Monday, June 01, 2015
Implements, severity, and a lesson learned
So with the disclaimer that I am writing about consensual adult spanking, for someone who has actually earned the spanking, let’s talk a little bit about implements and what is required to get the job done. There will never be a case in which I give a real life spanking in which someone is not taught a lesson. Yes, there are varying levels of severity, clearly defined by an individual’s behavior, but I am just not one to take the time to spank if it is not going to serve as a real deterrent for behavior. Basically, either the behavior requires a spanking or it does not, I see no in between. There is no, “Well...you were only a little naughty, so I will be spanking you, but it will not be that bad”. If it does not need to be “that bad” then a spanking is probably not required. That situation might call for a warning, loss of privileges, or something else, but if I need to spank you, it will be “that bad”.
Now obviously, not all spankings are created equal, and there can be a spanking that seems much gentler on the scale, but still teaches a lesson. Texting while I am trying to have a conversation with you at dinner, and driving drunk are not the same offense, however, each one clearly requires a spanking. I adjust the severity of my spankings in two ways, implement selection and duration. Yes, there are other adjustments than can be made such as state of dress, position, time out, etc., but when we are talking about the actual pain of a spanking, implement selection and duration are the primary factors to consider. I tend to give almost all spankings at about 85% of what I am capable of. This is enough force to make it unbearable from the very beginning, but always leaves me with a little reserve for situations in which the naughty young lady is not holding still or following directions. Under all circumstances she needs to know that it can indeed get worse. What this means, that regardless of whether it is my hand or a heavy wooden hairbrush, I am going pretty close to full force. It would be silly to decide that a certain behavior requires a hairbrush to be used, and then apply it at 30%. I need the person to know, even before we start, based on implement selection alone, exactly how I feel about their behavior. There can be no thought process like “well he chose the brush, maybe it won’t be that bad”. She needs to see that brush and know instantly that this is indeed VERY bad, and know exactly what she is in for.
But on the flip side, even is she knows she is in for a handspanking, she also needs to know that it is not going to be easy. Yes, in the grand scope of corporal punishment, a
handspanking falls pretty low on the pain scale, but it still needs to be a proper punishment or there is no point. Let’s look a little closer at what I see as a proper handspanking. While there are some implements that I feel are almost just as effective over clothing, the hand will never fall into that category. If I am going to use my hand, her bottom is going to be bared. One of the most important factors, with my hand or any other implement, is there is going to be no warm-up. What is the point of this people? Why would I start easy and gradually make it harder? As the spanking progresses and endorphins begin to flow, the spanking is going to be easier for her to tolerate at the end. If anything, I need to take full advantage of the sensitivity at the beginning to really give her all that I am capable of. This is just a handspanking, so I have to work harder to make sure I achieve the desired results, which is her kicking and screaming with tears streaming down her face. If I do anything to make it easier on her, I will just never get there, which is certainly not fair for her at all. Are we not doing this for her, to help her change?
When I apply a handspanking, I tend to do it differently than I see the typical person doing it. First of all, I do not alternate cheeks with every smack. My goal, beside the desired results that I just wrote about, is complete coverage. I tend to work certain zones of her bottom, assuring that there is no area that is left untouched. This is harder to achieve by alternating from cheek to cheek. If you have ever watched me in action on video, you will see that I may apply 10-12 on one cheek from the very beginning. My goal is to make as large of an area as possible, as sore as possible. There is one very big bonus when using only your hand to spank and that is the areas you can actually spank. When I am using a heavy wooden implement, I am limited to the lowest part of the bottom, far away from her tailbone. When I am using a belt or a strap, I have to avoid wrap around, and can get nowhere near the hips. There are some implements out there in which I am hesitant to apply to the tops of her thighs. But with my hand...Game ON! This is the beauty of the hand, I can spank in a manner that achieves better coverage than I can achieve with any other implement. Only with a hand will I spank at the very, very top of her butt cheeks. Only with a hand will I work all the way around to the sides of her hips. With very few implements can I work half way down her thighs. Now you may be asking yourself, why would he want to spank those places? The reason is simple, those are very sensitive areas, and if I am limiting this punishment to a handspanking, I want to take full advantage of areas that hurt more. I am a big fan of a hard paddling in which all swats are places on top of each other, as it leads to maximum long term soreness, at the location is which she sits. A handspanking is only going to leave someone so sore, so the bulk of the punishment happens while the spanking is taking place. Based on this concept, I want as large of an area as possible to be feeling it.
So, spanking hard is important, as well as going with full coverage, but what is definitely required is duration. A paddling might only be a 60 second event, as that is all that is required to get the job done. While it might not be all that easy for beginners, as it takes some time to build up endurance, I think a handspanking starts at about 3 minutes. Who is to say that you cannot take a break if needed midway through? Once you feel that you are getting winded and tired, it might be time to take a break. There is no point in continuing the spanking if she is not feeling the full effect. I have found over the years, as I have gotten older it is harder on my shoulder, to put her over both knees. When over both knees I really have to work to get her left cheek and it tends to strain my shoulder. When she is over just my left knee, or straddling my left knee, I have better access and can better put everything into it. Being that she will not have much of a sore bottom the next day, we really need to take advantage of the time we have, so 5 minutes should always be the goal. As soon as it is over, her endorphins will be flowing and in just a few minutes, she will only be left with a warm glow, and a not so unpleasant feeling. If you are in a spanking relationship, then this is one of the things she really enjoys. You need to make those 5 minutes something that she does not enjoy. It depends on the woman, but in most cases it is hard to properly bruise a bottom with just a handspanking. Typically the desired results are what most refer to as “pepper bruising”. If you are doing it right, she will likely have little purple specks on her bottom, especially in the less fleshy areas. While this may not lead to the same desired long term soreness that we achieve using a heavy implement, it is the desired results from a handspanking. This also helps to illustrate why we cover such a wide area, those areas we do not typically get to spank show the best results during a handspanking. Take a look at the pics included for good examples of minimum requirements that we should expect to achieve from a handspanking.
I would say the most common implement that people use, beyond the hand, is a belt. It has a certain stigma attached to it and has the ability to make any young lady quiver a little. If she was spanked growing up, chances are it was with a belt. It is not only a painful implement; it has strong visuals attached to it. There is not a woman out there in the spanking world that does not get a certain feeling as a belt is pulled from the belt loops. For whatever reason, there is a certain power attached to the belt, and as much as they might fear it, there is something they just love about it. You ladies know who you are, the ones that spend that extra moment at the men’s belt rack in Wal-Mart, go ahead and nod your head, you know I am right. And that is also one of the reasons why it is used so often in spanking relationships, you can buy one anywhere. Hell, you do not even need to buy one, you already own a few. But it is one of those items that a couple can actually go spanking toy shopping for without any embarrassment. I have sent many young ladies to the store to pick out the exact belt to be used on them. They may have blushed a little while buying it, but they were the only ones who knew that it was about to be used on their bottoms.
For me, the belt is typically the next step up in the severity scale, depending on the belt and depending on how it is used. Obviously, through proper belt selection and state of dress, it has the potential to be very severe. Typically, if I need that level of severity I am going with wood anyways, so let’s talk about the belt as a moderately severe implement. One of the things I like about the belt is I can make a very quick, but effective point, on the spot. I almost always wear one, and I typically wear one that I know will work for spanking. I love to use a belt for a very quick lesson when we are in a hurry. Think of those times when you are walking out the door for a dinner date, to meet some friends, and you are already running late. Maybe she is indeed the reason while we are running late, and a little education needs to happen on the spot. Instead of pulling up a chair, having her bare her bottom and go over my knee for 5 minutes, I can simply have her grab her ankles right there in the family room. From the time she is told she is going to be punished, until the time that I am starting to blister her bottom, is less than 30 seconds. With the right belt, even over clothing and panties, I can be pretty convincing in a minute or so. Even if we are very late, 60 seconds spent emphasizing my point has not changed the course of our night all that much. She might need to bring her little makeup bag for a touch up in the car, but sometimes a punishment is best dealt with at the moment it is required.
Unlike the hand, a belt requires a little practice and skill. You cannot be a total novice and just go to town with a belt. Obviously, with a belt or any other implement, anything above the waist is just off limits. There is just too much there that you want to avoid, regardless of what you are using. Another issue is someone who stands to close and ends up wrapping around and hitting the hips. I do not think the same dangers exists there are above the waist, but it is just bad form. It also tends to leave really nasty marks and the way the belt wraps, especially on bare skin, also leaves the potential for breaking skin. So, assuming you actually know what you are doing (practice on a pair of jeans stuffed with pillows if you need to), let’s look at my expectations from a proper punishment with a belt. I tend to wear a fairly heavy leather belt, as I want something that is also effective over clothing. A belt tends to be a stingy implement and clearly works better on a bare bottom. But a belt with enough thud, can also achieve the desired results when used over clothing. It tends to present a little more like a paddling, as the sting is cut way down, but it still works. When a belt is used on a bare bottom is has the potential to make very serious changes in behavior. It is lovely in the sense that it hurts like hell during the process but also has the potential to lead to long term soreness. A hard paddling, on the bare, will often numb a bottom quite fast. Yes, you will get the long term effects that are often needed, but a lot of the punishment is not felt as much as it should be. But a belt has the ability to bridge this gap. I have found I can wear a young lady’s bottom out for several minutes without her ever going numb. On top of this, we are creating a long lasting soreness, deep into her muscles, that will assure that this is a lesson that she will feel, and remember, for a couple of days. When done right it really has the potential to be the best of both worlds.
I will be completely honest in saying, that when I use a belt the goal is bruises. If I am looking to only set someone’s bottom on fire and leave it glowing red, then she only required a handspanking. If her behavior requires that my belt is being pulled from my pants, it is indeed going to memorable. I might not be looking for the kind of “not being able to sit down” soreness, but I want her to wake up with a very real reminder of her behavior. I want this reminder to exist in a visual sense, so she can see the results of her actions when she looks in the mirror, but I also want it to be sore. No, it will not be the same as a paddling or a spanking with a hairbrush, but when she sits down for her day in her office chair, she is going to know she was punished. With proper accuracy I can swing a belt as hard as I want without fear of injury. If you look at the pictures included with this portion of the post, you will see that the overall goal is basically a large rectangle of marks. A major downside to a belt (and many other implements) is the fact that the cheek opposite the side you are spanking from is going to feel the bulk of the punishment. It is simple physics as the end of the belt farthest from my hand is going to travel much faster than the part closest to it. I am not someone who spanks with both my left and right hands. I can spank lefty, but not with as much skill and accuracy. The only time that I will spank from both sides with a belt is if someone is lying down on a bed and I am able to switch sides. I am still using my right hand for this, but the belt is coming from above, not behind, which allows the same stroke from either side.
When using a belt, I always fold it in half. If you look at any belt that I wear on a regular basis, there is a pretty clear crease in it. With a new heavy belt, I will often fold it where I want it, and place a stack of books on it overnight to give me the right crease. My belts are a size 36, so they are not overly long for use as a spanking implement. I always hold the buckle and the loose end together, but some people choose to wrap the belt around their hand a little. I am confident enough with my skill that I has spanking with any length belt simply folded in half, I just make adjustments to my stance. For those new to using a belt, it is probably best to wrap it a couple of time around your hand…shorter is always safer. Not that it needs to be said, but the buckle should never be used for spanking. If you feel someone’s behavior requires you to use something metal, then you should give up spanking all together. I like a somewhat wide belt, but not the ones that are too wide to fit into standard belt loops. 1 ½” seems to be ideal. With a narrower belt you run the risk of the belt twisting while you use it, which opens up the chance of hitting with the edge and not the flat part of the belt. My current belt for home discipline, which I absolutely love is the “Men’s Beefy Leather Belt” from Duluth Trading Company. It is the granddaddy of all spanking belts, I also own a few of their others, and they make a great product.
The next implement that I want to discuss is the wooden spoon. I would not say that it is next in line regarding severity, as I think the belt has more potential as a disciplinary tool. But like a belt, a spoon is something that we all have easy access to, and for many, it was indeed what they were spanked with growing up. To clarify, I am talking about your ordinary, everyday, household wooden spoon. None of what I am about to discuss applies to your extra-large, extra thick, Amish type of wooden spoons, those would better fall into the hairbrush of bath brush category. I am talking about wooden spoons that you often find in a multi-pack at any grocery store. They are typically made from very light wood and do not present the dangers that you might find with a paddle or a hairbrush. I think one of the main attractions to the wooden spoon for me is that it is an ordinary household object. I think there is a strong foundation in place, with its use as a disciplinary tool, for more than a century. I have never really been someone who was into whips and BDSM type implements, so I will always have an attraction to the implements that were commonly used by parents in the home.
I find that the spoon falls basically into the same category as a handspanking, except that the force is focused into a much smaller area. It takes more time to achieve full coverage with a spoon than it does with the hand, but the results tend to be more impressive. The wooden spoon is quite unique in the fact that it can create a fairly bruised bottom without the long term soreness typically associated with bruising. When used properly, a wooden spoon has the potential to create a little bull’s eye shaped bruise with each and every stroke. But unlike most implements that always leave a bruise; this one does it with less force and less compression of the skin. This gives us the unique opportunity to achieve better coverage with an implement that does indeed mark. I would never take a heavy, wooden, antique hairbrush, and cover every inch of someone’s bottom, there would just be too much risk to the tailbone. But with a spoon, I can almost cover the exact same area I would with my hand, but with an implement that will leave a visual reminder. This is fantastic if we are dealing with someone’s behavior that requires a fairly intense spanking, in which we want them to see the results of their actions for a couple of days, but long term soreness is not required. With a spoon I can literally cover their entire bottom with little purple bruises, and do so safely. Don’t get me wrong, the spoon stings like hell, it is not a walk in the park for the naughty young lady, but as far as wooden implements go, it falls on the lower end of severity.
Before I get into paddles I want to add a little context as to what I am discussing. As I discussed with the belt, for a quick little whuppin on our way out the door, not all spankings are created equal. For many people, a night of spanking is an event, it is something that they have been planning or talking about for weeks. It is not a quick little disciplinary reminder, it is something that is full of formality, lectures, and an entire evening, or weekend, is planned around it. For those over the years that have sought me out for some very real corporal punishment, clearly this is a much more long and drawn out experience. But some of what I am referring to is based on a relationship that is either “Head of Household” or in which domestic discipline exists on some level. These are relationships in which corporal punishment is part of the day to day relationship. In these situations, unless we are dealing with something really, really bad, spanking might be just a quick little reminder. This is not to say that this reminder is not something that won’t bring tears to her eyes and change her behavior, but it may just be quick and spontaneous without all of the formality that many expect from a spanking “scene”. I guess that is really the point, for many of us, spanking goes well beyond a “scene”, and really is used just as it exists with parents and children in the homes of America. It is a disciplinary tool, used often, and will not always involve a long lecture, corner time, nudity, counting, or any of the other things that creep into all of our fantasies. Sometimes it is just as simple as “your behavior at this very moment requires that I apply pain to your bottom”. With that being said, let’s take a look at my favorite implement.
If you have ever belonged to any of my sites, it is no secret that belts and paddles get the most attention. I think the reason for this, like a discussed with the spoon, is that they are implements with a long tradition and are often used in the real world. Growing up in the South, the paddle was used at school and the belt was used at home. I feared them both, and they were used for a reason, they work. While a paddle is not something that you can just go and buy in the store, it is something that is easily made. I think there is something a little sexy about that, in that you are actually creating a tool, by hand, in which the sole purpose is to provide discipline. The choices of wood, the design, the thickness, are all relevant and each one is specific to the level of punishment required. When I rented my very first house with a garage, while I was in college, one of the very first things I did was buy a scroll saw and build several paddles.
For me, what makes a paddle the king of the hill for spanking has everything to do with long term soreness. I have spoken on this topic so very many times, but for me, it is one of the most important parts of a proper punishment. When someone’s behavior really calls for it, why would I simply apply a punishment that is actually over the moment I stop, when I can apply a punishment that is felt and remembered for days? Yes, getting spanked for several minutes can suck, it can hurt, and it can create a tearful young lady. But 30 minutes later her bottom is humming in a good way, she is more sexually excited, and very quickly in her mind, it has become a positive experience. When the situation calls for it, I want to create an experience that as time goes on, gets worse. After those first 30 minutes, when there may have been some numbness and some pleasant tingling, as those sensations wear off, I want her to start to realize that the punishment has just begun. Most importantly, I want her to wake up the next morning and realize that she is in a world of hurt. Yes, those with a spanking fetish like a little soreness, and this will almost always enhance sexual feelings, but if done right, it eventually just becomes an annoyance. There might be a moment of pride as she goes to work and sits down at her desk, realizing that her bottom hurts a lot, but by the end of the day I want her to be miserable having not found any way that is comfortable to sit. I want every movement in her chair to remind her of why she is so sore. I want the pain to be the teacher and for it to educate her in a manner that she will change her behavior…this is the point of a spanking. And this is why I love using a paddle.
There are many types of paddles. There are different shapes, sizes, thicknesses, with holes, without holes, the variations are endless. My go to paddles will always be those that tend to match a typical school paddle. It will be a couple of feet long, with an easy to grip handle, made from a hard wood, and between ½-3/4” thick. Traditionally, paddles were designed for use over clothing. The whole purpose was to create an implement that can be used in any environment for those that required it. For generations parents have been baring bottoms because they want the naughty child to feel as much of the punishment as possible, but in the school environment, this was never an option. As a result, principals and woodshop teachers have perfected the ultimate spanking implement to be used over clothing. Not everyone wears the same thing to school, but it does not matter, a paddle is the great equalizer. Most spanking implement achieve their results as a result of the amount of sting that is applied to the skin, but with a paddle, it is the thud factor that makes it effective. There are very few implements in the world that are as effective over clothing as a paddle. This is not to say that there are many situations in which a bare bottom paddling is required, certainly there are, but I can achieve almost the same results regardless of the amount of clothing involved.
As I stated before, even with a heavy paddle I tend to swing close to full force. If her behavior required anything less than full force with a paddle, then I would be using a different implement. But if we are in a situation is which a paddling is required, I will never hesitate. I will admit that in the relationships that I have engaged in, in which domestic discipline was a major component, I used paddles a lot. There were certainly many occasions when their behavior called for something less than a paddle, but as I wrote before, severity is easily scaled through implement selection and duration. So on many occasion, something that might have only required a handspanking, resulted in a few quick licks with a paddle. Like I talked about, not every spanking is some sort of an event, and three swats with a paddle is enough to get my point across. I think that the first swat from a paddle, especially with no warmup, can do wonders in changing attitudes and behaviors. There is really no other implement that can simply take her breath away with just one swat. Obviously one swat is never enough, but that first swat with a paddle makes even those with a huge spanking fetish, regret the situation that they have put themselves in. It stings like hell even through clothing, but it totally compresses the skin, basically pushing it aside, to allow hard contact with deep tissue. Even one good paddle swat can cause bruising and soreness the next day. Now, add another dozen swats, on top of that very swat, and we are making very good progress.
Position is important as hard wood can be heavier than bone. There are a few lighter woods in which this is not the case, but for safety sake, we just assume all paddles can injure. It is a must that anyone being paddled be bent at least 90 degrees at the waist. You should already have a good sense of where the naughty girl’s tailbone is during any spanking, but with a paddle it is even more important. When someone bends over, the tailbone is located high up on their bottom. You should never consider paddling someone who is lying flat or standing straight up. Being that most paddles tend to cover a large area, this really limits where you can lay a swat on. You will see in all of my videos that all paddlings target the very lowest part of a young lady’s bottom. There are two reasons for this. The first is that this is the only safe place I can spank and still avoid the tailbone. You will never see me moving a school paddle up and down a young lady’s bottom trying to achieve full coverage. The second reason is this is the part of her bottom that touches a seat when she sits, and after all, my goal is for it to hurt for her to sit.
In my private life, a paddling that takes place in which more than a few swats are applied is a very serious event. We are talking about major transgressions, or, something that has had to be addressed on too many occasions. I am big on sending her to get the paddle herself, I think it adds ownership to the overall situation. With my go to paddle, rarely does a bottom need to be bared; I know I can get the job done with her fully clothed. I tend to favor three different positions for a paddling, hands on her knees, grabbing her ankles, or hands on the wall, outstretched so her arms and her body are on the same plane. I like the first two a lot because it makes her an active participant in her punishment. She does not just get to lay over the edge of the bed and take it, she actually has to work hard to maintain that position. Once again, it gives her more ownership in her punishment and she has to actually assist me to make it all possible. The hands on the wall position is reserved for a very serious paddling when I know that she will require as much support as possible. My goal is to create a change in behavior from the very first swat. I want any future threat of a paddling to be something that under no circumstances she would ever want to happen. Yes, naughty young ladies with a spanking fetish may indeed have a desire to be spanked, some may even want a “maintenance spanking” from time to time, but I do everything in my power to make sure that a paddling is something that is completely feared on all occasions.
With a paddling I am able to accomplish so much with very little work. After the first swat, the next one is going to be applied in the exact same spot. As with the belt, the right cheek is going to get worked a little more, but I have found that through minor adjustments in my grip and stance, I can balance things out pretty nicely. I know from experience, that it is really only the next 3-4 swats that I have to work with as far as what she will be feeling at the moment. Yes, all parts of a paddling hurt, but by overloading her senses so quickly, the body really does a good job of fighting back. Adrenaline and endorphins quickly compensate for the intense pain and she is able to relax a little and survive the rest. But this now provides me with a unique opportunity. Yes, I spank hard, I bruise butts, I get tears right away, but everyone does have actual limits, which I am very aware of. I see the heavy production of endorphins as my chance to really emphasize a point. I know that every swat beyond 6 or so is only going to add so much to the current experience, but every one after is going to add to the longevity of the punishment. If she is getting a well-deserved paddling, one really designed to permanently change behavior, then I want at least 3 days of soreness. With her bottom now numb, I am able to apply the rest of the paddling in a manner designed to affect behavior a few days out. Her bottom will be numb, it will be hard to the touch, and chances are there are two spots on the lowest part of her bottom that are an ugly mess of bruises. It might seem evil, mean, or even abusive, but this is the goal from a proper paddling. Remember once again, we are talking about adults in a consensual disciplinary relationship in which the rules and resulting punishments are clearly defined.
Obviously all of this results in a very sore bottom. It is indeed quite possible to make a bottom so sore that while sitting is never impossible, it is certainly something that they want no part of. The bonus, in most people’s day to day lives, it is pretty much impossible to go the entire day without sitting. We want her that sore if we are really dealing with something bad. For me, her just being sore is not the end of it at all, I will find every chance I can get to capitalize on her soreness and continue the lesson. When we go out to dinner the next night, there is no chance in hell we are going to be sitting in a padded booth; we will have the table with the hard wooden chairs please. No, you will not be wearing those baggy sweatpants today, please go squeeze your sore and swollen bottom into those extra tight jeans I love. I once drove someone back to the airport, who flew in for some very well deserved discipline, with a piece of plywood on the passenger seat. Another amazing thing that happens as a result of long term soreness from a good paddling is all behavior gets better. I have a very strict policy that a previous spanking, or the current state of a young lady’s bottom, has no influence on a punishment. She could have had the paddling of her life the night before, and if her attitude the next morning requires further punishment, then so be it, nothing changes as a result of her being as bruised and sore as she has ever been. She will get exactly what she has earned, it does not matter that she is ten times more sensitive. She might even require another paddling, but it is her behavior that dictates what needs to happen, it is completely out of my hands, my role is simply to enforce the rules. The first few days after a hard paddling actually help a young lady to see her full potential as she is very aware of her actions and behaviors and she is on her very best behavior.
Yes, there are many implements out there, and on occasion a cane or especially a switch will come into play in my private life, but they are not the norm. The last implement that I will discuss in detail is the hairbrush. When I talk about a hairbrush, I am not discussing cheap plastic brushes you can find at any store. I mean 1 inch thick, antique, wooden hairbrushes. There are also a few bath brushes that fall into this same category. Overall, they share many of the same characteristics of a heavy wooden paddle, but like the wooden spoon, they are much more specific. I have always reserved the hairbrush for the top tier of offenses. These are the ones in which we are dealing with life safety issues. This could be drunk or buzzed driving, texting and driving, a 90mph in a 40 zone ticket, or getting so drunk that you are not aware of your surroundings and own safety. These are the kind of punishments in which you are trying to permanently extinguish a behavior with a single application of corporal punishment. We are talking about a spanking, that even those with a huge spanking fetish and that enjoy some aspect of pain, would never want to repeat. These are once in a lifetime (hopefully) sort of spankings and are reserved for the worst of the worst.
Unlike many of the paddlings I administer, a punishment like this will always be a drawn out event. It is not going to be quick or spontaneous, and there will be quite a bit of formality involved. Typically, this will be a punishment that is sentenced to be carried out on a later date. I want to take full advantage of the nervousness and outright fear that one will experience when knowing such an event is going to take place. Even better, I will not even tell her when it is going to happen. She needs to spend every waking moment in my presence knowing that it could happen right now. I need her to have this time to reflect and contemplate her actions that led up to this. I am going to capitalize on every emotion I can draw from her to make sure this never happens again, not once, ever. When it comes down to the punishment itself, you can count on it being one that she will remember for the rest of her life. If the brush is coming out, she is going to get it on the bare bottom and she will be over my knee. Unlike most punishments, in which I require the naughty girl to maintain her position, I know that it might not be possible under these circumstances. With her over my knee, I am able to restrain her as needed, to assure that we complete the punishment.
The major difference between a paddling and the hairbrush is coverage. Because we are still talking about a heavy wooden implement, I am not going to be able to visit the upper portion of her bottom. What I am able to do it make sure that every single bit of real estate that is safe to spank, is completely worn out. It also allows me a little more coverage on the inner part of her butt cheeks. Obviously we are never going to spank a woman’s vagina (well, at least not with a brush under these circumstances) but a brush allows me to visit some hard to reach areas. I am not beyond spreading a little with one hand in order to get the inner parts. A good way to think about this coverage is the parts of her that would touch a bike seat. I am also able to more carefully work the very tops of the thighs as I can see exactly what I am doing. I am pretty accurate with a paddle, but it is a large implement with limitations, especially when applied over clothing. With the brush, and the small striking surface, I can teach a lesson like no other. I have literally done some studies on what part of the bottom touches a seat when a woman sits down. Many years ago, I sprinkled flour on a hard wooden dining chair and had a young lady sit down with her bottom slightly misted with water. I then helped her stand back up and was able to closely examine where exactly the flour was on her bottom. I took a few pictures, from a couple of angles, and will always have those images in my head when I am taking a brush to a bottom.
The goal is exactly that of a hard paddling, but clearly for the offenses we are talking about, it goes a little to the next level. There have been very rare occasions in which the hair brushing is applied in two sessions with a little corner time in between. Once the endorphins are totally flowing, it might be time for a little break, so she can at least get some sensations back in to her bottom. There are very few things as effective as a severe hairbrush spanking, followed by 15 minutes of corner time, and then another severe hair brushing on top of it. You have to be careful as a hard hairbrush spanking can lead to broken skin. Repeated hard smacks, on a bare bottom, especially with dry skin can lead to some breaks, which I always try to avoid. There was a certain young lady, whose skin I knew to be brittle, that had earned such a punishment, and I made her over moisturize her bottom for five days leading up to the event. I have found that you can get pretty close to making sitting impossible the next day and it might not be totally feasible to expect that she can actually go to work the next day. A well worn out bottom like that might need a little recovery time, with her on her belly with an ice pack the next morning. If this is the case, that is what a Friday punishment is for. She will still be feeling it on Monday and the lesson will linger for many days.
For those of you who have never experienced it, with a bottom this sore you will be amazed out how it really affects everything in your life. A paddling is one thing, but a hair brushing designed to bruise as many places as it safely can, the results are tremendous. We generally associate a bruised bottom with sitting, but it goes well beyond that. Obviously sleeping becomes an issue, as lying on her back is not a good option, and every movement of her legs causes discomfort to her bottom. Does this seem over the top to all of you? For me this is the desired result for life and death sort of issues that a young lady is being punished for. She cannot go 20 minutes at night without being woken up and reminded of her behavior. When she gets up the next morning, she cannot just swing her legs off the bed, as the puts too much pressure on her bottom. As she is struggling to find an awkward way to get out of bed, she is reminded of her behavior. As she walks to the bathroom, with each step she feels the pain in her glutes, and there is just no escaping that, and she is quickly reminded of her behavior. Then the worst part of her morning comes, trying to pee. There is no way she is going to allow her bottom to touch the hard toilet seat, so she ends up squatting. But as soon as she bends her legs, her glutes engage again, and she is squatting in unbearable pain simply to pee. Guess what, even an act as routine as going to the bathroom…reminds her of her behavior. Do you see a theme here? I do not care how big of a spanking fetish she has, I do not care how much she has masturbated to the thought of being in trouble, being lectured, someone lifting her dress and lowering her panties as she is taken over his knee. On this morning, as she stands in the kitchen making coffee, not daring to consider any seat in the entire house, she is not feeling sexy or excited, all she wants is to not feel this way at all. She would do anything for the persistent pain, aching, and throbbing to go way, anything at all. And if I have done my job right, correctly, and to the best of my ability, the one thing that she will do to not feel that way ever again, in a million years, is to change her behavior.
Note: I have been spanking women as a means of a real punishment for 22 years now. I consider myself a bit of a scientist in this area and I have done a lot of research. I try to educate and inform people based on my personal experiences. Clearly I have discussed some of the upper levels of consensual corporal punishment here. I am discussing severe corporal punishment with people I have a relationship with, ladies who I have grown to know as a person, and grown to know their limits. These sessions grew from a place of trust with their best interests in mind. All behaviors addressed were based on somewhat of a “discipline contract” in place, in which it was agreed upon ahead of time what offenses required a punishment and to what degree. Yes, in many of these cases we have grown well beyond safe words, but every relationship began with them in place. In all cases, I was approached by a woman requiring corporal punishment in her life, I have yet to have a spanking relationship in which I “convinced” someone that me spanking her to tears would be fun.
Remember, spanking is a CONSENSUAL activity between two adults in a secure relationship and nothing more. It is not for children ever, even if you are their parents, teacher, or relative. It is not for your naughty wife who wants nothing to do with it. It is not for the girl you picked up in the bar that is pissing you off. Spanking anyone that does not want to be spanked is abuse and hopefully you will end up in jail as a result.
Thursday, May 21, 2015
Spanking, Severity, and Real Life
I received a recent email that basically said that I was a douchebag that simply got off on beating defenseless women to tears. His point was that I was ruining the spanking scene for many people out there as it is hard to get someone to want to be spanked, after they have seen any of my videos. It is in his opinion, the severity of my videos is quite simply turning off potential women for him to spank. I thought I would run with this idea and further discuss my feelings on spanking and severity.
I fully understand that for many people, spanking is a fun and sexy little game that they like to play with someone close to them, and in a very sexual manner. I get it, I understand, but there is no part of that which really turns me on. I guess that is not fully true, as I am a man (an ass man at that), and any sort of access to a woman’s lovely bottom will always be exciting for me. But fun, playful, pitty pat little spankings fall into the same category as rubbing, touching, and squeezing a lovely bottom. But none of this plays at all into my fetish.
I have spent many years not only coming to grips with my fetish, but often trying to put this fetish into words for others to read. It is difficult at best to try and explain all of the little dynamics that make spanking exciting to me, and I often fail miserably trying to put it into words. To touch on the point the gentleman that wrote me was trying to say, for me it is not always about severity, it is about reality. It is about the root of spanking, why it exists, and corporal punishment at its core. When I was in elementary school and realized what a powerful effect spanking had on me, it had nothing to do with fun and playful spankings between consenting partners as a precursor to a sexual act. It had everything to do with how I felt when I realized the cute little girl next door would get her bottom spanked with a wooden spoon when she was naughty.
At the very root of all of this was a cause and effect situation, in which someone’s behavior could indeed result in a part of their body, one that no one was really allowed to see or touch, to be exposed to be spanked. There was a single purpose to this process, to provide pain to the bottom in a serious enough manner to discourage the person from engaging in that behavior again. My experience with all of this, and the experiences I am aware of from my childhood friends, is that the other goal from this process was tears. I cannot think of a single childhood experience that I am personally aware of in which a parent did not spank their child to tears. At the very root of spanking, over many generations, tears always have been the goal of any disciplinary spanking. From my childhood perspective, there were no other spanking in the world that existed except disciplinary.
Yes, I have grown older, and yes, there are various manners in which adults can engage in spanking that are far different from what happened during our childhoods. I also quite sure that if I was not in the position I am in now in my life, that I would take whatever I can get when it comes to spanking play and be quite happy with it. But I have lived a somewhat unique life in which spanking has always been a pretty central part of it. This has not only allowed me to spank basically who I want, however I want on film, but it has allowed me some very unique opportunities in my private life. I have been lucky enough at times in my life, to be sought out by women from around the world that were seeking the kind of discipline experience they knew I can provide.
I believe the reason that I am so frequently contacted by women in need of some discipline, is that they feel exactly how I do about the whole concept of spanking. Speaking to the original email that I was sent, I have never been in a situation in which I need to try and convince a potential girlfriend that spanking would be fun and something we should add to our sexual play. For me it is actually quite the opposite, and for the most part, spanking in my life generally does not have a sexual component. Yes, spanking turns me on and plays a very real role in the fantasies in my head. The women that I have spanked over my lifetime also have a very strong spanking fetish and spend their days masturbating to the thought of being spanked. But to be quite honest, I cannot think of a spanking I have administered in the last ten years in which my penis was even remotely involved. This is 100% because what I like the most about spanking is the discipline and not the sexual component.
So I guess the next question is, why do the spankings have to be so severe? First of all severity is quite subjective and a 10 on one person’s pain scale may be a 3 for someone else. It has very little to do with how hard I am actually spanking and has everything to do with how much it hurts the person being spanked. In my personal life, if I am going to take the time to spank someone, for actual issues or transgressions in their life, I am going to make it a real punishment. We are not talking about my little next door neighbor anymore, in which a dozen smacks with a wooden spoon is going to do the trick. We are talking about grown women, who for the most part, are seeing me for very real problems that need to be addressed. On top of that, these are women who want to actually be punished, but on another level, this is the thing that turns them on the most. I need to make sure that the experience cannot not at all be confused as being a reward. I need for this punishment to be an experience, as much as they masturbated both before and after the spanking, that would not likely to want to repeat.
One of the primary ways that this is accomplished is through severity. Yes, I add many things that make the overall experience suck like forced nudity, corner time, and maybe even some chores, but the biggest deciding factor regarding their future behavior is the severity of the spanking. I am not the guy that stops a spanking once tears begin; I see that as the starting place. This women have come to me to actually help them either relieve guilt from a previous behavior, or to prevent that behavior from occurring ever again. This is not accomplished, especially when spanking someone with a spanking fetish, by a couple minute handspanking over my knee. This is also not accomplished by some sort of long warm-up that allows their body to slowly adapt to the pain they are receiving. It is accomplished by overwhelming their senses and quickly taking them well beyond what they can handle. A warm glow to their bottom that just makes them feel all turned on, does nothing to change behavior. Them wanting it to stop from the very first to the very last stroke is where a place where change comes from.
I have also received criticism about how horrible and ugly I make the bottoms look as a result of bruising. For me, bruising is a very effective tool that I utilize often. It serves many purposes, but in the initial stages it is a visual indicator for me that I am making progress. I have spoken many times to the fact that I feel a proper punishment lasts well beyond the spanking itself. While I am applying the punishment, bruises show me, not only that the bottom is going to be sore after I am through, but where it is going to be sore. My goal is always to make sure that sitting is as issue for the young lady in question, hopefully for at least a couple of days. Bruises allow me to “check my work” as I go and make sure that the part of her bottom that will touch a chair is in the correct state in which learning will continue to take place for a given period of time.
On her end, bruises serve a couple of purposes. As I just stated, a bruised bottom is a sore bottom. I truly want her to have a couple of days of hell when it comes to sitting down. There will always be a little excitement for a young lady with a spanking fetish to have a freshly spanked bottom. But the next day, when the endorphins are gone, she is not “in trouble” and being lectured, a bruised and sore bottom is exactly that. I want her squirming in her office chair, eventually learning that there is no comfortable position that takes the pain away. I want her to be reminded of her previous behavior as she goes about every part of her day. I want it to hurt to sit, to walk, and to use the toilet. I want her to have a restless night of sleep as the continual throbbing of her bottom continues to wake her up. I also want her to have a visual reminder of her behavior. I want her to look at her bruised bottom in the mirror and to know that she created that. It was not just my spanking that left her bottom in that state; it was her choices, decisions, and actions that are responsible for what she sees.
Now in the email he was clearly speaking about the severity of the videos that I film for my various websites. Clearly this is a much different situation than a young lady coming to me for very real offenses she has committed in her personal life. Now we are forced to deal with fantasy and role play, it is what it is. The thing I have always tried to create in my videos is exactly how I utilize spanking in my private life and what spanking is at its very core. My scenes go back to what I explained at the very beginning, a cause and effect relationship. I produce scenarios in which someone has done something that they clearly knew was wrong, and on top of that, they likely knew what that behavior would result in. While there is an awful lot of fantasy involved in the RSI videos, I try my very best to make most scenes realistic.
Just as in my personal life, the women that are being spanked in my videos are no longer the age of my little next door neighbor. These are grown women, and if I am going to produce a scene that is highly realistic, then the spankings need to be real. These are paid models, and for the most part have done nothing to deserve the spanking, so I do indeed have to take their personal limits and tolerances into consideration. But everyone comes here fully informed and knows that after their first few spankings at my hands that the realism factor is going to be ramped up. They know that I will be finding their limits and I will indeed be exceeding them. On and off camera I like real spankings, and for the most part, I believe our typical members like the same thing. A real punishment spanking involves being taken beyond what she would gladly accept. I have worked out a system over the years of interviewing and hiring the right girls for the job, ones that are willing to be taken to that place. They may not actually deserve it, but we are providing a service for our members, so these girls are well compensated to be taken to this place that is beyond what they can take.
So I do not really get off on making girls cry and turning their bottoms black and blue. In my private life however, I do enjoy being the person that has been trusted and charged with providing the discipline that someone has earned. Them having earned it is everything to me. In the last ten years I have never once given a private spanking to someone who just wanted to know what it was like. Nor have I spanked someone just because they trusted me to give them the most severe spanking ever. I have however bruised and blistered many bottom of those behavior required it. I have been more than happy to spank someone until the crying actually stops in order to change a behavior in their life that was dangerous. On a couple of occasion I provided a much needed service for young ladies who made poor choices and ended up with a DUI. I did not “beat a defenseless women to tears”, I punished someone who needed it, whose behavior required it, and made sure that a few days were spent on their bellies with an icepack on their bottoms to make sure that they never did it again.
Tuesday, May 19, 2015
New Model Bobbi
We just shot a new model for both Realspankings and RealSpankingsInstitute. Her name is Bobbi and I think you all are going to like her. Here is a preview:
Friday, April 24, 2015
Naked, Embarrassed, and Exposed Part 2
Here is the trailer for the second part of our new PPV movie. Available at Spanking Library.
Naked, Embarrassed, and Exposed
Today I released a two part, almost three hour, PPV special that features realistic corporal punishment to young ladies while they are fully nude. These movies are now available at Spanking Library. Description and trailer below.
There are those times is which a basic spanking is just not enough to get the point across. Some punishments require the addition of something else to make that spanking truly memorable. This 90 minute production features punishments in which naughty young ladies are required to strip fully naked for a very embarrassing punishment. From single girl punishments, all the way up to four girls being spanked at one time, they are required to assume exposed and embarrassing positions while hard corporal punishment is applied. In most cases, they are left naked and on display in corner time, as a reminder to others as to what happens when they misbehave. Through the use of the hand, belts, straps, paddles, rulers, and the wooden spoon, these young ladies learn very real lessons while Naked, Embarrassed, and Exposed.
Thursday, April 16, 2015
New School Corporal Punishment Paddling Videos
We have been producing a lot of new school paddling videos for the member’s area of Realspankings.com lately. Our most recent one with Kiki is currently the highest rated video on our site. I think it is a combination of her youthfulness, the severity of the paddling, and just the overall realism in the video. While ten licks a little more than the typical school applies, I think the severity of the paddling and her tears are right on point with how a real school paddling takes place. No previews today...just the entire video as my present to you.
Wednesday, April 15, 2015
Updates
Greetings All,
I am sure you all have noticed that there were no Monday updates to any of the sites. We had a major upgrade to our servers going on over the weekend and we ran into an unforeseen technical issue. Everything was ‘supposed’ to have been completed with no disruption to updates or member’s access. Unfortunate things did not go as smoothly as planned and we have a had a slight delay in getting the new hardware online. The content servers are unaffected, but it has stopped us from being able to move the updates from our home office to the content servers.
New hardware and a tech specialist will be in our Denver offices bright and early tomorrow (Wed Apr 14) and everything should be back to normal the same day.
We are very sorry for the delay in the updates. The Monday and Wednesday updates will both become available as soon as the work is completed.
Sorry again for the delay and thank you guys as always for your support.
Friday, March 20, 2015
What is the attraction to school corporal punishment?
I have written in the past about where I think my overall desires regarding spanking come from. I think there are many common themes amongst all of us into spanking, and I do believe for the most part that the majority of this comes from childhood experiences. These experiences may not be tied directly into being spanked ourselves growing up, but it is most common for everyone’s initial exposure to spanking to have occurred during childhood. As kids and teens, at least when I was that age, we had no idea that consensual spanking between adults even existed. What we found exciting, and what most of us probably thought made us a little weird, was the concept of someone getting in trouble, and as a result, having pain applied to their bottom. The concept really is as simple as that. As we have grown older, we have learned that there are other opportunities out there to explore our desires for spanking, but these new opportunities leave much of the initial attraction to spanking a little diluted.
Consensual spanking between adults will always be exactly that…consensual. Do not get me wrong, I am not at all advocating any spanking between adults to be non-consensual, but with consent, some of the original attraction to spanking is lost for me. There are many couples that live in a domestic discipline type relationship, in which some of the “cause and effect” aspects of discipline that I find so attractive, are in place. One person is quite aware that certain behaviors or transgressions will indeed lead to a punishment that involves the physical application of pain. While the punishment may be intense, and indeed disciplinary in nature, on some level it is not only desired, but also a source of sexual excitement. The fact that both consenting parties find some form of pleasure from it, once again dilutes the original attraction to spanking for me. In my mind, and where all of this started for me, is someone getting in trouble, breaking a clearly defined rule, and receiving corporal punishment for it. At no time in this equation, is anyone receiving any type of pleasure as a result of the spanking.
The factors above, and the points below, so clearly define everything that I find attractive about school corporal punishment. First and foremost, in the schools that still allow corporal punishment, its use and guidelines are clearly defined in the school board’s policies as well as the student handbook. There is no mystery surrounding it, and no student will ever find themselves in a situation of being in the school office and being surprised that their bottom being paddled is an option. They know from day one at the school that they are attending that if they CHOOSE to engage in a behavior that is considered undesirable, or against school policy, that they may be paddled. Here is an exact quote from a 2014-15 “Student Code of Conduct” book from a Texas high school:
TARDINESS
A student who is tardy to school/class by more than 10 minutes may be assigned to detention. Repeated instances of tardiness will result in more severe disciplinary action, in accordance with the Student Code of Conduct. Students that are 20 minutes late to class will be marked as an unexcused absence. Repeated instances of tardiness will result in more severe disciplinary action, in accordance with the Student Code of Conduct.
EHS Tardy Policy:
• 1ST Tardy – Warning (send to office on first tardy)
• 2ND Tardy – Lunch Detention
• 3RD Tardy – 1 day of After School Detention and 1 swat
• 4TH Tardy – 2 days of After School Detention and 2 swats
• 5TH Tardy – 3 days of ISS and 2 swats per day (6 total)
• 6TH Tardy – 5 days of ISS and 2 swats per day (10 total)
There is nothing at all confusing about this and it is very clear, you can be tardy a couple of times, after that your bottom will be paddled. If you have a continual problem with this particular part of the school rules, your bottom will be paddled frequently. It is very clear that this school has very little tolerance for students being tardy, and after six tardies, the student will not only get five days of in school suspension, that will also be paddled on each of those five days. I would imagine that getting paddled five days in a row would be quite the learning experience.
This is corporal punishment defined as far as I am concerned and emphasizes my original attraction to spanking in general. The rules are clearly spelled out and it you cannot follow the rules, a large wooden paddle will be swung forcefully and applied to your bottom in a manner intended to change your behavior. Another important component to this is that no one is finding any part of it fun, sexy, or exciting. The young lady that is reporting to her first day of ISS, also knowing that she is going to be paddled, is probably quite nervous and not happy at all. She knows at some point during the day, an administrator at the school is going to require her to bend over for her paddling. Chances are she barely knows this person the she is going to be presenting her bottom to, and she knows that it is probably going to hurt quite a bit. The person tasked with providing her with her paddling is not receiving any joy from this process. This person simply works at a school in which corporal punishment is as effective form of discipline and is administered frequently. They are not mad at the student, there is no emotion involved, and their job is to apply the punishment in an effective and forceful manner with the hopes of discouraging similar behavior in the future.
Also important in this process for me is that there is nothing abusive about it AND the punishment has been earned. When it comes to childhood spanking in the home environment, I wish I could say that they are not abusive, but I know that in many cases they are. In addition, there are many instances of parents just having a shitty day, or being in a bad mood, and that is taken out on the child. In most cases of school corporal punishment, there are very clear guidelines in place to make sure that a school paddling is done only while following the appropriate guidelines. Most schools have specified when it can be administered, who can administer it, maximum amount of swats, in what environment, who needs to witness it…all the way down to the size and shape of the paddle. There is rarely going to be a case in which a paddling is administered that was not earned as a result of a student’s behavior. The process typically starts at the classroom level in which a teacher refers a student to the office for a disciplinary problem. There is a bit of a “checks and balances” in place as a school administrator then reviews the disciplinary issue, while also allowing the student to offer their version of events. If the behavior is deemed contrary to the student code of conduct, and school policy allows for a paddling under these circumstances, then someone’s bottom has the potential to be worn out with the paddle.
While I am still a firm believer that spanking is not an effective form of discipline for children, in the above school policies that we explored this is being done at the high school level. So now we are talking about students around 15-19 years of age, with most of the seniors being legal adults. This adds a lot for me on a few different levels. The concept that all of this can apply to an 18 year old girl, does a lot to serve my spanking fetish. It is one of the very few situations in this entire world that a legal adult can find herself engaging in a behavior in which her bottom can be spanked. There are a few others such as Judicial corporal punishment, but I will never find anything sexy about someone being strapped down and having the flesh stripped from their ass with a cane. But with school corporal punishment, someone old enough to hold a job, join the military, and even vote can still find themselves in a situation of being spanked for bad behavior. It might be the pervert in me, but I find that as an overall concept to be quite exciting.
There are a few other concepts that really add to the whole excitement of school corporal punishment for me, which I have always found to be important factors in all aspects of spanking. Consider an 18 year old girl, a senior in high school, preparing herself for her school day and putting on those pants that she knows just makes her ass look amazing. She is purposely dressing to get the attention she seeks and she knows that with this outfit that heads will turn. Now, the thought that this young lady, who has dressed to impress and to draw attention to her bottom, having to present it to be paddled, I find quite appealing. Even more appealing, as far as my general attraction to spanking, is her presenting her bottom to be paddled. Outside of spanking, there are not very many instances in the world in which someone can demand someone else to bend over and present their bottom. The bottom is an intimate area of the body and it is not an area anyone is allowed access to without consent. But back to the cause and effect process of spanking, by her engaging in behavior that she knows is against the rules or inappropriate, she is creating consent as the school guidelines allow for her to be paddled under the circumstances. It does not matter how she feels about it, or even what her opinion is, her behavior requires her to bend over for a paddling.
Within all of this is the fact that the person that will be administering the paddling is not at all emotionally tied to the situation. This is not this young lady’s parents; this is someone whose job is to administer discipline as required in order for a school to function at its highest levels. In almost all cases of school corporal punishment, the person administering the paddling was not even present when the offense occurred. Their education and training have led them to a place in which they have a job that requires them to do their very best to assure that discipline is maintained in the school. If they are good at their job, they will do whatever it required to make sure that each and every student that comes through their office returns to class having learned in a manner that will discourage them from repeating the behavior. In the schools that allow corporal punishment, “good at their job” may indeed include them paddling someone in an effective enough manner that the student would never want to feel such pain to their bottom again. It is not personal, there is no joy that comes from the process, but they know that a light paddling does nothing at all to change behavior. The effective administrator knows that when it comes to the application of corporal punishment, especially when limited by policy as to how many swats can be given, that a hard paddling has the best chance of leading to a change of attitude and behavior.
All of these things combined will lead me to another topic that I find appealing to all aspects of spanking, but also to school corporal punishment, and that is submission. We take all of the above factors combined and we have an 18 year old girl, dressed to impress in her skin tight pants, having committed an infractions at the classroom level, and having been sent to the school office. Her transgressions are analyzed by the school administrator, who she may be meeting for the very first time, and she is then allowed to offer her version of events. All of the factors are considered and it is clear that the behavior that she has engaged in forbidden in the student code of conduct. In addition, the school discipline policy calls for corporal punishment to be applied under the given circumstances. The administrator is not mad at this girl, he or she has no personal ties to the infraction, and their job is simply to administer discipline under school policy. The young lady is informed that this infraction requires that she be paddled and that this is exactly what will be happening. She may or may not have grown up being spanked, but it really does not matter, under these circumstances, as a result of her actions, she has EARNED a spanking.
She sees the paddle for the first time as it is pulled from a desk drawer, and just like most school paddles, it seems quite intimidating. A school paddle is designed to get results regardless of what a student is wearing. They are generally thick enough to create a substantial amount of pain over pants and panties and are constructed to be wide enough that a single swat covers most of a student’s bottom. The proceedings are quite formal as paperwork is produced to document the events that are about to take place. As the forms are filled out, she has a moment to contemplate exactly what is about to happen and to consider exactly how that large wooden paddle is going to feel on her bottom. Everything is being handled in a very calm matter, and while the concept of a school paddling might be brand new to her, for the administrator this is just another day at work. Even before the paddling begins, the punishment has started for her. She is nervous, her palms are probably beginning to sweat, her heart rate has increased considerably, and most importantly, she is considering exactly what she did to put herself in this situation. This situation is uncomfortable, she wants nothing to do with it, and would do anything in her power to not be there. Already we have all of the factors for an effective punishment and she has yet to feel the paddle.
The next step in the process I see to be the most important part or school corporal punishment and all spankings in general. He grabs the paddle and stands up and asks her to do the same. The chair she was sitting in is probably moved out of the way and then she is asked to either bend over the desk, put her hands on her knees, or to grab her ankles. This step is fundamentally the most important part in the entire process. She is not five years old and is not going to be held in place for a spanking from mommy. She is 18 years old and her actions and behaviors led her to this moment. She knows it is going to hurt, she knows she may actually end up in tears, and she wants nothing more than to run out his office door at this very moment. But this is HER punishment, she earned every bit of it, and it is now up to her to submit to what she has coming. No one is going to hold her down, and she not only is required to submit to it, she is going to have to assist during the whole process. By assuming the position, and presenting her bottom, she is acknowledging his authority to punish her. The cute little bottom that she squeezed in those way too tight pants with her little thong showing above the waistline, is now about to get the last kind of attention that she wanted. It is now her job to do her very best to keep in the position so he can apply the paddle as effectively as possible. She is more than just a participant; this is HER paddling…not his.
As with any proper punishment, pain is a very important factor. While all of the dynamics combined help to create an environment that promotes good behavior, as a whole they are only effective in that the end product is going to be a young lady experiencing pain. While she will certainly do whatever she can to avoid the situation in the future, it is the application of the pain to her bottom that is the biggest persuader. With all of the formalities out of the way, the situation is reduced to two things…her bottom and the paddle. A paddling in which a young lady leaves and says to herself “that was not so bad” does nothing to promote good behavior, so a good administrator will do their very best to assure this is not the case. Most administrators are limited to six swats or less, so they tend to work as hard as they can to make sure the punishment was effective. A proper paddling will hurt tremendously, and ideally will leave the young lady sore for quite some time after.
There are additional factors that I find that add to my attraction to school corporal punishment. A paddling, even with as few as 3-4 swats can be a very productive corporal punishment experience. Unlike a hand spanking, or even a short session with a belt, a paddling is a punishment that tends to last well beyond the punishment itself. Someone who receives a handspanking feels very little discomfort as soon as 30 minutes after. But with a proper paddling, the punishment tends to be longer lasting. Consider the school policy above and a young lady that has been sent to the office for her 6th tardy. She will receive two swats to start her day, a day that she will spend sitting at a hardwood school desk. This will not be a comfortable day, and she will be very aware of not only her bottom, but her offense that made it that way. There is always discomfort the day after a paddling, imagine the young lady who will be getting paddled the next four days in a row. This is long term learning that often leads to permanent changes in behavior. The purpose of school corporal punishment is to make someone’s bottom hurt, and as far as I am concerned, the more it hurts the better the lesson.
I also like that with the concept of school paddling, it tends to help a young lady realize that she is not as grown up as she may think. It demonstrates to her that as long as she thinks, acts, and behaves in a manner that is unacceptable, that there are still consequences. Her last spanking might have been a few swats as a toddler, but in this environment, a spanking is still a very real option. My personal experience in school is that when someone ends up getting paddled, the news travels pretty quickly. Even behind closed doors in the principal’s office, there are always students around. It may be student workers in the office, or the random student that was in the office for some other reason that heard the whole thing take place. When the news traveled about this high school girl getting her little bottom paddled for being naughty, it tends to add to the punishment. I do not care how confident a student is, it is quite embarrassing to be paddled at school. For the rest of the day, those young man that like to check out her pretty little bottom in the hallway, are now only thinking about how red and sore it must be. Kids can be mean and the comments will be endless for her for a couple of days. Regardless of how cool she is or what circle of friends she runs with, she is still THAT girl who got a spanking at school. There is also the issue of sports, locker rooms, and marks. A well paddled bottom certainly presents itself well for the rest of the day. Any young lady, who way paddled at school and finds herself in a gym environment later in the day, is going to have to make an effort to hide the results or face further embarrassment.
For me, school paddling almost defines every aspect that I find most attractive about spanking. It is a cause and effect punishment that someone knows that may happen as a result of their behavior. There is no sexual element, nor does anyone find any part of it appealing. It is done in a manner that is designed to produce significant pain to someone’s bottom, with the goal of teaching a lesson. If done properly, it will lead to tears and long term soreness, and the punishment will continue well after the paddling is over. During the process the person is required to submit to, and assist in, their punishment, thus allowing it to be as effective as possible. And most importantly, this is a punishment that was well earned. Yes, I am still talking about spanking and corporal punishment in a non-consensual manner to those that are approaching legal age, for which I will make no apologies. If it was earned, provided in a well structured environment, and done effectively it falls into the scope of things that I like to read about and often try and recreate.
Thursday, March 19, 2015
Highlights from 2015
Things are going full swing with our new studio and we are producing some of the best content we ever have. Today I added two new galleries that highlight some of the shoots from the last 10 weeks. To see Realspankings.com highlights click here and for RealspankingsInstitute click here. As you will see in these previews, we are still providing very realistic spankings to hot young ladies.
Wednesday, March 18, 2015
Girls Getting a Good Whoopin’
If you follow this blog or are a member to any of my websites, it should be no surprise that what I like the most is very realistic corporal punishment. For the most part, real corporal punishment generally takes place in the home. If we want to watch videos that show what real corporal punishment is like, then it will often include the belt. Most young ladies, who grew up in the South and were spanked by their parents, typically received the belt. In the South, these girls did not get a spanking, they got a whoopin’. A proper whoopin is always something to remember, and any young lady who received this growing up has very clear memories of it. I recently put together a 1 hour and 30 minute video that shows what I think is some of my best, and most recent work, in this area. These are very serious punishments, applied full force with the belt, with tears as the goal from the first stroke. You will see first hand exactly how effective this type of punishment can be, as each and every girl ends up with a sore and marked bottom, with many left in tears. There are both bare bottom whoopins as well as whoopins over skin tight jeans, but in all cases I feel it is as realistic as corporal punishment in the home gets. The preview is below and the movie can be downloaded for $12 at Girls Getting a Good Whoopin at Spanking Library
Tuesday, February 24, 2015
Previews
Pop on over to my Tumblr blog to see 30 preview pictures from today’s four girl shoot! You can see them here.
Thursday, January 29, 2015
A punishment spanking on her already bruised bottom
A perfect example of recent spanking on an already bruised and sore bottom.
I received an email from a couple who live together and have recently established a “domestic discipline agreement” in which they have rules in place that allow for her to be punished should an infraction occur. I do like to see the establishment of a discipline contract, especially in a new relationship with disciplinary aspects to it. This allows for there to be no confusion as to when and how a punishment will be administered. This particular email was addressing the fact that this young lady seems to be finding herself in a considerable amount of trouble, requiring multiple spankings on any given day. He seemed to feel that, as someone who had never really had the amount of spanking in her life that she wanted, that she was trying to make up for lost ground and was intentionally getting in trouble in order to be spanked. This brings up a couple of issues, but his main concern was that of spanking her on an already sore bottom.
Someone trying to get in trouble on purpose could take up an entire post in itself, so I will just address the issue of spanking an already sore bottom. Clearly the situation is far different for a couple who practices domestic discipline, as opposed to someone who visits a disciplinarian on occasion. In a domestic discipline household, the potential for a punishment can present itself at any given time. The question posed in the email to me was, how long should he wait in between spankings if she requires more than one in a day? Now, assuming that all spankings are being administered in a safe and sane manner, the answer is there should be no delay. A spanking is most effective when administered at the very moment (if practical) that the offense occurs.
Our role as disciplinarians is to make sure that each and every punishment administered is effective and is suitable for the offense. I have made it very clear that I feel that if someone’s behavior does indeed warrant a spanking, then I am going to make that spanking an effective one. I see no situation in which a gentle spanking is required. Either the offense warrants a punishment or it does not, but if it does, that punishment needs to serve as a deterrent. Without tears and a sore bottom, especially when spanking someone with a spanking fetish, all that we are doing is encouraging further bad behavior. I have a feeling the young lady from the email is getting in trouble on purpose because she loves the warm glow from a mild to moderate spanking. As soon as the glow has faded she is ready for her next spanking as she wants to keep that feeling going.
If she is engaging in a behavior that they have actually put to paper as a problem area, then the results need to be a spanking that she will remember, not a spanking that encourages her to act up just a couple of hours later. Now assuming that she got in trouble, and was properly punished leaving her with a very sore and bruised bottom, and then actually got in trouble again a few hours later, he should not deter at all from what they have specified in their discipline contract. Regardless of how bruised and sore her bottom is, if she requires another spanking, then she needs to receive it. That spanking should be treated just as if she had not been spanked in weeks. The only thing that should define the severity or frequency of her spanking is her behavior.
Yes, her bottom may be very sore from the previous punishment, especially the day after. A couple hours after a spanking a bottom tends to be a little sore, but if it was a hard spanking, it will be even sorer the next day. So let’s consider the naughty wife or girlfriend who came home the previous night, clearly having had a drink or two more than she should have and then driven herself home. Clearly this is a pretty bad infraction and one that needs to be addressed in a very serious manner. In my house, there is no doubt that a heavy wooden hairbrush would be coming into play. This is the type of punishment in which a very real impression needs to be made with the goal of extinguishing this behavior forever. The goal of this punishment would be a few days in which she would literally have no desire to sit down. So, the punishment is administered, a bottom is properly bruised for the offense, and all is forgiven.
Now, fast forward to the next morning, and as much as you would hope this young lady would be on her very best behavior, she finds herself committing an infraction that is clearly specified in the discipline contract. Once again, as I said before, discipline needs to be administered on the spot. The condition of her bottom is not my concern, a priority, or even a factor in the equation. My job, one that we agreed upon as a couple entering into a discipline contract or agreement, is that I would do my best to provide her with correction, in the areas of her life that she felt needed the most attention. As a couple we decided that the primary form of correction would be corporal punishment. The goal of corporal punishment is to provide her with the proper amount of pain required to help her make changes in her behavior and anything less would be unfair to her and the process.
I fully understand that her bottom is very bruised from the night before and that she is barely able to sit down. I also fully understand that she is a grown women and that she is responsible for the decisions that she makes at any given moment. If she chose to commit an infraction, with her bottom in the state that it is in, that is beyond my control. All I can do in this situation is give her the punishment that her behavior requires. It is going to hurt her considerably more than it would have without her bottom already being sore, which I see as a good thing. If she is not on her best behavior after getting punished for buzzed driving, then maybe she deserves to feel more pain. The important thing is that I am going to make absolutely no adjustments to the spanking she is to receive. She needs to know that each and every time she misbehaves that she will be spanked, no matter what, in the exact manner that her behavior warrants. Only through consistency of my actions, as a direct result of her actions, will the overall changes in her behavior (which she wants) ever take place.
Thursday, January 22, 2015
School Paddling PPV
Today I released a PPV school paddling compilation video for download. Here is the description:
Paddled at school is a unique video that features scenes that recreates school corporal punishment as it is administered in real life throughout the Southern United States. The paddlings administered in this video are very realistic, with many leading to tears. You will witness the real reactions as young ladies feel the sting of a large wooden school paddle applied full force to their young bottoms. Highlights of this video include:
- 14 separate scenes, with as many as 1-4 girls being paddled at a time.
- 13 different young ladies are paddled, by 3 different male administrators.
- Traditional school positions are utilized including bent over a desk, grabbing ankles, hands on knees, and hands on the walls.
- Most punishments are administered over tight jeans, but we have also included a locker room paddling over gym clothes, and two punishments that are applied on their bare bottoms.
- As a bonus, some scenes show the after effects and the young ladies drop their pants and show their bruised and sore bottoms.
- All of the school paddlings show you the face view and the butt view of the paddling, so you are able to see each girl’s unique reaction to her punishment.
- This video is 1 hour and 40 minutes in length, with a total of 199 swats applied in a very severe manner. These are not fun, or playful paddlings. This is real corporal punishment, with very real school paddles, swung full force, leaving this young ladies with very sore and bruised bottoms for days.
Here is a preview:
You can download it at School Paddling Punishments- Spanking Library for $15.
Friday, January 16, 2015
New Studio and High End digital photography
Over the past year or so many of you have expressed disappointment with the quality of our still pictures. Obviously in the early days we were known for providing professional quality stills with all of our videos and over the last couple of years they have really suffered. The main issue was with our previous studio space, it was an 8000 sq. ft. estate home, with many levels, and it was just not practical to move our professional (and extremely large) strobes and octodomes throughout that studio space. We attempted pictures with a point and shoot, with our pro camera and a camera mounted flash, HD screen grabs, and then finally the pro camera using available lighting. Clearly none of these quite did the trick and our still content suffered.
With our brand new studio, which is a space that we are really enjoying, I have fully committed to once again using the full pro strobe setup for 90% of the scenes. This once again allows us to present high res images from our shoots, and most importantly, clearly show you the results of disciplinary spankings. There will be scenes on occasion in which we will only provide screen grabs, and that is typically as a result of a confined shooting space like a bathroom. We are very excited not only about high res, crisp and clear photos again, but also to have a fantastic new studio space. Here is a taste of some of our scenes shot in the last couple of weeks for both Realspankings.com and RealspankingsInstitute.com
Thursday, January 15, 2015
BiSpanking.com Promo Pictures
Today I came across some of the original pictures that I took of the BiSpankings.com girls before their website was ever created. There are hundreds that I took to use as the graphics for their website. Here are a few of them.
