one of the most important and most exciting aspects of a true punishment spanking. Many people simply see it has functional, but for me it means so much more than that. It really is the heart and soul of a spanking as it defines the whole process.
I will never find a spanking exciting in which one person has to hold another person down in order to apply a punishment. A spanking, one that is truly deserved, and has been earned, should be a cooperative event. The person that is to be spanked knows on some level that they have earned this spanking. The entire reason this event is even taking place is as a result of their behavior. The person applying the spanking is not doing it for personal gain, it is the exact opposite. They are taking the time out of their day to apply a spanking because it is needed.
When the naughty young lady presents her bottom to be spanked, it is an acknowledgement that she knows that she misbehaved. Yes, she could run or refuse to be spanked, but instead she bends over and presents her bottom to be punished because she knows she needs it. She knows that the person tasked with her discipline is doing it for her own good. By presenting her bottom she is also giving consent to be punished.
There are a few variations on this process, both of which I find appealing. The first is in which I personally bare her bottom for her spanking. This gives an added dynamic of control and clearly defines who is running the show. There are really no situations in life, outside of sexual interactions, in which one healthy adult undresses another. In a sexual interaction, people undress each other in anticipation of pleasure and it is an act that is very much looked forward to. But when I lower a young lady’s pants and panties as a result of her behavior, it will be anything but pleasurable.
It demonstrates that her behavior has led us to a place in which I now need to take charge. I am not only in charge of her discipline, but if I choose to, I will also undress her to the level that I feel is required to make the point that needs to be made. This also tends to take her back a little and adds a parental feeling to the whole process, which is a good thing, as if she is acting in a manner as an adult that requires a spanking, then she has some growing up to do.
While I feel there are many situations that call for me removing the necessary clothing for the punishment, there is also something quite exciting and powerful about her presenting her own bare bottom to me to be spanked. Once again, her clothing is not coming off for pleasure and the moment she starts to unbutton her pants, she knows that things just became more serious. She now knows that her behavior requires her to go through a process that is going to make things much more painful. Even better, I am not going to this for her, she is going to have to go through all the steps on her own to put her bottom is a state that will allow more pain to be provided.
The last thing she wants is to be spanked, and even worse to be spanked on the bare bottom. But at this moment, under these circumstances, she finds herself doing exactly as she is told because this is her spanking and she has earned it. A lot of the spankings I provide in private are to young ladies that I may actually be meeting face to face for the first time. The overall punishment value is raised considerably when a man that she is not intimate with is demanding that she expose herself from the waist down. Before the very first swat her punishment has already started as a result of having to lower her pants and panties in front of someone she does not even know.
Even more exciting for me in this process, is the fact that she will now have to present her bottom in whatever manner I find to be the most effective for the application of pain to her bottom. There are many steps in the overall process of a spanking, but it is pretty clear that once a bottom is bared, and then presented to be spanked, that all that is left is the actual spanking. Many roads have led to this very moment, but it is actually happening and is now very real. This is not always easy for many young ladies and I have seen people struggle to actually perform this task.
You can see the hesitation, fear, and apprehension in their eyes as they are told to bend over. They know this is the last thing that they not only have to do before getting spanked, but do so voluntarily. I am not going to bend her over, she needs to find the courage to do it herself, and knowing what will happen once her bottom is in the air, it is not always easy. But this is one of the most important parts of a spanking, as until she has bared her bottom and presented it properly, she has not submitted or surrendered to the fact that she is indeed going to be spanked.
This is the moment in which she fully owns the behavior that led her here in the first place. It is a physical act that acknowledges that what she did was wrong. It allows her to take total ownership for her attitude or behavior that was found to be clearly unacceptable. This makes it HER spanking, she has earned it, it is not for me, it is for HER. If she was in trouble and I grabbed her forcefully, pulled her over my lap, and held her in place for her spanking, it would not mean as much for her personal growth.
Another difficult part of this very important process, for the person that is about to be spanked, is that they are not only baring their bottom and presenting it, they are actually doing so in a manner that allows me to provide the most effective spanking as possible. Position is very important in regards to what implement will be used. When I am asking her to present her bottom for a spanking, I am asking her to present it in a way that will allow me to apply as much pain as I can. When she sees that heavy wooden school paddle in my hands, and I tell her to lower her pants and her panties, then turn around and grab her ankles, this is not as easy task.
She does not want to expose herself from the waist down for me. She absolutely does not want to be in such a vulnerable, humiliating, and embarrassing position in front of me. She does not want everything between her legs to now be on display. But most of all, she does not want anything to do with my heavy paddle being applied forcefully to her bare bottom. But when it comes down to it, even with her whole body shaking, she finds herself doing exactly as she was instructed.
The reason she is doing this, is because it is being done for her. She may fear it on every single level that she can, but she still complies with what she has been instructed to do. She knows, deep down, that this process is going to help her be a better person. She knows that this behavior, that she cannot seem to control on her own, has a good chance of being eliminated as a result of this entire process.
She knows as she is lowering her pants and baring her bottom that it is going to hurt so much more. She knows that by grabbing her ankles that this paddling is going to be just about as bad as a paddling can be. She also knows that once she actually goes through with bending over, that a pain that she has never known before will be just seconds away.
She also knows that she has earned everything that she is about to receive. She knows that I will apply this spanking in a manner intended to permanently change her behavior. There will be tears and they will last for quite a while. Her bottom will hurt very much during the spanking and will continue to hurt for a few days. She will learn a very real lesson as a result of very real discipline and if all goes well there will be a very real change in her behavior.
But none of this can actually happen until she bares her bottom, turns around, a presents it to be punished.
All of these animations and the young ladies presenting their bottoms to be spanked below are from video in the member’s area of Realspankings.com
Wednesday, December 16, 2015
School Paddling- Short Shorts and Yoga Pants
School corporal punishment is still widely used in the Southern US for a reason…it works. On a daily basis young ladies are required to bend over a desk, or place their hands on their knees, or maybe even required to grab their ankles for many hard swats with a wooden school paddle. Unfortunately for these young ladies, they do not get to decide what they wear for their paddling as it generally happens on the same day that the infraction occurs. With the popularity of yoga pants, and daisy duke shorts, you can count on the fact that many young ladies find themselves assuming the position wearing something that adds very little protection and also provides little in the way of modesty. She may have choose that outfit that morning to show her cute little bottom off to the boys in the hallway of her school, but she had no idea she would be bending over and presenting it to the principal for a paddling she would never forget.
In our latest release we highlight this exact concept and show you what true school corporal punishment applied over yoga pants or short shorts looks like. In this 70 minute video, you will watch 16 different scenes in which school corporal punishment is applied in the most realistic and severe manner. These are not playful little paddlings with tiny little paddles. You will witness first-hand the effect that full force swats, with very large and heavy school paddles, can have on a young lady’s attitude and more importantly…her bottom. Through a variety of positions you will see how lessons are learned when corporal punishment is used in a manner designed to do one thing…bruise a young lady’s bottom.
Each scene features two camera angles so you can see each swat hit her young bottom as well as her facial reaction to each severe swat with a heavy wooden paddle. In each and every scene, when the girl finds a moment to herself, you will see her reveal her bare bottom and show you exactly the kind of results a true school paddling can produce. You will see that every single girl ends up with a much bruised bottom, and many are left in tears. The one thing that is common to each scene is a young lady taught a very serious lesson and changes in behavior. For fans of realistic and severe corporal punishment, this video is not to be missed.
Now available at Spanking Library
Tuesday, December 15, 2015
Models having fun
So after the shoot yesterday, one in which I paddled both girls black and blue, I went and changed. When I came back in the room, KJ was taking selfies with her and Syrena’s bruised bottom, so I took a picture to share with you. Tell me these girls do not love their jobs.
Thursday, December 10, 2015
OTK- 2015 Part 2 PPV
And now I present part 2 of the OTK PPV. Part 2- When a young lady finds herself requiring discipline, a very effective and intimate way to apply her spanking if the over the knee position. In this 78 minute video, you will watch 12 different models; in 17 different scenes get her bottom blistered in the otk position. Through the application of the hand, paddle, and heavy wooden hairbrushes, you will see how very real lessons are learned. Now available at my Spanking Library Store.
Monday, December 07, 2015
OTK- 2015 Part 1 PPV
When a young lady finds herself requiring discipline, a very effective and intimate way to apply her spanking is the over the knee position. In this 72 minute video, you will watch 17 different scenes in which a young lady has her bottom blistered while OTK. Through the application of the hand, wooden spoons, paddles, and heavy wooden hairbrushes, you will see how very real lessons are learned. Now available at Spanking Library
Thursday, November 19, 2015
OTK Straddle Spanking
Here is out latest PPV release, featuring a very unique way to spank a naughty young lady. “There are times when a spanking needs to be made a little more memorable, or even more embarrassing. In this 58 minute video, 7 different girls, in 11 different scenes learn exactly what it is like to have their private parts on display as they receive the hand spanking of their lives. Each and every scene features a young lady not only going over the knee, but spreading her legs and straddling a knee for the most embarrassing spankings of their lives.”
Available now at Spanking Library
The use of the hairbrush for a severe punishment spanking
As a deviant that really loves to spank, I have been blessed over the years to really pursue all of my spanking fantasies. Most people think that this takes place while I am working, but that is not really what fuels my fantasies. For me, I do not find what I seek from spanking paid models or play parties, as rarely in those situations am I spanking someone who really deserves it, which is the most important factor for me. Yes, there have been a few scenes that I have done over the years, for my sites, in which real discipline was actually taking place (the real discipline with Michael Masterson scenes, as well as several Brandi scenes, and recently a couple scenes with Syrena), but that is not the norm for what I do at work.
My fantasies, as they have always existed in my head, have been explored in the comfort of my own home, without any camera being turned on. There have been dozens and dozens of private discipline sessions in which someone has sought me out, traveled to my location, for a well-deserved punishment. In these cases the discipline is very real, as are the offenses, but it is a little more difficult in that they had to travel for me for their punishment, leading to most communication being via email. Of these types of relationships, the ones that have been most fulfilling to me were people who at least lived locally. This allowed for the spanking to take place as soon as possible after it was required.
At the very top, as far as fulfilling spanking fantasies, have been relationships in which domestic discipline was involved. As I have stated too many times, we are discussing domestic discipline relationships in which the person being punished by me, had a desire to be spanked. In most cases, these relationships grew out of someone that was already reporting to me for private discipline. I have never really assumed the “daddy” role, as that is not really my thing, however, these types of relationships do lend themselves greatly to a daddy/daughter sort of relationship.
While no one has ever been required, or even allowed, to call me daddy, the relationship tends to fit quite nicely into a strict father with an older teen daughter still living at home, as the requirements for both relationships are quite similar. For a women living under my roof, that wants to have discipline in her life, I will have similar expectations. I will want the very best for her and will expect her to work hard at anything and everything she does. There will be clearly defined rules that will result in discipline if broken. There will be chores that help in the running of the household. She is required to live her life in a safe and healthy manner. Education, on any level is something very important and is to be taken very seriously, even if it is just finding the time each day to read a little. Exercise and fitness are very important and need to play a major role in her life, and so on. As you can see, these are the same requirements that any older teen still living at home could possibly be faced with.
Take all of those and factor in basic no no’s in life such as drinking and driving, texting and driving, staying out too late, getting too drunk, and things a little less severe such as not calling when late, procrastination issues, not picking up after herself, etc., and you have a pretty good list that allows for fairly frequent spanking, without there being any role playing required. The roles are indeed quite real; there is nothing fake about any of it. Yes, it might be a little odd to some, that legal adults have chosen a lifestyle in which a man can spank a woman whenever the moment requires it, but there is a lot of good that can come from all of it.
So this leads me, in a very roundabout way, to the topic for today, and that is choice of spanking implements, and the importance of having that one implement that is really reserved for the worst case punishment. In a relationship such as this, especially when she does have a desire to be spanked, a spanking is going to happen fairly often. The rules are purposely rigid to make sure that anything but her very best behavior will result in a spanking. This is not to say that I do not apply each and every spanking with the goal of eliminating such behavior, but there has to be a balance. I am not going to beat her poor bottom black and blue, for leaving her dirty clothes on the floor after being asked not to. She is going to get a spanking, a very memorable spanking that will lead to tears, but not every spanking she receives is going to be the most severe of her life. However, I do need to make sure that every spanking is not one that she enjoys and would not want repeated anytime soon.
With fairly frequent spanking as the norm, especially with the current naughty girl in my life, I tend to have go to implements that are used most often. It should come as no surprise if you have watched my videos or read here at all, that the belt and paddle are my two favorites. I make it a point that any belt I put on in the morning is one that will be effective for discipline, so by default, that is always a choice when the moment calls for it. I also think that the belt carries a certain stigma to it, and as many young ladies grew up feeling it, it will always have a special meaning. I like that a belt, especially the ones I choose to wear, can be used effectively over clothing or on the bare. I also like the fact, being that I often like to administer discipline on the spot, is that we can be out and about and I always have an implement with me. I have been forced to be creative at times, but for just about any occasion, I can find that quick and private little spot to wear her bottom out when needed.
I think my obsession with the paddle is as simple as growing up in a school system in which anyone, at any given time, could be told to bend over for a paddling. Most corporal punishment is far more private, so the knowledge, and occasional proximity to a school paddling, forever etched the paddle into my mind with spanking. The day that I rented my first real house, before we were even unpacked, I was in the garage making my first paddle ever, as I now had a place to do so privately. My personal paddle collection, not counting work paddles, is in excess of 50 different wooden paddles. But true to my roots, with as many choices that I have, the school type paddles see the most use.
The paddle really is the ultimate punishment tool. It works in every single situation in which corporal punishment is required. It is the great equalizer of spanking implements in that it is effective over any variation of clothing. She could be wearing pj’s, a work skirt with pantyhose, or tight jeans and full underwear…it does not matter. With the proper paddle selection, I can teach a very real and very immediate lesson with a good paddle. Even better, I can get my point across with just a few swats. A small offense, fine, 6 swats with a paddle over her clothes. A severe offense, 20 on the bare bottom is more than enough to leave her bruised and sore. If she requires a quick reminder as we head out the door, there does not need to be some big production, clothing removed, we can just walk into the bedroom, and in less than 30 seconds she is walking tearfully to the car.
Even though I can use a paddle and turn it into the most severe punishment, there still has to be that one implement, the one that is never used, unless she is about to be taught the lesson of her life. I find it important to always be able to take discipline to the next level when required. This is why pretty much every spanking I give is right around 80%. If she is getting all wiggly and won’t stay in position, she needs to know that I can turn it up a notch if needed. Well the same holds true with the paddle. She knows it hurts, she knows it can be the worst thing ever, but she needs to know there is a different implement and a different level that I will go to if her behavior requires it. It is this threat, and fear, that helps stop the dangerous behaviors that involve her own, or someone else’s safety.
In my home, this implement has always been a heavy wooden hairbrush. I am not taking about a brush from Target, with plastic backing, or some thin little crappy wood. I am talking about a heavy wooden hairbrush at least an inch thick. This is an implement that is so very capable of making a permanent change in behavior. Yes, I do indeed have paddles that are an inch thick, that could probably produce the same results, but this is my chosen implement for those times when such a lesson is really needed. As my home is not a spanking studio, and I try and keep it as vanilla as possible, there are not just implements lying around. But just like a belt, a hairbrush is a very common thing to see in someone’s home. My favorite hairbrush, meaning the one that sucks the most, is always sitting out in plain view in the bedroom or bathroom. This allows her a daily reminder, even as she just brushes her teeth, that this is an option depending on her behavior. I guarantee that she can recall with vivid detail each and every time she has felt it on her bottom. When it is used, it is used with great intensity. There can never be that time, in which she was spanked with the brush, when it was not “that bad”. I need that brush to conjure up fear, pain, and remorse every time she even glances at it.
There are a few reasons why the hairbrush is so feared on our home. The first is the manner in which I use it. Even with a severe paddling, the overall event may only consist of 20-30 swats, as that is more than enough to make my point. But with a hairbrush, I treat it basically the way I do a handspanking, a punishment that is defined by minutes, not swats. I prefer to administer it otk, as this allows me to help keep her in position. Yes, I am big on people assisting in their punishment by cooperating and holding still, but with the brush, I know that might not be fully possible. With a paddle, the swats are generally spaced out a little bit, but with the brush I treat it just like a handspanking and spank as fast as I can while still creating the amount of intensity that is required. While thicker than a typical paddle, it has a much smaller striking surface, but this is used to my benefit. With a paddle, hard swats need to be closely monitored to assure that I am avoiding the tailbone. This leads to pretty much all swats hitting in generally the same area. Also with a school paddle, due to its size, I do not spank cheek to cheek, so this leads to her right cheek getting punished more than the left. But with a brush, and knowledge of exactly where her tailbone is, I am free to work a much larger portion of her bottom.
Each swat on the bare bottom, with my heavy hairbrush, leaves a large bull’s eye bruise. With a paddle I am only able to bruise part of her bottom, but with the brush, I can work everywhere but where her tailbone sits. I am very big on leaving a “visual indicator” on someone’s bottom so they can not only feel the results of their behavior, but they can also see it. With a brush, I can literally turn her entire bottom black and blue. The smaller striking surface also allows me to really focus the spanking on the areas that I know she will be feeling it the most. There is no school paddle that allows me to really work the inside portion of the bottom of her butt cheek. With a brush, I can use one hand to gentle spread her cheeks, and make sure that the inner area, as close as I can safely get to her vagina, receives the attention that it requires.
This also allows me to really work the “sit spot” in a manner that I cannot accomplish with any other implement. As I stated before, a paddling can really take care of this area, but it tends to not be balanced. While I will cover as wide an area as I safely can with a brush, she can count on the part of her bottom that touches when she sits to be visited far more frequently. While I may use 10-12 swats on each pass to take care of just one butt cheek, I will always put at least that many swats on a single spot, on that same pass. Remember, this is a “holy shit” sort of offense and I am looking for results. With the hairbrush, the goal really is for her not to be able to sit the next day, and I assure you, it is possible.
The entire process will last up to five minutes and she will be in tears from the very first swat. Nothing really takes someone’s breath away like a full force hairbrush stroke on the bare bottom. She will kick, squirm, and wiggle for the first minute or so, but her body will eventually help her cope. Anything after that first minute is more for the next few days, as she will slowly be able to handle the intensity of the brush. But just because she is no longer fighting it, and it does not seem to be having the same effect, it does not mean I stop. I try to be quite meticulous in my coverage, as I really do want her to see what her behavior caused. While it will appear as several hundred little bull’s eyes, it will eventually lead to one very bruised bottom that will sort of merge together over time. I use the time when her endorphins are really kicking to make sure that the entire lower portion of her bottom is as sore as I can possibly get it. One must be very careful when going below the bottom, but I have found that the first couple of inches of her upper thighs, when also punished, tends to help with the long term learning.
When it is all said and done, the results are generally a very worn out and tired young lady who has exhausted herself mentally and physically. Her bottom will be pretty much numb for a little while; it is just hard to avoid that. But we both know from experience that this will not be the case for very long, and that soon, the real punishment will begin. Being a spanko, once she has calmed herself down, she always goes to look at her bottom in the mirror. On one such occasion, she had pulled the full length mirror off the wall and was sort of squatting over it, pressing on her bottom which was completely swollen and hard to the touch everywhere. She knows that she will only “enjoy” it for less than an hour, because then the reality sets in. The reality that eventually sets in is the fact that her bottom is sorer than most people can actually imagine.
The next morning is pretty much always the worst, and in my experience it can go one of two ways. The first option, the preferred option, is she is feeling remorseful and very sorry for her actions. There is typically a sense of relief, in that if a punishment of this intensity was required, then chances are there was some serious tension between us, as well as something that she was feeling extremely bad or guilty about. Knowing her actions were leading up to this spanking, there is also much relief that it is over and behind us. Yes, she is incredibly sore, very hesitant to even try and sit down, so clearly learning is still taking place. But this also leads to a bit of a bonding process, with me having had the strength and the courage to give her the spanking that she had earned, choosing to give her everything that she needed and not stopping regardless of how much it hurt and how bruised her bottom was becoming. While all is certainly forgiven, this is not to say that I slack on the rules in any way just because she can’t sit down. It is her behavior that decides when her next spanking is, not mine. But when things go this way, the way they should, I tend to allow her to care for her bottom is any manner that she chooses, meaning, if she chooses to stand for breakfast, that is her decision and one I can respect. I do not go out of my way to provide additional discomfort and just allow the current soreness to be the consequence.
But there are indeed those times in which a young lady does not fully learn from such and experience and chooses to handle it a different way. This way would involve a lot of bitching, moaning, and carrying on about how sore she is. This is not remorse or even ownership of her punishment, it is the exact opposite, and I have very little tolerance for such things. I took the time to help her, with something so completely wrong and horrible, a behavior that could possibly lead to arrest, or injury, and went out of my way to make sure that she was punished in such a way to discourage it from ever happening again, and now she is giving me attitude because she can’t really sit down? What part of her not being able to sit down is my fault? I did not spank her for fun, or because I was horny, or even because I am mean, I spanked her, long and hard with my hairbrush, to effect change. Being bitter, and sarcastic, are not the signs of someone who has learned a lesson. It demonstrates behavior that further requires my attention.
I wrote recently about the bike seat discipline that I chose one day after such a punishment, and it was exactly that behavior, immediately following the spanking, and again the next morning that led to this. I can be quite forgiving of someone who learned their lesson and chose to start fresh the next day, but I can be a literal pain in the ass when a different attitude emerges. So if she did not learn her lesson, we will capitalize on the previous spanking, and make sure the lessons continues. A girl with an attitude like that can count on spending a lot of time sitting the next day or two. She can also count on there being a piece of wood on any padded furniture that she chooses to sit on. She may indeed find herself on a bike seat or in corner time on a wooden stool, with her feet elevated to put all of the pressure on her bottom. Or, she may find herself grabbing her ankles for a session with my belt, like the one time these words were spoken, “easy for you to say when your ass is not fucking sore”. You will be amazed at the effectiveness of the belt on a bottom in that state, the very next day. But she needed a very clear reminder that I was not the one that “made her ass so fucking sore”, it was only her that was responsible.
The point I am really trying to make with this post is that even in a spanking relationship, in which severe spanking tends to be pretty close to the norm, there has to be a next level. As the level of bad behavior increases, so does the resulting punishment. There may have been a particular spanking that was a 10 on the pain scale, well guess what, today we find what 12 feels like, because as long as her behavior requires it, I will do what is necessary to effect the necessary change.
All images and animations come from very real hairbrush spankings that I have personally administered in the member’s area of Realspankings.com
Wednesday, November 04, 2015
Using anticipation to increase the effectiveness of a punishment spanking.
Research has clearly demonstrated that a punishment is most effective when it is applied as soon as possible after the infraction. While I do know that this in indeed the case, I often like to delay the actual spanking once a transgression has taken place. I do believe in addressing the behavior the moment it takes place, but I feel that a spanking can often be made more effective by delaying it. For today’s blog post I will go through what I feel to be the most effective ways to use anticipation to enhance the overall effectiveness of a spanking.
A method I often use, and one that is quite popular with parents that utilize corporal punishment, is to send the offender to another location to wait for her punishment. She is not told how long she will have to wait, and in many cases, she is not even told what she will be spanked with. As she sits in the bedroom waiting, this really allows her imagination to get the best of her. As much as she might try to distract herself, her mind is always brought back to the fact that she is about to have her bottom blistered. This adds a lot of overall stress to the event, which I see as a positive thing. We want all aspects of a disciplinary spanking to be as memorable as possible, so any tool that I can use to make the entire experience undesirable, I will put into action.
As she is sitting there, she is able to run 100’s of scenarios through her head, as well as reflect on previous spankings she has endured and contrast them to what she is in trouble for this time. She is forced to consider every implement that I own, as she has no idea what is about to be used on her. She might try and convince herself that it will not be that bad this time, while just seconds later the thought of the last time the hairbrush was used on pops into her head. This gives her time to not only reflect on the punishment she is about to receive, but to revisit many past punishments in her head. Even for those that enjoy spankings on some level, the anticipation can often be as bad as the punishment itself.
I like to capitalize on the stress, fear, and anticipation that she is feeling at the moment as much as possible. For anyone, as a child, teen, or adult, that has ever experienced this moment of anticipation, there is a particular moment that really defines this whole experience, and that is often footsteps headed in your direction, or the sound of the knob turning on the door. It can best be compared to the moment that you look in your rear-view mirror and see a cop with light on behind you. It gives you that rush of adrenaline that sweeps through your body, and instantly increases your heart rate. It is at this moment that the stress levels go through the roof, as you know the moment that you have been dreading for at least several minutes is finally about to happen. In my home, there is no carpet, with hardwood floors throughout so the sounds of footsteps carry very well. When I have a young lady sitting on my bed waiting for her punishment, I make a point of getting up and walking in that general direction every five to ten minutes. This allows her to experience that “oh shit” moment at least a few times before her punishment actually begins. Even better, I will walk all the way to the bedroom, and turn the knob on the door, before going back to whatever I was doing, and allowing her more time to consider her behavior.
This same scenario can be further enhanced by adding additional elements to the process. One that I find is very effective, especially if she is in a considerable amount of trouble, is to have her get the implement that is to be used on her, and have her hold it while she waits. This is not quite as effective for lesser punishments utilizing a lighter implement, in which case I would rather have her guessing what is to be used, so she can picture the worst. But if I am going to paddle her bottom with a heavy wooden school paddle, or use a hairbrush, I will probably send her to wait with it in her hand. With the implement in hand she is better able to visualize and imagine just how very bad it will be. We have added a tactile element to the equation and she can actually touch and feel the implement. She will not only be able to see the implement that is going to be used, but to feel its weight. Knowing that she is going to be paddled is one thing, but holding the actual implement really allows her to contemplate exactly how it is going to feel, and more importantly, the long term effects of such a heavy implement.
Another element that can be used when a young lady is sent to her room to wait for her spanking is varying degrees of nudity. This can be as simple as her being told to sit with her pants and panties at her ankles, all the way to her being fully nude. Even in the privacy of the home, for many people, having some or all of their clothing removed adds a feeling of vulnerability. This is supposed to be a real punishment so I have no problem in doing whatever I can to make the overall experience as bad as possible. Beyond just the physical pain, if I can play on emotions such as fear, apprehension, embarrassment, stress, and vulnerability, I will do it every time. I am trying to create an overall experience that will decrease the likelihood of the behavior ever being repeated and will put everything into play that I think will help. It is one thing to be in trouble and to be told to bend over for your paddling, it is a far different experience to be told to strip naked, grab the paddle, and go wait in your room until I am good and ready to bruise your bottom.
Something else that I use quite often is to have her assume the position that she is going to be punished in, and then just have to wait. Typically she will not be required to hold a position as long as I would make her wait in the bedroom, but there is no reason, depending on the position, that she cannot wait five to fifteen minutes for her spanking to start. On many occasions I have required a naughty young lady to drop her pants and panties, right there in the middle of the living room, and grab her ankles for a spanking, only to then finish watching whatever show that happens to be on TV, or at least wait for a commercial break. This not only adds a bit of a physical stress to the overall punishment, but once again leads to feelings of embarrassment and vulnerability. It also helps her completely visualize exactly what is going to happen. Just as with the footsteps down the hall, every time the program goes to a commercial break, her body goes through that “oh shit” moment as she considers if her spanking is about to begin.
The next method that I use to increase the feelings of anticipation for a spanking is to cover the offense, tell her the punishment, and then “sentence” it for a particular time. There are a few different ways to accomplish this. The first is to tell her exactly when and where her spanking will occur. I am quite fond of a punishment being handled at the beginning of the next day, so a young lady might find herself at work with a recently spanked bottom. Or, if possible, trying to choose a time that is quite fitting for the punishment. Consider the young lady who went out with friends for drinks and then came home far later than she said and without informing me. It seems perfectly reasonable that the next time that she goes out, that she does so with a bruised bottom, so she will have a very real reminder for the duration of that outing to assure the same thing does not happen again.
Another variation that I have found to be very effective, especially when it comes to more severe punishments, is to tell her exactly what she has coming, and then tell her that we will take care of it later. “Later” is not defined in any way, which leaves her with the thought that it could occur at any time. This might be five minutes, five hours, or even better, five days later. What this does is really allow for reflection on exactly what she did wrong. A couple of days later, she is trying her best to go through her day as she normally would, but every few minutes the thought of the looming punishment will cross her mind. If I have promised her five minutes over my knee, for a hard bare bottom session with my heavy wooden hairbrush, there is really nothing that can completely remove that from her mind. This allows for her mind to frequently consider this event, while at the same time, considering why it is going to happen.
I have listened to and read many accounts of school corporal punishment in which both of these techniques are used. In some cases, all the paddlings that take place in a school, happen at the same time while class is not in session. This might mean a young lady has to report to the office at the end of the day, or to come to school early the next morning for her paddling. In the famous case of Amber Page, at Grand Prairie high school in Texas, she was not paddled the Friday that she was caught smoking, but told that she would indeed be paddled. The next Monday she wore four pairs of shorts to school, with overalls on top, hoping to have a well-padded bottom for her paddling. Her actual paddling did not take place until a full week later. For the young lady that tried to get to sleep at night knowing that she will be paddled the next morning, all the way to 17 year old Amber, who went to school each and every day for a full week not knowing if that would be the day, you would have to imagine that the sense of anticipation influenced the effectiveness of the punishment in general.
The final variation, one that I have written about in great detail many times before, is corner time. While many utilize corner time after a punishment, I am more likely to use it before. It plays on many of the things I have already described, but it tends to help her focus completely on her behavior and the punishment that is about to happen. When a punishment is sentenced for a different time or date, she will find moments throughout her day in which she is able to distract herself from what she knows will be happening in the future. But with corner time, especially if done right, you are removing all distractions from her mind, except the upcoming spanking and what she did to earn it. I try to place her in place in which there is no external stimuli to distract her from the task at hand. There will always be some degree of nudity, and often it will be a position that is difficult to maintain, which forces her to be focused. Something as simple as requiring her to hold a coin against the wall with her nose, or to kneel with her feet having to remain off the ground, keeps her completely on task and does not allow the mind to wander. This allows her to think about only one thing, the fact that her behavior, led her to a place, in which she not only earned a spanking, but deserves one.
When someone engages in a behavior, which previously has not only been agreed upon as unacceptable, but it has been agreed upon that will be result in a physical punishment, it is best to address it the moment it happens. But, by utilizing some of the techniques above, it is possible to allow anticipation to be an effective addition to any punishment.
All images in this post come from the very real punishment videos in the member’s area of Realspankings.com