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Formality and cooperation during a punishment spanking

An aspect of spanking that I have always found to be quite important is formality.  I am not a big fan of just grabbing a naughty young lady, pulling her over my lap, and holding her in place while I administer a spanking.  I guess that in my twisted little head, I feel the spanker is actually performing a service to the person in trouble, and that as a result, full cooperation is required.  By making the punishment a very formal event, we add an aspect that I think really defines a proper spanking, which is cooperation.

I feel it is the duty of the person being spanked to cooperate in every way.  If I am going to take time from my day to administer some much needed discipline, then I feel almost all aspects of the event, with the exception of the actual spanking, should be taken care of by the person in trouble.  It is not my role to hold the person in place, it is their job to hold still being that it is their actions that led us here.  The more formality that is introduced to the spanking, the more they are forced to cooperate, or actually even help out in their own punishment.  A nice and formal way to get a spanking started and assure that they realize that they are not only going to be spanked, but they are actually assisting, is to send them to get the implement that they are to be punished with.

Sarah from RealspankingsInstitute.com retrieves the school paddle.

This is why you will often see me in a spanking scene pay so much attention to position.  Just pushing someone over the back of the couch and strapping them with my belt does not require them to assist in their own punishment.  I like to make them pull their own pants and panties down, or raise their own skirt.  I like to tell them what position to assume and then offer small corrections to their posture.  I try to find as many ways as possible to make it clear that I am not just spanking them, but that we are acting together to work through the solution to their behavior.  I believe it adds a certain amount of ownership to their misdeeds.  On occasion I do divert from my practice of having the person in trouble pull down their pants or remove their own clothing.  People are generally not in the situation of having someone remove their clothing that they are not in an intimate relationship with.  I do find that on occasion when an impression really needs to be made, the level of discomfort can be raised by being the one to lower their pants and panties.  The look on their face, as someone who is typically not allowed access to the removal of their clothing begins to lower their pants and panties, generally says it all.  They realize that they really are in trouble and that as a result of their behavior; standard personal boundaries no longer apply.

Jennifer from Realspankings.com & Brandi from Spankingteenbrandi.com

There are aspects of the spanking having a feeling of formality that go beyond simple cooperation that I often like to include.  I feel that being made to wait for the spanking, thus giving a very strong sense of anticipation can help any punishment.  Any of you who were spanked as kids know that being sent to your room and having to wait for it was always the worst part.  Even worse, is a scheduled spanking.  Having to wait is one thing, but nothing is more formal than being told that on Friday, at 7:00PM, you will be receiving your spanking.  This also seems to have a direct effect on behavior.  There have been plenty of times that I have spanked a young lady, only to have her repeat the same behavior almost immediately.  But when a spanking is promised, and is still days away, it is amazing how much behavior improves until the actual spanking takes place.  It is sometimes easy to forget the last spanking that you just received, but almost impossible to forget the one you have coming.  A good studio example is a set of spanking videos that I did with Bailey, Monica, and Raquel.  Both Bailey and Monica enjoy various aspects of spanking, but you should have seen the looks on their faces when I arrived.  Neither of them had been spanked by me before and they had known for weeks that this shoot was going to happen.  When I arrived, I could hear the girls giggling and getting ready for the shoot, but when I walked in, they went dead silent.  From that moment on the mood was very different.  I asked them why they were all of a sudden quiet, and they let me know that it was the fact that as much as it had been talked about, they now knew they were going to be spanked by me and that there was a certain amount of fear that went along with that.  It was not until after their first spanking from me that they begin to act like themselves again.  Anticipation is a very powerful punishment tool.

Brandi from Spankingteenbrandi.com, waits for her paddling

I have obviously spoken about this topic on many occasions, but I feel nothing makes a spanking more formal than corner time.  The spanking is no longer as simple as “you have been bad, and you were spanked for it”.  Just as with the waiting process, this really focuses all thoughts on the behavior that brought us to this moment.  It once again adds a process of cooperation.  No one really wants to kneel in a corner, bare butt on display, panties around their ankles, and holding their skirt up…which brings us back to position.  I have never dragged anyone to the corner and forced them to kneel.  I politely inform them to walk to the corner and then tell them in a very detailed manner how they will position themselves.  I seem to always make simple corrections such as, “legs a little wider”, “arms behind your head”, “nose touching the wall”, and anything else I can think of that makes them help out with what is a truly unpleasant process.  I am once again helping them to achieve a sense of ownership for their own punishment.  This also prolongs the punishment and there is no better time for reflection than when there are no distractions and your bottom is still throbbing. 

Jasmine does a little corner time at RealspankingsInstitute.com

In closing, there are many aspects of a spanking that can make it a very formal event that I feel add to the overall success of the punishment.  Requiring the person in trouble to assist in every way during their punishment helps them achieve ownership of the process.  By making them retrieve the implement, remove their own clothing, and assume the required position, they are doing more than just getting spanked; they are assisting with their own punishment.  The process of waiting for a spanking, or spending time in the corner after a spanking, allows detailed thoughts in regards to the situation that led them there, both of which really help with the chances of the punishment being an overall success and the undesired behavior being reduced.

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