Tuesday, September 15, 2015
Behind the Scenes
A little peek behind the scenes from this morning’s shoot.
Tuesday, September 08, 2015
Washing her mouth out with soap as a proper punishment
I find washing a young lady’s mouth out with soap to be a very effective punishment, especially if you know that on some level a spanking is something that she enjoys. As I am one to do my very best to make a punishment fit the crime, a mouth soaping is applicable in many situations, as a young lady’s mouth often gets her into trouble. But just because there is no physical application of pain, this does not mean a mouth soaping is a walk in the park. Just as with a spanking, I work very hard to make sure the punishment is very effective, and I spend the time to make sure it is severe and that a proper lesson is learned. I would never give someone a handspanking, over their clothing, which only lasts 30 seconds, as lessons are not learned this way. That is why when a mouth soaping is applied it cannot be as simple as her holding a bar of soap in for mouth for a given period of time. Let’s take a look at what I see to be the proper steps for making a mouth soaping a true punishment.
You have to be careful with your soap selection, and want to choose a bar of soap that is free of chemicals and perfumes. My go to bars, which I buy in bulk at Costco, are the Dove pure white bars. I prefer the largest bar that they sell, as it allows me better coverage of her mouth. I never give a mouth soaping with soft soap, as it does not provide the same experience as a bar of soap. Simply pumping a few squirts of soap in someone’s mouth is hardly a punishment at all. With a full size bar of soap I am able to provide a longer lasting and more memorable experience for the young lady whose mouth requires discipline.
The first step is to place her in front of a sink and get the water to the proper warm temperature. I prefer to do this in a bathroom, as opposed to the kitchen, as I want to administer her punishment while she can see herself in the mirror. This allows her to see the soaping take place, which I believe adds to the overall effectiveness, as she can see exactly what her behavior has produced. While I run the bar of soap under the water and begin to get it frothy, I require her to open her mouth and wait. This is very similar to someone presenting their bottom to be spanked. She has to stand there with her mouth open, as she watches me lather up the soap, leading to her anticipating exactly how bad this overall experience is going to be. Once I have gotten the soap to a state in which it is completely covered with bubbles it is time to begin her punishment.
On the first trip into her mouth, my goal is to cover as much area as possible. I am certainly not gentle, and I make sure that the bar covers everything from top to bottom and side to side. Once I have achieved good coverage, it is time to re-lather the bar. I scrub the bar hard under the warm water to achieve as much lather as possible. On the next trip into her mouth, the goal is to really work her tongue with the soap. This is obviously where the taste buds are and I want her to fully experience the bad taste of the soap in her mouth. I will require her to stick her tongue out to make sure that I can cover every single inch of it. I will once again do this until all of the lather has been transferred from the bar to her tongue.
Again, I go back to the running water and work the bar back up to a frothy mess. It really is important to continuously go back to the warm water as the goal is as much suds as possible, and as the bar heats up, it becomes easier. On the next trip into the naughty young lady’s mouth, I am basically going to brush her teeth with the bar of soap. While the previous trips were done with the goal of leavings as much suds as possible in her mouth, while using it on her teeth, my goal is to begin to leave small pieces of soap behind. I will have her close her mouth and smile, allowing me to work the fronts of her teeth. She will then be required to open her mouth wide and I will grind it on her molars, top and bottom, on both sides of her mouth. This is why a larger bar of soap is much better as it allows me to really grind it into her teeth, leaving as much of the bar behind as possible. From this point forward, each time I pull the bar from her mouth, I will pull up on it and scrape it across her front teeth. If done right, the bar should start to form little grooves as the soap is being left behind.
At this point, I will have achieved full coverage, but I am nowhere near being done. This is typically a good time to begin a conversation. She is able to limit the areas that the soap go in her mouth, especially the back of her mouth and throat, but by engaging in conversation, the soap tends to travel a little more. I will now ask her many questions and make sure that she is required to talk. This will also start the process of the soap running out her mouth and onto her chest. This allows her to see in the mirror exactly how ridiculous she looks, as a direct result of her behavior. Sometimes I will require her to hold the bar in her mouth why she answers my questions.
Now that I am sure that there is no area of her mouth that is untouched, and I am confident that bits and pieces of soap are trapped in her teeth, it is time to begin again. Remember, the goal is to change an undesirable behavior, so a few trips into her mouth with the soap is just not enough. The soap should be much more responsive to lathering at this point, and it is easier to get achieve even more suds. Once again, I am going to cover her entire mouth with the now extra sudsy bar. I will then re-lather and go to work on the tongue again. This time when I make her stick her tongue out, I am going to work the bottom and top of her tongue. The goal is not to just leave suds behind, but basically paint her entire tongue white.
With each new trip into her mouth I am going to be a little more aggressive with the soap. I will not be shy at all with it, and at some point I will make a little effort to spread it around the outside of her mouth as well. I want there to be a very visual indicator as to the trouble she is in, so the more soap she can see the better. Around the halfway point, I will make her hold the soap in her mouth for an extended period of time. Instead of making her hold it flat, I prefer to put in in her mouth sideways and make her hold it that way. This forces the mouth open wide and typically causes the soap to once again run from her mouth, down her chin, and onto her chest. While she holds the soap in her mouth she is able to watch, as she stands and drools the nasty froth down the entire front of her body.
Depending on the offense, I will make anywhere between six and twelve total trips into her mouth. The entire process of me actually applying the soap will typically last at least 10 minutes. Remember, this is not a spanking, so longevity and total coverage is the key to making it as memorable as possible. Once I have finally made the last trip into her mouth, she will once again be required to hold the bar in her mouth for an even longer period of time. For at least 10 minutes, she is required to stand there and look at herself in the mirror. Being that she will not want to swallow, for the duration of this period of time, the nasty froth will continue to run out of her mouth.
Once her corner time with the soap is complete, the punishment is in no way over. Just as with a hard spanking that leads to long term soreness, I want this punishment to last well beyond the actual application of the soap. This can be accomplished in a couple of different ways, depending on the severity of the offense. The more severe version is to allow her to spit into the sink as much as she needs to, to get as much soap as possible out of her mouth. Once that process is complete, she is to go about her normal day, but not allowed to rinse at all. This might create a little bit of a sour stomach, but sometimes this just needs to be part of the process to maximize learning. The other variation is to provide her with a small glass of water, and allow her to rinse, but only with the amount of water I provide. In both cases, there will absolutely be no brushing of her teeth until bedtime. I want there to be a considerable amount of residue in her mouth, and especially her teeth. This allows for additional learning for the remainder of her meals that day. Each and every time she chews, she will have an additional reminder to be on her best behavior as the soap will continue to present itself with each bite.
If this entire process is done right, it will indeed serve as a very good deterrent for future bad behavior. Unlike a spanking, there will be no pleasant glow to her bottom, leading to heightened sexual feelings. Instead, over the course of her day she will have a very bad taste to her mouth, with bits and pieces of soap constantly presenting themselves. There is nothing fun or sexy about a mouth soaping and it truly can be a very effective punishment if done properly and with the right amount of severity.
Monday, August 17, 2015
Bike Seat discipline
Over this past weekend I discovered a new, and very effective, manner in which to increase the discomfort of a punishment spanking and I thought I would share. On Friday afternoon, a special young lady in my life acted in a manner that required an immediate and very intense punishment. This was for something that has been a constant source of problems for her, and something that we have dealt with on many occasions before. THIS was the day in which I had to punish her in a manner with the intention of extinguishing the behavior permanently. I try not to get too detailed when it comes to the private discipline in my life, but I will say that her bottom was completely worn out and my heavy wooden hairbrush, belt, and wooden paddle.
This punishment led to her bottom being as bruised and sore as she has ever experienced in her life and that is saying quite a bit for this young lady. As you would expect, while her entire bottom was properly punished, I spent a considerable amount of time on the “sit spot”, as I wanted this lesson to stay with her for several days and needed her attention focused on the issue every time she tried to sit. Being that this was a very real punishment, for extraordinary offenses, I contemplated following up the next morning with another session with my brush. I know how effective a punishment, on a recently bruised bottom can be, and I felt strongly that a single spanking was not going to be enough to do the trick.
On Saturday morning, while I was making my morning tea in the kitchen, I made her present her bottom to me for an inspection of my work. With her pj’s around her ankles, in the middle of my kitchen, I had her grab her ankles so I could see how much progress we had made. Now, I am someone who is quite used to seeing a bruised bottom, but I have to admit I was a little surprised as to the results. Her entire bottom showed the results of the belt, more so on the right cheek, but it was clear that I had done a good job, with visible bruises covering almost her entire bottom. With the intensity that I used the heavy wooden brush, I was really limited to the lowest part of her bottom. As the goal was as much long term soreness as possible, I was layering the swats with the brush on the exact same two spots on her bottom. It was clear at the time of the spanking that by only hitting these two spots that she went numb pretty quickly. At one point she almost completely gave up any amount of struggle, which is a clear indication that her endorphins were flying into action. I see those moments as opportunities to work toward the long term goal of maximum soreness and simply continued spanking those two spots knowing that this was an investment in her future good behavior. But I was quite surprised as to how very effective it turned out to be as the two spots on her lower butt cheeks were as bruised as I have ever seen the next morning. Not only were these two spots bruised, they were still very swollen and quite hard to the touch. As I ran my fingers over these two spots she winced and was clearly in a lot more pain than she had experienced the night before.
With the thought of taking her back over my knee for another session with the brush still on my mind, after seeing how completely sensitive and sore that she was, I decided to capitalize on her current soreness in a different manner than another spanking. So we started our morning with tea on my deck, which meant that she would start her day sitting on the hard wrought iron patio chairs. When she sat down, after having asked if she could stand instead, it became abundantly clear that she was experiencing a level of soreness that was more intense than she had ever felt before. She squirmed in her seat for the duration of our tea and I decided at that point, that for the purposes of making sure that this was a lesson that she would never forget, we would have an entire day based on providing painful sensations to her bruised and sore bottom. As I contemplated how to best achieve this, I was struck with an idea that could not be any more perfect for this lesson.
After completing our morning routine, I told her to go and change for a day in the woods. She came out of the bedroom in a cute pair of athletic shorts, her hiking shoes, and a tank top. I went and changed, and as I came out of the bedroom, and she saw that I was wearing my mountain biking shorts, you could see the panic begin to set in. I did not address the issue and instead went to the garage to begin putting our mountain bikes on the rack on my truck. I filled our water bottles and we headed out, still without her addressing what was clearly on her mind. On the drive to one of my favorite trails, we drove in silence, as I know she was contemplating exactly how this was going to go. Our bikes are light and fast, with very minimal padding on the seats, and there is no doubt that this was going to be an experience that she would never forget. We arrived at the trailhead and I unloaded the bikes from the truck. She still had a bit of a panicked look on her face, which was further increased as she watched me lock the rear suspension on her bike. I wanted her to feel each and every bump on this rocky trail, so rear suspension would not be required. Before we mounted our bikes and headed out, I told her that while standing for the uphill sections was obviously required as it gets steep in spots, that she would spend 100% of her time on the flats and downhill sections, sitting fully on her seat. I made her lead so I could make sure that she did not stand the whole time and then the punishment began.
The trail is a 12 mile loop, about 1/3 on a forest road with the rest being rough single track. While it is not a very technically difficult trail, it is as bumpy as it gets with rocks embedded into a large portion of the route. From the moment her bruised bottom touched the seat, I could tell that very real learning was taking place. Even with my full suspension, this was wearing my ass out a little, but for her it was as bad as the spanking the night before. A bike seat tends to put all of the pressure onto two very specific areas of one’s bottom, and those happen to be the exact spots that were as sore as they possibly could be for her at that moment. I could tell by her movements and body language, as she road ahead of me, that this was an intense struggle for her. I watched as she negotiated some of the rougher downhill sections, trying her best to stay seated, but not fully being able to do so, as the pain was just far too intense. I found that this was far better than simply spanking her sore bottom again that morning, as she now had 12 miles to fully reflect on the behavior that she engaged in that lead to her bottom feeling this way in the first place. As I watched her, more and more often, lift her bottom off the seat during the flats and downhill sections, I knew that this had to be addressed. After all, this was her punishment, it was well earned, and by standing when she should be sitting and fully embracing her discipline, she was diluting the overall effectiveness of the lesson.
When we reached what we have always called “break rock” which is a great spot with amazing views at the top of the hardest climb, we hopped off of our bikes for a much needed break. I made her sit on the rock, as she clearly wanted to stand at this point. We drank water and each sucked down a power gel and soaked in the views. Well, I soaked in the views while she suffered as she tried to find a way to sit on a boulder with a sore bottom. I told her that she was cheating on the downhill and flats, and clearly that had to be addressed. I gave her my multi-tool and told her to go into the woods and cut a switch, so we could take care of this problem on the spot. I was a surprised as she teared up a little, but took the tool and headed into the woods. Normally, I might start to feel a little bad for her in a situation such as this, but the offense we were dealing with warranted each and everything that I was doing. If I did not see this completely to the end, then it would be MY fault if this behavior ever occurred again. I was bound and determined to see this one through and make sure to get the desired results. A couple of minutes later she emerged from the woods with three different switches in her hand. I inspected all three, chose the best two, and told her to get to cleaning them. She spent the next several minutes pulling the various small branches and leaves off of them, and then cleaning up the sharp edges using the knife on the tool.
With two perfect switches, we marched 100 yards or so away from the trail, to get to work. Her shorts and panties were dropped, and with her feet together, she bent over and grabbed her ankles. I then spent the next few minutes properly striping her bottom and thighs until both switches were as worn out as her bottom. When the desired results were achieved, we headed back to the bikes and continued our ride. For the duration of the ride, and for even a portion of the remaining climbs, her bottom was firmly planted on the saddle. It did indeed take a little reminder, but she eventually went along with the program and fully embraced the punishment ride. There were some extra tears on a few spots on the ride, but they were well deserved.
Unfortunately for her, when the ride was over, the punishment was not. We headed to our favorite mountain watering hole, and as you would expect, my decision as to where we would sit was based fully on discomfort. I went with the tall wooden bar stools on the patio, which had no padding and were tall enough that her feet did not reach the ground. As we enjoyed an adult beverage, I made sure that her feet hung down, not allowing her to put them on the crossbars on the stool legs. This forced all of the weight of her upper body onto her sore bottom, and the lesson that was still being learned was very clear on her face. She was also very self-conscious about her recently striped legs, which still showed the thin welts from her switching. The fact that her legs were striped was not my concern, as this was simply a fact of life from a well-earned switching.
The rest of our day went pretty much the same way. I went out of my way to make each and every moment of the day something that would add additional discomfort to her poor bottom. Remember, part of being good disciplinarians is the willingness to go above and beyond to make a punishment memorable and effective. My entire purpose was to make sure that this behavior was never again to be repeated. We finished our evening with a Redbox DVD rental, on my super comfortable home theater seating, that is after I cut a piece of plywood to perfectly fit her seat.
Monday, July 20, 2015
School paddling on security video
Friday, July 17, 2015
Bruised bottom in private and on camera
If you have spent any time at all on this blog you probably know how I feel about a spanking resulting in a sore bottom. I have found over the years that as a result of my feelings that any spanking should result in a very sore bottom, that people either love the videos I produce or find them far too severe for their tastes. I understand this, as not everyone engages in spanking activities, as a means of punishment. For many, spanking is a playful, loving, and highly sexual thing that is often just a fun means of foreplay. I will not fault anyone for these feelings, as spanking means different things to different people. But for me, even though there is indeed a sexual element, there is never anything at all sexual about the spankings that I administer on or off camera.
For me, spankings will always be about punishment and discipline. The most important parts of the spankings for me is the pain that they feel during the spanking, but even more importantly, the pain that they feel afterwards. A sore bottom really is the learning tool when it comes to a proper punishment. When I apply a serious disciplinary spanking in my private life, it rarely lasts more than five minutes. When we are dealing with serious behavior issues, five minutes is hardly enough time to really teach a proper lesson. That is why a sore bottom is so very important. I do not want, after a five minute punishment, for it all to just be over in the mind of the naughty girl. I want her to have a frequent reminder of her behavior for several days. The only way to accomplish this is to make sure that she was spanked in a manner that leaves her bruised and sore.
Many people think that a spanking that creates bruises is abusive. I would argue that the only way to actually create a change in behavior is to create a very sore bottom. We have to be honest in that a pink bottom does not hurt very much five minutes after the spanking is over. As someone who has some experience on the receiving end, I can tell you that five minutes after a spanking in which a bottom is only left pink, it kind of feels good. There is a tingly sensation, which spreads to your naughty regions, and leads to a much heightened sexual state. Does that sound like an experience that someone learns from? Of course not! What it does is promote bad behavior so they can feel that wonderful sensation again. But for many people, spanking is more of a game than an actual disciplinary process.
Within the relationships that I have had, beyond just being someone’s disciplinarian, but actually being in a romantic relationship in which some aspect of domestic discipline was utilized, I think in those cases the young ladies were quite surprised at how it turned out. They sought me out as I have an online presence and they see me as being able to provide something that they have always been searching for. A few of those relationships eventually turned romantic, which led to a couple that practice domestic discipline on a regular basis. I think that in their minds they were going to enter this world in which they were held accountable for their actions and at the same time their spanking fantasies would be fulfilled. The surprising part for them was how little they were actually spanked. The reason that there was so little spanking is that when they actually got in trouble, they were not just spanked, they were properly punished.
For many, spanking fantasies revolve around getting in trouble, getting lectured, having to bare their bottom, and assuming a position to be spanked. There is the idea of a strong man, who cares enough to take the time to discipline her, while providing love and comfort at the same time. Rarely in someone’s fantasies do they process how much potential a spanking has to actually hurt. Yes, they see themselves crying in these fantasies, but the reality of how that actually comes about is somewhat diluted in their minds. They might picture a childhood spanking, with a strict but loving father, in which they are over his knee for a couple of minutes warming their bottom. But these are grown women, with a desire to be spanked, that actually want a realistic punishment that is suitable for the behavior they have engaged in. The reason that they sought me out in the first place is that I believe in administering a spanking for disciplinary purposes.
I take this role very seriously and each and every time I give a disciplinary spanking in my private life, it is with the expressed goal and purpose to make her never want to ever feel this again. This might seem a little counter-intuitive when it comes to a spanking relationship. For most couples, both parties to a certain degree look forward to the next spanking that is going to take place. This leads to her getting a little bratty, or making little “mistakes” on purpose, so she can get her bottom warmed. But I see things much differently. I am not quick to spank for just any little thing. There are ample warnings, undesirable behavior is clearly defined, and there is very little room for misinterpreting rules and expectations. But when the time comes, that a spanking is required, it is going to be an event that she does not want repeated anytime soon.
The reason it will not be repeated anytime soon is because of where I started this post…pain and long term soreness. From the very first swat, she is going to not only regret her behavior, she is going to wish that this never happened in the first place. Her spanking fantasies go right out the window when I begin just as hard as I am going to end. I am not giving her some sort of silly warm-up, what purpose would that actually serve? I know that she likes to be spanked on some level, but this is an actual punishment, not role-play, so I am going to punish her. I am going to do nothing at all to feed her fantasies, instead I am going to provide her bottom with far more pain than she can handle and make her regret the decisions or actions that led her here in the first place.
I am also going to do this is such a way that when it is over, it is really just beginning. There will be lots of tears, there will be forgiveness, and I will comfort her when all is said and done. But I know that if I did my job properly, her lesson is just starting. I cared enough to make sure that her bottom was black and blue when I was done. Remember, this is not role playing, this is not foreplay, this is real life discipline for real offenses. These are offenses that we agreed she should be disciplined for. The purpose of this discipline was to decrease or eliminate this behavior all together. If I have just provided her with a spanking that she would want to receive again because it was sexy or made her all wet, then I failed. One of the ways I make sure that I achieve success in this area is to make sure her bottom not only hurts when she sits, but is unbearable. I want every second of the next few days to be all about her sore bottom. I do not want her to be able to put it in the back of her mind and dismiss it. Every time she takes a step, tries to sit, or even lay in bed at night, I want her focus to be on her sore bottom. More importantly, as she sits on a hard wooden chair the next day, and her eyes fill with tears again, I want her focus to be on why her bottom is that sore. Many may call it cruel, mean, or even abusive, I prefer to call it learning, an appropriate lesson, and progress.
I take the time to do the job properly, in a manner designed to achieve results. I was not fulfilling her spanking fantasy; I was providing much needed discipline. You would be very surprised at how well this actually works. Yes, I am talking about a relationship that was formed as a result of a mutual desire/need for spanking, a woman who actively sought me out as a result of the type of spankings that I can provide. But the reality of it all, once she found herself receiving a very real spanking, she was in no hurry to repeat it. Certainly behavior is as good as it gets for several days after her last spanking. My policy is that no previous spanking will affect the next one, only behavior influences when a spanking takes place. When it is almost too painful to sit, behavior becomes perfect for fear of what my paddle would feel like on that sore of a bottom. The progress really is made as a result of the sore bottom. There might be parts of the spanking that feed the very core of her fantasies, but spending days with a completely bruised bottom is not fun or sexy at all. More importantly, she will go out of her way to make sure that she does not feel that way anytime soon. So there have been many young ladies that have come to me to fulfill all of their spanking fantasies, only to realize that they would rather behave and work on achieving goals in their lives. Their lives become a big contradiction as they fantasize about nothing more than being spanked, yet they rise to the occasion to make sure they do not end up having their bottoms bruised.
While the models in my videos, for the most part, have not done anything to earn a proper punishment spanking, it is still what they are signing up for. The whole concept of my sites was to present spanking as it actually exists in the real world for discipline. This basically leaves us with parental spanking, school corporal punishment, judicial punishment, and to a lesser extent domestic discipline. In all of these instances, spanking is used as a punishment. There are no warm-ups in parental spankings or school corporal punishment, and that certainly is also not the case with judicial punishment. The goal of all of those spanking is to tear up the offender’s butt in such a way that they will no longer act that way. This is what I try to provide in my videos. Yes, concessions have to be made to account for the fact that this is a paid model, with very real limits. She has not actually done anything wrong and does not fully deserve what she is about to receive. But I believe very strongly that a real and proper spanking ends with a bruised and sore bottom.
My videos have achieved a lot of popularity as a result of the fact that the spankings are administered in a realistic manner. They in no way compare to the type of discipline I administer in private, but I do the best I can while still trying respect our model’s limits. This is not to say that limits are not pushed and expanded, as every model eventually ends up taking some pretty serious spankings. Many are quite surprised at how far they were really able to come. Because I feel so strongly that a real spanking results in a very sore bottom, that is the reality of our videos. It might happen over the course of a few different spankings scenes in one afternoon, but when all is said and done, these young ladies leave sitting gingerly for a few days. The whole point is that the spankings are very real and very real spankings result in bruised bottoms. Many models show up in skin tight jeans, but have learned over time to have a nice pair of baggy sweatpants to change into when they leave, as their sore and swollen bottoms no longer want to squeeze into those tight pants.
I often follow up with our models, especially after a fairly intense scene, and there is no doubt that these spankings results in long term discomfort. On the average, most models still display the results of their spanking for at least three days. Pretty much every shoot now includes a school paddling scene, which always leaves fairly long lasting bruises. It seems pretty typical that their bottoms are sore enough that sitting hurts the next day. We are not talking the same amount of discomfort as a private spanking with me, but they are certainly more than aware of their previous spanking. I have had models in the past; take the next day off from their desk jobs as they knew that eight hours in a chair was not an option for them at the moment. There is one current model, who has a very professional job, and I know she gets off on “her little secret”. She just loves the fact that she is sitting there, in a professional work environment, barely able to hold still because her butt is so sore. She loves that her bottom is black and blue and that only she knows. She has told me that she checks her bottom each and every time she uses the bathroom at work, and just loves the marks. Now, if I was only single, I could actually give her the real spanking that she deserves, one that makes it difficult to sit on at work, but it would be one that she would never again want to have repeated.
All animations used in this post come from scenes filmed in our new studio, in 2015, from the member’s area of Realspanking.com.
Realspankings Network Pay-Per-Views
We have put in a lot of time recently editing some of our very best work and putting it in a PPV format. I have personally indexed some of our best new scenes and grouped them into very specific categories for those that are specific in their spanking tastes. As I have always tried to do, I am giving you your money’s worth with each and every new PPV offering. If you look at the standard spanking PPV prices, you typically pay between $10-20 for way less than an hour’s worth of content. I tried to be very fair in my pricing and all of our new PPV movies run between 83 and 93 minutes and cost between $12-18 dollars. There is no better deal for a spanking PPV and clearly, there is no content as hard and as realistic as ours. Here are the trailers for our recent offerings. If you see something you like, please consider ordering. All of these movies are long, with hard content, and represent our very best work over the last two years.
School Paddling Punishments is a unique video that features scenes that recreates school corporal punishment as it is administered in real life throughout the Southern United States. The paddlings administered in this video are very realistic, with many leading to tears. You will witness the real reactions as young ladies feel the sting of a large wooden school paddle applied full force to their young bottoms. Highlights of this video include: - 14 separate scenes, with as many as 1-4 girls being paddled at a time. - 13 different young ladies are paddled, by 3 different male administrators. - Traditional school positions are utilized including bent over a desk, grabbing ankles, hands on knees, and hands on the walls. - Most punishments are administered over tight jeans, but we have also included a locker room paddling over gym clothes, and two punishments that are applied on their bare bottoms. - As a bonus, some scenes show the after effects and the young ladies drop their pants and show their bruised and sore bottoms. - All of the school paddlings show you the face view and the butt view of the paddling, so you are able to see each girl’s unique reaction to her punishment. - This video is 1 hour and 40 minutes in length, with a total of 199 swats applied in a very severe manner. These are not fun, or playful paddlings. This is real corporal punishment, with very real school paddles, swung full force, leaving this young ladies with very sore and bruised bottoms for days.
93 Minutes- $15.00
Girls getting a good whoopin’
When it comes to how corporal punishment is administered in the real world, most young ladies will tell you that they received the belt growing up. This video explores exactly how corporal punishment is actually administered in the homes of the US. This video is 1 hour and 28 minutes long and features 15 different young ladies receive strict and severe corporal punishment with a belt. There is nothing gentle about any of the scenes and the belt is applied full force from the beginning to the end. You will see blistered and bruised bottoms with many of these young ladies crying very real tears. There are both bare bottom and over the jeans whoopins applied, and for many of you out there, this will bring back very real memories.
87 Minutes- $12.00
Naked, Embarrassed, and Exposed, Part 1
There are those times is which a basic spanking is just not enough to get the point across. Some punishments require the addition of something else to make that spanking truly memorable. This 90 minute production features punishments in which naughty young ladies are required to strip fully naked for a very embarrassing punishment. From single girl punishments, all the way up to four girls being spanked at one time, they are required to assume exposed and embarrassing positions while hard corporal punishment is applied. In most cases, they are left naked and on display in corner time, as a reminder to others as to what happens when they misbehave. Through the use of the hand, belts, straps, paddles, rulers, and the wooden spoon, these young ladies learn very real lessons while Naked, Embarrassed, and Exposed.
88 Minutes- $15.00
Naked, Embarrassed, and Exposed, Part 2
83 Minutes- $15.00
Punished to tears- 2015 Part 1
The purpose of corporal punishment is to provide enough pain to a young lady’s bottom to teach her a very real and a very proper lesson. The best indicator that a lesson is learned is TEARS. It is not until she is crying like a little girl that we know that the job is done. In this 84 minute video, you will corporal punishment administered as it was intended leaving each and every girl crying. WARNING- this is very real corporal punishment, these are not fun and playful spankings.
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Wednesday, July 08, 2015
Making the position part of the punishment during a spanking
I have always stated that I feel that position is a very important part of a punishment spanking. Previously I have discussed the importance of her properly presenting her bottom, as I feel this really helps her with ownership of her punishment. Today I am going to dive a little deeper into how much position can really help with the overall effectiveness of the punishment. For the purposes of this discussion I am not fully addressing which position is best for which implement, but more how to make the position part of the punishment itself.
If you think that all positions are equal, you are doing a great disservice to the person whose behavior requires the punishment. Our goal as disciplinarians is to provide an event that will not only punish someone for their current behavior, but to serve as a reminder as to future behavior. I say “event” because for most of us, we are spanking someone who fantasizes about being spanked. But within this relationship, we are trying to make things as real as possible and actually create a punishment experience. This is not an experience that we want them to fantasize about, what we really want is for them to learn from it, and hope that we actually have an influence on their behavior. So we are not just looking to give them the spanking that they fantasize about, but to create a punishment “event” that will burn into their memory.
I have discussed over the years, many different ways to enhance the overall punishment through the use of corner time, nudity, and various other things that help make a punishment as uncomfortable as possible, but today the focus is on positions. The easiest spanking in the world for someone to endure is one in which they are simply laid over an object, such as a bed or couch, and allowed to just lay there and endure it. Even worse are the punishments in which disciplinarians hold the naughty girl down for her spanking. First of all, it is her responsibility to stay in place for her spanking, not ours, so if you have to hold someone down, they are showing complete and total disobedience and that needs to be addressed. Secondly, why allow her to just lie in a comfortable position for a spanking that she fantasizes about anyway? To be as blunt as possible, the position should suck for her. Ask yourself if you are doing the best job possible if she is allowed to be comfortable for her spanking. Jail sucks, so do the beds in the cells…you do not go to jail and find a tempurpedic mattress in your cell. They committed their crime, a punishment was handed down, and at no point does comfort become a factor.
I have talked about nudity before, but it is worth talking about again for the purposes of this post. When someone requires a proper punishment, one that is worthy of being an “event”, you can count on the clothes coming off. The first purpose this serves is that it reinforces my authority over her. When she is in trouble, I am not just sentencing her to a spanking, but for the duration of the punishment I am assuming full control over her body. She has trusted me with the authority, that when she misbehaves, that I will do everything in my power to punish her in a manner that will prevent that behavior in the future. With that trust and authority, as long as it is safe, sane, and consensual, her body becomes mine to what I want with, for the benefit of the punishment. She does not get to decide what she wears for her spanking that is now my decision. Because I care, and I will do whatever it takes to help her, I will choose for her to be naked.
A fully nude punishment adds quite a bit to the overall experience and will help her remember it in the future. Yes, there are many women out there who are quite comfortable naked. There are many models that work for me that choose not to put any clothing on in between shoots and just hang out naked as we move lights around and such. But being comfortable naked, and being comfortable naked in the various positions I have to choose from are two very different things. But for the typical woman, even one that you are intimate with, being naked in the bedroom and being naked and on display for her spanking are two very different things. I require her to be naked because I am going to put her in a positon for her spanking that will make her feel embarrassed, vulnerable, and exposed. Please note there is a strong distinction between embarrassed and humiliated. I never humiliate someone during a spanking, but if I can make her feel embarrassed, as a result of her behavior, then I will do my best to do so.
Something else that I think is of great importance when it comes to positioning is complete and total discomfort. She might fantasize about being spanked, but she does not fantasize about being put in a position for her spanking that is a workout in itself to hold. By bringing in different muscle groups, we can make the position itself a punishment. Have you ever tried to hold a lunge for very long? With her hands and feet on the ground and her ass in the air, this position becomes very hard to maintain and is no fun at all. A assure you that when she masturbates to thought of being spanked, she never once thought about how sore her abs were going to be.
So let’s go into detail about how we can make the position itself part of the punishment. The first, and most common, is to simply make it a freestanding position. She is not getting the benefit of being able to lay over something, or even put her hands on something. This may involve her bending over and putting her hands on her knees, or even grabbing her ankles, but she assumes full responsibility for the position, without anything to support her. This makes it more difficult to maintain her position during the spanking (which she already should know is a requirement) and also makes her an active participant. She cannot just check out, let her endorphins kick in, and endure the punishment, she actually has to help. It keeps her mind on the process and does not allow her to escape into some sort of “sub space”. She has to stay mentally present in order to stay in position and that is exactly what we want.
Any position can easily be modified to become less comfortable. Even for the young lady with the benefit of being bent over with her hands on a table, by requiring her to stand on her tiptoes, we have once again brought her mind back to the punishment. She has an actual task that she must perform while she is being spanked, and as easy as it sounds, her being on her tiptoes adds quite a bit. At the very least, it tends to start to burn the calves pretty quickly and that in itself adds to the overall discomfort of the punishment. But if she is being paddled hard, and with each swat she is rocked forward, typically a process that ends with someone back on their heels. But in this case, she does not have that luxury and she has to remain ultra-focused to make sure her heels do not touch the ground. Once again, we are bringing her mental focus into play and she cannot just try to suffer through her punishment as she has a job to perform during her punishment.
Many young ladies like a good over the knee spanking, as it tends to be intimate and is not all that uncomfortable. Just as with the tiptoes, this position can also be easily modified to make her part of the overall process. For most OTK spankings, the person being punished has their toes touching the ground. This can often get in the way as it allows them to push forward, which can allow them to easily start to struggle out of position. In my private life, all otk spankings are given in which the young ladies are required to have the tops of their feet on the ground. This takes away their ability to push, but more importantly, it is unnatural and requires thought to keep them in that position. If she finds herself kicking her legs during her spanking, the normal movement would be for her to go back to having the bottom of her foot on the ground. But this is not allowed, this is not what I require, so she has to stay mentally present to make sure her feet do exactly as I have told her.
Another modification, and one that I use a lot, is to bring elbows and knees into play. Take any spanking position in which a young lady is supporting herself with her hands, and simply make her elbows go there instead. If she is bending over, with her hands on a desk to be paddled, make her elbows touch the hard surface with her hands in the air. This takes away any leverage that she has, so when she is knocked a little off balance from a paddle swat, she cannot just fight the momentum by pushing back with her hands and arms. With the arm bent, and being on her elbow, all of her leverage has been taken away. Now her whole body and core become involved in order for her to maintain her position. Now it is not just her bottom and her brain that are part of the process, her whole body has to work to assist in her discipline. It is easy to take this a step further and have her place her knees on a hard surface, while her feet are required to be elevated.
Discomfort can be taken to many different levels when it comes to position, far beyond the easy fixes that I just described. The easiest way to accomplish this is to bring different muscles into play. As discussed before, a spanking in the lunge position is not an easy thing to endure. Now her arms, legs, and core have become part of the punishment and fatigue easily sets in. You can also modify any position by requiring that her arms or her legs be a little bent and not straight. When we lock our legs out straight it becomes more of support from the joints that support from the muscles. But when the arms or legs that are supporting us are required to be bent, the muscles have to become part of the process. Yes, a hard spanking while grabbing her ankles is no walk in the park, but if she is required to bend her knees just the slightest bit, over the duration of her five minute strapping, this all becomes that much more difficult. Remember, difficult is the very least of what we are looking for.
Ideally, we are going to take all of the above factors and combine them effectively with nudity. I am not only going to choose a position that is hard to maintain, that requires her to assist, and that is going to bring various muscle groups into play, I am going to make it terribly exposing and embarrassing. I want to put her fully naked in a position that she would never in her lifetime find herself in. I am talking about something that exposes all of her naughty bits to the world in a way that she never could have imagined. I want her to be embarrassed that her behavior brought her to such an exposed and vulnerable position. I want her to be concerned and embarrassed about how everything between her legs is currently being presented. I want her to her to fully realize, that at the moment, how and where I choose to present her most private of areas, is fully up to me. It was her behavior that brought us here, but the rest of this is in my hands.
The spreading of her legs is always going to be the starting point in this type of position. If the situation calls for it, she is not just going to be presenting her bottom to be spanked, I am going to make sure everything is presented in a very exposed manner. There is huge sense of vulnerability, when she is bent over for a spanking and her vagina is completely exposed. She should know by now that I am very accurate with whatever implement I am using, but this still adds a lot, as any stroke that is off just a little bit could indeed hit her vagina. In addition, and with the hopes of not being too graphic, most women are not all that comfortable in a position in which their butthole is exposed. However, had she not misbehaved, she would not be before me at this very moment, with her legs spread so wide, that everything is now very exposed. Even before the first stroke I want her uncomfortable as possible, so if exposing her vagina and butthole helps, then I will include it every time. Having her spread this wide also allows me (assuming my hand or a very specific implement) access to areas of her bottom that I might not otherwise be able to spank.
This exposure can be greatly enhanced by how far she is required to bend. Someone presenting their bottoms with wide spread legs, but only bent at 90 degrees at the waist, is still limited in their exposure. We need to get their hands closer to the ground to really open things up. This is why you will often see videos I have filmed in which the young lady if kneeling on something such as an ottoman, but her hands are on the ground. To further enhance the vulnerability of these types of positions, I often require that she arch her back as much as possible. With spread legs, a greater than 90 degree bend, and an arched back, she is feeling as exposed as she possibly can be. Hopefully she is embarrassed, hopefully she is miserable, and hopefully she will never want to find herself in this position ever again.
None of this is all that hard if you are willing to just be a little creative. Maybe she only requires a handspanking today, but it is still our job to do the very best each and every time it is required. Instead of bending her over that kitchen chair for her handspanking, why not have her straddle that chair leaving her just a little more exposed?
Maybe she needs a little session in which she is required to lay down on the bed for a long strapping. Why just lay her down on the bed and get the belt out? Require her to fully undress before you as you go through your selection of belts deciding which one will hurt the most. Then lay a few pillows down on the bed, so her ass is nice and high in the air. But don’t stop there, now it is time for her to spread her legs as wide as she can get them. We just took a comfortable and effective spanking position and made it embarrassing and exposed.
What about those times in which you take her into your home office and bend her over the desk for a little school type discipline? Is it really best for her development that you just have her barely bare her bottom and bend over the desk? We want this to be a punishment that is remembered, not one that just blends in with all of the other spankings she has received. She needs to get naked and she needs to do it now. I am putting her completely up on the desk, on all fours, but there will be no hands involved, she will be balancing on her elbows. Her legs are going to wide enough that her vagina is open and on display for the world to see. And I am not going to start right away, I am going to let the full physical discomfort and mental embarrassment sink in for a good long time before I ever get started. If she does not like it…good, then maybe she will get her act together.
It does not have to end there; I will make it as uncomfortable and embarrassing as I possibly can. What is more embarrassing and uncomfortable than being fully naked, bent completely over, with her legs spread, her back arched, and her legs a little bent…doing so while elevated. If she thinks that feels vulnerable, then she can assume that same position while standing on a chair. Now all of her naughty bits that she is embarrassed to have exposed are now at eye level for me.
When we begin to get complacent as disciplinarians then the behavior eventually wins. When we are simply spanking her when she is in trouble, we are only feeding her fantasies and the behavior just gets worse. You owe it to that special person, the one you have made this commitment with, to do your very best, with each and every offense and behavior that is presented to you. You are doing her a disservice by not making each and every punishment as bad as you can make it. Most people just spank harder, but we need to be better than that. Yes, it might be football night, or you were about to head out the door for a few drinks with some buddies, but you have to stay committed to providing the discipline that is required, when it is required. She needs to be naked, uncomfortable, embarrassed, exposed, in a physically demanding position, and generally hating every single part of her punishment, if not, then her behavior is now your fault.
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Monday, July 06, 2015
Tears 2015- Part 1
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The purpose of corporal punishment is to provide enough pain to a young lady’s bottom to teach her a very real and a very proper lesson. The best indicator that a lesson is learned is TEARS. It is not until she is crying like a little girl that we know that the job is done. In this 84 minute video, you will corporal punishment administered as it was intended leaving each and every girl crying. WARNING- this is very real corporal punishment, these are not fun and playful spankings.
Thursday, July 02, 2015
Spanking Story
Many years ago, I am guessing about a decade, on my forum a woman requested that I write a story for her, one based on the fact that she was a military wife who had always dreamed about being in a domestic discipline relationship. As far as I can recall, this was my first real attempt at spanking fiction. You will see the same themes that have always held true to me in all of my writings. I came across this story again recently and thought I would share it with you all.
While she had never admitted it to him, after a few years of hints he began to get the idea that his wife had a desire to be spanked. On more than one occasion, she teased him during an argument with, “what are you going to do, spank me?”. The whole concept was pretty new to him, but when he could find the time, he explored a little on the web to better understand her kink. Just as with his military career, he took on all things with vigor and enthusiasm. He just wasn’t one to approach things half-assed and he wanted to fully understand what it was his wife desired, before he ever tried to attempt spanking her.
Through his research, he quickly learned that there is a big difference between a spanking as foreplay and a spanking as a punishment. From every hint that his wife had ever dropped, he felt that she had the desire to actually be in trouble. His love for his wife was intense and it was hard for him to imagine putting her through any sort of physical pain. But he began to realize, through his research, the actual depth of a spanking fetish. He began to see that the desire to be spanked was immense, in those that possessed it, and was deeply tied in with their sexuality. While their sex life had never been lacking, it was far from adventurous. He began to see that there was probably an awful lot that she was not telling him. He began to feel a little ashamed that there was an aspect of her sexuality, which for several years now, had gone unexplored. He decided then and there that he would make her dream a reality.
Saying goodbye was always hard, but his position in the military often took him away from home for weeks at a time. They said their tender goodbyes and he left, for what was going to be a 6 week assignment. These were the times that were toughest for her, and she tended to sit around in a fog, doing nothing, while he was away. The afternoon of his departure, she decided to go to the store and get some junk food to ease her sorrow. When she opened the door to her car, she was surprised to see a large envelope in the seat with her name on it. Her eyes lit up as she realized it was a note from her husband. She ran back in the house with her little gift, glowing with excitement.
She sat at the kitchen table and opened the envelope. There were a couple of typed pages inside. She quickly began to read, remembering why she had married him in the first place. Just when she thought she could not be more depressed, he had left her what she assumed to be the sweetest of love letters. Her heart glowed as she began to read:
“My love,
It is with a sad heart that I depart on yet another assignment that will keep me from you. Every moment of everyday I will carry you in my heart, counting the minutes until I can yet again have you by my side. I know these times are rough on you and I would do anything in the world to be able to be holding you right now. But we both know the reality of the life I have chosen. While my love for you is unwavering, I have made a commitment to my country that I will always honor. While my duty does not always allow us to be together, it will never break us apart.
It is as a result of my intense love for you, that I am writing this letter. I have decided that while I am away this time, you will not just lie around and sulk in my absence. Over the past few years, you have confessed many things to me that you would like to improve in your life. You have always stated that if you just had more time in the day, there are so many things you would love to accomplish. With me away, you have more than enough time to accomplish everything you have ever dreamed of, all you seem to lack is the motivation. Here and now you will be provided with the motivation you need.
Included in this letter is a list of things you will be working on while I am away. You will approach all of these things diligently and with maximum effort. I have not included anything on the list that is optional. Failure to complete any of the tasks that I have listed will result in you being properly punished when I return. Your task list will be the very first thing we address when I walk in the door, so I recommend you take this seriously. “
Her heart dropped as she considered what this all meant. She reread the sentence that read “properly punished” more than 10 times. While a little confused, she was overcome with a nervous sexual excitement. She found herself wondering, as well as hoping, what all of this might mean. She forced herself to quit rereading the last two sentences and turned to the attached pages to see what he had in mind. She saw a lengthy list that did indeed include all of the stuff she had found herself complaining about for years. There was a section that included a workout schedule and information on a new membership at the local gym. There was a blank workout schedule with dates and times highlighted and a section to check as each workout was completed. There was a detailed description of the supplies needed to finish the spare bedroom that she had often complained as being uninhabitable. She had wanted to paint and decorate it for years, but had somehow never found the time.
She was taken back at the time and effort he must have put into this whole thing. There was a list that included six different things she was to work on during his absence. Each list had a section for her to fill in her progress on the project. Goals and deadlines were clearly stated, so there was no room for arguing any one point. Every item on the list related to something that she had professed would make her life better if she would only do them. While confused and sexually excited, she was also deeply touched by his gesture. As she considered the whole thing, she kept going back to the spot on the page that said “properly punished”.
Her desire to be spanked went back at least 10 years. Puberty and the desire to be spanked seemed to have crept into her life hand in hand. Even her earliest memories of masturbation centered on the same two topics; spanking and being sexually dominated by a strong man. She had secretly desired to be spanked by every man she had dated. Her conservative upbringing prevented her from expressing her true feelings to anyone, even her husband. Her spanking desires were so strong that on a few occasions she had even attempted to spank herself. She quickly learned that the mere act of spanking alone was not what she desired. She wanted to be dominated; she wanted to share the intense dynamics that she felt would accompany a spanking from someone she loved. She wanted to feel like she was in trouble; she wanted to be held accountable for her actions. She deeply wanted someone to love her enough that they would correct her when she was led astray. She hoped that what she was reading in his letter was everything she hoped it would be. Only time would tell.
The following morning she woke up with a vigor that she had rarely felt before. She got out of bed looking forward to her day. She had a direction and a purpose in her life that she had not often felt before. She found herself in the bathroom, getting ready for her day, with a big smile on her face. Of course, everything she did was accompanied by a very special tingling sensation between her legs. She felt like a new person and was ready to grab life by the horns and take it for a ride. She once again reread his letter, to assure herself it was not a dream. She grabbed her list and began to prioritize her day based on the various things she was to accomplish. She worked very hard on her tasks and followed them through to the letter, with the exception of one.
Two nights after her husband had left; she received the phone call from him that she had been dying to receive. He was his usual sweet self and quite the romantic. Over the course of the entire conversation her heart was racing out of control. She desperately wanted clarification from him about being “properly punished”. She did not have the nerve to ask him, so she waited for him to bring it up. The entire conversation came and went without him ever mentioning the letter, her assignments, or her punishment if she failed to complete them. While grateful for having been able to talk with him, the conversation ended with her feeling confused. She had run this conversation through her head a hundred times over the last three days and when it was over she still had no idea what to expect when he returned.
Keeping so very busy, every day, made the weeks pass very quickly for her. Her days were filled with task after task, and regardless of her husband’s expectations, it felt good doing them. She felt a great sense of completion at the end of every day. While she struggled with the decision, she had consciously made a choice to completely ignore one of the tasks. She had decided that she would do nothing in regards to fixing up the guest bedroom. His instructions were that she was to work four hours a day, one day a week, on the guest room. She was far too curious about being “properly punished” to complete everything. She had thought long and hard about the best way to go about getting in a least a little trouble. At first she considered blowing off a few workout days, just to see what would happen, but her concern was that this offense would seem to minor in his eyes. All of her fantasies had revolved around a fairly intense punishment. She did not want to be in just a little trouble, she wanted to be “IN TROUBLE”. She wanted to be spanked like a little girl and did not want it to end until she had cried long and hard. After much consideration, she felt completely ignoring an entire task would get her where she wanted to be the quickest. She wanted to make sure that she was earning herself a punishment that she would never forget. Only time would answer the remaining questions she had in her mind.
With nervous anticipation, she got out of bed on the day he was to return. She was so excited she could barely contain herself. She went through the day, completing her now normal routine, but her mind was somewhere else entirely. She could not focus on anything but what she hoped would be the realization of a ten year fantasy. She desperately hoped that “properly punished” meant she would be spanked. She could not think of really anything else he could have meant, but she was still not fully convinced, that her conservative husband was on the same mental wavelength in regards to her fantasies. In just a few short hours, all of her questions would be answered.
The moment finally arrived when she heard his car pull up in the driveway. Her heart was in her throat and she began to tremble slightly. He opened the door and greeted her with a huge smile and a wonderful kiss. He presented her with a fantastic bouquet of flowers and she was almost in tears, she was so happy to see him. They spent a long minute in an embrace, and she was just so happy to have him holding her in his strong arms. She quickly remembered every reason that she married him. After he let her go, it all began for her.
He told her to have a seat and then asked her about her assignments. He asked her if she had understood everything he was trying to accomplish with the letter he had written her. She replied with a “yes” and he quickly informed her that when they were dealing with her tasks and were clearly in the situation that they were now in that she would reply with a “Yes, Sir”. She replied as he asked, and just saying those words intensified the tingling sensations below. She felt desperately close to the realization of a lifelong fantasy. He asked her to retrieve her task book for him to review. With a hurried enthusiasm, she almost ran from the room to go and get it. She handed him the mostly completed task book and sat back down. For more than five very long minutes, he went through her task book page by page, without ever saying a word. The silence was killing her and she waited patiently for him to speak. Without speaking, he stood up and left the room. It only took her a moment to realize that he was now in the guest room, checking on the progress she had made.
He could not believe his eyes when he opened the door to the guest room. Not a single thing had been done to the room in his absence. Not even the smallest task, such as cleaning up the junk, or throwing away the assorted trash that had accumulated, had been completed. It took him very little time at all to realize what was going on. He thought to himself that she did indeed want to be properly punished. It was clear she had gone out of her way to make sure that she got in trouble for something. He tried his best to hide a faint smile as he walked back into the living room. He felt he must now do his very best to give her the experience she was looking for. He sat back down and once again went over the task list, still having not spoken a word to her.
To her surprise, in a loud voice, he told her to stand up. While a bit startled, she instantly did as she was told. He then casually told her to strip off all of her clothes and jewelry. This, she did not expect. She stood and looked at him for a moment, completely dumbfounded. She had always been fairly shy about her body and rarely was without clothes, except for when they were in bed. She jumped as he shouted “NOW”. For the first time since she had read his letter, she was somewhat nervous. She slowly began the process of removing all of her clothing. Once she was fully naked, she removed all the jewelry she was wearing and placed it in a neat pile on the coffee table. She then folded all of her clothes neatly and placed them on the couch. She stood there before him as naked as the day she was born and he still had not looked up from her task book. After a long minute he began to explain things to her.
He informed her that he had never expected such total and complete disregard of his instructions. He expressed great disappointment in her behavior and stated that something was obviously going to have to be done to teach her a lesson. Being so new to this, he really had no idea how exactly to deal with such a blatant attempt to get in trouble. He stood up, grabbed her forcefully by the arm and dragged her off to the corner. He instructed her to stand, facing the corner, with her arms at her sides. She was told that she would stay there until he figured out the most effective way to teach her a lesson. He informed her that she was in enough trouble as it was and that if he saw her move, even the slightest bit, she would find herself in significantly more trouble. With that said he went back and sat down on the couch.
Her heart was racing and she was feeling more than self-conscious standing fully naked, in broad daylight, in the corner of their dining room. As long as she had dreamed about being spanked, the formality of this situation had her feeling quite nervous. She had dreamed of her husband’s strong hands, pulling her over his knee, and thoroughly spanking her bottom, but she never imagined something quite as long and drawn out as this was becoming. She began to question as to whether she had made the right decision in regards to her assignments.
He needed a little time to think for a couple of reasons. The first was that he never imagined she would put him in a situation such as this. He expected a few small infractions in regards to her task book that could be resolved by a hard spanking. But she had gone out of her way to really get in trouble. He knew, that if he was going to really do this right, a single spanking alone, would not resolve the situation. He was also quite concerned about actually spanking his wife to tears. He had to gather the strength and courage required to apply physical pain to the women he loved, in such a way as to make her cry. He knew that she wanted and fantasized about this, but it did not make things any easier for him. Most of all, he wanted to provide her with an experience she had fantasized about, but had never shared with him. He found himself hoping that it would be everything she had wanted.
He went out to his car and retrieved one of his duffle bags. During his trip, he had made a few purchases online. As a result, he had brought home with him a variety of implements. While searching for implements online, he discovered that there were far more than he had ever imagined existed. He found everything from bullwhips to pussy whips. He found himself drawn to the more traditional items that seemed more domestic in nature. He ended up purchasing an antique razor strap from an online auction site and a large wooden hairbrush from a country store site. He also purchased two implements from a BDSM supply store; a large wooden school type paddle with holes in it and a rattan cane.
He sat once again and looked at the blank page that was intended to be a progress sheet for her work on the spare room. He had intended for her to work one day a week on the room, with a minimum of four hours each day. He was at a loss as to how to deal with this situation. After considerable thought, he decided that each day she did not work on the room should be considered a separate offense. He also decided that failure to complete all tasks as required should also be an offense on its own. This left him with seven separate punishments to apply. Now, all he had to do was figure out the best way to go about it. He glanced up at his naked wife standing in the corner and noticed how good she looked. While she had always had a great body, six weeks of working out had transformed it into a fantastic body. He was so nervous before, he had failed to notice when he put her in the corner. She looked better than the day they had met and he was very proud of her for accomplishing something that she had always wanted to attain. He decided he would have to find more ways to incorporate her being fully nude during her punishments, because he liked what he saw.
As he approached most things in life, he did not attempt anything until he felt confident he would succeed at it. He had done the research which included reading spanking stories, reading true accounts, studied how-to guides on spanking, paddling, and caning, and read a very informative article on “punishment spankings”. He felt he knew how to do all of this safely and sanely and figured it was time to quit stalling and just get things started. He took a deep breath and decided to begin.
He informed his wife to turn around and walk to him. She had been in the corner for almost 30 minutes and was glad to do anything he wanted, as long as it meant she did not have to stand in the corner any longer. She turned around and walked towards him. He had her stop and kneel on the hardwood floor where the living room met the dining room. He pulled up a chair and sat down just a few feet in front of her. With his nervousness gone and a newfound confidence, he began his lecture:
“What I have read in your task list is nothing short of unacceptable. I truly cannot believe what I see before me. It is clear to me that what you did was very deliberate. This helps prove to me that you really do want to be spanked. Unfortunately, I do not think you have any idea of what the results of your actions will be. I need to make sure, that the punishment you receive is something you will not enjoy. I need to make sure that it will teach you a lesson you will never forget. I suspect you have been fantasizing about this very moment for the entire six weeks I was away. My goal today, is to make sure that you regret, in a very big way, the moment you made the decision to disobey my very clear instructions. You are about to see that things in this house are going to change forever. From this day forward any acts of disobedience will be dealt with immediately and severely.
I have gone over your task book in great detail and have come to the conclusion that you have committed 7 separate offenses. You will be punished for not having completed every task in your task book. In addition, over the next several days, you will be punished six different times for each day you neglected your task of working in the spare bedroom. I assure you that each and every punishment you receive will bring you to tears. I need to make sure that my lessons are not taken lightly. You will have no control over any of your punishments. Failure to comply with my demands during your punishments will only result in additional and more severe punishments. You will get your act together and you will learn to behave and it all starts today.”
She could not believe what she had just heard. She had gone from sexually excited to outright scared in just a few short minutes. While she was little glad to be in her current situation the reality of it all was really beginning to set in. Had he just said seven different punishments? Did he really just tell her that she would cry during each one? She began to feel like a little girl kneeling before her daddy about to get the spanking of her life. Ten years of fantasy had become a reality and she was starting to wonder if there was a way out. She could tell by his look and his confidence that she was really in for it. She now knew what “properly punished” meant and she was not looking forward to it. Her scared feelings turned to total fright as he opened up his duffle bag and removed a handful of implements. Slowly, her body began to tremble as she imagined what each of the evil looking implements would feel like on her poor bottom.
He had taken out the implements more for show. He had already decided that her first spanking was going to be with his hand, but he wanted her to feel the full psychological impact of the moment. He instructed her to stand and then to go into the kitchen and retrieve the small digital kitchen timer that she kept on the stove. She did as she was told, wondering the whole time what purpose a timer would serve during her spanking. He knew that his first instinct would be to go easy on his wife, so he had decided long ago that using a timer would force him to spank her as long as he felt was required, regardless of her reaction. He told his wife to set the timer for three minutes and thirty seconds and to start it. She did as she was told and set the timer and hit the start button.
He reached up and grabbed her arm very hard and forcefully pulled her over his lap. He placed the timer within sight and watched it count down. While he waited for it to get to the three minute mark, he pinned her right arm behind her back with his left hand. Just a few seconds before the timer reached the three minute mark, he informed her that this spanking was for not completing each and every task in her task book. As the timer hit the three minute mark he began.
As the first smack hit her upturned bottom, it took her breath away. Never in a million years did she expect that a spanking would hurt this much. Very quickly another smack followed, and then another. He did not pause at all between swats. He was spanking her as fast and almost as hard as he could. She had spent a lot of time fantasizing about being spanked, but never really considered how much pain could really be involved. Now she knew. Less than ten seconds into it, she began to struggle hard to escape. He put his right leg over the backs of her knees and he was far too strong for to really be able to move at all now. He kept her pinned in place and just continued to spank her. His goal from the beginning was to make sure there was no area of her bottom left untouched. He spanked her from about an inch below her bottom to where her bottom met her lower back. He was instantly amazed at how red her bottom got and how quickly. Fully committed to teaching her a lesson, he ignored her pleas for him to stop. He had decided long before that if he was going to this, he was going to do this right.
It did not take long for the tears to begin to flow. The pain was so unbearable for her that the floodgates just opened. She made no attempt to fight back the tears, she just let them go. She knew she could not take much more and glanced at the timer he had set on the floor. To her surprise, less than 40 seconds had passed. Just when she thought it was about over, she realized they had only just begun. She made a final attempt to break loose from his grips but her efforts were unsuccessful. He was far too strong and she began to realize that there really was nothing at all she could do to stop the relentless blows to her bottom. She continued to cry hard and it eventually left her blubbering like a child. At some point during the spanking, she began to break, and no longer fought the spanking. The pain to her bottom was a reality she could not change and she just eventually let go. She accepted what she was receiving, and while it did not reduce the pain, she no longer had the energy to fight it. While he felt that she had probably learned her lesson, he continued to spank her hard and fast until the timer counted all the way down. When he saw that there were only ten seconds left, he gave it to her with everything he had. Finally, the timer began to beep and he stopped.
For a moment they both stayed where they were, a little out of breath. She continued to cry, but not as hard as during the spanking. He began to slowly caress her obviously sore bottom cheeks. He was amazed at the various marks on her bottom. Her entire bottom region was glowing a very bright red. There were small speckles of purple spread throughout her bottom region, showing just the slightest hint of bruising. Most surprising to him, was the glistening of moisture that was obvious between her legs. While before, he had had a few concerns about spanking his wife, they all went away when he saw her sexual excitement. From this point on, he would never give a second thought about spanking his wife. If she needed it, she would get it, and get it good.
After a couple minutes of him caressing her bottom while she lay over his lap, he invited her to stand. He crying had almost completely stopped at this point. He helped her up and then stood. He took her in his arms and held her tight. This was all it took for her to begin crying again. She cried long and hard in his strong grasp as he comforted her. He told her that everything was ok and that he was proud of her for submitting to what she had earned. While she had cried before, from the physical pain of a spanking, she now cried from a complete and total emotional release, like she had never experienced before. Years’ worth of emotions poured out as he held her tightly and stroked her hair. There embrace seemed to last forever and she had never in her life felt closer to the man she loved. Her bottom throbbed with a pain far more intense than she had ever expected and for the first time since going over his lap, she began to enjoy what she was feeling.
Her bottom was pulsating with every rapid beat of her heart. She could not believe what she had just experienced, it was far more intense than she had ever expected from her conservative husband. It was so intense that she knew she would never again go out of her way to get in trouble. The spanking had been exciting, it had been stimulating, but most of all it had been one of the most painful things she had ever experienced. She would do just about anything in her power to make sure she did not go through this again, anytime soon. As she contemplated these thoughts, she glanced down at the coffee table and saw the implements again. Her heart dropped as she recalled his lecture and the promise of six additional punishments. As much as her bottom hurt from just his hand, she could not imagine the pain the implements must be capable of delivering. She desperately hoped she would never find out.
When she seemed to have finally settled down, he released her from his grip, and looked deep into her eyes. There was no need for words; the intensity of his gaze seemed to speak volumes. It was clear to her that what he had just done was out of love. As much pain as he had just put her through, she knew he did it for her. She was more in love with him at this moment than the day they married. He told her to stay where she was and he would return in a moment. He left the room and returned with a barstool from the other room. He placed it in the corner and led her gently by the arm over to it. He told her to have a seat while he worked out the details of how she would be completing her task book. She sat down and felt a renewed pain as her tender bottom sat on the hard wood of the barstool. He instructed her to turn and face the corner and to remain perfectly still until he told her otherwise. She heard him walk away followed by the digital sounds of the timer once again. He came back into her field of vision and placed the timer on a shelf in the corner, just above her. As he walked back into the living room, she glanced up and saw the timer counting down from one hour. She realized she was going to have a lot of time alone with her thoughts.
She found that as time passed her bottom grew sorer. The excitement of the moment had passed and she was left with the realization that she was going to be sore for a while. She wanted to adjust her sitting position, to change the pressure on her bottom, but she did not dare for fear of getting caught moving. She relished in that thought. Here she was, a twenty-two year old woman, naked and in the corner, afraid to move for fear of getting spanked again. She realized how much her life had changed in just thirty short minutes. As much as her bottom hurt, a slight smile crept onto her face. Her smile was gone just as quickly as it appeared as she yet again contemplated the implements she had seen on the table. She could hear him saying “over the next several days, you will be punished six different times” over and over in her head. She was close to tears again as she contemplated the reality of her situation. She knew that there was no way in the world her bottom could take any more punishment, today, tomorrow, or even in the next two weeks. She would find out very soon that she had no choice in the matter at all.
From the distance of his office, she could hear him typing away at his computer. At this point in time, she had absolutely no idea what he was up to. She thought this to be a very odd time for him to be catching up on his e-mail correspondence. She glanced at the timer and saw that she still had more than forty-five minutes to go in the corner. For close to a half hour, she could still hear him typing away. Eventually the typing stopped and she heard his ancient printer spitting out several pages of documents. During the printing the phone rang and he came into the room and answered it. She heard him say to her best friend, “Hi, Theresa. Yes, I just got in today.”, followed by “No, it is probably not a good time for her to talk. It seems she got herself in a little trouble while I was away, so she is sitting in the corner right now with a nice pink bottom. It would probably be best to try her again tomorrow”. There was a long period of silence and then he laughed and told her goodbye.
She could not believe what she had just heard him say to her closest friend. She could tell by the burning in her face that all of the cheeks on her body were glowing red at the moment. She was not sure if Theresa believed him or not, but regardless, she was feeling beyond embarrassed. It seemed to her that he was not only good at all of this, but he was also enjoying it. She heard him walk back into his office and tear the pages from his printer. Shortly after he came back into the room and sat down, her timer went off. He walked over to her, helped her off of the stool and escorted her back into the living room and instructed her to sit on the couch. Once again she began to feel just how naked she was.
While he looked over the freshly printed pages in his hand he began to explain to her how they were going to resolve the issue of the spare room which she had failed to do any work on. He stated, that the way he saw things, was that she still owed him 24 hours of work. He had made it clear that everything on the list was to be completed and nothing had changed that. To her surprise he told her that she was grounded until all 24 hours had been put in and documented by her. She listened as he explained that she could only leave the house to get supplies for the room. He informed her that she could complete this task at her convenience, but she would not be leaving the house until it was finished. Her heart dropped as he dropped the final bomb. He told her that before every four hour period of work on the room, she would be spanked. He made it clear that it was completely up to her how much time passed between her spankings, but once again, she was not to leave the house until the entire 24 hours had been made up. This put her in the position of deciding when her next six spanking would take place.
Just as she was attempting to grasp everything he had said, he told he that they were done for now and she could dress. She could not get her clothes back on quick enough. Once she was dressed, it was like nothing had ever happened. It was as if he had just walked in the door from his six week assignment. He was no longer strict or controlling, he was once again the same lovable man she had always known. As he brought the rest of his bags in from the car, he put away the implements on the table. Not once had he ever said if her next spanking would involve one of them or not. The fears of the unknown, in regards to her upcoming punishments, were as powerful as knowing that she had six spankings coming to her. With the exception of during one of the most intense lovemaking experiences of her life that night, most of her thoughts were occupied with her upcoming punishments.
She had spent ten years trying to find a way to get a man she loved to spank her and now she faced a situation of knowing she was going to be spanked six more times and she got to choose when it would happen. Unlike her fantasies, she did not want to be spanked again. The morning following her spanking could only be described as painful as hell. When she got out of bed, all of the muscles in her bottom were stiff and sore. She looked at her bottom in the bathroom mirror, for the first time since her spanking, and she was not surprised to see a small amount of bruising. Her entire bottom was peppered with tiny little purple dots. She was shocked when she realized how much it hurt to even sit on the toilet. It was clear that her bottom was going to be sore for several days. This played heavily in her mind as she contemplated how best to approach her upcoming spankings.
She knew he was serious about her being grounded. This was the type of punishment she had grown up with under her parent’s house and she hated it more than anything. While she had not really planned on doing anything but hanging out with her husband for the weekend, before he returned to duty, simply knowing she was not allowed to leave was enough to drive her crazy. She knew she could take care of the room by pulling two 12 hour days, but along with that thought went the idea of receiving three spankings on each of those days. She felt like she needed a year before she ever desired to be spanked again, but she did not want to be restricted to the house. While her husband slept in, she sat on the couch and thought long and hard about what to do.
She was very afraid that being spanked on a bottom, as sore as hers, would be a pain far too intense for her to endure. But on the flip side, her bottom was already so sore, that maybe it would be best to just get it over with while it was still hurting. Just considering her next punishment had her rubbing her bottom. Before he ever got out of bed, she found the courage to go ahead and see how bad it was going to be. She could not stand the thought of being confined to the house any longer than she had to, so she made the decision to get to work that day. She figured she would take the first spanking, work the four hours, and then make a decision as to when to take the next. She scribbled a note for her husband saying that she was going out for painting supplies and drove to the hardware store enjoying her temporary freedom.
When she returned he was still asleep. His assignment had taken him out of the country and he was clearly making up for some jet lag. She decided to go ahead and let him sleep and get started, hoping to earn some bonus points for working so hard, so soon. About an hour into her work, she heard him get out of bed. Her heart began to beat fast as she wondered when her spanking would take place. She continued to focus on her task as she painted the walls. She did not have the courage to wish him a good morning quite yet. She focused all of her attention on the painting instead. She knew that any minute he would be paying her a visit and she did not want to do anything to speed that up. She continued to work for a couple of more hours and he never once even peeked his head in the door. Finally, she had reached the four hour point of her work. She felt she needed to stop, for fear that if she went past four hours she would have two spankings in a row coming. She gathered her courage and left the guest room to see what fate had in store for her.
She found her husband on the couch watching college football. He greeted her with a warm hug and a kiss. He then asked her what she had been doing all morning. She tried to smile and told him that she had put in her first four hours of work on the room. His warm and friendly demeanor quickly faded. He simply told her that she had not finished her first four hours of work. Confused, she told him that she had already gone and bought painting supplies and informed him of the hours of work she had put in. He shook his head and told her that he had stated the way things were last night, and that he had stated them very clearly. He went and retrieved his newly printed pages regarding her task and read the same line to her that he had read the night before, “Before every four hour period of work on the room, you will be spanked”. She looked at him very confused. He then asked her if she had been spanked today, in which she replied she had not. He told her that her four hours of work did not count. With that said he went back to watching the game.
She walked into the kitchen, not being able to believe what she had just heard. All of the work she had just completed had been for nothing. She fixed herself a bite to eat as she considered what to do. She had psyched herself up for her spanking and was glad to be done for the day. Now she faced the reality that if she wanted to start again on the room, she would have to submit to the spanking first. She was torn in her thinking on the subject. Part of her was angry with him and she felt like he was being unfair. On the other side, she was proud of him for being so strict with and completely unwavering in his decisions. For several years she had been able to get away with whatever she wanted. It generally just took a flirtatious smile to get what she wanted. Her life had made a 180 degree turn around and there was no doubt who was now in charge.
Her heart began to race once again as she forced herself to finish eating and go into see him. She dragged herself into the living room and stood before him. On her best behavior she stated, “Sir, I would like to begin work on the guest room now, I plan on putting in four hours today”. Without even looking up from the TV he casually responded with, “That will not be a problem, it is your decision. Strip fully naked and go to the spare room, I will be with you in a moment”. She slowly peeled off her paint stained clothes and walked to the guest room. The room did not have any window dressings, so she was immediately uncomfortable being naked in that room. They had many trees in their yard and it was very doubtful that anyone could see in the room, but she was uncomfortable nonetheless. She just stood there, making half as attempt to cover her privates as she awaited his arrival.
Her heart dropped as she heard his footsteps approaching. To her surprise he walked right passed the door and went down the hall to their bedroom. She began to consider the implements again. Just as she suspected, he came walking back down the hall and entered the room, carrying what she knew was a razor strap. Once again, he was strict and all business. In a loud voice he ordered her to quit covering herself and to put her hands on her head. Although surprised at his tone, she instantly did as she was told. He took a long moment to just look her over. Twice he told her to turn around, so he could better see her body. She was having trouble adjusting to her newfound nakedness in his presence. Yes, he had seen her naked on many occasions, but not in a situation such as this. He continued to look her over for a moment and then told her to turn around and put her hands on the wall. She did as she was told. He spent a good minute fine tuning her position. He had her step back almost three feet from the wall. This put her in a position in which her body was at a 90 degree angle at the waist, with her arms stretched as far forward as they would go. He had her spread her legs very wide. When he was done positioning her, she was in the most exposed and vulnerable position she had ever been in in her life. In addition to being exposed, the position was very uncomfortable. On top of it all, she had a very clear view of the uncovered window.
He sternly instructed her to stay in place and to not move an inch, he then left the room. The anticipation was almost too much for her as her leg muscles began to quiver from the strain of this uncomfortable position. She dared not move because she could not see the door from her position and she feared that he might just be standing there watching her. A moment later he was back and standing behind her and to her left. She felt the well-worn leather touch her bottom gently. He instructed her that her hands and feet would stay in the exact position that they were for the duration of her strapping. Just hearing him speak the word “strapping” sent shivers down her spine. He also informed her that her legs would stay straight for her entire punishment. He stated that any deviation from the rules he had just established would result in him starting over. He asked her if she understood and she responded with a “Yes, Sir”.
He had decided ahead of time that he would apply the strap to her bottom very hard. But, knowing how sore she must be, he had decided that he would only give her ten strokes with it. From what he had read, ten strokes with a razor strap, such as the one in his hand, would more than do the trick. She felt the leather leave her bottom for a moment and then was surprised to hear a gunshot go off in the room. A millisecond later the nerve endings in her bottom sent a message to her brain that clarified what the sound actually was. Startled by the pain she yelled at the top of her lungs. As the pain really settled in she was breathless. She did not know if it was the fact that her bottom was so sore, or if this implement hurt this much all the time, either way she was scared. There was no way she could take another one. Even more fearful of the previous stroke not counting, she held firm in her position. A few moments later, the next stroke cracked against her bottom. The pain was so intense that the tears and her scream came about at the same time. Before she had time to compose herself, the next stroke landed right at the spot where her bottom met her thighs. She could no longer contain herself and her knees buckled with the pain of the blow. She was fully crying at this point and wanted to run away. She forced herself to straighten her legs as fast as she could.
A few seconds later she felt the leather on her bottom again. For the first time since the strapping had started he spoke, “Here comes the first one”. She cried out in protest, but her pleas fell to deaf ears. Her second, first stroke was applied just as hard as the others. She continued to cry loud as he sped up the pace. Over the next minute and a half he applied nine more full force strokes to her bottom. The pain was immense, she was almost blinded by her tears, but she never moved out of position again. She took thirteen total strokes, the last ten without moving a muscle. He stepped back and admired his handiwork. Every spot the strap had landed left a very distinct mark. On her right cheek, where the end of the strap had hit, were large, raised welts. There was a slight bit of bruising already evident on the right cheek, beyond what she had from the night before. Unlike the spanking the night before, her crying did not subside as quickly. As he admired her wonderfully marked bottom, her body shuddered as she cried hard. He told her to stay in position and to just get it all out. For several minutes, she remained bent over, legs wide and fully exposed. When her crying calmed down, he told he to stand. Once again he gave her one of the longest and most tender embraces she had ever felt. She buried her face in his hair and continued to cry. After several minutes he told her what a good girl she was and explained how much he hated to have to punish her like this. He went on to explain, that it was for her own good and he was not doing anything to her that she had not earned for herself. She found herself agreeing with him, understanding his motivation, and excepting that these were indeed consequences for her own actions.
He told her that she should probably get started with her project and that he would return with something for her to wear. As soon as he left the room she rubbed her bottom franticly. The previous spanking had left her whole bottom sore; the strapping she had just received was much more specific. She could feel the raised areas on her right bottom cheek and she could not believe the pain that she still felt. Had she not just cried herself to the point of exhaustion, she would have started again. The throbbing in her bottom was almost more than she could bear. He returned to the room carrying her shoes and her socks. He told her that it would be dangerous to do work without proper footwear, in case she dropped something on her feet. He told her to dress and to get to work and that he would see her in four hours. He set her shoes on the ground and began to leave the room. She stopped him with, “but Sir, what about the rest of my clothes?” in which he replied, “Had you done your task when you were supposed to you could have done it on your own terms. Now that you have involved me, you will do it on my terms. All that you require to work on this project is shoes, which I have provided for you”. She began to argue a point about the window and people being able to see. He simply asked her if she would like to argue further and restart the strapping, or quit arguing and get on with her work. She elected to work under his terms. He left the room; she quickly put on her shoes and socks and began where she had left off previously.
With a new glow to her bottom she worked hard. All she could think about during those four hours were the other implements she had seen in his new collection. She did not think anything could produce as much pain as that strap had been able to. She found herself wondering if the paddle and brush were going to be that intense…
The End
Author- Michael Masterson
Wednesday, July 01, 2015
Spank-O-Matic
Spanking machines have come a long way, and there is no doubt that the Spank-O-Matic is leading the charge. I recently had a couple of naughty girls before me that needed a little work done on their bottoms. I simply got behind my laptop and took care of things with my mouse. For those that think that these machines cannot spank hard enough, look below and think again.
Tuesday, June 30, 2015
Domestic Discipline and cooperation during her punishment
The other day I was in a discussion in a domestic discipline chat room, in which a few young ladies were discussing, that based on what they have seen from my videos, that there is no way that they could stay still for their punishment. I tried to explain that I can be very convincing and that they would indeed hold still for the duration of any punishment with me, at least after the first time they could not hold still.
I feel, especially in the context of a domestic discipline relationship, that it is the responsibility of the person being punished to hold still at all times. Any wiggling or getting out of position only makes the job of the person applying the discipline that much harder. If my eyes this is completely unacceptable and will not be tolerated for even a second. In a DD relationship, I have made the commitment to you, to your life, to help you in so very many ways. I am fully committed to helping you grow as a person, to assist you in the areas that you find difficult or struggle with, and to help you achieve the goals you have set for yourself. Within the relationship we have put forth some structure, some mutually agreed upon rules, and guidelines that we both feel are best for you as a person. Within this agreement, we have made the decision that there will be consequences for certain behaviors and actions that you engage in.
For most couples that live an active DD relationship, one of the primary consequences is corporal punishment. So within this relationship, based on everything I just wrote, a spanking is taking place because it has been earned. I am not spanking you because I am in a bad mood. I am not spanking you because I think it would be fun and kinky and would be nice foreplay. I am spanking you as a direct result of your behavior or actions, ones that we have both agreed that are not best for your overall development and who you really want to be. It is all purely cause and effect and has nothing to do with what I want at the given moment.
So now we are talking about YOUR punishment. It is something you have earned; it is 100% yours and you need to take full ownership of it. I am willing to take the time out of my day, at any given moment, to give you the correction that is required. If this correction involves a spanking, you need to own that as well. You are being spanked because at some point in our relationship we agreed that this is a good punishment for you and serves as a good deterrent in stopping the behaviors that you want to change. As cliché as it may sound, this is being done for your own good. To make sure that we get the very most out of each and every spanking, I will require your help.
If your behavior actually warrants a spanking, then I need it to be something that you would not want repeated. I cannot go easy, I cannot provide some type of warm-up, I need to apply each and every smack to your bottom with the goal of teaching you a very real lesson. I know it is not going to be easy for you; in fact, it is going to be extremely difficult to endure. But what are we really trying to accomplish? We are trying to provide a very painful stimulus, to punish you for what you did, and to prevent you from doing it again. You are a grown woman, no longer a child, so it is going to have to be a pretty intense experience for learning to actually take place. When it is over, all will be forgiven, but we both know the best learning takes place if we leave your bottom sore for a couple of days.
So you need to be an active part of this process. I am going to put you in the position that I feel will be best for the implement that I am using. By best, I mean the position that is going to allow me to apply the appropriate amount of pain to your bottom. Your job, being that this is YOUR punishment, not mine, is to maintain that position for the duration of your spanking. I want to hit exactly where I am aiming, and your moving around makes that more difficult. Also, depending on the implement that I have chosen to punish you with, too much movement can be dangerous. If I am trying to bruise the “sit spot” on your bottom with a hairbrush, and you keep moving, I may hit somewhere I am not trying to. But it goes well beyond safety issues. What we are trying to achieve are results, and your constant moving around only interferes with the process. We want maximum pain, and maximum soreness, applied as effectively as possible and your cooperation allows for us to get the best results.
So to address the women I was chatting with, who said they would not be able to hold still, I would like to suggest that maybe the men that are applying the punishment have not figured out the proper solution to the problem. I have found many techniques over the years that tend to be very effective in solving this problem. The first, is always my go to (assuming I am using an implement in which this is an option) and that is the addition of the thighs during the spanking. If you are squirming around like crazy as a result of the pain you are experiencing, I will simply and quickly show you how much worse it can be. A quick dozen to the backs of your legs with my hand or a leather implement, offers instant perspective. I will calmly and politely inform you of why I just spanked your thighs, and go back to the punishment. Each time that you move out of place, you will get another dozen on the backs of your thighs. You will learn very quickly that as much as the spanking is hurting your bottom, it is far better target than your thighs.
While spanking the thighs is quite effective, it does not always solve our little problem and sometimes other methods must be employed. While this one does not solve things immediately, it tends to over time. If you cannot hold still during your handspanking, then you get the belt. If you cannot hold still for your strapping, then it becomes a paddling. If you cannot hold still for your paddling, you will become acquainted with my heavy wooden hairbrush. No, when I upgraded implements you did not hold still any better, but the next time you are getting spanked with my hand, there is a good chance that you will remember what happened and you will give a concentrated effort to assist me for the duration of your spanking this time.
The next method is that the spanking simply does not end until I feel you are part of the solution and no longer part of the problem. I care enough about you that I willing to put in whatever time is required to achieve the desired results. But part of the desired results is you realizing that we are doing this for you, therefore realizing that you need to help me get it done. If a two minute handspanking needs to become a ten minute handspanking, as a result of you not stopping the wiggling until the last two minutes, then so be it. I am fully committed to helping you in any way required, so I will expend the extra energy in order for your future spanking to be more efficient and effective.
The final method, which is similar to the previous one, is to repeat the spanking at a designated interval, until you take full ownership and assist me as you should have the first time. I tend to wait at least a couple hours, as I want your bottom to have cooled down. A second spanking right away is always easier than the first as your bottom is warmed up and your endorphins are flowing. I need the repeat spanking to be on a cooled down bottom and for it to feel like it did the first time. So, since you were unable to assist me during your last spanking, three hours from now I am going to repeat the exact same punishment, still targeted at the original transgression. I need you to understand that WE are doing this for YOU, and part of this process is you holding still so I can blister your bottom in the exact manner required. I understand that it hurts; I understand that it is very hard to hold still, but you will indeed learn to help me. We may not get the exact results that we are looking for three hours from now, but that is OK, don’t feel bad, we will try again three hours later, then three hours later, and then again three hours later. If our goals were not achieved today, once again please don’t feel bad, we will start again in the morning.
Wednesday, June 24, 2015
A Domestic Discipline Society
I have been spending some time recently with the good folks over at A Domestic Discipline Society and am really enjoying the company. While at first glance, the page is a little busy, once you learn your way around, there is a wealth of good information for anyone that is considering the DD lifestyle. There are tons of articles for the potential HoH and TiH people out there. I rarely promote other sites here, but I like to point you all to sites worthy of a look.
Monday, June 01, 2015
Implements, severity, and a lesson learned
So with the disclaimer that I am writing about consensual adult spanking, for someone who has actually earned the spanking, let’s talk a little bit about implements and what is required to get the job done. There will never be a case in which I give a real life spanking in which someone is not taught a lesson. Yes, there are varying levels of severity, clearly defined by an individual’s behavior, but I am just not one to take the time to spank if it is not going to serve as a real deterrent for behavior. Basically, either the behavior requires a spanking or it does not, I see no in between. There is no, “Well...you were only a little naughty, so I will be spanking you, but it will not be that bad”. If it does not need to be “that bad” then a spanking is probably not required. That situation might call for a warning, loss of privileges, or something else, but if I need to spank you, it will be “that bad”.
Now obviously, not all spankings are created equal, and there can be a spanking that seems much gentler on the scale, but still teaches a lesson. Texting while I am trying to have a conversation with you at dinner, and driving drunk are not the same offense, however, each one clearly requires a spanking. I adjust the severity of my spankings in two ways, implement selection and duration. Yes, there are other adjustments than can be made such as state of dress, position, time out, etc., but when we are talking about the actual pain of a spanking, implement selection and duration are the primary factors to consider. I tend to give almost all spankings at about 85% of what I am capable of. This is enough force to make it unbearable from the very beginning, but always leaves me with a little reserve for situations in which the naughty young lady is not holding still or following directions. Under all circumstances she needs to know that it can indeed get worse. What this means, that regardless of whether it is my hand or a heavy wooden hairbrush, I am going pretty close to full force. It would be silly to decide that a certain behavior requires a hairbrush to be used, and then apply it at 30%. I need the person to know, even before we start, based on implement selection alone, exactly how I feel about their behavior. There can be no thought process like “well he chose the brush, maybe it won’t be that bad”. She needs to see that brush and know instantly that this is indeed VERY bad, and know exactly what she is in for.
But on the flip side, even is she knows she is in for a handspanking, she also needs to know that it is not going to be easy. Yes, in the grand scope of corporal punishment, a
handspanking falls pretty low on the pain scale, but it still needs to be a proper punishment or there is no point. Let’s look a little closer at what I see as a proper handspanking. While there are some implements that I feel are almost just as effective over clothing, the hand will never fall into that category. If I am going to use my hand, her bottom is going to be bared. One of the most important factors, with my hand or any other implement, is there is going to be no warm-up. What is the point of this people? Why would I start easy and gradually make it harder? As the spanking progresses and endorphins begin to flow, the spanking is going to be easier for her to tolerate at the end. If anything, I need to take full advantage of the sensitivity at the beginning to really give her all that I am capable of. This is just a handspanking, so I have to work harder to make sure I achieve the desired results, which is her kicking and screaming with tears streaming down her face. If I do anything to make it easier on her, I will just never get there, which is certainly not fair for her at all. Are we not doing this for her, to help her change?
When I apply a handspanking, I tend to do it differently than I see the typical person doing it. First of all, I do not alternate cheeks with every smack. My goal, beside the desired results that I just wrote about, is complete coverage. I tend to work certain zones of her bottom, assuring that there is no area that is left untouched. This is harder to achieve by alternating from cheek to cheek. If you have ever watched me in action on video, you will see that I may apply 10-12 on one cheek from the very beginning. My goal is to make as large of an area as possible, as sore as possible. There is one very big bonus when using only your hand to spank and that is the areas you can actually spank. When I am using a heavy wooden implement, I am limited to the lowest part of the bottom, far away from her tailbone. When I am using a belt or a strap, I have to avoid wrap around, and can get nowhere near the hips. There are some implements out there in which I am hesitant to apply to the tops of her thighs. But with my hand...Game ON! This is the beauty of the hand, I can spank in a manner that achieves better coverage than I can achieve with any other implement. Only with a hand will I spank at the very, very top of her butt cheeks. Only with a hand will I work all the way around to the sides of her hips. With very few implements can I work half way down her thighs. Now you may be asking yourself, why would he want to spank those places? The reason is simple, those are very sensitive areas, and if I am limiting this punishment to a handspanking, I want to take full advantage of areas that hurt more. I am a big fan of a hard paddling in which all swats are places on top of each other, as it leads to maximum long term soreness, at the location is which she sits. A handspanking is only going to leave someone so sore, so the bulk of the punishment happens while the spanking is taking place. Based on this concept, I want as large of an area as possible to be feeling it.
So, spanking hard is important, as well as going with full coverage, but what is definitely required is duration. A paddling might only be a 60 second event, as that is all that is required to get the job done. While it might not be all that easy for beginners, as it takes some time to build up endurance, I think a handspanking starts at about 3 minutes. Who is to say that you cannot take a break if needed midway through? Once you feel that you are getting winded and tired, it might be time to take a break. There is no point in continuing the spanking if she is not feeling the full effect. I have found over the years, as I have gotten older it is harder on my shoulder, to put her over both knees. When over both knees I really have to work to get her left cheek and it tends to strain my shoulder. When she is over just my left knee, or straddling my left knee, I have better access and can better put everything into it. Being that she will not have much of a sore bottom the next day, we really need to take advantage of the time we have, so 5 minutes should always be the goal. As soon as it is over, her endorphins will be flowing and in just a few minutes, she will only be left with a warm glow, and a not so unpleasant feeling. If you are in a spanking relationship, then this is one of the things she really enjoys. You need to make those 5 minutes something that she does not enjoy. It depends on the woman, but in most cases it is hard to properly bruise a bottom with just a handspanking. Typically the desired results are what most refer to as “pepper bruising”. If you are doing it right, she will likely have little purple specks on her bottom, especially in the less fleshy areas. While this may not lead to the same desired long term soreness that we achieve using a heavy implement, it is the desired results from a handspanking. This also helps to illustrate why we cover such a wide area, those areas we do not typically get to spank show the best results during a handspanking. Take a look at the pics included for good examples of minimum requirements that we should expect to achieve from a handspanking.
I would say the most common implement that people use, beyond the hand, is a belt. It has a certain stigma attached to it and has the ability to make any young lady quiver a little. If she was spanked growing up, chances are it was with a belt. It is not only a painful implement; it has strong visuals attached to it. There is not a woman out there in the spanking world that does not get a certain feeling as a belt is pulled from the belt loops. For whatever reason, there is a certain power attached to the belt, and as much as they might fear it, there is something they just love about it. You ladies know who you are, the ones that spend that extra moment at the men’s belt rack in Wal-Mart, go ahead and nod your head, you know I am right. And that is also one of the reasons why it is used so often in spanking relationships, you can buy one anywhere. Hell, you do not even need to buy one, you already own a few. But it is one of those items that a couple can actually go spanking toy shopping for without any embarrassment. I have sent many young ladies to the store to pick out the exact belt to be used on them. They may have blushed a little while buying it, but they were the only ones who knew that it was about to be used on their bottoms.
For me, the belt is typically the next step up in the severity scale, depending on the belt and depending on how it is used. Obviously, through proper belt selection and state of dress, it has the potential to be very severe. Typically, if I need that level of severity I am going with wood anyways, so let’s talk about the belt as a moderately severe implement. One of the things I like about the belt is I can make a very quick, but effective point, on the spot. I almost always wear one, and I typically wear one that I know will work for spanking. I love to use a belt for a very quick lesson when we are in a hurry. Think of those times when you are walking out the door for a dinner date, to meet some friends, and you are already running late. Maybe she is indeed the reason while we are running late, and a little education needs to happen on the spot. Instead of pulling up a chair, having her bare her bottom and go over my knee for 5 minutes, I can simply have her grab her ankles right there in the family room. From the time she is told she is going to be punished, until the time that I am starting to blister her bottom, is less than 30 seconds. With the right belt, even over clothing and panties, I can be pretty convincing in a minute or so. Even if we are very late, 60 seconds spent emphasizing my point has not changed the course of our night all that much. She might need to bring her little makeup bag for a touch up in the car, but sometimes a punishment is best dealt with at the moment it is required.
Unlike the hand, a belt requires a little practice and skill. You cannot be a total novice and just go to town with a belt. Obviously, with a belt or any other implement, anything above the waist is just off limits. There is just too much there that you want to avoid, regardless of what you are using. Another issue is someone who stands to close and ends up wrapping around and hitting the hips. I do not think the same dangers exists there are above the waist, but it is just bad form. It also tends to leave really nasty marks and the way the belt wraps, especially on bare skin, also leaves the potential for breaking skin. So, assuming you actually know what you are doing (practice on a pair of jeans stuffed with pillows if you need to), let’s look at my expectations from a proper punishment with a belt. I tend to wear a fairly heavy leather belt, as I want something that is also effective over clothing. A belt tends to be a stingy implement and clearly works better on a bare bottom. But a belt with enough thud, can also achieve the desired results when used over clothing. It tends to present a little more like a paddling, as the sting is cut way down, but it still works. When a belt is used on a bare bottom is has the potential to make very serious changes in behavior. It is lovely in the sense that it hurts like hell during the process but also has the potential to lead to long term soreness. A hard paddling, on the bare, will often numb a bottom quite fast. Yes, you will get the long term effects that are often needed, but a lot of the punishment is not felt as much as it should be. But a belt has the ability to bridge this gap. I have found I can wear a young lady’s bottom out for several minutes without her ever going numb. On top of this, we are creating a long lasting soreness, deep into her muscles, that will assure that this is a lesson that she will feel, and remember, for a couple of days. When done right it really has the potential to be the best of both worlds.
I will be completely honest in saying, that when I use a belt the goal is bruises. If I am looking to only set someone’s bottom on fire and leave it glowing red, then she only required a handspanking. If her behavior requires that my belt is being pulled from my pants, it is indeed going to memorable. I might not be looking for the kind of “not being able to sit down” soreness, but I want her to wake up with a very real reminder of her behavior. I want this reminder to exist in a visual sense, so she can see the results of her actions when she looks in the mirror, but I also want it to be sore. No, it will not be the same as a paddling or a spanking with a hairbrush, but when she sits down for her day in her office chair, she is going to know she was punished. With proper accuracy I can swing a belt as hard as I want without fear of injury. If you look at the pictures included with this portion of the post, you will see that the overall goal is basically a large rectangle of marks. A major downside to a belt (and many other implements) is the fact that the cheek opposite the side you are spanking from is going to feel the bulk of the punishment. It is simple physics as the end of the belt farthest from my hand is going to travel much faster than the part closest to it. I am not someone who spanks with both my left and right hands. I can spank lefty, but not with as much skill and accuracy. The only time that I will spank from both sides with a belt is if someone is lying down on a bed and I am able to switch sides. I am still using my right hand for this, but the belt is coming from above, not behind, which allows the same stroke from either side.
When using a belt, I always fold it in half. If you look at any belt that I wear on a regular basis, there is a pretty clear crease in it. With a new heavy belt, I will often fold it where I want it, and place a stack of books on it overnight to give me the right crease. My belts are a size 36, so they are not overly long for use as a spanking implement. I always hold the buckle and the loose end together, but some people choose to wrap the belt around their hand a little. I am confident enough with my skill that I has spanking with any length belt simply folded in half, I just make adjustments to my stance. For those new to using a belt, it is probably best to wrap it a couple of time around your hand…shorter is always safer. Not that it needs to be said, but the buckle should never be used for spanking. If you feel someone’s behavior requires you to use something metal, then you should give up spanking all together. I like a somewhat wide belt, but not the ones that are too wide to fit into standard belt loops. 1 ½” seems to be ideal. With a narrower belt you run the risk of the belt twisting while you use it, which opens up the chance of hitting with the edge and not the flat part of the belt. My current belt for home discipline, which I absolutely love is the “Men’s Beefy Leather Belt” from Duluth Trading Company. It is the granddaddy of all spanking belts, I also own a few of their others, and they make a great product.
The next implement that I want to discuss is the wooden spoon. I would not say that it is next in line regarding severity, as I think the belt has more potential as a disciplinary tool. But like a belt, a spoon is something that we all have easy access to, and for many, it was indeed what they were spanked with growing up. To clarify, I am talking about your ordinary, everyday, household wooden spoon. None of what I am about to discuss applies to your extra-large, extra thick, Amish type of wooden spoons, those would better fall into the hairbrush of bath brush category. I am talking about wooden spoons that you often find in a multi-pack at any grocery store. They are typically made from very light wood and do not present the dangers that you might find with a paddle or a hairbrush. I think one of the main attractions to the wooden spoon for me is that it is an ordinary household object. I think there is a strong foundation in place, with its use as a disciplinary tool, for more than a century. I have never really been someone who was into whips and BDSM type implements, so I will always have an attraction to the implements that were commonly used by parents in the home.
I find that the spoon falls basically into the same category as a handspanking, except that the force is focused into a much smaller area. It takes more time to achieve full coverage with a spoon than it does with the hand, but the results tend to be more impressive. The wooden spoon is quite unique in the fact that it can create a fairly bruised bottom without the long term soreness typically associated with bruising. When used properly, a wooden spoon has the potential to create a little bull’s eye shaped bruise with each and every stroke. But unlike most implements that always leave a bruise; this one does it with less force and less compression of the skin. This gives us the unique opportunity to achieve better coverage with an implement that does indeed mark. I would never take a heavy, wooden, antique hairbrush, and cover every inch of someone’s bottom, there would just be too much risk to the tailbone. But with a spoon, I can almost cover the exact same area I would with my hand, but with an implement that will leave a visual reminder. This is fantastic if we are dealing with someone’s behavior that requires a fairly intense spanking, in which we want them to see the results of their actions for a couple of days, but long term soreness is not required. With a spoon I can literally cover their entire bottom with little purple bruises, and do so safely. Don’t get me wrong, the spoon stings like hell, it is not a walk in the park for the naughty young lady, but as far as wooden implements go, it falls on the lower end of severity.
Before I get into paddles I want to add a little context as to what I am discussing. As I discussed with the belt, for a quick little whuppin on our way out the door, not all spankings are created equal. For many people, a night of spanking is an event, it is something that they have been planning or talking about for weeks. It is not a quick little disciplinary reminder, it is something that is full of formality, lectures, and an entire evening, or weekend, is planned around it. For those over the years that have sought me out for some very real corporal punishment, clearly this is a much more long and drawn out experience. But some of what I am referring to is based on a relationship that is either “Head of Household” or in which domestic discipline exists on some level. These are relationships in which corporal punishment is part of the day to day relationship. In these situations, unless we are dealing with something really, really bad, spanking might be just a quick little reminder. This is not to say that this reminder is not something that won’t bring tears to her eyes and change her behavior, but it may just be quick and spontaneous without all of the formality that many expect from a spanking “scene”. I guess that is really the point, for many of us, spanking goes well beyond a “scene”, and really is used just as it exists with parents and children in the homes of America. It is a disciplinary tool, used often, and will not always involve a long lecture, corner time, nudity, counting, or any of the other things that creep into all of our fantasies. Sometimes it is just as simple as “your behavior at this very moment requires that I apply pain to your bottom”. With that being said, let’s take a look at my favorite implement.
If you have ever belonged to any of my sites, it is no secret that belts and paddles get the most attention. I think the reason for this, like a discussed with the spoon, is that they are implements with a long tradition and are often used in the real world. Growing up in the South, the paddle was used at school and the belt was used at home. I feared them both, and they were used for a reason, they work. While a paddle is not something that you can just go and buy in the store, it is something that is easily made. I think there is something a little sexy about that, in that you are actually creating a tool, by hand, in which the sole purpose is to provide discipline. The choices of wood, the design, the thickness, are all relevant and each one is specific to the level of punishment required. When I rented my very first house with a garage, while I was in college, one of the very first things I did was buy a scroll saw and build several paddles.
For me, what makes a paddle the king of the hill for spanking has everything to do with long term soreness. I have spoken on this topic so very many times, but for me, it is one of the most important parts of a proper punishment. When someone’s behavior really calls for it, why would I simply apply a punishment that is actually over the moment I stop, when I can apply a punishment that is felt and remembered for days? Yes, getting spanked for several minutes can suck, it can hurt, and it can create a tearful young lady. But 30 minutes later her bottom is humming in a good way, she is more sexually excited, and very quickly in her mind, it has become a positive experience. When the situation calls for it, I want to create an experience that as time goes on, gets worse. After those first 30 minutes, when there may have been some numbness and some pleasant tingling, as those sensations wear off, I want her to start to realize that the punishment has just begun. Most importantly, I want her to wake up the next morning and realize that she is in a world of hurt. Yes, those with a spanking fetish like a little soreness, and this will almost always enhance sexual feelings, but if done right, it eventually just becomes an annoyance. There might be a moment of pride as she goes to work and sits down at her desk, realizing that her bottom hurts a lot, but by the end of the day I want her to be miserable having not found any way that is comfortable to sit. I want every movement in her chair to remind her of why she is so sore. I want the pain to be the teacher and for it to educate her in a manner that she will change her behavior…this is the point of a spanking. And this is why I love using a paddle.
There are many types of paddles. There are different shapes, sizes, thicknesses, with holes, without holes, the variations are endless. My go to paddles will always be those that tend to match a typical school paddle. It will be a couple of feet long, with an easy to grip handle, made from a hard wood, and between ½-3/4” thick. Traditionally, paddles were designed for use over clothing. The whole purpose was to create an implement that can be used in any environment for those that required it. For generations parents have been baring bottoms because they want the naughty child to feel as much of the punishment as possible, but in the school environment, this was never an option. As a result, principals and woodshop teachers have perfected the ultimate spanking implement to be used over clothing. Not everyone wears the same thing to school, but it does not matter, a paddle is the great equalizer. Most spanking implement achieve their results as a result of the amount of sting that is applied to the skin, but with a paddle, it is the thud factor that makes it effective. There are very few implements in the world that are as effective over clothing as a paddle. This is not to say that there are many situations in which a bare bottom paddling is required, certainly there are, but I can achieve almost the same results regardless of the amount of clothing involved.
As I stated before, even with a heavy paddle I tend to swing close to full force. If her behavior required anything less than full force with a paddle, then I would be using a different implement. But if we are in a situation is which a paddling is required, I will never hesitate. I will admit that in the relationships that I have engaged in, in which domestic discipline was a major component, I used paddles a lot. There were certainly many occasions when their behavior called for something less than a paddle, but as I wrote before, severity is easily scaled through implement selection and duration. So on many occasion, something that might have only required a handspanking, resulted in a few quick licks with a paddle. Like I talked about, not every spanking is some sort of an event, and three swats with a paddle is enough to get my point across. I think that the first swat from a paddle, especially with no warmup, can do wonders in changing attitudes and behaviors. There is really no other implement that can simply take her breath away with just one swat. Obviously one swat is never enough, but that first swat with a paddle makes even those with a huge spanking fetish, regret the situation that they have put themselves in. It stings like hell even through clothing, but it totally compresses the skin, basically pushing it aside, to allow hard contact with deep tissue. Even one good paddle swat can cause bruising and soreness the next day. Now, add another dozen swats, on top of that very swat, and we are making very good progress.
Position is important as hard wood can be heavier than bone. There are a few lighter woods in which this is not the case, but for safety sake, we just assume all paddles can injure. It is a must that anyone being paddled be bent at least 90 degrees at the waist. You should already have a good sense of where the naughty girl’s tailbone is during any spanking, but with a paddle it is even more important. When someone bends over, the tailbone is located high up on their bottom. You should never consider paddling someone who is lying flat or standing straight up. Being that most paddles tend to cover a large area, this really limits where you can lay a swat on. You will see in all of my videos that all paddlings target the very lowest part of a young lady’s bottom. There are two reasons for this. The first is that this is the only safe place I can spank and still avoid the tailbone. You will never see me moving a school paddle up and down a young lady’s bottom trying to achieve full coverage. The second reason is this is the part of her bottom that touches a seat when she sits, and after all, my goal is for it to hurt for her to sit.
In my private life, a paddling that takes place in which more than a few swats are applied is a very serious event. We are talking about major transgressions, or, something that has had to be addressed on too many occasions. I am big on sending her to get the paddle herself, I think it adds ownership to the overall situation. With my go to paddle, rarely does a bottom need to be bared; I know I can get the job done with her fully clothed. I tend to favor three different positions for a paddling, hands on her knees, grabbing her ankles, or hands on the wall, outstretched so her arms and her body are on the same plane. I like the first two a lot because it makes her an active participant in her punishment. She does not just get to lay over the edge of the bed and take it, she actually has to work hard to maintain that position. Once again, it gives her more ownership in her punishment and she has to actually assist me to make it all possible. The hands on the wall position is reserved for a very serious paddling when I know that she will require as much support as possible. My goal is to create a change in behavior from the very first swat. I want any future threat of a paddling to be something that under no circumstances she would ever want to happen. Yes, naughty young ladies with a spanking fetish may indeed have a desire to be spanked, some may even want a “maintenance spanking” from time to time, but I do everything in my power to make sure that a paddling is something that is completely feared on all occasions.
With a paddling I am able to accomplish so much with very little work. After the first swat, the next one is going to be applied in the exact same spot. As with the belt, the right cheek is going to get worked a little more, but I have found that through minor adjustments in my grip and stance, I can balance things out pretty nicely. I know from experience, that it is really only the next 3-4 swats that I have to work with as far as what she will be feeling at the moment. Yes, all parts of a paddling hurt, but by overloading her senses so quickly, the body really does a good job of fighting back. Adrenaline and endorphins quickly compensate for the intense pain and she is able to relax a little and survive the rest. But this now provides me with a unique opportunity. Yes, I spank hard, I bruise butts, I get tears right away, but everyone does have actual limits, which I am very aware of. I see the heavy production of endorphins as my chance to really emphasize a point. I know that every swat beyond 6 or so is only going to add so much to the current experience, but every one after is going to add to the longevity of the punishment. If she is getting a well-deserved paddling, one really designed to permanently change behavior, then I want at least 3 days of soreness. With her bottom now numb, I am able to apply the rest of the paddling in a manner designed to affect behavior a few days out. Her bottom will be numb, it will be hard to the touch, and chances are there are two spots on the lowest part of her bottom that are an ugly mess of bruises. It might seem evil, mean, or even abusive, but this is the goal from a proper paddling. Remember once again, we are talking about adults in a consensual disciplinary relationship in which the rules and resulting punishments are clearly defined.
Obviously all of this results in a very sore bottom. It is indeed quite possible to make a bottom so sore that while sitting is never impossible, it is certainly something that they want no part of. The bonus, in most people’s day to day lives, it is pretty much impossible to go the entire day without sitting. We want her that sore if we are really dealing with something bad. For me, her just being sore is not the end of it at all, I will find every chance I can get to capitalize on her soreness and continue the lesson. When we go out to dinner the next night, there is no chance in hell we are going to be sitting in a padded booth; we will have the table with the hard wooden chairs please. No, you will not be wearing those baggy sweatpants today, please go squeeze your sore and swollen bottom into those extra tight jeans I love. I once drove someone back to the airport, who flew in for some very well deserved discipline, with a piece of plywood on the passenger seat. Another amazing thing that happens as a result of long term soreness from a good paddling is all behavior gets better. I have a very strict policy that a previous spanking, or the current state of a young lady’s bottom, has no influence on a punishment. She could have had the paddling of her life the night before, and if her attitude the next morning requires further punishment, then so be it, nothing changes as a result of her being as bruised and sore as she has ever been. She will get exactly what she has earned, it does not matter that she is ten times more sensitive. She might even require another paddling, but it is her behavior that dictates what needs to happen, it is completely out of my hands, my role is simply to enforce the rules. The first few days after a hard paddling actually help a young lady to see her full potential as she is very aware of her actions and behaviors and she is on her very best behavior.
Yes, there are many implements out there, and on occasion a cane or especially a switch will come into play in my private life, but they are not the norm. The last implement that I will discuss in detail is the hairbrush. When I talk about a hairbrush, I am not discussing cheap plastic brushes you can find at any store. I mean 1 inch thick, antique, wooden hairbrushes. There are also a few bath brushes that fall into this same category. Overall, they share many of the same characteristics of a heavy wooden paddle, but like the wooden spoon, they are much more specific. I have always reserved the hairbrush for the top tier of offenses. These are the ones in which we are dealing with life safety issues. This could be drunk or buzzed driving, texting and driving, a 90mph in a 40 zone ticket, or getting so drunk that you are not aware of your surroundings and own safety. These are the kind of punishments in which you are trying to permanently extinguish a behavior with a single application of corporal punishment. We are talking about a spanking, that even those with a huge spanking fetish and that enjoy some aspect of pain, would never want to repeat. These are once in a lifetime (hopefully) sort of spankings and are reserved for the worst of the worst.
Unlike many of the paddlings I administer, a punishment like this will always be a drawn out event. It is not going to be quick or spontaneous, and there will be quite a bit of formality involved. Typically, this will be a punishment that is sentenced to be carried out on a later date. I want to take full advantage of the nervousness and outright fear that one will experience when knowing such an event is going to take place. Even better, I will not even tell her when it is going to happen. She needs to spend every waking moment in my presence knowing that it could happen right now. I need her to have this time to reflect and contemplate her actions that led up to this. I am going to capitalize on every emotion I can draw from her to make sure this never happens again, not once, ever. When it comes down to the punishment itself, you can count on it being one that she will remember for the rest of her life. If the brush is coming out, she is going to get it on the bare bottom and she will be over my knee. Unlike most punishments, in which I require the naughty girl to maintain her position, I know that it might not be possible under these circumstances. With her over my knee, I am able to restrain her as needed, to assure that we complete the punishment.
The major difference between a paddling and the hairbrush is coverage. Because we are still talking about a heavy wooden implement, I am not going to be able to visit the upper portion of her bottom. What I am able to do it make sure that every single bit of real estate that is safe to spank, is completely worn out. It also allows me a little more coverage on the inner part of her butt cheeks. Obviously we are never going to spank a woman’s vagina (well, at least not with a brush under these circumstances) but a brush allows me to visit some hard to reach areas. I am not beyond spreading a little with one hand in order to get the inner parts. A good way to think about this coverage is the parts of her that would touch a bike seat. I am also able to more carefully work the very tops of the thighs as I can see exactly what I am doing. I am pretty accurate with a paddle, but it is a large implement with limitations, especially when applied over clothing. With the brush, and the small striking surface, I can teach a lesson like no other. I have literally done some studies on what part of the bottom touches a seat when a woman sits down. Many years ago, I sprinkled flour on a hard wooden dining chair and had a young lady sit down with her bottom slightly misted with water. I then helped her stand back up and was able to closely examine where exactly the flour was on her bottom. I took a few pictures, from a couple of angles, and will always have those images in my head when I am taking a brush to a bottom.
The goal is exactly that of a hard paddling, but clearly for the offenses we are talking about, it goes a little to the next level. There have been very rare occasions in which the hair brushing is applied in two sessions with a little corner time in between. Once the endorphins are totally flowing, it might be time for a little break, so she can at least get some sensations back in to her bottom. There are very few things as effective as a severe hairbrush spanking, followed by 15 minutes of corner time, and then another severe hair brushing on top of it. You have to be careful as a hard hairbrush spanking can lead to broken skin. Repeated hard smacks, on a bare bottom, especially with dry skin can lead to some breaks, which I always try to avoid. There was a certain young lady, whose skin I knew to be brittle, that had earned such a punishment, and I made her over moisturize her bottom for five days leading up to the event. I have found that you can get pretty close to making sitting impossible the next day and it might not be totally feasible to expect that she can actually go to work the next day. A well worn out bottom like that might need a little recovery time, with her on her belly with an ice pack the next morning. If this is the case, that is what a Friday punishment is for. She will still be feeling it on Monday and the lesson will linger for many days.
For those of you who have never experienced it, with a bottom this sore you will be amazed out how it really affects everything in your life. A paddling is one thing, but a hair brushing designed to bruise as many places as it safely can, the results are tremendous. We generally associate a bruised bottom with sitting, but it goes well beyond that. Obviously sleeping becomes an issue, as lying on her back is not a good option, and every movement of her legs causes discomfort to her bottom. Does this seem over the top to all of you? For me this is the desired result for life and death sort of issues that a young lady is being punished for. She cannot go 20 minutes at night without being woken up and reminded of her behavior. When she gets up the next morning, she cannot just swing her legs off the bed, as the puts too much pressure on her bottom. As she is struggling to find an awkward way to get out of bed, she is reminded of her behavior. As she walks to the bathroom, with each step she feels the pain in her glutes, and there is just no escaping that, and she is quickly reminded of her behavior. Then the worst part of her morning comes, trying to pee. There is no way she is going to allow her bottom to touch the hard toilet seat, so she ends up squatting. But as soon as she bends her legs, her glutes engage again, and she is squatting in unbearable pain simply to pee. Guess what, even an act as routine as going to the bathroom…reminds her of her behavior. Do you see a theme here? I do not care how big of a spanking fetish she has, I do not care how much she has masturbated to the thought of being in trouble, being lectured, someone lifting her dress and lowering her panties as she is taken over his knee. On this morning, as she stands in the kitchen making coffee, not daring to consider any seat in the entire house, she is not feeling sexy or excited, all she wants is to not feel this way at all. She would do anything for the persistent pain, aching, and throbbing to go way, anything at all. And if I have done my job right, correctly, and to the best of my ability, the one thing that she will do to not feel that way ever again, in a million years, is to change her behavior.
Note: I have been spanking women as a means of a real punishment for 22 years now. I consider myself a bit of a scientist in this area and I have done a lot of research. I try to educate and inform people based on my personal experiences. Clearly I have discussed some of the upper levels of consensual corporal punishment here. I am discussing severe corporal punishment with people I have a relationship with, ladies who I have grown to know as a person, and grown to know their limits. These sessions grew from a place of trust with their best interests in mind. All behaviors addressed were based on somewhat of a “discipline contract” in place, in which it was agreed upon ahead of time what offenses required a punishment and to what degree. Yes, in many of these cases we have grown well beyond safe words, but every relationship began with them in place. In all cases, I was approached by a woman requiring corporal punishment in her life, I have yet to have a spanking relationship in which I “convinced” someone that me spanking her to tears would be fun.
Remember, spanking is a CONSENSUAL activity between two adults in a secure relationship and nothing more. It is not for children ever, even if you are their parents, teacher, or relative. It is not for your naughty wife who wants nothing to do with it. It is not for the girl you picked up in the bar that is pissing you off. Spanking anyone that does not want to be spanked is abuse and hopefully you will end up in jail as a result.
Thursday, May 21, 2015
Spanking, Severity, and Real Life
I received a recent email that basically said that I was a douchebag that simply got off on beating defenseless women to tears. His point was that I was ruining the spanking scene for many people out there as it is hard to get someone to want to be spanked, after they have seen any of my videos. It is in his opinion, the severity of my videos is quite simply turning off potential women for him to spank. I thought I would run with this idea and further discuss my feelings on spanking and severity.
I fully understand that for many people, spanking is a fun and sexy little game that they like to play with someone close to them, and in a very sexual manner. I get it, I understand, but there is no part of that which really turns me on. I guess that is not fully true, as I am a man (an ass man at that), and any sort of access to a woman’s lovely bottom will always be exciting for me. But fun, playful, pitty pat little spankings fall into the same category as rubbing, touching, and squeezing a lovely bottom. But none of this plays at all into my fetish.
I have spent many years not only coming to grips with my fetish, but often trying to put this fetish into words for others to read. It is difficult at best to try and explain all of the little dynamics that make spanking exciting to me, and I often fail miserably trying to put it into words. To touch on the point the gentleman that wrote me was trying to say, for me it is not always about severity, it is about reality. It is about the root of spanking, why it exists, and corporal punishment at its core. When I was in elementary school and realized what a powerful effect spanking had on me, it had nothing to do with fun and playful spankings between consenting partners as a precursor to a sexual act. It had everything to do with how I felt when I realized the cute little girl next door would get her bottom spanked with a wooden spoon when she was naughty.
At the very root of all of this was a cause and effect situation, in which someone’s behavior could indeed result in a part of their body, one that no one was really allowed to see or touch, to be exposed to be spanked. There was a single purpose to this process, to provide pain to the bottom in a serious enough manner to discourage the person from engaging in that behavior again. My experience with all of this, and the experiences I am aware of from my childhood friends, is that the other goal from this process was tears. I cannot think of a single childhood experience that I am personally aware of in which a parent did not spank their child to tears. At the very root of spanking, over many generations, tears always have been the goal of any disciplinary spanking. From my childhood perspective, there were no other spanking in the world that existed except disciplinary.
Yes, I have grown older, and yes, there are various manners in which adults can engage in spanking that are far different from what happened during our childhoods. I also quite sure that if I was not in the position I am in now in my life, that I would take whatever I can get when it comes to spanking play and be quite happy with it. But I have lived a somewhat unique life in which spanking has always been a pretty central part of it. This has not only allowed me to spank basically who I want, however I want on film, but it has allowed me some very unique opportunities in my private life. I have been lucky enough at times in my life, to be sought out by women from around the world that were seeking the kind of discipline experience they knew I can provide.
I believe the reason that I am so frequently contacted by women in need of some discipline, is that they feel exactly how I do about the whole concept of spanking. Speaking to the original email that I was sent, I have never been in a situation in which I need to try and convince a potential girlfriend that spanking would be fun and something we should add to our sexual play. For me it is actually quite the opposite, and for the most part, spanking in my life generally does not have a sexual component. Yes, spanking turns me on and plays a very real role in the fantasies in my head. The women that I have spanked over my lifetime also have a very strong spanking fetish and spend their days masturbating to the thought of being spanked. But to be quite honest, I cannot think of a spanking I have administered in the last ten years in which my penis was even remotely involved. This is 100% because what I like the most about spanking is the discipline and not the sexual component.
So I guess the next question is, why do the spankings have to be so severe? First of all severity is quite subjective and a 10 on one person’s pain scale may be a 3 for someone else. It has very little to do with how hard I am actually spanking and has everything to do with how much it hurts the person being spanked. In my personal life, if I am going to take the time to spank someone, for actual issues or transgressions in their life, I am going to make it a real punishment. We are not talking about my little next door neighbor anymore, in which a dozen smacks with a wooden spoon is going to do the trick. We are talking about grown women, who for the most part, are seeing me for very real problems that need to be addressed. On top of that, these are women who want to actually be punished, but on another level, this is the thing that turns them on the most. I need to make sure that the experience cannot not at all be confused as being a reward. I need for this punishment to be an experience, as much as they masturbated both before and after the spanking, that would not likely to want to repeat.
One of the primary ways that this is accomplished is through severity. Yes, I add many things that make the overall experience suck like forced nudity, corner time, and maybe even some chores, but the biggest deciding factor regarding their future behavior is the severity of the spanking. I am not the guy that stops a spanking once tears begin; I see that as the starting place. This women have come to me to actually help them either relieve guilt from a previous behavior, or to prevent that behavior from occurring ever again. This is not accomplished, especially when spanking someone with a spanking fetish, by a couple minute handspanking over my knee. This is also not accomplished by some sort of long warm-up that allows their body to slowly adapt to the pain they are receiving. It is accomplished by overwhelming their senses and quickly taking them well beyond what they can handle. A warm glow to their bottom that just makes them feel all turned on, does nothing to change behavior. Them wanting it to stop from the very first to the very last stroke is where a place where change comes from.
I have also received criticism about how horrible and ugly I make the bottoms look as a result of bruising. For me, bruising is a very effective tool that I utilize often. It serves many purposes, but in the initial stages it is a visual indicator for me that I am making progress. I have spoken many times to the fact that I feel a proper punishment lasts well beyond the spanking itself. While I am applying the punishment, bruises show me, not only that the bottom is going to be sore after I am through, but where it is going to be sore. My goal is always to make sure that sitting is as issue for the young lady in question, hopefully for at least a couple of days. Bruises allow me to “check my work” as I go and make sure that the part of her bottom that will touch a chair is in the correct state in which learning will continue to take place for a given period of time.
On her end, bruises serve a couple of purposes. As I just stated, a bruised bottom is a sore bottom. I truly want her to have a couple of days of hell when it comes to sitting down. There will always be a little excitement for a young lady with a spanking fetish to have a freshly spanked bottom. But the next day, when the endorphins are gone, she is not “in trouble” and being lectured, a bruised and sore bottom is exactly that. I want her squirming in her office chair, eventually learning that there is no comfortable position that takes the pain away. I want her to be reminded of her previous behavior as she goes about every part of her day. I want it to hurt to sit, to walk, and to use the toilet. I want her to have a restless night of sleep as the continual throbbing of her bottom continues to wake her up. I also want her to have a visual reminder of her behavior. I want her to look at her bruised bottom in the mirror and to know that she created that. It was not just my spanking that left her bottom in that state; it was her choices, decisions, and actions that are responsible for what she sees.
Now in the email he was clearly speaking about the severity of the videos that I film for my various websites. Clearly this is a much different situation than a young lady coming to me for very real offenses she has committed in her personal life. Now we are forced to deal with fantasy and role play, it is what it is. The thing I have always tried to create in my videos is exactly how I utilize spanking in my private life and what spanking is at its very core. My scenes go back to what I explained at the very beginning, a cause and effect relationship. I produce scenarios in which someone has done something that they clearly knew was wrong, and on top of that, they likely knew what that behavior would result in. While there is an awful lot of fantasy involved in the RSI videos, I try my very best to make most scenes realistic.
Just as in my personal life, the women that are being spanked in my videos are no longer the age of my little next door neighbor. These are grown women, and if I am going to produce a scene that is highly realistic, then the spankings need to be real. These are paid models, and for the most part have done nothing to deserve the spanking, so I do indeed have to take their personal limits and tolerances into consideration. But everyone comes here fully informed and knows that after their first few spankings at my hands that the realism factor is going to be ramped up. They know that I will be finding their limits and I will indeed be exceeding them. On and off camera I like real spankings, and for the most part, I believe our typical members like the same thing. A real punishment spanking involves being taken beyond what she would gladly accept. I have worked out a system over the years of interviewing and hiring the right girls for the job, ones that are willing to be taken to that place. They may not actually deserve it, but we are providing a service for our members, so these girls are well compensated to be taken to this place that is beyond what they can take.
So I do not really get off on making girls cry and turning their bottoms black and blue. In my private life however, I do enjoy being the person that has been trusted and charged with providing the discipline that someone has earned. Them having earned it is everything to me. In the last ten years I have never once given a private spanking to someone who just wanted to know what it was like. Nor have I spanked someone just because they trusted me to give them the most severe spanking ever. I have however bruised and blistered many bottom of those behavior required it. I have been more than happy to spank someone until the crying actually stops in order to change a behavior in their life that was dangerous. On a couple of occasion I provided a much needed service for young ladies who made poor choices and ended up with a DUI. I did not “beat a defenseless women to tears”, I punished someone who needed it, whose behavior required it, and made sure that a few days were spent on their bellies with an icepack on their bottoms to make sure that they never did it again.
Tuesday, May 19, 2015
New Model Bobbi
We just shot a new model for both Realspankings and RealSpankingsInstitute. Her name is Bobbi and I think you all are going to like her. Here is a preview:
