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Implements, severity, and a lesson learned

So with the disclaimer that I am writing about consensual adult spanking, for someone who has actually earned the spanking, let’s talk a little bit about implements and what is required to get the job done.  There will never be a case in which I give a real life spanking in which someone is not taught a lesson.  Yes, there are varying levels of severity, clearly defined by an individual’s behavior, but I am just not one to take the time to spank if it is not going to serve as a real deterrent for behavior.  Basically, either the behavior requires a spanking or it does not, I see no in between.  There is no, “Well...you were only a little naughty, so I will be spanking you, but it will not be that bad”.  If it does not need to be “that bad” then a spanking is probably not required.  That situation might call for a warning, loss of privileges, or something else, but if I need to spank you, it will be “that bad”.

Now obviously, not all spankings are created equal, and there can be a spanking that seems much gentler on the scale, but still teaches a lesson.  Texting while I am trying to have a conversation with you at dinner, and driving drunk are not the same offense, however, each one clearly requires a spanking.  I adjust the severity of my spankings in two ways, implement selection and duration.  Yes, there are other adjustments than can be made such as state of dress, position, time out, etc., but when we are talking about the actual pain of a spanking, implement selection and duration are the primary factors to consider.  I tend to give almost all spankings at about 85% of what I am capable of.  This is enough force to make it unbearable from the very beginning, but always leaves me with a little reserve for situations in which the naughty young lady is not holding still or following directions. Under all circumstances she needs to know that it can indeed get worse.  What this means, that regardless of whether it is my hand or a heavy wooden hairbrush, I am going pretty close to full force. It would be silly to decide that a certain behavior requires a hairbrush to be used, and then apply it at 30%.  I need the person to know, even before we start, based on implement selection alone, exactly how I feel about their behavior.  There can be no thought process like “well he chose the brush, maybe it won’t be that bad”.  She needs to see that brush and know instantly that this is indeed VERY bad, and know exactly what she is in for.

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But on the flip side, even is she knows she is in for a handspanking, she also needs to know that it is not going to be easy.  Yes, in the grand scope of corporal punishment, a
handspanking falls pretty low on the pain scale, but it still needs to be a proper punishment or there is no point.  Let’s look a little closer at what I see as a proper handspanking.  While there are some implements that I feel are almost just as effective over clothing, the hand will never fall into that category.  If I am going to use my hand, her bottom is going to be bared.  One of the most important factors, with my hand or any other implement, is there is going to be no warm-up.  What is the point of this people?  Why would I start easy and gradually make it harder?  As the spanking progresses and endorphins begin to flow, the spanking is going to be easier for her to tolerate at the end.  If anything, I need to take full advantage of the sensitivity at the beginning to really give her all that I am capable of.  This is just a handspanking, so I have to work harder to make sure I achieve the desired results, which is her kicking and screaming with tears streaming down her face.  If I do anything to make it easier on her, I will just never get there, which is certainly not fair for her at all.  Are we not doing this for her, to help her change?

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When I apply a handspanking, I tend to do it differently than I see the typical person doing it.  First of all, I do not alternate cheeks with every smack.  My goal, beside the desired results that I just wrote about, is complete coverage.  I tend to work certain zones of her bottom, assuring that there is no area that is left untouched.  This is harder to achieve by alternating from cheek to cheek. If you have ever watched me in action on video, you will see that I may apply 10-12 on one cheek from the very beginning.  My goal is to make as large of an area as possible, as sore as possible.  There is one very big bonus when using only your hand to spank and that is the areas you can actually spank.  When I am using a heavy wooden implement, I am limited to the lowest part of the bottom, far away from her tailbone.  When I am using a belt or a strap, I have to avoid wrap around, and can get nowhere near the hips.  There are some implements out there in which I am hesitant to apply to the tops of her thighs.  But with my hand...Game ON!  This is the beauty of the hand, I can spank in a manner that achieves better coverage than I can achieve with any other implement.  Only with a hand will I spank at the very, very top of her butt cheeks.  Only with a hand will I work all the way around to the sides of her hips.  With very few implements can I work half way down her thighs. Now you may be asking yourself, why would he want to spank those places?  The reason is simple, those are very sensitive areas, and if I am limiting this punishment to a handspanking, I want to take full advantage of areas that hurt more.  I am a big fan of a hard paddling in which all swats are places on top of each other, as it leads to maximum long term soreness, at the location is which she sits.  A handspanking is only going to leave someone so sore, so the bulk of the punishment happens while the spanking is taking place.  Based on this concept, I want as large of an area as possible to be feeling it.

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So, spanking hard is important, as well as going with full coverage, but what is definitely required is duration.  A paddling might only be a 60 second event, as that is all that is required to get the job done.  While it might not be all that easy for beginners, as it takes some time to build up endurance, I think a handspanking starts at about 3 minutes.  Who is to say that you cannot take a break if needed midway through?  Once you feel that you are getting winded and tired, it might be time to take a break.  There is no point in continuing the spanking if she is not feeling the full effect.  I have found over the years, as I have gotten older it is harder on my shoulder, to put her over both knees.  When over both knees I really have to work to get her left cheek and it tends to strain my shoulder.  When she is over just my left knee, or straddling my left knee, I have better access and can better put everything into it.  Being that she will not have much of a sore bottom the next day, we really need to take advantage of the time we have, so 5 minutes should always be the goal.  As soon as it is over, her endorphins will be flowing and in just a few minutes, she will only be left with a warm glow, and a not so unpleasant feeling.  If you are in a spanking relationship, then this is one of the things she really enjoys.  You need to make those 5 minutes something that she does not enjoy.  It depends on the woman, but in most cases it is hard to properly bruise a bottom with just a handspanking.  Typically the desired results are what most refer to as “pepper bruising”.  If you are doing it right, she will likely have little purple specks on her bottom, especially in the less fleshy areas.  While this may not lead to the same desired long term soreness that we achieve using a heavy implement, it is the desired results from a handspanking.  This also helps to illustrate why we cover such a wide area, those areas we do not typically get to spank show the best results during a handspanking.  Take a look at the pics included for good examples of minimum requirements that we should expect to achieve from a handspanking.

I would say the most common implement that people use, beyond the hand, is a belt.  It has a certain stigma attached to it and has the ability to make any young lady quiver a little.  If she was spanked growing up, chances are it was with a belt.  It is not only a painful implement; it has strong visuals attached to it.  There is not a woman out there in the spanking world that does not get a certain feeling as a belt is pulled from the belt loops. For whatever reason, there is a certain power attached to the belt, and as much as they might fear it, there is something they just love about it.  You ladies know who you are, the ones that spend that extra moment at the men’s belt rack in Wal-Mart, go ahead and nod your head, you know I am right.  And that is also one of the reasons why it is used so often in spanking relationships, you can buy one anywhere.  Hell, you do not even need to buy one, you already own a few.  But it is one of those items that a couple can actually go spanking toy shopping for without any embarrassment.  I have sent many young ladies to the store to pick out the exact belt to be used on them.  They may have blushed a little while buying it, but they were the only ones who knew that it was about to be used on their bottoms.

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For me, the belt is typically the next step up in the severity scale, depending on the belt and depending on how it is used.  Obviously, through proper belt selection and state of dress, it has the potential to be very severe.  Typically, if I need that level of severity I am going with wood anyways, so let’s talk about the belt as a moderately severe implement.  One of the things I like about the belt is I can make a very quick, but effective point, on the spot.  I almost always wear one, and I typically wear one that I know will work for spanking.  I love to use a belt for a very quick lesson when we are in a hurry.  Think of those times when you are walking out the door for a dinner date, to meet some friends, and you are already running late.  Maybe she is indeed the reason while we are running late, and a little education needs to happen on the spot.  Instead of pulling up a chair, having her bare her bottom and go over my knee for 5 minutes, I can simply have her grab her ankles right there in the family room.  From the time she is told she is going to be punished, until the time that I am starting to blister her bottom, is less than 30 seconds.  With the right belt, even over clothing and panties, I can be pretty convincing in a minute or so.  Even if we are very late, 60 seconds spent emphasizing my point has not changed the course of our night all that much.  She might need to bring her little makeup bag for a touch up in the car, but sometimes a punishment is best dealt with at the moment it is required.

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Unlike the hand, a belt requires a little practice and skill.  You cannot be a total novice and just go to town with a belt.  Obviously, with a belt or any other implement, anything above the waist is just off limits.  There is just too much there that you want to avoid, regardless of what you are using. Another issue is someone who stands to close and ends up wrapping around and hitting the hips.  I do not think the same dangers exists there are above the waist, but it is just bad form.  It also tends to leave really nasty marks and the way the belt wraps, especially on bare skin, also leaves the potential for breaking skin.  So, assuming you actually know what you are doing (practice on a pair of jeans stuffed with pillows if you need to), let’s look at my expectations from a proper punishment with a belt.  I tend to wear a fairly heavy leather belt, as I want something that is also effective over clothing.  A belt tends to be a stingy implement and clearly works better on a bare bottom.  But a belt with enough thud, can also achieve the desired results when used over clothing.  It tends to present a little more like a paddling, as the sting is cut way down, but it still works.  When a belt is used on a bare bottom is has the potential to make very serious changes in behavior.  It is lovely in the sense that it hurts like hell during the process but also has the potential to lead to long term soreness.  A hard paddling, on the bare, will often numb a bottom quite fast.  Yes, you will get the long term effects that are often needed, but a lot of the punishment is not felt as much as it should be.  But a belt has the ability to bridge this gap.  I have found I can wear a young lady’s bottom out for several minutes without her ever going numb.  On top of this, we are creating a long lasting soreness, deep into her muscles, that will assure that this is a lesson that she will feel, and remember, for a couple of days. When done right it really has the potential to be the best of both worlds.

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I will be completely honest in saying, that when I use a belt the goal is bruises.  If I am looking to only set someone’s bottom on fire and leave it glowing red, then she only required a handspanking.  If her behavior requires that my belt is being pulled from my pants, it is indeed going to memorable.  I might not be looking for the kind of “not being able to sit down” soreness, but I want her to wake up with a very real reminder of her behavior.  I want this reminder to exist in a visual sense, so she can see the results of her actions when she looks in the mirror, but I also want it to be sore.  No, it will not be the same as a paddling or a spanking with a hairbrush, but when she sits down for her day in her office chair, she is going to know she was punished.  With proper accuracy I can swing a belt as hard as I want without fear of injury.  If you look at the pictures included with this portion of the post, you will see that the overall goal is basically a large rectangle of marks.  A major downside to a belt (and many other implements) is the fact that the cheek opposite the side you are spanking from is going to feel the bulk of the punishment.  It is simple physics as the end of the belt farthest from my hand is going to travel much faster than the part closest to it.  I am not someone who spanks with both my left and right hands.  I can spank lefty, but not with as much skill and accuracy.  The only time that I will spank from both sides with a belt is if someone is lying down on a bed and I am able to switch sides.  I am still using my right hand for this, but the belt is coming from above, not behind, which allows the same stroke from either side.

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When using a belt, I always fold it in half.  If you look at any belt that I wear on a regular basis, there is a pretty clear crease in it.  With a new heavy belt, I will often fold it where I want it, and place a stack of books on it overnight to give me the right crease.  My belts are a size 36, so they are not overly long for use as a spanking implement.  I always hold the buckle and the loose end together, but some people choose to wrap the belt around their hand a little.  I am confident enough with my skill that I has spanking with any length belt simply folded in half, I just make adjustments to my stance.  For those new to using a belt, it is probably best to wrap it a couple of time around your hand…shorter is always safer.  Not that it needs to be said, but the buckle should never be used for spanking.  If you feel someone’s behavior requires you to use something metal, then you should give up spanking all together.  I like a somewhat wide belt, but not the ones that are too wide to fit into standard belt loops.  1 ½” seems to be ideal.  With a narrower belt you run the risk of the belt twisting while you use it, which opens up the chance of hitting with the edge and not the flat part of the belt.  My current belt for home discipline, which I absolutely love is the “Men’s Beefy Leather Belt” from Duluth Trading Company.  It is the granddaddy of all spanking belts, I also own a few of their others, and they make a great product.

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The next implement that I want to discuss is the wooden spoon.  I would not say that it is next in line regarding severity, as I think the belt has more potential as a disciplinary tool.  But like a belt, a spoon is something that we all have easy access to, and for many, it was indeed what they were spanked with growing up.  To clarify, I am talking about your ordinary, everyday, household wooden spoon.  None of what I am about to discuss applies to your extra-large, extra thick, Amish type of wooden spoons, those would better fall into the hairbrush of bath brush category.  I am talking about wooden spoons that you often find in a multi-pack at any grocery store.  They are typically made from very light wood and do not present the dangers that you might find with a paddle or a hairbrush.  I think one of the main attractions to the wooden spoon for me is that it is an ordinary household object.  I think there is a strong foundation in place, with its use as a disciplinary tool, for more than a century.  I have never really been someone who was into whips and BDSM type implements, so I will always have an attraction to the implements that were commonly used by parents in the home.

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I find that the spoon falls basically into the same category as a handspanking, except that the force is focused into a much smaller area.  It takes more time to achieve full coverage with a spoon than it does with the hand, but the results tend to be more impressive.  The wooden spoon is quite unique in the fact that it can create a fairly bruised bottom without the long term soreness typically associated with bruising.  When used properly, a wooden spoon has the potential to create a little bull’s eye shaped bruise with each and every stroke.  But unlike most implements that always leave a bruise; this one does it with less force and less compression of the skin.  This gives us the unique opportunity to achieve better coverage with an implement that does indeed mark.  I would never take a heavy, wooden, antique hairbrush, and cover every inch of someone’s bottom, there would just be too much risk to the tailbone.  But with a spoon, I can almost cover the exact same area I would with my hand, but with an implement that will leave a visual reminder.  This is fantastic if we are dealing with someone’s behavior that requires a fairly intense spanking, in which we want them to see the results of their actions for a couple of days, but long term soreness is not required.  With a spoon I can literally cover their entire bottom with little purple bruises, and do so safely.  Don’t get me wrong, the spoon stings like hell, it is not a walk in the park for the naughty young lady, but as far as wooden implements go, it falls on the lower end of severity.

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Before I get into paddles I want to add a little context as to what I am discussing.  As I discussed with the belt, for a quick little whuppin on our way out the door, not all spankings are created equal.  For many people, a night of spanking is an event, it is something that they have been planning or talking about for weeks.  It is not a quick little disciplinary reminder, it is something that is full of formality, lectures, and an entire evening, or weekend, is planned around it.  For those over the years that have sought me out for some very real corporal punishment, clearly this is a much more long and drawn out experience.  But some of what I am referring to is based on a relationship that is either “Head of Household” or in which domestic discipline exists on some level.  These are relationships in which corporal punishment is part of the day to day relationship.  In these situations, unless we are dealing with something really, really bad, spanking might be just a quick little reminder.  This is not to say that this reminder is not something that won’t bring tears to her eyes and change her behavior, but it may just be quick and spontaneous without all of the formality that many expect from a spanking “scene”.  I guess that is really the point, for many of us, spanking goes well beyond a “scene”, and really is used just as it exists with parents and children in the homes of America.  It is a disciplinary tool, used often, and will not always involve a long lecture, corner time, nudity, counting, or any of the other things that creep into all of our fantasies.  Sometimes it is just as simple as “your behavior at this very moment requires that I apply pain to your bottom”.  With that being said, let’s take a look at my favorite implement.

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If you have ever belonged to any of my sites, it is no secret that belts and paddles get the most attention.  I think the reason for this, like a discussed with the spoon, is that they are implements with a long tradition and are often used in the real world.  Growing up in the South, the paddle was used at school and the belt was used at home.  I feared them both, and they were used for a reason, they work.  While a paddle is not something that you can just go and buy in the store, it is something that is easily made.  I think there is something a little sexy about that, in that you are actually creating a tool, by hand, in which the sole purpose is to provide discipline.  The choices of wood, the design, the thickness, are all relevant and each one is specific to the level of punishment required.  When I rented my very first house with a garage, while I was in college, one of the very first things I did was buy a scroll saw and build several paddles. 

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For me, what makes a paddle the king of the hill for spanking has everything to do with long term soreness.  I have spoken on this topic so very many times, but for me, it is one of the most important parts of a proper punishment.  When someone’s behavior really calls for it, why would I simply apply a punishment that is actually over the moment I stop, when I can apply a punishment that is felt and remembered for days?  Yes, getting spanked for several minutes can suck, it can hurt, and it can create a tearful young lady.  But 30 minutes later her bottom is humming in a good way, she is more sexually excited, and very quickly in her mind, it has become a positive experience.  When the situation calls for it, I want to create an experience that as time goes on, gets worse.  After those first 30 minutes, when there may have been some numbness and some pleasant tingling, as those sensations wear off, I want her to start to realize that the punishment has just begun.  Most importantly, I want her to wake up the next morning and realize that she is in a world of hurt.  Yes, those with a spanking fetish like a little soreness, and this will almost always enhance sexual feelings, but if done right, it eventually just becomes an annoyance.  There might be a moment of pride as she goes to work and sits down at her desk, realizing that her bottom hurts a lot, but by the end of the day I want her to be miserable having not found any way that is comfortable to sit.  I want every movement in her chair to remind her of why she is so sore.  I want the pain to be the teacher and for it to educate her in a manner that she will change her behavior…this is the point of a spanking. And this is why I love using a paddle.

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There are many types of paddles.  There are different shapes, sizes, thicknesses, with holes, without holes, the variations are endless.  My go to paddles will always be those that tend to match a typical school paddle.  It will be a couple of feet long, with an easy to grip handle, made from a hard wood, and between ½-3/4” thick.  Traditionally, paddles were designed for use over clothing.  The whole purpose was to create an implement that can be used in any environment for those that required it.  For generations parents have been baring bottoms because they want the naughty child to feel as much of the punishment as possible, but in the school environment, this was never an option.  As a result, principals and woodshop teachers have perfected the ultimate spanking implement to be used over clothing.  Not everyone wears the same thing to school, but it does not matter, a paddle is the great equalizer.  Most spanking implement achieve their results as a result of the amount of sting that is applied to the skin, but with a paddle, it is the thud factor that makes it effective.  There are very few implements in the world that are as effective over clothing as a paddle.  This is not to say that there are many situations in which a bare bottom paddling is required, certainly there are, but I can achieve almost the same results regardless of the amount of clothing involved.

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As I stated before, even with a heavy paddle I tend to swing close to full force.  If her behavior required anything less than full force with a paddle, then I would be using a different implement.  But if we are in a situation is which a paddling is required, I will never hesitate.  I will admit that in the relationships that I have engaged in, in which domestic discipline was a major component, I used paddles a lot.  There were certainly many occasions when their behavior called for something less than a paddle, but as I wrote before, severity is easily scaled through implement selection and duration.  So on many occasion, something that might have only required a handspanking, resulted in a few quick licks with a paddle.  Like I talked about, not every spanking is some sort of an event, and three swats with a paddle is enough to get my point across.  I think that the first swat from a paddle, especially with no warmup, can do wonders in changing attitudes and behaviors.  There is really no other implement that can simply take her breath away with just one swat.  Obviously one swat is never enough, but that first swat with a paddle makes even those with a huge spanking fetish, regret the situation that they have put themselves in.  It stings like hell even through clothing, but it totally compresses the skin, basically pushing it aside, to allow hard contact with deep tissue.  Even one good paddle swat can cause bruising and soreness the next day.  Now, add another dozen swats, on top of that very swat, and we are making very good progress.

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Position is important as hard wood can be heavier than bone.  There are a few lighter woods in which this is not the case, but for safety sake, we just assume all paddles can injure.  It is a must that anyone being paddled be bent at least 90 degrees at the waist.  You should already have a good sense of where the naughty girl’s tailbone is during any spanking, but with a paddle it is even more important.  When someone bends over, the tailbone is located high up on their bottom.  You should never consider paddling someone who is lying flat or standing straight up.  Being that most paddles tend to cover a large area, this really limits where you can lay a swat on.  You will see in all of my videos that all paddlings target the very lowest part of a young lady’s bottom.  There are two reasons for this. The first is that this is the only safe place I can spank and still avoid the tailbone.  You will never see me moving a school paddle up and down a young lady’s bottom trying to achieve full coverage.  The second reason is this is the part of her bottom that touches a seat when she sits, and after all, my goal is for it to hurt for her to sit.

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In my private life, a paddling that takes place in which more than a few swats are applied is a very serious event.  We are talking about major transgressions, or, something that has had to be addressed on too many occasions.  I am big on sending her to get the paddle herself, I think it adds ownership to the overall situation.  With my go to paddle, rarely does a bottom need to be bared; I know I can get the job done with her fully clothed.  I tend to favor three different positions for a paddling, hands on her knees, grabbing her ankles, or hands on the wall, outstretched so her arms and her body are on the same plane.  I like the first two a lot because it makes her an active participant in her punishment.  She does not just get to lay over the edge of the bed and take it, she actually has to work hard to maintain that position.  Once again, it gives her more ownership in her punishment and she has to actually assist me to make it all possible.  The hands on the wall position is reserved for a very serious paddling when I know that she will require as much support as possible.  My goal is to create a change in behavior from the very first swat.  I want any future threat of a paddling to be something that under no circumstances she would ever want to happen.  Yes, naughty young ladies with a spanking fetish may indeed have a desire to be spanked, some may even want a “maintenance spanking” from time to time, but I do everything in my power to make sure that a paddling is something that is completely feared on all occasions.

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With a paddling I am able to accomplish so much with very little work.  After the first swat, the next one is going to be applied in the exact same spot.  As with the belt, the right cheek is going to get worked a little more, but I have found that through minor adjustments in my grip and stance, I can balance things out pretty nicely.  I know from experience, that it is really only the next 3-4 swats that I have to work with as far as what she will be feeling at the moment.  Yes, all parts of a paddling hurt, but by overloading her senses so quickly, the body really does a good job of fighting back.  Adrenaline and endorphins quickly compensate for the intense pain and she is able to relax a little and survive the rest.  But this now provides me with a unique opportunity.  Yes, I spank hard, I bruise butts, I get tears right away, but everyone does have actual limits, which I am very aware of.  I see the heavy production of endorphins as my chance to really emphasize a point.  I know that every swat beyond 6 or so is only going to add so much to the current experience, but every one after is going to add to the longevity of the punishment.  If she is getting a well-deserved paddling, one really designed to permanently change behavior, then I want at least 3 days of soreness.  With her bottom now numb, I am able to apply the rest of the paddling in a manner designed to affect behavior a few days out.  Her bottom will be numb, it will be hard to the touch, and chances are there are two spots on the lowest part of her bottom that are an ugly mess of bruises.  It might seem evil, mean, or even abusive, but this is the goal from a proper paddling.  Remember once again, we are talking about adults in a consensual disciplinary relationship in which the rules and resulting punishments are clearly defined.

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Obviously all of this results in a very sore bottom.  It is indeed quite possible to make a bottom so sore that while sitting is never impossible, it is certainly something that they want no part of.  The bonus, in most people’s day to day lives, it is pretty much impossible to go the entire day without sitting.  We want her that sore if we are really dealing with something bad.  For me, her just being sore is not the end of it at all, I will find every chance I can get to capitalize on her soreness and continue the lesson.  When we go out to dinner the next night, there is no chance in hell we are going to be sitting in a padded booth; we will have the table with the hard wooden chairs please.  No, you will not be wearing those baggy sweatpants today, please go squeeze your sore and swollen bottom into those extra tight jeans I love.  I once drove someone back to the airport, who flew in for some very well deserved discipline, with a piece of plywood on the passenger seat.  Another amazing thing that happens as a result of long term soreness from a good paddling is all behavior gets better.  I have a very strict policy that a previous spanking, or the current state of a young lady’s bottom, has no influence on a punishment.  She could have had the paddling of her life the night before, and if her attitude the next morning requires further punishment, then so be it, nothing changes as a result of her being as bruised and sore as she has ever been.  She will get exactly what she has earned, it does not matter that she is ten times more sensitive.  She might even require another paddling, but it is her behavior that dictates what needs to happen, it is completely out of my hands, my role is simply to enforce the rules.  The first few days after a hard paddling actually help a young lady to see her full potential as she is very aware of her actions and behaviors and she is on her very best behavior.

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Yes, there are many implements out there, and on occasion a cane or especially a switch will come into play in my private life, but they are not the norm.  The last implement that I will discuss in detail is the hairbrush.  When I talk about a hairbrush, I am not discussing cheap plastic brushes you can find at any store.  I mean 1 inch thick, antique, wooden hairbrushes.  There are also a few bath brushes that fall into this same category.  Overall, they share many of the same characteristics of a heavy wooden paddle, but like the wooden spoon, they are much more specific.  I have always reserved the hairbrush for the top tier of offenses.  These are the ones in which we are dealing with life safety issues.  This could be drunk or buzzed driving, texting and driving, a 90mph in a 40 zone ticket, or getting so drunk that you are not aware of your surroundings and own safety.  These are the kind of punishments in which you are trying to permanently extinguish a behavior with a single application of corporal punishment.  We are talking about a spanking, that even those with a huge spanking fetish and that enjoy some aspect of pain, would never want to repeat.  These are once in a lifetime (hopefully) sort of spankings and are reserved for the worst of the worst.

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Unlike many of the paddlings I administer, a punishment like this will always be a drawn out event.  It is not going to be quick or spontaneous, and there will be quite a bit of formality involved.  Typically, this will be a punishment that is sentenced to be carried out on a later date.  I want to take full advantage of the nervousness and outright fear that one will experience when knowing such an event is going to take place.  Even better, I will not even tell her when it is going to happen.  She needs to spend every waking moment in my presence knowing that it could happen right now.  I need her to have this time to reflect and contemplate her actions that led up to this.  I am going to capitalize on every emotion I can draw from her to make sure this never happens again, not once, ever.  When it comes down to the punishment itself, you can count on it being one that she will remember for the rest of her life.  If the brush is coming out, she is going to get it on the bare bottom and she will be over my knee.  Unlike most punishments, in which I require the naughty girl to maintain her position, I know that it might not be possible under these circumstances.  With her over my knee, I am able to restrain her as needed, to assure that we complete the punishment.

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The major difference between a paddling and the hairbrush is coverage.  Because we are still talking about a heavy wooden implement, I am not going to be able to visit the upper portion of her bottom.  What I am able to do it make sure that every single bit of real estate that is safe to spank, is completely worn out.  It also allows me a little more coverage on the inner part of her butt cheeks.  Obviously we are never going to spank a woman’s vagina (well, at least not with a brush under these circumstances) but a brush allows me to visit some hard to reach areas.  I am not beyond spreading a little with one hand in order to get the inner parts.  A good way to think about this coverage is the parts of her that would touch a bike seat.  I am also able to more carefully work the very tops of the thighs as I can see exactly what I am doing.  I am pretty accurate with a paddle, but it is a large implement with limitations, especially when applied over clothing. With the brush, and the small striking surface, I can teach a lesson like no other.  I have literally done some studies on what part of the bottom touches a seat when a woman sits down.  Many years ago, I sprinkled flour on a hard wooden dining chair and had a young lady sit down with her bottom slightly misted with water.  I then helped her stand back up and was able to closely examine where exactly the flour was on her bottom.  I took a few pictures, from a couple of angles, and will always have those images in my head when I am taking a brush to a bottom.

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The goal is exactly that of a hard paddling, but clearly for the offenses we are talking about, it goes a little to the next level.  There have been very rare occasions in which the hair brushing is applied in two sessions with a little corner time in between.  Once the endorphins are totally flowing, it might be time for a little break, so she can at least get some sensations back in to her bottom.  There are very few things as effective as a severe hairbrush spanking, followed by 15 minutes of corner time, and then another severe hair brushing on top of it.  You have to be careful as a hard hairbrush spanking can lead to broken skin.  Repeated hard smacks, on a bare bottom, especially with dry skin can lead to some breaks, which I always try to avoid.  There was a certain young lady, whose skin I knew to be brittle, that had earned such a punishment, and I made her over moisturize her bottom for five days leading up to the event.  I have found that you can get pretty close to making sitting impossible the next day and it might not be totally feasible to expect that she can actually go to work the next day.  A well worn out bottom like that might need a little recovery time, with her on her belly with an ice pack the next morning.  If this is the case, that is what a Friday punishment is for.  She will still be feeling it on Monday and the lesson will linger for many days.

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For those of you who have never experienced it, with a bottom this sore you will be amazed out how it really affects everything in your life.  A paddling is one thing, but a hair brushing designed to bruise as many places as it safely can, the results are tremendous.  We generally associate a bruised bottom with sitting, but it goes well beyond that.  Obviously sleeping becomes an issue, as lying on her back is not a good option, and every movement of her legs causes discomfort to her bottom.  Does this seem over the top to all of you?  For me this is the desired result for life and death sort of issues that a young lady is being punished for.  She cannot go 20 minutes at night without being woken up and reminded of her behavior.  When she gets up the next morning, she cannot just swing her legs off the bed, as the puts too much pressure on her bottom.  As she is struggling to find an awkward way to get out of bed, she is reminded of her behavior.  As she walks to the bathroom, with each step she feels the pain in her glutes, and there is just no escaping that, and she is quickly reminded of her behavior.  Then the worst part of her morning comes, trying to pee.  There is no way she is going to allow her bottom to touch the hard toilet seat, so she ends up squatting.  But as soon as she bends her legs, her glutes engage again, and she is squatting in unbearable pain simply to pee.  Guess what, even an act as routine as going to the bathroom…reminds her of her behavior.  Do you see a theme here? I do not care how big of a spanking fetish she has, I do not care how much she has masturbated to the thought of being in trouble, being lectured, someone lifting her dress and lowering her panties as she is taken over his knee.  On this morning, as she stands in the kitchen making coffee, not daring to consider any seat in the entire house, she is not feeling sexy or excited, all she wants is to not feel this way at all.  She would do anything for the persistent pain, aching, and throbbing to go way, anything at all.  And if I have done my job right, correctly, and to the best of my ability, the one thing that she will do to not feel that way ever again, in a million years, is to change her behavior.

Note: I have been spanking women as a means of a real punishment for 22 years now.  I consider myself a bit of a scientist in this area and I have done a lot of research. I try to educate and inform people based on my personal experiences.  Clearly I have discussed some of the upper levels of consensual corporal punishment here.  I am discussing severe corporal punishment with people I have a relationship with, ladies who I have grown to know as a person, and grown to know their limits.  These sessions grew from a place of trust with their best interests in mind.  All behaviors addressed were based on somewhat of a “discipline contract” in place, in which it was agreed upon ahead of time what offenses required a punishment and to what degree.  Yes, in many of these cases we have grown well beyond safe words, but every relationship began with them in place. In all cases, I was approached by a woman requiring corporal punishment in her life, I have yet to have a spanking relationship in which I “convinced” someone that me spanking her to tears would be fun.

Remember, spanking is a CONSENSUAL activity between two adults in a secure relationship and nothing more. It is not for children ever, even if you are their parents, teacher, or relative. It is not for your naughty wife who wants nothing to do with it. It is not for the girl you picked up in the bar that is pissing you off. Spanking anyone that does not want to be spanked is abuse and hopefully you will end up in jail as a result.


Posted by Michael Masterson on 06/01 at 03:28 PM

Comments:

The pic links aren't working for me. I merely see the word "pic."

Regarding the belt, I have some technical questions. Do you always fold it in half, holding both ends in your hand? Do you find that a wide but fairly thin belt folds better than one made of thicker leather (which will form a springy loop at the end)? Do you ever hold the buckle in your palm and wrap the belt around your fist a time or two, and use the free end (single thickness) to spank, especially if the belt is thicker and won't bend well? Would you agree that most belts are too long to hold the buckle end, NOT wrap them, and spank with the entire length of the belt swinging freely -- that a belt used that way is too hard to control?

In spanking stories I sometimes read about spankings delivered with the buckle end of the belt. Would you agree that's one of those fantasy ideas that has no place in real life?

As always, thanks for your blog.
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